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[Zomba13]

So haven't posted an update in a bit, but here goes:

The girl I've been talking to mostly, and who I've been seeing on a semifrequent basis since February, has fallen into an antisocial pattern. She's become a bit harder to get a hold of, though I just saw her two weeks ago (we live an hour or two away from each other, but have met up several times by now) and I'm going to see her again toward the end of the month, but I'm wondering if this whole social-antisocial cycle she says she sometimes goes through is going to eventually change or if I should be prepared to simply cut my losses and move on. I would rather not as she is a wonderful and fun girl, and I'm happy to give her space, but you know ... I guess I worry that I don't matter anymore.

I'd say bail out now. The girl from OKC I was seeing (who went on a family reunion thing two weeks ago) started to be more and more antisocial. Didn't text or call when she got back (on the friday two weeks ago) like she said she would (Only found out she was back when I texted her on the monday asking how it was going and if she wanted to do anything when she got back). She was 'busy' last week and couldn't do saturday because of Fathers day weekend so we decided monday. Nothing at all from her all Sunday when trying to work out a time but she contacted me around noon on the monday saying sorry and that she was still with her dad and that she left her phone with him or something (which I don't buy). Made plans for tuesday, texted her tuesday morning to make time arrangements, she asked what time, I said whenever is best for her and then no texts all day and nothing since. I know, not much time since then but to say you are going to come and see me and then nothing just seems needlessly harsh, especially as she said she'd be free all week. If she didn't want to see me anymore she could have just said so or if she wanted to be nice then just say she is 'busy' whenever I ask.

I guess what she is doing though is making me dislike her and me not want to see her, that way she doesn't have to feel bad about hurting me because it's me who ends up not wanting to see her as well.

Sorry this turned into a rant about my situation but I feel like I'd be much more happy if she broke things off either last week or before her reunion thing. Things seemed to be going well too for the most part. Last week we were on skype and played some Runescape together (we both nostaligia'd hard and decided to try it out together) and on the monday she seemed sorry for ignoring me. I did notice a lack of smilies in her recent texts, on friday (when I got my new phone) every text from her had some form of 'positive' smilie ) etc) but monday and tuesday morning had none.

I've felt a bit sick yesterday and today (honestly don't know if it's because of this or something I ate on monday but every time I think of her I feel a little ill). It really sucks, she seemed like such a great person and even told me she hates this sort of thing (being flaky etc).

TL;DR Zomba whines about stuff that you shouldn't care about or bother reading. Mostly done to vent.

 

[ianp622]

There's also a second one from OKC I've been chatting with. Big time into photography and the arts, writing, and such, is nice. She seems nice enough ... but I checked out some of her question responses, and she seems to be totally against being around anyone who has any sort of geeky hobbies, becuase they're all flat-out "No" responses. It's odd because I am a bit up front of my more geeky hobbies on my profile, but I'm not sure if I should just see what happens or bail out, assuming if she finds out I'm a gamer and collector that she'll bail first.

Regarding this - for what it's worth, I said that I wouldn't date a smoker, and that smoking disgusts me, but it looks like I'm going to fall for this girl anyway. Part of her wants to quit, but I'm not counting on that happening for me to be happy with her.

 

[YoungHav]

i got the juice now.

 

[Shagwell]

HELP GAF EMERGENCY!

There's this girl in my class I've been texting back plenty with some flirting mixed in back and forth for two weeks now. We've been getting closer as of late and today we got super duper high and we split up, although she later texted me saying she'd wanted me to go with her. She went out with a friend but now I think she's coming back to my place even though she said she should probably be going home. I think she may indeed be into me and may want something to happen after all of this - the question is how do I start making the moves? I've got the apartment to myself.

 

[Liu Kang Baking A Pie]

HELP GAF EMERGENCY!

There's this girl in my class I've been texting back plenty with some flirting mixed in back and forth for two weeks now. We've been getting closer as of late and today we got super duper high and we split up, although she later texted me saying she'd wanted me to go with her. She went out with a friend but now I think she's coming back to my place even though she said she should probably be going home. I think she may indeed be into me and may want something to happen after all of this - the question is how do I start making the moves? I've got the apartment to myself.

The moment you are alone (when she walks in the door, for example), just grab her and kiss her. Forget the possibility of rejection, because this is what you want from her anyway, right? She's clearly into you from your description.

 

[Resilient]

HELP GAF EMERGENCY!

There's this girl in my class I've been texting back plenty with some flirting mixed in back and forth for two weeks now. We've been getting closer as of late and today we got super duper high and we split up, although she later texted me saying she'd wanted me to go with her. She went out with a friend but now I think she's coming back to my place even though she said she should probably be going home. I think she may indeed be into me and may want something to happen after all of this - the question is how do I start making the moves? I've got the apartment to myself.

The moment you are alone (when she walks in the door, for example), just grab her and kiss her. Forget the possibility of rejection, because this is what you want from her anyway, right? She's clearly into you from your description.

It's pretty clear she wants to bone. Do what this man says. Make sure you have condoms and you'll be set.

 

[Ghost_Protocol]

So this woman I met on match 3-4 days ago has responded to every one of my 8 emails (spread over 3-4 days) within half an hour of me sending them to her....Safe to say she's interested?

 

[rkn]

So this woman I met on match 3-4 days ago has responded to every one of my 8 emails (spread over 3-4 days) within half an hour of me sending them to her....Safe to say she's interested?

Only one way to find out, ask to meet up

Spoiler

hopefully she won't vanish

 

[low-G]

So this woman I met on match 3-4 days ago has responded to every one of my 8 emails (spread over 3-4 days) within half an hour of me sending them to her....Safe to say she's interested?

Desperate with no life... maybe... which might not be bad.

 

[-PXG-]

So this woman I met on match 3-4 days ago has responded to every one of my 8 emails (spread over 3-4 days) within half an hour of me sending them to her....Safe to say she's interested?

Why the hell did you send her 8 messages?

 

[bjb]

8 emails? What in the hell...just talk on IM/ Skype?

 

[Entropia]

So this woman I met on match 3-4 days ago has responded to every one of my 8 emails (spread over 3-4 days) within half an hour of me sending them to her....Safe to say she's interested?

She definitely is. Ask for her #, txt or give her a call and set up a date.


Edit: Like the people above said - wtf are you doing sending that many messages?? lol

 

[Unicorn]

Not to sound like a stalker, but is there a way to see the last time someone was online on OKC? This girl hasn't replied to my message in a few days. We were messaging back and forth on Sunday, but she just stopped after midnight. I just want to know if she just hasn't been on the site or I scared her off by giving her my number so we could chat a bit quicker.

Oh I see it in Details. Now I look like a creeper constantly checking her page and popping up at the top of her recent visitors...

She was online today :c I guess I spooked her.

 

[NateDrake]

A new girl sent me a message on OKC today. Chatted on there for a little bit throughout the day, she gave me her # and we texted for a few hrs this evening. Probably will arrange a meetup pretty soon, also. Gave me a nice goodnight message and called me handsome.

 

[Unicorn]

Link your profile plz. I wanna see what I need to change about mine.

 

[Redux]

eh, not really. He's just trying to fuck her, and possibly have a relationship. Is he giving her weed for free? If so, then he's definitely trying to fuck.

Yes. She's always so cheerful because she gets free beer from him.

Most likely this.

I would just continue seeing my female friends. I dont see a reason why a relationship would prohibit or hinder me from talking to the friends I like.

Its very childish behaviour on her behalf. If she starts blowing it out of proportion, I'd probably suggest its better to just be friends.

While this would be the rational thing to do in this situation, I don't really want to see any of my female friends. Its so forced now. Not having many friends to begin with is hard enough. My girlfriend is my best friend.

She's insecure so won't let you have any female friends, but practically has another boyfriend. You're the sucker in this relationship.

Get the feeling sometimes, fight happens, lack of contact or whatever, that I can just vanish from her world with the blink of an eye and she would flock to this guy friend of hers.

On the other hand, I get the "Oh don't ever worry, Redux. You will never lose me."

She's my first gf, so I think I am letting her play me like a piano for longer & longer?

Say fuck it, and go with her to meet this dude. It's part test and part bringing your A game. The more she puts forward that she doesn't want you there, the more sure you can be that she's stepping out on you. If she concedes, then you just bring your A game, get to know this guy and outdo him at what he does best. Just remember...if your personality, charm and grace (which is what it would be, given the circumstances) don't win out over her need to have an easier time getting intoxicated, then you do not want to be with this girl. Break up NOW, before it gets more painful.

Option 3 seemed like too much work. I just got a part time job, lol. But we're having a bonfire next weekend so I finally get a chance to meet this guy.

Oh but she's sure quick to tell me she's hanging with this dude, but when I go to ask how her time was or what they did, she'll get all pissy. Not like that with any of her other friends.

You know, It's almost like she doesn't want me to take this guy off to the side and question him (or his buddies.)

 

[Shagwell]

The moment you are alone (when she walks in the door, for example), just grab her and kiss her. Forget the possibility of rejection, because this is what you want from her anyway, right? She's clearly into you from your description.

It's pretty clear she wants to bone. Do what this man says. Make sure you have condoms and you'll be set.

Bless you you beautiful bastards! Gave me just the kick I needed. Been waiting far too long to make a move on this amazing girl and tonight it finally happened. Hung out on the couch a while, next thing I know we're kissing and telling each other how much we like each other.

Ahhh. Top of the world right now fellas, top of the world.

 

[NihonTiger90]

Bless you you beautiful bastards! Gave me just the kick I needed. Been waiting far too long to make a move on this amazing girl and tonight it finally happened. Hung out on the couch a while, next thing I know we're kissing and telling each other how much we like each other.

Ahhh. Top of the world right now fellas, top of the world.

 

[LProtag]

I really have to get out this summer before I'm doomed with losing all my time to my internship and school.

The only real place I know to go around here is a hipster dive bar that I used to play at a lot. I don't know how well I'd do in that environment, I had a girlfriend when I was going there frequently so I didn't have to deal with the whole flirting thing.

 

[lawlohwhat]

Yes. She's always so cheerful because she gets free beer from him.



While this would be the rational thing to do in this situation, I don't really want to see any of my female friends. Its so forced now. Not having many friends to begin with is hard enough. My girlfriend is my best friend.



Get the feeling sometimes, fight happens, lack of contact or whatever, that I can just vanish from her world with the blink of an eye and she would flock to this guy friend of hers.

On the other hand, I get the "Oh don't ever worry, Redux. You will never lose me."

She's my first gf, so I think I am letting her play me like a piano for longer & longer?



Option 3 seemed like too much work. I just got a part time job, lol. But we're having a bonfire next weekend so I finally get a chance to meet this guy.

Oh but she's sure quick to tell me she's hanging with this dude, but when I go to ask how her time was or what they did, she'll get all pissy. Not like that with any of her other friends.

You know, It's almost like she doesn't want me to take this guy off to the side and question him (or his buddies.)

If you confront him or his friends you will be giving away any standing ground in your relationship. It will get back to her and he will be able to make fun of you and play it off like you're a jealous and insecure dude. It sounds to me like he's lookin 2 bone her.

Giving her free beers is pretty telling. If I'm out with friends I'll buy a round because they often return the favor, but if I'm feeding alcohol to one girl that is a distinct signal that I am interested in her. She is either young and naive or just fucking stupid not to understand that.

It sounds like a bad situation in the first place. I know she probably seems awesome because she's your first girlfriend but it sounds like she's treating you poorly. I would break up immediately.

 

[NihonTiger90]

Well, Girl #2 just sent me a message she was closing her OKC account and such. Sounds like she's got someone, which is okay.

If anything, I've learned from all these experiences that even while I don't have a girlfriend yet, I'm not uninteresting to the right folks. I just have poor timing in meeting people, lol.

Oh well, onward and upward.

 

[Unicorn]

Why are my quickmatches now showing me people from another state? I live right in the middle of AZ and it is giving me people in fucking Vegas.

 

[Etrian Oddity]

I really have to get out this summer before I'm doomed with losing all my time to my internship and school.

The only real place I know to go around here is a hipster dive bar that I used to play at a lot. I don't know how well I'd do in that environment, I had a girlfriend when I was going there frequently so I didn't have to deal with the whole flirting thing.

I'm in the same boat; I need to throw myself out more.

I think I'm going to go to more coffee shops to write my scholarship essays, or such. The main locations I frequent are usually anti-social venues such as the gym or the library, and approaches are big no-nos there.

 

[zethren]

Yes. She's always so cheerful because she gets free beer from him.



While this would be the rational thing to do in this situation, I don't really want to see any of my female friends. Its so forced now. Not having many friends to begin with is hard enough. My girlfriend is my best friend.



Get the feeling sometimes, fight happens, lack of contact or whatever, that I can just vanish from her world with the blink of an eye and she would flock to this guy friend of hers.

On the other hand, I get the "Oh don't ever worry, Redux. You will never lose me."

She's my first gf, so I think I am letting her play me like a piano for longer & longer?



Option 3 seemed like too much work. I just got a part time job, lol. But we're having a bonfire next weekend so I finally get a chance to meet this guy.

Oh but she's sure quick to tell me she's hanging with this dude, but when I go to ask how her time was or what they did, she'll get all pissy. Not like that with any of her other friends.

You know, It's almost like she doesn't want me to take this guy off to the side and question him (or his buddies.)

Seriously man, this is a piss poor situation.

If she isn't already cheating on you, it doesn't sound like she's far from it. And even if that's not the case, the dude is definitely trying to get with her (based on everything you've said, anyway). Honestly it could very well be that he's trying to get with her, and she sees him as nothing more than a good friend. I feel like that happens all the time, so you can't let him beat you.

It might lead to a fight, but in this situation you can't avoid that. You more than likely have to have a serious talk with your gf about where these boundaries lie. You cannot be disallowed to have friends who are girls if your gf is always hanging out with this dude and getting way to comfy with him. That's 100% unfair to you. Period.

If she gets pissy at you for saying that, fuck it. So be it. She's gonna get pissy, and that's what it's going to take. Either she's going to have to mature and take what she's dealing out, or you're just going to have to leave her. Just don't be surprised if she lands in bed with this other guy the moment you do leave her, and if she does then be prepared. Be prepared because that's going to hurt like a freaking bitch. But at least you'll be on your way to finding someone better for you.

Who knows, maybe after a good talk and a hard fight everything will work itself out. But honestly Redux, things can't go on like that. It's not fair to you, and you deserve better.

Good luck man.

 

[Almond]

I've made some changes to my profile. Hopefully it's a little better now.

Also, this guy has messaged me four times, and the fourth was asking to respond if I'm not interested, which I'm not. Should I just keep ignoring it?

First of all, you gotta look happy in your pictures. Get some smiles going and drop the mugshots.

Smiles will go a long way. Remember, you are advertising yourself. I would find another screenname and drop any hints of insecurity from your profile. You are trying to market yourself. I think you're adorable.

I just really hate my smile, but I posted some new pictures. Hopefully those will do. Thanks.

The only thing I could recommend is sounding a little more outgoing on your profile. Talk about how you're always looking to meet new people, rather than being introverted. I know you're being honest, but guys want somebody who will be fun and open to them.

Other than that, you seem super cool. I don't think you'll have many problems!

Stop thinking that you're boring and awful, first off! Stay positive in your profile and in your own mind.

Second, take a pic of yourself without the dour facial expression to use as your main profile photo. Meaning, smile . Also, do you have any pictures from being out with friends or traveling? Try to mix it up.

Third, it can be a run away screaming in the other direction flag if you list that you "don't have kids, but want them" in your profile. If you're not actually looking to settle down and start a family in the near future, I'd personally not put it on there. From a guy perspective, showing an active desire to have kids from the get-go immediately brings to mind poking holes in condoms and other nightmarish scenarios ;b. Guys will generally want to have kids with someone they're deeply in love with while in a stable long-term relationship and/or married. That's a road that can be crossed later.

"Not being a reader," hmmm, I think everyone is potentially a reader. It's one of the best ways to expand your worldview aside from direct life experiences. Change that up, perhaps; leave your comfort zone and try out some things. Reading books is a great way to share common ground with someone and demonstrate intellectual curiosity. It's a way to be more interesting.

I don't have any friends, so nothing there. Sorry. I don't travel much either and I hate the way I look in most pictures people take of me, so I don't think I'd find anything good. All my pictures will likely be of just me.

Okay. I took care of the kids thing. I didn't think it was that big of a deal...

Well, I have a hard time focusing reading for long periods of time, especially if I don't like it. It's not that I can't read or don't like it when I do, I just don't really find myself in the mood for it often. I'm not sure how to edit that part.

Thanks for the help.

You're so pretty :} I'm jealous of your hair lol. Go for it, gurl~

Thanks! You are too, but you don't need me to tell you that. It's nice, but it can be a pain sometimes too. Thanks.

 

[ZombieFred]

Some tips I would recommend is to go out to a well popular bar or club, by yourself, and just relax and have a few drinks and see what happens. I can say around 8/10 times you will be talking to someone or a person making conversation/coming up to you. It's one of the best places to meet new people and also gets to build your confidence up since you've gone out of your own way and talking to strangers. I've done this quite a fair bit these past two months and it's got me plenty of interesting offers and numbers/contact details. It's how I met this lovely red head which come back to my place last weekend and now going on a date with her tonight. Trust me, you won't regret it. And if you've not done this before then I'd suggest having a few drinks down you so you are more relaxed and loosened up.

 

[Minamu]

Bless you you beautiful bastards! Gave me just the kick I needed. Been waiting far too long to make a move on this amazing girl and tonight it finally happened. Hung out on the couch a while, next thing I know we're kissing and telling each other how much we like each other.

Ahhh. Top of the world right now fellas, top of the world.

Awesome congrats! One might say that you're floating on clouds, am I right?

ZombieFred: That's not bad advice but at the same time, making alcohol into a crutch happens fast and can be devastating in the long run. I know for a fact that I would have more success if I was tipsy (or I'd become even more shy and/or self-defeating) so I tend to stay away from it. I want to succeed on my own accord

 

[Darren870]

......

I've never been on okcupid or any dating site, so i might not be the best judge. However, my comment would be is that it seems you just say "anything" a lot...

Eg:

Shows: There's nothing I consistently watch, but I REALLY don't like most reality shows. I'm more of a browser.

Music: I don'y have any favorite bands or artists, I just like what I like. I'm pretty open to listening to anything.

Food: Again, no favorites. I'm up for trying just about anything.

Has to be something interesting that you can put in there that will make people go wow. You have a very nice smile

 

[Omegasquash]

Yes. She's always so cheerful because she gets free beer from him.



While this would be the rational thing to do in this situation, I don't really want to see any of my female friends. Its so forced now. Not having many friends to begin with is hard enough. My girlfriend is my best friend.



Get the feeling sometimes, fight happens, lack of contact or whatever, that I can just vanish from her world with the blink of an eye and she would flock to this guy friend of hers.

On the other hand, I get the "Oh don't ever worry, Redux. You will never lose me."

She's my first gf, so I think I am letting her play me like a piano for longer & longer?



Option 3 seemed like too much work. I just got a part time job, lol. But we're having a bonfire next weekend so I finally get a chance to meet this guy.

Oh but she's sure quick to tell me she's hanging with this dude, but when I go to ask how her time was or what they did, she'll get all pissy. Not like that with any of her other friends.

You know, It's almost like she doesn't want me to take this guy off to the side and question him (or his buddies.)

Oh fuck no, man. Don't question him, just play that shit off like that's your girl (is what I meant). From reading more and more of what you've said, it's painfully obvious to me that you ought to ditch her. She gets pissy when you ask about her seeing someone else?

That's a total red flag. Time to just drop the bomb when you see her next, and don't even pull punches. Tell her to have fun, but not to call you anymore. You've got better shit to do.

And for some short (better than I offer)pointers:

How to drop a bitch with class, brought to you by GQ.

 

[ZombieFred]

ZombieFred: That's not bad advice but at the same time, making alcohol into a crutch happens fast and can be devastating in the long run. I know for a fact that I would have more success if I was tipsy (or I'd become even more shy and/or self-defeating) so I tend to stay away from it. I want to succeed on my own accord

Oh I don't want people to rely onto aclohol at all or use it as a crutch but it's a good way to start off a few times (only having a few drinks of course) to ease the person if they feel nervous and then when they see how relaxed and it wasn't all that bad then they can just be themselfs more when out

It should be good soon as my date with the red head will be in three hours. More than enough time to have a good shave, wash up, and wear some good clothes for going out to. It should be a good night

 

[Bryan1321]

Hi gaffers. I would like to share my experience from a date i had yesterday

As a little background info. this was my 2nd date since i started reading the 2nd OT of dating-age.

It was OK, but i made many mistakes that were prohibited in the OP, first one was throwing zero compliments about how she looked eve though she looked great, i dont know i missed that one

The conversation was ok and it had a nice flow even if it wasnt that interesting i mean it was good for a first time

But the second mistake came, we were at her home and for some reason introduced me, her mom and brother (OT 2 said. family was a big no) so it was awkward and partially killed the conversation one on one with her

I think i missed my chances with her, even though nothing bad itself happened. Is just the feeling that left the date as "She is cool but she isnt really my type or for me"

In the end im left with many things to change but with the confidence that this was an improvement


Thnx for reading

 

[Etrian Oddity]

Hi gaffers. I would like to share my experience from a date i had yesterday

As a little background info. this was my 2nd date since i started reading the 2nd OT of dating-age.

It was OK, but i made many mistakes that were prohibited in the OP, first one was throwing zero compliments about how she looked eve though she looked great, i dont know i missed that one

The conversation was ok and it had a nice flow even if it wasnt that interesting i mean it was good for a first time

But the second mistake came, we were at her home and for some reason introduced me, her mom and brother (OT 2 said. family was a big no) so it was awkward and partially killed the conversation one on one with her

I think i missed my chances with her, even though nothing bad itself happened. Is just the feeling that left the date as "She is cool but she isnt really my type or for me"

In the end im left with many things to change but with the confidence that this was an improvement


Thnx for reading

I know you're probably just posting to clear your mind of it, but don't sweat it. There will be plenty more girls to try it with.

As for the whole compliment thing... it's a crapshoot. There are guys who swear by never complimenting a girl until after you have sex with her, and this works for them; so don't get too caught up in that, either.

 

[Omegasquash]

I know you're probably just posting to clear your mind of it, but don't sweat it. There will be plenty more girls to try it with.

As for the whole compliment thing... it's a crapshoot. There are guys who swear by never complimenting a girl until after you have sex with her, and this works for them; so don't get too caught up in that, either.

The bolded are words to live by. If you feel like it didn't go well, then chances are it didn't go well. Consider it a miss, and you've learned something.

So it's not a miss. Keep at it.

 

[Sub_Level]

Yeah there have been times where I was too caught up in what I thought were the rules I was supposed to follow (not necessarily from this thread, but advice from family members, friends, and even my own instincts) when really they were just keeping me from focusing on the here and now. For example one time I called a girl a mere three hours after a mediocre date (bad idea, right?), and she actually invited me to a party where we had our first kiss.

There are common mistakes to be avoided and mindsets to aspire to but at the end of the day there is a bit of luck involved.

 

[Almond]

I've never been on okcupid or any dating site, so i might not be the best judge. However, my comment would be is that it seems you just say "anything" a lot...

Eg:

Shows: There's nothing I consistently watch, but I REALLY don't like most reality shows. I'm more of a browser.

Music: I don'y have any favorite bands or artists, I just like what I like. I'm pretty open to listening to anything.

Food: Again, no favorites. I'm up for trying just about anything.

Has to be something interesting that you can put in there that will make people go wow. You have a very nice smile

Okay. I changed it up a bit. Thanks!

 

[Cubsfan23]

http://presentoutlook.com/day-by-day-in-every-way-im-getting-better-and-better/

 

[NeOak]

There are common mistakes to be avoided and mindsets to aspire to but at the end of the day there is a bit of luck involved.

People tend to forget that this is not science: it's an art.

So you gotta be ready to improvise because you are the one there, and if it worked for you, that's great.

 

[Branson]

I dont know where to put this. And I'm scared about making a new thread. Is it possible for a girl to be late while shes on the pill? She started her white pills, the ones that you take on your period week, on monday. Its now thursday and she hasnt started. Should we be worried?

 

[~Kinggi~]

Yup, any day now, my life is gonna be awesome. Yup. i can feel it, any day now. Right? Surely 3 years of self improvement would be enough to be happy. FUCK U LIFE

 

[Bam Bam Baklava]

Yup, any day now, my life is gonna be awesome. Yup. i can feel it, any day now. Right? Surely 3 years of self improvement would be enough to be happy. FUCK U LIFE

You and I seem to share the same path.

 

[Xun]

I struggle to make a presence when I'm out and about.

I've just got to learn to get over my approach anxiety, because damn were there a lot of hot girls out tonight!

I'm not bummed out by any means (I don't go out with any intentions), but it's just a bit frustrating.

But eh, you guys know this is what I struggle with.

 

[Mr Swine]

Sent emails to 20 different women on match.com yesterday and nobody has answered and the day before I sent 10 and so on. Why can't they just simply say "No I'm not interested in you". When they say that they are honest about things it sounds to me like it's all bullshit :/

 

[Decado]

Sent emails to 20 different girls on match.com yesterday and nobody has answered and the day before I sent 10 and so on. Why can't they just simply say "No I'm not interested in you". When they say that they are honest about things it sounds to me like it's all bullshit :/

Dude...not responding shows, pretty clearly, that they aren't interested. Why respond? Besides, chicks get a lot more emails than guys. It isn't their job to coddle us.

Also...0 for 30...you may want to seek advice on your messages, profile or pics.

 

[LProtag]

Yeah I sometimes don't get messages back even after I've been talking with someone... just got a massive response from a girl and I wrote her back a response of similar length. She's online right now... hope she's writing something back.

I should probably ask to skype or meet with her in person instead of sending huge messages for a while, shouldn't I?

 

[~Kinggi~]

Sent emails to 20 different women on match.com yesterday and nobody has answered and the day before I sent 10 and so on. Why can't they just simply say "No I'm not interested in you". When they say that they are honest about things it sounds to me like it's all bullshit :/

I only take issue with girls that bother to respond to the first message and then disappear. Last 3 messages i sent have all gotten replies, even enthusiastic replies, and then they stop. It drives me fucking insane because now im obsessing over what the fuck i did wrong to turn them off. I was tempted to respond to them and bitch them out.

Them not responding at all is really their way of letting you down gently, as they figure saying something would imply something worse. I only say something if im not interested if there is a legit reason. Like this nice girl one time messaged me asking to be friends, and i replied saying i was looking for something more but she seemed nice.

 

[bjb]

I wouldn't try and freak out over anything and take it personal. Again keep in mind that unlike males, many get flooded with messages constantly.

 

[luckyboyceo]

Have my date tonight in a few hours.

Having trouble getting myself psyched up for it. Not sure whether or not it's because we've already hooked up (so I know that's in the bag), or the fact that my date works for the FBI, so she probably knows everything about me already, including my NeoGAF account... and this post.

Will post later. Wish me luck, guys!

 

[Bryan1321]

I know you're probably just posting to clear your mind of it, but don't sweat it. There will be plenty more girls to try it with.

As for the whole compliment thing... it's a crapshoot. There are guys who swear by never complimenting a girl until after you have sex with her, and this works for them; so don't get too caught up in that, either.

Well now looking at my post... it really looks like trying to clear my mind

Thanks for the advices, and i know the OT 2 advices arent necesary rules but they are certainly a good guide, but i complement it with the advices from friends, family, etc who are in relationships

Ill keep trying, cuz it sure its fun trying and failing but make progress. after all its as you said "dont sweat it" im just starting

Thanks

 

[WyndhamPrice]

Have my date tonight in a few hours.

Having trouble getting myself psyched up for it. Not sure whether or not it's because we've already hooked up (so I know that's in the bag), or the fact that my date works for the FBI, so she probably knows everything about me already, including my NeoGAF account... and this post.

Will post later. Wish me luck, guys!

I recommend wearing a Federal Booty Inspector t-shirt so you have something in common to talk about.

 

[Minamu]

Pretty nice Thursday night We danced some (damn, it gets warm fast, I hate it) and while we were sitting on the DJ scene drinking some water/beer, two very young girls came up and we started talking. One of them was actually under age (a week from her 18th borthday) so it was a bit weird. We had some fun for a while but they disappeared later on. But on the way home, speaking of the devil, we find them wandering about outside my school. They ended up following us home as my friend was gonna give them some cigarettes, so we talked for about an hour outside his apartment. However, they were much too drunk, too young and one of their mothers called in the middle of it all so nothing happened. I considered giving the young one my number but never did. A 10 year difference is a lot in the end :S It was an interesting night at least ^^