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Girl/Dating Age Part 2: A combined effort to give advice for those in need
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sooperkool
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Not sure where you would put this but here are the two greatest pieces of advice my grandfather ever gave me:
"Never sleep with a woman with more problems than you because her problems will become yours".
"Always tell a woman she's beautiful, especially if she isn't".
"Never sleep with a woman with more problems than you because her problems will become yours".
"Always tell a woman she's beautiful, especially if she isn't".
some good info in their ENCO but let's put more positive stuff in there!! so much of that info is negative :lol
referencing yesterday is a GREAT idea
but you should do it in a different way - do you remember a joke you/she made? something you teased her about? reference a specific in joke between you two not just a general "had a good time" thing
no disrespect to your old man but we live in a different world... only tell a girl she's beautiful after you've built a SERIOUS rapport with her. and if she isn't... well don't build a serious rapport with her :lol
dvolovets said:
referencing yesterday is a GREAT idea
but you should do it in a different way - do you remember a joke you/she made? something you teased her about? reference a specific in joke between you two not just a general "had a good time" thing
sooperkool said:
no disrespect to your old man but we live in a different world... only tell a girl she's beautiful after you've built a SERIOUS rapport with her. and if she isn't... well don't build a serious rapport with her :lol
:lol that's a fair point!jon bones said:
We can have a general section sooperkool.
General Advice/Comments
- Never sleep with a woman with more problems than you because her problems will become yours
- Always tell a woman she's beautiful, especially if she isn't
- Don't be an asshole if you want a long lasting relationship
- When in doubt, bail out. There are plenty of women out there. Don't get stuck with one who isn't worth your time
Just an example of what it would be like.
Sounds good to me PXG.
edit: A note at the end on how it's all just user content and you should use it as you will would be useful so you don't get people getting all angry about some of the advice going wrong :lol
Good list Enco,
Maybe a section on what not to do after the first date. Just random stuff like
Maybe a section on what not to do after the first date. Just random stuff like
- Don't pay for everything
- Don't buy her gifts to prove your interest in her
- Don't fuck her friend
- Don't tell her you love her/really really like her/feel strongly about her/have never felt this way before!
- Don't let her suck your dirty dick. Shower you nasty bastard
- Don't second guess yourself
- Don't ask her for "permission" to do things, she is not your mother.
- Don't apologize every 5 seconds for everything you say or do (fucking hate this so.damn.much.)
- Don't think you ever, eeeeveeeeerrrrr have her all figured out.
- If she ignores you, don't send her 80 messages asking where she is. She is either dead, fucking someone else, or has her phone turned off for a good reason. None of those situations will be helped by you leaving a voice mail every 5 minutes.
- Remember that every guy she knows probably wants to sleep with her. You're ability to put a penis inside of her is not your selling point. She can get that anywhere.
- Being boring is worse than being ugly
Good stuff.siddx said:
What NOT To Do After The First Date
- Don't pay for everything
- Don't buy her gifts to prove your interest in her
- Don't fuck her friend
- Don't tell her you love her/really really like her/feel strongly about her/have never felt this way before! Give it some time. Moving too fast is a big no no
- Don't let her suck your dirty dick. Shower you nasty bastard
- Don't second guess yourself
- Don't ask her for "permission" to do things, she is not your mother
- Don't apologize every 5 seconds for everything you say or do
- If she ignores you, don't send her 80 messages asking where she is. She is either dead, fucking someone else, or has her phone turned off for a good reason. None of those situations will be helped by you leaving a voice mail every 5 minutes
- Remember that every guy she knows probably wants to sleep with her. You're ability to put a penis inside of her is not your selling point. She can get that anywhere
- Being boring is worse than being ugly - THE GOLDEN RULE
Just wanted to add the title and a few extra bits
If you think so, sure.jon bones said:
The Technomancer
card-carrying scientician
All of this advice is great if you're in a position where you can even talk to girls, and I'll be thinking about it when I get there. But is there any advice on how to not be anti-social? What are good ways to just, well, meet people? In particular I'm a college student with a busy class schedule.
BronzeWolf
Banned
jon bones said:
Make it happen
sooperkool
Member
jon bones said:
I'm pretty sure he was saying that it never hurts to compliment those that don't receive them often... It's not really a literal thing.
Mike Works
Member
Not a fan of the OP at all. Should've held off on making a new thread until someone actually put some thought into one.
In time that should definitely be in there as it's possibly one of the bigger issues.The_Technomancer said:
That's what I got it from. Maybe better wording would help.sooperkool said:
How's this?
Just quick and ugly but it should do?
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The old one was no different. It should be good soon enough.Mike Works said:
BronzeWolf
Banned
I like Ugly>Boring more
The_Technomancer said:
Great point.
This is definitely a harder thing to give advice about.
I'd say
Go out with friends, but not a huge group. You and two or three other friends is perfect. Even just one other friend is fine. Just as long as you are NOT alone. I go to a bar here in town for their awesome chicken wings and I tend to go by myself cause I just want to eat, but the looks I get being there by myself...you'd think I have a dick growing out of my eyeball.
If in college, go to as many campus events as possible. Eat at the cafeteria. Even if you don't sit and talk with other people while there, being in a large space with tons of other people, you are at least getting your face out there.
Walk around campus sometimes. Sit outside on a bench and listen to your ipod or work on your computer or read. The number one thing is to be out of your room and around others. Even if you aren't actively engaging them.
Go to the gym. Play basketball on the courts. At some point someone will ask you to join a pick up game.
Go to parties, even if only for a little bit. I don't really like college parties but i'll still go for half an hour just to get my face out there.
Go to the library to study or just to check out books.
Just go places where other people gather. You up your chances or having a random conversation with someone and at the very least, you get seen by others. That way the next time you show up its "oh hey theres that guy again."
Exposure yo!
Oh and this may not work for everyone, but I always have something snappy prepared in case a girl ends up being a bitch when I try to talk to her.
"Hey, whats your name?"
"Uh, none of your business"
"Well thats a dumb fucking name"
Mike Works
Member
The old one was a thread about one person that changed into an all-purpose thread.Enco said:
You ever see those crazy Official Thread's for big upcoming videogames they have in the gaming forum? That's what I envisioned for the new thread. Not some bullshit about linking to an achievements list on fucking a girl anally.
Eventually, people will mainly be reading the last page(s) of the thread, but it'd be great to have a huge reference point that newcomers could check out.
Girls. You can't escape them yet we understand so little. What can we hope to achieve without the help of others? GAF being the kind community it is, is willing to help you out with understanding the opposite sex (if you're a dude). Don't know if a girl is into you? Want to know how to meet others? Share your issues, advice and learn from others. That way we can hope to one day better understand the female half of our species.
Finding a girl is tough work. There's a lot you need to know and a lot you need to do. Read on and things should be made a little bit easier.
Preparation
- In order to get yourself in a position where dating is fun and rewarding instead of awkward and frustrating you first need to internalize some things. The first is that girls are human beings too, and this sounds terribly cliche but it's true: ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT A GIRL IS AS, IF NOT MORE, NERVOUS THAN YOU WHEN YOU APPROACH HER
- Confidence is key. Focus on what you do well, not what you don't do well
- Buy some new clothes. Especially if you don't have a great dress sense. Take your best dressed girl/gay friend to the store and let them dress you up
- Get some nice shoes and socks
- Get a hobby if you don't have one. Photography, music, film making, dog training, kite flying, sailing, fishing or anything else. You need to appear interesting and it can give a good starting point for conversations
- If you have the body of a 9 year old, work out and put on weight. It'll make you much more attractive (although this isn't always an issue. Unless if you're horribly anorexic)
- Get a haircut
- If overweight, lose weight
- If skinny, gain weight
- Sleep
How To Improve
- This ability doesn't come as naturally as some of us might want. Some get it faster than others, some never do
- As long as you keep making progress, it's all good
- The cool thing about learning the in and outs of dating is that you never ever take a look back. You WILL fail, repeatedly even, but you will get it right if you pay heed to the correct advice and work for it
- You might feel that you haven't even advanced much, but one day you will wake up and think "jeez I kind of want to go with Jeena but Samm is really bugging me to go out with her today"
- Many girls wanting to be with you, is the sign that you are something else
Where To Go
- Honestly, anywhere. If you specifically want to concentrate on meeting women, a bar/club or a dating club would be fine
- Normal places like coffee shops, bookstores, class, shopping at the mall, etc. can work very well too
- If you see someone you're interested in, just go up to them and start a conversation
- Many people go to bars and clubs to pick up girls. Until you are comfortable with approaching strangers in bars, going out with the sole purpose of meeting girls is only going to leave you frustrated and angry. Go to bars to have fun instead. Do your damn hardest to have THE MOST FUN you can have at a bar. Fun is contagious and people notice it. If you are having A BLAST at the bar, and you go to the bathroom, it's going to be a hell of a lot easier to say hi to that random girl that keeps looking in your direction
- Coffee shops, bookstores and libraries and the mall. Common interests is a must to being able to catch the attention of a girl in this environment. "Oh are you reading x?", "buying z?", "drinking y?". They will say yes, IT IS NOW IMPERATIVE THAT YOU ASK WHAT THEY THINK ABOUT IT. If you don't ask, now you are going to be left with nothing to keep the conversation, but asking for her opinion, will fill you in with details with which you can have a conversation
- In a class, just say something like "hi! never seen you before? What classes are you taking?". Anything simple. Try to think of a starter when you're there, depending on the situation
How To Act & What To Do
- Confidence is key. If you get all nervous and fumble about when talking with a girl it won't go down too well. She may find it cute it but you shouldn't rest on that
- Be relaxed. Don't be all over the place
- Be nice. If you're dropping f bombs and arguing with everyone in the vicinity it won't look good. Especially if you want a long lasting relationship. You want to give off a good impression
- Be funny. Making a girl laugh is the way forward
- Don't act like someone you're not. It'll usually backfire and end up making you look silly
- Be happy. You need to smile and show that you're having a good time. If you look angry or unhappy it'll never go well
- Ask her about her life. Be interested in what she says
- Be a gentleman and treat them like a lady but that doesn't mean be a pushover
What NOT To Do
- Don't put her on a pedestal. If you make her out to be a goddess chances are she'll start acting like one
- Don't be creepy. Staring at a girl puts you into creepy territory
- Don't stare at her boobs while talking to her
- Don't be perverted. Rude jokes rarely go down well and neither does dirty talk. Save it for when you're closer
- Girls aren't like your best guy friend. Don't treat them and talk to them in the same way unless if you want to alienate them
- Don't be rude. Cussing all the time will just alienate her and it'll make you seem like someone who isn't ready for a relationship. Don't insult anyone, be racist or sexist
- Don't be a ridiculous gentleman. Free meals, buying her flowers, writing her songs and opening her doors for 10 minutes while she arrives is something you wait to do (maybe not all of the listed) when you're in a proper relationship. Don't do all of that before then
Knowing if She's Right (Long Lasting Relationships)
- You usually can't tell from the offset. Go out with her, talk with her and eventually you will come to know if she's 'the one'
- If you enjoy being with her, that's a good sign
- If she makes you happy, that too is a good sign
- Read the 'red lights' list below and consider the opposite (sensibly)
- Can you imagine living with her forever? If yes, that's good news
Signs She's Interested
- Make note of her body language. If she's touching her hair while you are chatting her up it shows a sign of subconscious interest. The same if she maintains eye contact, laughs, points her knees to the side, touches you or leans towards you
- If she gets close to you then it means you don't disgust her which is a good start. Don't take this as evidence alone though. Being close doesn't always mean she's interested
- She asks you out on a date
- She accepts your jokes, tells you about herself, validates herself to you ("I am a musician" "Oh really? I love music, I used to play piano as a child") and she makes plans for the future
- She gives you her number
- Sometimes you just have to ask her out. Take the plunge and it might pay off. You have nothing to lose
Keeping Things Going
- Always be looking for small ways to engage in light physical intimacy. For example, touching her arm while laughing at her joke
Online Dating
- Never use online dating as your primary source of dating. Use it as a supplement to meeting girls in person
- Always make sure the girl has a full-body pic in her profile. The "angle" shot isn't an Internet urban myth. There's nothing more awkward then seeing a girl for the first time and realizing that she's morbidly obese when you thought she was a size 0
- 'Curvy' usually means obese
- The different dating sites appeal to different demographics. Match.com is a general dating site with the most traffic, but also the most competition. It's the easiest site to find girls willing to go out on a date. OKCupid tends to have more of the nerdy and hipster girls, and also more "alternative" girls. But a lot of girls sign up for the site just to take their quizzes and thus may not be as receptive to dating. eHarmony tends to get lots of people looking to settle down right away, and attracts more religious girls. It's also the priciest, and you have to rely on the site's matching algorithm to find you matches (instead of generally searching by area or common interest like on the other sites). Plus, you have to go through a multi-step process to communicate with your matches, where you answer brief questions about yourself. Plentyoffish... Never tried POF myself, but I know people who have had success
- Communicate with as many girls as you can juggle, at first. The girls you are seeking are probably going out with a ton of people as they are dating you, and then they decide on what one they like best
- Your first email to the girl should NOT be a robotic/generic message. Tailor it exclusively to the girl. Mention one or two things about her profile, or about her pictures. If she has a pic of herself in front of the Leaning Tower of Pisa, ask her what she thought of Italy. If her music taste meshes with yours, ask her if she's been to any cool concerts recently
- Many girls on dating sites are on it for a confidence-boost. Guys vastly outnumber girls on the sites, and feel the need to shower the ones there with attention. An average-looking girl who wouldn't get a second look at a meat-market bar, suddenly becomes belle of the ball when online. NEVER praise a girl's looks online (of course, you can and should mention something unique about her pictures, like if she's wearing a cool shirt)
- Girls can be incredibly flaky compared to girls you meet in real life. Don't take it personally if things seem solid at first but then she poofs for seemingly no reason. You probably didn't do anything wrong, it's her. As said before, this'll be different depending on the site you're on. OKCupid you'll see this a lot. eHarmony and PoF, not so much as they're only for dating and not social networking
- eHarmony is... odd. They have a weird matchmaking system (to some at least)
- Email etiquette: Don't get into email-limbo with a girl. After 2 or 3 back-and-forths, it's time to ask for the cell phone # and a date. Don't respond immediately to an email (give it a 1 or 2 day buffer), but at the same time, don't leave them hanging for a week or so. When she gives you the cell phone #, call her and set up a time/place
- Match.com: Be aware that there is no way to tell who is a paid or non paid user. This means you can send out a message to somebody and they won't be able to respond unless they pay the subscription fee. This may have changed but be wary
What To Do on a (First) Date
- Make her laugh
- Throw in a compliment or two. Don't overdo it though
- Talk and try to act as confident as possible. Don't be arrogant though
- Dress well
- Touch her but not overly. Leave the groping for later. Just light touches on her shoulder etc.
What NOT To Do on a (First) Date
- Act rude. Don't fart
- Be rude. Don't tell her she's ugly or fat
- Ask her to pay (if it's a restaurant etc.)
- Talk only about yourself
- Tell her about how you think another girl is hot and how you want her
- Discussing politics and/or religion is a big no no. Opens the gates to failure and awkwardness. Wait it out before going into deep conversations
- Don't be late
- Don't act lazy/not energetic
- Don't be apologetic about anything. If you mess up or drop something, sure, but otherwise don't
- Don't do movie and a dinner. It's just boring. Especially a movie. You need to be able to talk, not sit in silence for two hours (first date)
- Don't do expensive places. It's just not worth it for any first date (first date)
- Don't do something you can't easily escape from. It she is boring, you need to have an easy escape plan (first date)
- Don't do family. It's scary and you shouldn't be moving that fast. At all (first date)
- Don't do BUDDIES DRINK NIGHT OUT. It might work, but it's more fun and memorable to go kite flying (for example - first date)
Bad Signs on a First Date
- She's late
- She doesn't show up
- She eats like a pig (restaurant etc.)
- She only talks about herself
- She is loud and obnoxious
- She talks about past boyfriends or any other negative topic
What NOT To Do (Straight After The First Date)
- Don't pay for everything
- Don't buy her gifts to prove your interest in her
- Don't fuck her friend
- Don't tell her you love her/really really like her/feel strongly about her/have never felt this way before! Give it some time. Moving too fast is a big no no
- Don't let her suck your dirty dick. Shower you nasty bastard
- Don't second guess yourself
- Don't ask her for "permission" to do things, she is not your mother
- Don't apologize every 5 seconds for everything you say or do
- If she ignores you, don't send her 80 messages asking where she is. She is either dead, fucking someone else, or has her phone turned off for a good reason. None of those situations will be helped by you leaving a voice mail every 5 minutes
- Remember that every guy she knows probably wants to sleep with her. You're ability to put a penis inside of her is not your selling point. She can get that anywhere
- Don't be boring
So now you have the girl. The easy part's over. You now need to know how to keep the relationship going (if you want a long lasting one) and you need to know when to end it if necessary. Keep going. Maybe after all this you'll better understand girls. Maybe.
Things That Should Trigger Red Lights
- She's going into a relationship even though she still isn't over a previous breakup. This can be a cause of many problems, especially if she hasn't fully recovered from the breakup
- She's trying to move things along too quickly
- She only has guy friends. Not only can they be possible competitors but it would also be strange that she has no girl friends. Something might be amiss
- She talks about previous boyfriends to you (more than once)
- She talks to previous boyfriends (a lot)
- She is acts depressive. Plenty to choose from. Don't get stuck with someone who's depressive as they'll end up just depressing you too
- She acts crazy. Same reason as above
- She acts spoilt. You don't want someone who acts like a child. Relationships require maturity and being spoilt will create many problems especially with finance
- She acts and expects to be treated like a 'princess'. See above. Same thing about maturity and living in the real world
- She always wants to be with you and gets upset when you can't see her. You don't want someone clingy. You NEED free time. As much as you love someone, you can't be with them all the time. It's very unhealthy
- She's always calling you and is upset and angry when you don't answer once
- She's obsessed with you
- She wants constant attention. Same with the above few reasons
- She can't take a joke. You want someone you can have fun with and enjoy your time with. Not someone who'll get angry for you cracking a simple joke
- She acts like she's the hottest girl in town
- She hates your friends
- She hates your family. You might dismiss this but it can be a huge cause of issues
- She's insecure (always saying she's ugly). You don't want someone arrogant but you also don't want someone who is convinced they're the ugliest girl around
- She argues with you in public
- She doesn't trust you. You've probably heard this many times before, but relationships are built on trust. If she doesn't trust you, it'll never end well. Ever. End it now
- She always complains
- She thinks/speaks negatively about her friends/family
- She's violent
- She's delusional. If she starts seeing ridiculous things in small events such as a girl saying happy birthday to you and she thinks you're cheating
- She's always jealous/makes paranoid assumptions. If she gets annoyed when you smile at another girl that's not a good sign.
- She's emotionally unstable. Crying all the time about small things and not getting what she wants
- She's a compulsive liar
- She's a stripper
- She's willing to travel across the world and live with you after meeting her online and without seeing each other in person first. Ask yourself why. It probably means she has a fundamental flaw and is jumping at the opportunity
How to Know When It's Time to End It
- You don't enjoy being around her
- You don't feel comfortable around her
- You don't feel happy around her
- You can't imagine living with her
- Refer to above list
- The only reason you can think of for why you are still together is you love her. This isn't a chick flick, love is not all you need.
- Your families are totally against each other and hate each other
- There's no trust
- You argue more times than you joke and have a happy time
- You're upset with her more than you are happy
- She puts you down constantly. You get into a relationship to be happy
How To End It
- Clean, simple, fast. That's how it has to be. Once you know it has to end, end it. With as little nonsense as possible. This will minimize hurt to both parties
- Accept that 99% of the time you are no longer going to be friends. Worrying about what she is going to think about you is a waste of time
- If you have to be a jerk to get it done, so be it. Better that than 3 days and nights of crying and pouting and accusations and arguments
- If it looks like this is heading towards a long drawn out event, get out of there by any means necessary
After The Break Up
- If it's a bad/serious break up, erase her from phone, email, Facebook and life
- You may cherish your memories with her someday, but right now all they are doing is holding you down
- Surround yourself with friends/family
- Keep occupied. Get on with your life as usual. Do your work, carry on with any hobbies and go out with friends/family
- Get a haircut, buy some new clothes, take a trip and make some new memories
- Don't think about finding someone new, think about yourself for a while. Relationships can wait
- If you happen to see her again or she starts talking to you, STAY AWAY. Especially if it was a bad breakup. Getting back with someone hardly ever works out in the long run. Pretend you don't know her and move on
General Advice/Comments
- Never sleep with a woman with more problems than you because her problems will become yours
- Don't be shy in giving compliments. Don't go overboard but the odd compliment always helps
- Don't be an asshole if you want a long lasting relationship
- When in doubt, bail out. There are plenty of women out there. Don't stick with one who isn't worth your time. A relationship is meant to be a source of happiness
- Don't cheat. If you're in a monogamous relationship don't go around sleeping with other people. If you want to do that, either end it or make sure the other person is aware that you're having an open relationship. Cheating causes a many many problems and is a cruel thing to do
- Don't get into a relationship if you're depressed or if you generally don't think you'll be able to do it well. It'll just end badly
- A great first date is the "activity date". Bowling, mini golf, going to Dave and Busters, shooting pool... far beats coffee. If you and the girl don't have a lot to talk about, at least you will have SOME fun playing games or shooting pool. Plus, it gives great opportunities to tease ("come on, can't believe you missed THAT shot!" after she messes up on a 7-10 split), and make light physical contact (slap her five if she gets a strike)
- Don't listen to anecdotes. Things like "My aunt broke up with her husband for a year before they got back together again and ended up getting married" or "My buddy was in a long term relationship and he ended up getting married to the girl!" or even "I'm still great friends with my ex!" should be ignored. If 1000 people jump off a building and 4 people live, that doesn't make jumping off said building a smart thing to do. Odds are still 99% you ending up with your brains smashed all over the sidewalk. If it was the most likely outcome, it wouldn't need anecdotal evidence to "prove it". Be sensible
Getting A Girl in 6 Steps
- Talk to her. Be confident and happy. Make her laugh
- Ask her for her number. If she gives it to you, move on to the next step. If not, go back to the first one and try with a different girl
- Call her up (DON'T TEXT) and tell her when to meet you for a date (i.e. 'Wanna go out for lunch tomorrow at XXX place?')
- Be smiley and happy. Make her laugh some more and get close. Don't get too touchy feely though. It depends on your aim. If it's to get laid, more touching is fine. If your sole aim is going to bed with her, this is the final step for you. No need for second dates or anything of the sort. Just return back to step 1. If it's for a long lasting relationship, limit touching to a minimum. Remember this is just the first date
- If the first date went well, call her up and ask her out again. Not too soon after (still talk to her every now and then). If she declines, start from the top of the list with a different girl
- You should be getting a bit closer now. Keep repeating steps 3-5. Ask her out and keep seeing how things progress. If all is well, you're in
- Follow the rest of the information in this thread
*Note* All of the advice in this thread is written by members. Use it as you wish but remember to be sensible and use your own judgment too.
*WORK IN PROGRESS*
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Special thanks to Enco for compiling the info and making the banners. Also, a big thanks to BronzeWolf, siddx and jon bones who helped out a lot with the content. And of course, thank you GAF for posting so much useful advice.
I think that fits under when to end it better.czartim said:
I've updated the op again PXG so you should copy the newer one in.
Keep adding things guys. Over time it should get much bigger but we already have a good starting base.
edit: I've added a temp description until a proper one is written.
TurboLibre
Member
:lol
I don't know if being ugly is better than being boring. You can change boring.
It's a fun rule though.
I don't know if being ugly is better than being boring. You can change boring.
It's a fun rule though.
Mangoverboard
Banned
Great thread guys, I can see this being really helpful.
Just looking for a small bit of advice. So theres this girl I really like. She goes to the same college as some of my best friends and I met her through them. Only thing is I've only met her in person once, about a month ago. She lives about 40 minutes away and goes to a different college as I say. She's always asking me to come on nights out with our mutual friends, but its really difficult for me to go out( places to stay, money for taxis and that) and whenever I do go out are the nights she cant go out.
We really hit it off the night I met her but I didnt make a move because my friend mentioned she was seeing someone. She dancing up on me for most of the night tho. She's out of that relationship now. It's my birthday tomorrow and I'm having a party for it friday, and she is coming out to it, its very out of her way. I didnt even really ask her, just absent mindedly sent her an invite on fb.
We talk a lot thru fb, and she's always saying how great we get on even tho we've only met in person once. The way we talk is very flirty, I've ever had girls who are very interested in me talk the same way, but she seems like a fairly flirty person in general, based on what my friends say, but she just seems a bit more with me.
So I'm thinking I'll go for it friday at the party, man up with a bit of confidence (and a beer or two) because all the signs point to her liking me too. I'm just worried that I've completely misread this and she just wants to be friends and I dont know her that well yet.
Just looking for a small bit of advice. So theres this girl I really like. She goes to the same college as some of my best friends and I met her through them. Only thing is I've only met her in person once, about a month ago. She lives about 40 minutes away and goes to a different college as I say. She's always asking me to come on nights out with our mutual friends, but its really difficult for me to go out( places to stay, money for taxis and that) and whenever I do go out are the nights she cant go out.
We really hit it off the night I met her but I didnt make a move because my friend mentioned she was seeing someone. She dancing up on me for most of the night tho. She's out of that relationship now. It's my birthday tomorrow and I'm having a party for it friday, and she is coming out to it, its very out of her way. I didnt even really ask her, just absent mindedly sent her an invite on fb.
We talk a lot thru fb, and she's always saying how great we get on even tho we've only met in person once. The way we talk is very flirty, I've ever had girls who are very interested in me talk the same way, but she seems like a fairly flirty person in general, based on what my friends say, but she just seems a bit more with me.
So I'm thinking I'll go for it friday at the party, man up with a bit of confidence (and a beer or two) because all the signs point to her liking me too. I'm just worried that I've completely misread this and she just wants to be friends and I dont know her that well yet.
Bam Bam Baklava
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Am I the only person in this thread who thinks Boring > Ugly?
It depends how uglyMiDNiGHTS said:
And if you're boring on the first date it's unlikely that she'll be much into you. I think that's what it basically means. Not something to take too literally.
P.s. I like your avatar
Anyone have any info for the coming soon sections?
P.s. PXG you can copy the op in my post as it's changed again :lol
edit: :O MiDNiGHTS, you changed your avatar! Still good though.
EraldoCoil
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What if you're boring and ugly?
Bam Bam Baklava
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EraldoCoil said:
Also, my avatar changes on it's own based on a rotation.
that picture reminded me i have a "right click, block images from..." option
my advice is to always lean towards going for it. maybe you misread the signs but who cares? you know what you want and she probably does, too. fresh out a relationship, too? GO FOR IT. just be the awesome, interesting, great looking person you are and you're in there like swim wear.
are you a girl?
Mangoverboard said:
my advice is to always lean towards going for it. maybe you misread the signs but who cares? you know what you want and she probably does, too. fresh out a relationship, too? GO FOR IT. just be the awesome, interesting, great looking person you are and you're in there like swim wear.
MiDNiGHTS said:
are you a girl?
Mangoverboard said:
She is either
a. Into you
b. Acting like she is into you
So either way you have a green light. If by some odd chance she is just being a tease, you have every right to look her up and down when she rejects your advances, shake your head, roll your eyes, mutter "fucking cockteasers" and walk away with your dignity intact knowing she is the bitch here not you.
It's far more likely she is interested in at least bumping uglies with you though.
Bam Bam Baklava
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jon bones said:
No.
Quick question:
Started talking to a girl last night. I asked for her number and she explained how she doesn't like give out her number liberally, especially to guys. Now, fast forward to today. We're talking and all of a sudden she gives me her number and tells me to text her any time.
So GAF? What is this about? I consider myself to be quite experienced with women folk. I just got out of a monogamous relationship, so I've been out of the dating game for a while. I've never had this happen to me before. Thoughts?
Thanks in advance.
Started talking to a girl last night. I asked for her number and she explained how she doesn't like give out her number liberally, especially to guys. Now, fast forward to today. We're talking and all of a sudden she gives me her number and tells me to text her any time.
So GAF? What is this about? I consider myself to be quite experienced with women folk. I just got out of a monogamous relationship, so I've been out of the dating game for a while. I've never had this happen to me before. Thoughts?
Thanks in advance.
sooperkool
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-PXG- said:
She decided at some point to just give it to you. Roll with it like nothing happened.
Mangoverboard
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Cheers for the advice guys! Definitely going to go for it
Just one other thing, girls giving you their number without you asking them, anything behind it? Happened me 3 times over the last few months (including girl already mentioned)
Just one other thing, girls giving you their number without you asking them, anything behind it? Happened me 3 times over the last few months (including girl already mentioned)
sooperkool
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Mangoverboard said:Cheers for the advice guys! Definitely going to go for it
Just one other thing, girls giving you their number without you asking them, anything behind it? Happened me 3 times over the last few months (including girl already mentioned)
It means, "Give me a call sometimes". Nothing more and nothing less, you have to do something with the number though.
I'm not an expert in common sense, but it sounds like they want to talk to you.Mangoverboard said:Cheers for the advice guys! Definitely going to go for it
Just one other thing, girls giving you their number without you asking them, anything behind it? Happened me 3 times over the last few months (including girl already mentioned)
Well it would seem that she's really into you or that she at least likes you enough to want to talk to you.Mangoverboard said:Cheers for the advice guys! Definitely going to go for it
Just one other thing, girls giving you their number without you asking them, anything behind it? Happened me 3 times over the last few months (including girl already mentioned)
I wouldn't look too much into it.
The checking you out bit is 'signs she's interested' and how to approach is 'what to do/how to act'.Xun said:
We just need people to write stuff to go in there.
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