Ok guys I just want to get some advice on one part because I've not been in this situation before and don't want to make a cock up.
I met this girl on Saturday when I went to see a friends gig and we instantly started talking about video games and things, her being a big Valve (Half life, Portal) and Nintendo (Loves Zelda series a lot) fan, we instantly hit it on and I asked for her number and then soon she added me on facebook the day after.
We met up at a bar last night, so we saw each other for the first time on Saturday and then met on the Tuesday and talked for several hours. She planned to be there for a little bit since she's busy with her last part of work but we was enjoying ourselves too much on talking and our interests it expanded quite a fair more length of time, it was a great time and we hugged each other goodbye and she replied back onto a text with me that she said it was cool seeing my friends too and again thanked for a lovely time out and it was so much fun. I did make her laugh a lot and she was very impressed with my background and liked how weve got a lot in common in many things and shes happy to come round my place very soon (hopefully next week at some point) so I can cook us a nice meal and we can enjoy talking together while watching our favourite shows or play some games. I did say on this when she yes in a cheeky fashion its a date and she smiled back and said yes, even though that I didnt intend to say it come out of me, which was a good thing. But heres the thing I am a bit blinded on.
She went out of a long distant relationship a week before and they were together for 7 months. The guy left her for saying how he wasnt over his ex. I told her I come out of a 5 year relationship a few months back and I am over her and enjoying my life, and she does refer him as her ex and doesnt seem to want to go back with him and so forth.
I have very strong feelings for her, Ive not felt like this in ages and I know when my feelings are true and I would like to go out with her but I dont know whens the best time to ask her and how to do in this situation as of the above thats happened (she never mentioned him or anything, it was only when I asked about her situation and she was very content with herself so it doesnt seem she was that affected) and I dont want to make a cock up. Heck, I dont know what I should do on how often I should talk to her and things as I dont want to make her feel like if I will be a bother but I dont get that impression in the slightest on the few text messages and Facebook chats we have had, and it always worked around very well when shes finishing her last bit of uni work. What to do gaf? I am usually very smooth and feel in control when its come to having fun with random ladies but this one feels much more than that with me and I would love to be with her, thats how I feel with it.
While this sounds really cool for you, please keep in mind that a girl liking videogames and the same shows you do does not mean she is automatically a good partner. Not saying you are thinking that, but on the other hand, it wouldnt be unheard of for guys to think that way.
Anyway, i dont really see the problem? She wants to come over, so i take it you've already planned a date for it? If not, just ask her tomorrow or friday if she wants to come over on friday/saturday evening? Based on your story im sure she'll be happy to come. See how that goes and take it from there.
If your dinner date goes well you can probably plan a new date the same evening, so do that. If you get another date, i would caution against talking too much to her in the days leading up to the date, so you've got things to talk about during the date. So dont have chats which last for hours, you can do that once things develop into a real relationship.
We cant really tell how often you should text her or chat on her on facebook or whatever. That depends on the girl: some like it if you give them a lot of attention, others like their independence more. You just have to get a feeling for it, but my experience is that girls usually like it if you give them some attention. Had a first date a couple of weeks ago, which went very well, and i send her a text two days later just asking how she was doing. It was just a short message, but it showed interest in her, which she really appreciated.
And her coming out of a relationship, well, if she seems fine with it, you should be fine with it too. Her coming out of a LDR might mean she was already getting over her ex before the split finally happened, and 7 months isn't all that long. I wouldnt worry about it too much.
Honestly, that response of yours feels fairly normal and justified imho xD That's just a bit weird, isn't it? Stopping and talking to them might've been nice, but just walking away seems valid enough as well to me.
