ZackieChan
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I'd say "Looks cool. Let's go see it [day]!"
The only problem is I'm not sure if I'll be free this week just yet.I'd say "Looks cool. Let's go see it [day]!"
The only problem is I'm not sure if I'll be free this week just yet.
Normally I'd be more assertive.
She asked if I've seen Fantastic Beasts yet, so I'm assuming she's subtly asking to see if I want to see it with her?
I'm not sure whether to say something like "Nah, I haven't seen it yet. It does look decent though!" or take the initiative and ask her out to see it.
I'm really not a fan of cinema dates... :/
Reminds me of a friend who was talking to this really hot girl we went to college with. She kept asking if he'd seen the latest Harry Potter film
"No but I'm going to see it with my little brother"
Yikes
Haha, I'm not that bad.Reminds me of a friend who was talking to this really hot girl we went to college with. She kept asking if he'd seen the latest Harry Potter film
"No but I'm going to see it with my little brother"
Yikes
Yeah I thought about that, but she did write in her bio that she's willing to meet if things click well enough on conversation level.
I didn't want to give up that easily because we seem to have a lot of same interests.
Anyway, I asked her out again today and turns out she was thinking about it too. And it's a date next week!
I just hope I didn't do any damage.At least it wasn't heroine...? I don't know, if you say it was just a one time thing at a party and you felt no need to try it again, like it's not an addiction, maybe she will understand even though she's had a traumatic history with it so who knows how she would react. I wouldn't have been that honest from the get go cause it doesn't seem to have taken over your life so you can show that to her first hand but hey, if she Can't risk it then it's her choice.
Well, she did knowingly put your health at risk at your expense for 4 months. Your call.Thought about making a unique thread for this, but maybe I can get some opinions here.
I've been seeing a woman for four months and she recently came out and told me that she has HSV-2 (Genital Herpes). Putting aside how scummy it is to have not told me off the bat, the relationship is good. We both really like each other and get along well. I'm a paranoid guy though, and even though I always wear protection and play it safe, I'm nervous in the off-chance that I do get infected, it's basically a death sentence for my love life down the road (should the current relationship fail).
Some people say that HSV-1 and HSV-2 are so normalized though that it's not a big deal, but the idea of an incurable infection scares the hell out of me. Should I be so worried about this or is it just paranoia?
Well, she did knowingly put your health at risk at your expense for 4 months. Your call.
It's not a death sentence, but still a health concern. But, it is pretty treatable (though still not fun to have), and some people have very infrequent outbreaks.
Would things have been different if she had told you outright?
Update: Took the girl to the restaurant. On the way there...
"I don't think boys and girls can be friends."
man...
Edit: Food is dope tho
Thought about making a unique thread for this, but maybe I can get some opinions here.
I've been seeing a woman for four months and she recently came out and told me that she has HSV-2 (Genital Herpes). Putting aside how scummy it is to have not told me off the bat, the relationship is good. We both really like each other and get along well. I'm a paranoid guy though, and even though I always wear protection and play it safe, I'm nervous in the off-chance that I do get infected, it's basically a death sentence for my love life down the road (should the current relationship fail).
Some people say that HSV-1 and HSV-2 are so normalized though that it's not a big deal, but the idea of an incurable infection scares the hell out of me. Should I be so worried about this or is it just paranoia?
Super late, but you were the guy who honestly wants to just go eat food with nice people, right? You shouldn't have much trouble with that.
Btw did you find out if that was a When Harry Met Sally reference or was she really saying that?
Hi all! It's been awhile since I last posted. Unfortunately nothing is getting better I've gotten so disappointed in the whole thing I'm about to never try again. Regardless I'm glad to see people have luck !
It's pretty disheartening to see someone instantly stop being OK with me after they asked what my religion was, and I told them I'm agnostic. I've always been perfectly good with dating someone who was religious. But ugh :/
If she had told me outright, the relationship would've ended before we got attached, although that's beside the point because I don't have a time machine to go back and turn things around. I have to figure out if I want to commit to an otherwise good relationship with this risk involved.
Every fiber of my being is screaming no, but the woman I'm with is very invested, so on top of it being a good relationship, I also don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. Ultimately, it feels like I'm looking out for myself and casting them aside if I don't continue.
This week has thankfully cleared up a little bit for me, so I asked her out this Friday, which she can't do so I suggested early next week.Haha, I'm not that bad.
I was always planning on asking her out to see it, even if I'm not a massive fan of cinema dates.
As long as drinks are involved before or after the film I'm sure it'll be fine.
This week has thankfully cleared up a little bit for me, so I asked her out this Friday, which she can't do so I suggested early next week.
She just messaged me saying "Mmmm, is it too cheeky of me to say that I wish I didn't have to wait a week to see you?" and then suggested meeting up for dinner this Wednesday.
Not a bad sign I guess...
Dude, grow a spine. You're going to possibly get herpes because you don't want to hurt someone's feelings? Would you marry hey instead of breaking up with her to protect her feelings? Unless you're being an asshole, whether or not she'll have hurt feelings (doesn't pretty much everyone have hurt feelings when someone breaks up with them?) And decide what is OK with you and what you want.If she had told me outright, the relationship would've ended before we got attached, although that's beside the point because I don't have a time machine to go back and turn things around. I have to figure out if I want to commit to an otherwise good relationship with this risk involved.
Every fiber of my being is screaming no, but the woman I'm with is very invested, so on top of it being a good relationship, I also don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. Ultimately, it feels like I'm looking out for myself and casting them aside if I don't continue.
If she had told me outright, the relationship would've ended before we got attached, although that's beside the point because I don't have a time machine to go back and turn things around. I have to figure out if I want to commit to an otherwise good relationship with this risk involved.
Every fiber of my being is screaming no, but the woman I'm with is very invested, so on top of it being a good relationship, I also don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. Ultimately, it feels like I'm looking out for myself and casting them aside if I don't continue.
Okay so this is pretty much my first time going through a traditional date 1, date 2, date 3 structure with a single girl.
We've had our second date and we're having to wait another week to see each other due to conflicting schedules. So far everything has been going really well, first kiss was awkward but hysterical, and she's a total sweet heart who's really fun to be around.
First was dinner, second we did a kind of coffee and walk around town/lunch date thing. For the third she wants to have me over to her place for some arts and crafts stuff. I guess my question is, should I try to make a move/be prepared for sex? Like I said I've never done the whole traditional structured date thing so I'm not really sure where I should be by the third date, but going back to her place seems to indicate that I should probably attempt to make some moves?
Prepare for sex, but don't expect it. Making out is likely on the table, but beyond that you're just going to have to read the scenario. Whatever moves you make, don't go too big too fast, and listen to her if she says "no" or "not yet".
Thanks. I'll do my best to not get my hopes up. We've already had our fair share of tension, so I'll take the advice and try to take it slow and not get too pushy. Thanks.
However, now copious amounts of beer will apparently be involved so I'm trying to contain my excitement, lol.
Copious may have been too generous a word. We both just really like beer. 😃Do not mix copious amounts of alcohol and sex. That is a recipe for mistakes and regret.
Copious may have been too generous a word. We both just really like beer. ��
Frankly with my anxiety being what it is it does far more benefit than harm. ��
Count Dookkake, that is very true! Always nice to look at the bright side of things
And Well if you guys need a good laugh, a couple days into talking to this new tinder girl I've been friendzoned and she's already talking about netflix and chill with another dude on Tinder
I don't even know what the fuck happened here lol
I still stand by my statement. A beer or two to get a little tipsy is fine. Much more than that and you're asking for trouble. you think your alcohol tolerance is better than it is, you two hit the bed, black out, and wake up to a barrage of angry texts informing you "you fucked up" while you can only remember repeatedly yelling at her to "shut up" the night before.
Yoooooo what is the key to getting women to fucking notice you on sites like Match or POF. I must have hit up at least a dozen chicks and none of them get back to me.
Ha, we shall see!
Yoooooo what is the key to getting women to fucking notice you on sites like Match or POF. I must have hit up at least a dozen chicks and none of them get back to me.
And you're still talking to her why...?
I signed up to Plenty of Fish early last week since it was free - why not. I came out of a 7 year relationship around 3 years ago and have not dated once since then, but decided now is the right time.
This is my first ever experience of online dating as well so I have no previous experience to compare to - but I think I have just been very lucky here. Within 24 hours I was messaging a girl in my area who I was attracted to. She has been replying and it has been a really good feeling.
She gave me her number a few days later and we have been texting daily since. Fast-forward to yesterday afternoon and we had our first date. We met at a local train station and walked along the seafront. We walked for about 3 hours, got hot chocolate and some chips (the British kind!) and sat on the sea wall. It was really nice and the conversation was fantastic - and she is gorgeous as well. We got on the train home together and I suggested another meeting sometime, she seemed happy to do so. We text a few times that evening after our date (both agreed we had a great time) and again this morning and afternoon.
It just feels mad this has all happened in as little as a week since deciding to put myself out there. I'm not sure why I posted this to be honest, but I would like to think if there is anyone out there on the fence about trying online dating - just go for it. It's fun and a huge boost to confidence for me.
Sounds great! Now pace yourself and don't overdo the texting. Know that overtexting has killed way too many promising relationships, in this very thread no less (from own experience as well).
Absolutely agree. I'm taking my time and don't want to ruin anything. What would you say is too much? We're texting maybe 3-4 times throughout an entire day. It feels okay at that pace to me, not overbearing for me.
3-4 texts back and forth? or 3-4 conversations?