To strawman is to deliberately mis-characterize your opponent's position as a way to discredit them. It's one of the least sophisticated and laziest debate tricks going.
Sure. We agree on the definition. And it indeed is a lazy debate trick. I've called it out myself on this thread. There are worse things people can do here though. Like trolling, insulting, bad faith commentary, harassing or drive bys. I'm just saying strawman-ing is not inherently bad etiquette, unless that's all the poster is doing all the time. If you aren't thin-skinned, it can even be entertaining. Let's say through magic, you were made thin-skinned AND super woke on NeoGAF for just a day. See how it feels around here. Every other post would read like a strawman at best and an insult at worst.
You we're called on it, you should own it - no one gains anything by dishonesty. To say this is how it came across is only to admit you didn't read the post carefully - you needn't be a mind reader just a regular reader. All of this, though, is more sophistry - your whole position is now built on it because you're more interested in 'winning' a debate than gaining something from the discussion.
Right. Just because you called it out, I should own it right? And now my whole position is based on sophistry? If you said it, it must be true, because they can't possibly be strawmans of your own... And let's not get into the "read my post carefully" BS. We are both reading just fine.
I already said why I believe it isn't a strawman. I'll explain it again in a bit, as you have asked for a difference between 'wanting' and 'expecting'. Not interested in who wins this discussion. I've seen my share of people throw that card after a couple of exchanges, perhaps out of exhaustion or boredom as they don't want to sustain the debate with the same person. They want to move on and that's fine. If this is exhausting or not interesting, you are free to disengage, call it a fruitless exchange and/or don't respond. Don't worry, I won't declare victory over an anonymous stranger on a gaming forum, even to myself, as if that means anything at all. I always drive towards a middle ground that we can agree on, in the pursuit of some mutual understanding. And some times that includes challenging the same point multiple times to see if there is unexplored nuance, such as your actual level of openness to criticism without insults. People say things and often don't even know or care if what they said comes across as intended. Feel free to peruse other exchanges I have had with others in this very thread, if you want to really understand my motivations. Not one ended with "screw it, this is pointless" or either side ignoring the other. I've even agreed with the opposing side on certain sub-topics like the unrealistic depiction of female physical capacity or their tendency to engage in mass physical violence. Of course, some exchanges never go anywhere. It is what it is.
What's the difference between what I 'want' and what I'm 'expecting'?
Shocking news. You already know the answer. There is no difference. The difference I was highlighting was between
you saying what you want and
me saying what you want. When you say it in good faith, it represents your thoughts. When I say it in good faith, it represents how your thoughts came across to me. I actually don't know what you want. Only you do. All I can be is a regular reader, like you said. And as a regular reader, you initially came across as someone who just wants to say their piece and not be challenged. That doesn't seem to be the case, so that's good. But then, what is it? You used powerful phrases like "punching up", which requires quite a bit of thick skin to even embark on, but you are so bothered by throw away insults? How is GAF even a place for "punching up"? "Sending strongly worded thought bubbles up" is more accurate. Let me send these bubbles up, please don't poke it with insults? Is that
all you are saying? If so, then this conversation has concluded. We agree. No one should be insulting.
You keep bringing up insults, like that's the majority of this thread. I'm not seeing that, especially after the initial heat had worn off. People are just debating, some more aggressively than others, but civil nonetheless. A lot of strawman-ing, sure. But not as many insults and certainly not the majority. May be you need to clarify what you even consider an insult. For me, unless someone specifically targets me and treats me like a lesser being, intellectually or morally, or just brands me with derogatory terms like "chud" for example, it is not an insult. Screaming at the clouds without tagging anybody is a fart in the wind. Nothing insulting about that.
The last strawman here is "If a critique of your critique is avoided, then all that is left is your critique." Which, again I didn't argue. Critique of critique is fine and I said as much already, it's what I'm doing right now: addressing someone else's argument.
How is that a strawman? From your prior response, I was already aware that we are in agreement. I literally called this part "accurate". I just added to it to say it should be preserved to prevent an echo chamber. One of the few things we agree on, actually.
My complaint was that most - if not all - pushback on the game's critique in this thread was in the form of insults or ad hominem - aimed at the individuals rather than their statements - which you've already agreed is a poor form of argument.
This is really the point of contention. You think the majority are insults and ad hominem and I don't think so. You are yet to provide any evidence of this happening to you. I'll ask again. How many that have engaged with you had insulted you and called you names? Show evidence. Otherwise, you are crying wolf.
I'm curious as to why you're continuing this debate, though.
Like I said earlier, I always continue in the attempt to find a middle ground. Seeing nothing satisfactory that is worth pointing out so far. But you are free to disengage if you want. It's not about winning. It's about trying to understand what the hell is the crux of the opposing point of view. May be you have understood me and this is wasting your time. But I think I haven't understood you yet. I'm making the assumption in your favor, that you are trying to convey more than "don't poke at my thought bubbles with insults". So I wouldn't say it's a waste of my time.
As far as I can tell, I've made a case for more civil discussion and I've taken aim at people throwing insults around instead of arguments.
You made a case alright. But I don't see the aiming. All I see is scatter shots. Again, if you want to take aim, call specific people and posts out that insulted you and tell them why you found it so insulting. May be they will learn a thing or two. Or may be you will learn something about them. Or if you don't want to engage with them, because that would not stimulate your superior intellect (your words, not mine), report to mods. Otherwise you are just complaining into the ether. The people who quoted you have been fairly civil, as far as I can tell, which is why it all feels like much ado about nothing.
If you honestly think that insults are fine in this context and that strawmanning is reasonable and constructive, I won't try to change your mind, because you can either accept a logical fallacy or you can't - it's not up for debate. You can also maintain the Earth is flat, that water is a solid or that married men can also be bachelors, but if you can't show the working you're just being stubbornly intransigent at nobody's cost but your own
Man, this part is too ironic to respond to without snark, but I'll try. I'll make it clear once again (as if my very first response to you wasn't clear enough), that insulting is NOT fine. Strawman-ing though is just... whatever. It's not a good way to convey the point, but it's fine if done while also saying other thought-provoking things.
May be that's the middle ground we will ever reach. That insulting is bad, strawman-ing is lazy, but it's ok to criticize the criticizers. Not very insightful, is it? Which is why I'm continuing the debate in good faith. We have gone from "punching up to corporations" to something far less potent. This is supposed to be a topic on Jin or Atsu and we didn't even get to that. But given we continued after my first response, I was hoping for an interesting detour on what our attitudes towards video game makers should be and if complaining on GAF can even be a viable form of "protest" or if anti-woke activism could be useful. Instead we are still talking about the part that is just so damn easy to report and/or ignore i.e insults. We are on a forum with anonymity where it's literally free to sign up. This is as civil as it will ever get. Try posting politically/culturally charged thoughts on X and see how that pans out.