Bam Bam Baklava
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I'm glad I don't take the internet as seriously as some others. This whole story sounds strange and foreign to me.
Dating-Age |OT3| Positivity, Confidence, and Not Being a "Nice" Guy
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I'm glad I don't take the internet as seriously as some others. This whole story sounds strange and foreign to me.
I know you may feel like you have egg on your face, but man just wipe it clean and look for real women around where you live. Get some experience.
hahahaha. It honestly was foreign to me too. I've never talked to anyone online, and had no intention to. It sort of just happened. We did video-chat , and talked on the phone and stuff like that. I didn't really feel like we were just exchanging texts in messages to each other.
Do you at least have topless pics?
yep. I'm not really the outgoing type though. I don't go to bars, or parties. my past relationships just have come from my friends circle.
see I really didn't care about that stuff. I do have some NSFW photos though. nothing nude though.
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Formerly worldrevolution. The only reason I am nice to anyone else is to avoid being banned.
I'm not that old but it feels like the whole internet dating/relationship thing is totally for the new younger crowd. I still have a very "lol you met in WoW!!" kinda perspective on it. This thread alone proves how prevalent online dating is nowadays.
Don't...post her pics lol.
Nothing nude? That's a red flag.
she did want pictures of my stuff though. I never really asked for pictures of her. and I won't haha. I don't have anymore anyways. I got rid of them.
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Formerly worldrevolution. The only reason I am nice to anyone else is to avoid being banned.
You.. sent her pics of your cock didn't you. You also stripped on vid chat while she stayed clothed right.
I didn't haha. and we didn't do anything like that. i'm not a bad looking guy, and I know I could find someone else, but I'm not really outgoing. I don't drink, so i don't see the point in going to the bars.
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Formerly worldrevolution. The only reason I am nice to anyone else is to avoid being banned.
If you didn't do anything like that then that seriously should have been a red flag? Not even phone sex?
nope. now it's all coming together. haha. she would ask me stuff like do you ever think about having sex with me? and stuff like that. she was a very sexual person though, and did talk about stuff like that. now i'm thinking back, she was a bitch. I could never post girls or talk about them, or she would get mad, and jealous. yet, she had no intentions with me.
i'm going to stop talking about her because it's pointless. I'm just going to have to forget that she ever existed.
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Formerly worldrevolution. The only reason I am nice to anyone else is to avoid being banned.
Good call.
I would have demanded pics of her titties. But yeah, forget she existed.
it's just so hard not talking to her. or the fact that she basically doesn't want anything to do with me. and that she was really hot. haha. What it comes down to is the age difference, and our outlooks and what we want out of life right now.
Why? Dude she was from the internet. May as well not be a real person. I mean, yes we can make meaningful relationships on the web, but I've found that when someone turns their back, its so much easier to forget them. Its not like you're hanging out on a regular basis. If you had, then it would be much harder.
I know she's from the internet, but it's not like we couldn't physically see each other. I'm just in-experienced at getting over someone. This is only my 3rd hardcore attraction to someone.
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Formerly worldrevolution. The only reason I am nice to anyone else is to avoid being banned.
Outside of your internet powwows what do you even know. You knew what she wanted you to. She could have been divorced, a mother, a man, your sister, who knows!
No worries, I was in your shoes at your age. You will grow out of it.
hahah, you're right. But I mean video-chatting obviously took out the fact that she could have been a dude. and she has a facebook that we talk on. It's not like I didn't know who she was.
yea, it just sucks. she's at a different stage in her life than me. Obviously it was easier for her to just end communication than me.
TheSchwab_7
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It was my girlfriend's 21st birthday party last night. She was drunk off her ass at the bars, shoved some huge black dude, he shoved her really hard, so I pushed him down and then I got punched right in the mouth. Got 6 stitches in my lip.
Drinking is so fucking stupid sometimes.
Drinking is so fucking stupid sometimes.
haha good stuff dude. Yea my most of my friends drink, and some of them are just obnoxious while under the influence.
Doctor West
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In a way, she did you a favor. She seems like she just wanted attention and the pleasure in knowing that she had some dude wrapped around her finger. It's seems like you are already getting there on your own, so I think you'll be fine. Just don't be friends with her because it will cause you nothing but pain. I broke up with a girl a few months ago and she wanted to remain friends. I tried it for like three days and it was too uncomfortable so I just completely moved on.
Also, neediness and clinginess is a super unattractive trait. It's understandable if you feel that way (we all do to some degree), but don't let the next girl you date see it. Keep that to yourself. I'm currently icing out a girl I really like because it's the best way to see how serious she is about me.
yea, you're right. I need to chill out on the neediness, but I honestly can't help it. and I don't want to be friends with her anymore after talking it out on here. it's making me realize nothing good would come from it.
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Formerly worldrevolution. The only reason I am nice to anyone else is to avoid being banned.
You're a grown man that's graduating from higher education, right? You can help it. Being a simp isn't wired into your dna.
ahah i'm trying! i'm trying! it's definitely difficult though. i'm definitely the person who tries to not hurt anyone, and always be kind, but I guess sometimes you just need to suck it up.
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Formerly worldrevolution. The only reason I am nice to anyone else is to avoid being banned.
And don't use not being outgoing or not drinking as some sort of excuse as to why you're boring. I haven't had a drink in years and I'm still the most interesting person at any party. You can develop more social skills and be more outgoing with practice, assuming you put the effort in. A lot of this thread lately has been about people getting rid of the weird phobia they have of talking to people. Not even people of the sex they're attracted to, just people in general.
You will. You always do. I can only laugh on the 'crushes' I had in the past.
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Bumped into my ex at the gym. She was instantly red in the face, her voice all raspy. Don't know if she was embarrassed or intimidated but she looked caught by surprise. She's been typically inconsistent with texting this past week, taking days to respond and bailing out on a coffee meet up last minute because she said she had a phone interview that afternoon.
I'm not sure what's up or if it's even worth pursuing at this point. I just wanted to get coffee, see how things are going, charm her, and get it in before she returns to school. If the two of us sit down together, based on past reunions, this doesn't seem far-fetched.
She asked if I'm still interested in meeting up this week and I jokingly told her "no, I'm over that". We left it agreeing I'd text her my availability and take it from there. I'm not sure if shit's actually going to happen or whether this is a huge waste of time. I can redirect my attention to my coworker and avoid the ex and her inconsistent vibes. Or go for both. Granted, the ex has always sucked at communicating (via text), even while we dated, and yet I'm still annoyed.
I'm not sure what's up or if it's even worth pursuing at this point. I just wanted to get coffee, see how things are going, charm her, and get it in before she returns to school. If the two of us sit down together, based on past reunions, this doesn't seem far-fetched.
She asked if I'm still interested in meeting up this week and I jokingly told her "no, I'm over that". We left it agreeing I'd text her my availability and take it from there. I'm not sure if shit's actually going to happen or whether this is a huge waste of time. I can redirect my attention to my coworker and avoid the ex and her inconsistent vibes. Or go for both. Granted, the ex has always sucked at communicating (via text), even while we dated, and yet I'm still annoyed.
I don't have a problem talking to people, i'm pretty good actually, my new job is basically that. i'll figure it out. the whole situation is just a lost cause now.
always do what? find someone hotter? haha.
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Formerly worldrevolution. The only reason I am nice to anyone else is to avoid being banned.
She's your ex. Don't go for anything. Never speak/see her again. Da end.
edit: oh you meant get it in like get it in..word.. might as well get some easy sex if you can, but why you stressin over stupid texts and shit then
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Idk. It's not so easy when I can't read her and this whole thing could fizzle out. But fuck it I suppose, I'll do my part, stop fretting, and see how it goes.
Sex would be cool though as I've been regressing into virginity as of late. Gotta stomp out any inkling of desperation that may be cropping up.
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Formerly worldrevolution. The only reason I am nice to anyone else is to avoid being banned.
I mean you're just lookin for no strings attached sex, so why bother with coffee meet ups or unanswered texts. If she wants to give it up she will, if not, you should have options on the side anyway.
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It's a matter of putting in a little work to get what I want. Make her laugh, elicit some nostalgia, and then we go from there. I'd bypass all that if I could.
I should have options but I fucking suck, my life is messy, and I don't put in the necessary effort. This is the best I got at the moment.
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Formerly worldrevolution. The only reason I am nice to anyone else is to avoid being banned.
Well if she's weirded out bumpin into you and cancellin on you, your chances seem slim then. Clean break it and get on with making your life less shitty.
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Oh ouch bro. I don't know if she's weirded out or shy, she's always been flaky, and that hasn't fucked things up in the past. How about I take my "slim" chances WHILE continuing to better my life. What happened to the confidence and positivity championed in the thread title?
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Formerly worldrevolution. The only reason I am nice to anyone else is to avoid being banned.
Hey I'm just goin on what you've typed yourself..you're tryin to trick your ex into sex through some weird guilt/nostalgia trip and your life is messy but you're too lazy to do anything. Your words. But if you're gonna be confident and positive during all of that, go for it, mang.
YoYo Switch
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just checking in
i made the decision to pretty much stop all pursuit of women for the rest of the semester after pretty much alienating every new girl i met this fall. I'm just not going to socialize with anyone at all, and just spend the entire break playing old psOne games i've never played before.
It actually feels good. I can't wait to be free of any work/responsibility and social anxiety/stress.
i made the decision to pretty much stop all pursuit of women for the rest of the semester after pretty much alienating every new girl i met this fall. I'm just not going to socialize with anyone at all, and just spend the entire break playing old psOne games i've never played before.
It actually feels good. I can't wait to be free of any work/responsibility and social anxiety/stress.
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Formerly worldrevolution. The only reason I am nice to anyone else is to avoid being banned.
Geezus lol, that was actually painful to read. Confidence and positivity, dude.
What games you got lined up..?
YoYo Switch
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i've done the whole positivity and confidence thing. I think I come off as arrogant, or a bit of a prick. I've noticed certain people just straight up avoiding me. I guess me staying positive was kind of fake, so it just put off people? that makes sense. "Can't love someone till you love yourself" yea, i need to work on the "love yourself" bit
Resident Evil 1-3, Megaman Legends 1 & 2, Metal Gear Solid 2 and 3. Just to start off, but i think that'll be enough to get me through the break.
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Formerly worldrevolution. The only reason I am nice to anyone else is to avoid being banned.
If you've never played those, man those are some solid games. I'd drop girls for those too.
YoYo Switch
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yea, never played them before. caught the bug after finishing MGS1 a couple months ago.
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You've somehow twisted me into an apathetic cunning wizard that gets laid through treachery. My words though. Not putting in the necessary effort does not imply laziness either but whatever, who's keeping track for accuracy anyway.
Good on advice, I'ma go for it.
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Formerly worldrevolution. The only reason I am nice to anyone else is to avoid being banned.
Never forget your robe and wizard hat.
PflargBlarg
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Dang, this got all slightly crazy up in here in the last while.
In other news, I lost my job on Friday. Too bad it was the one job I've had that I actually liked. A vague upside is being able to do stuff during the day during the week. Should be fun for at least a brief period of time.
In other news, I lost my job on Friday. Too bad it was the one job I've had that I actually liked. A vague upside is being able to do stuff during the day during the week. Should be fun for at least a brief period of time.
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