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[Enco]

Another thing that I noticed came up a fair bit in the other thread, and that I could certainly stand to re-read, if anyone wants to spout some advice:
How to initiate conversation when you have literally nothing to use as an opener.

That would be good.

Anything like 'Hey, how are you?'?

WHERE'S THE ACHIEVEMENTS!!!!!!!!!!

:lol

People didn't like them and I kind\ agree. Yes they were fun and interesting but I doubt newcomers would like them and they would probably be daunted by them. They were fun none the less!

edit: Holy cow, over 200 posts already! I'm off for the night. Some good advice here Should help people out.

 

[Mr.Squirrel]

Take Bdizzle out of the title. He gives shit advice, clearly makes shit up, and as revealed in the previous thread, he fucks fat chicks.

fat chicks are awesome!

PS, I love you

 

[The Shadow]

Another thing that I noticed came up a fair bit in the other thread, and that I could certainly stand to re-read, if anyone wants to spout some advice:
How to initiate conversation when you have literally nothing to use as an opener.

Just a disclaimer. I think having pre-prepped openers is a huge mistake. If you should get nervous (and you should a little if you're asking for advice) you could fuck it up, forget some of it, blank out, etc. Plus, more often than not, it's going to look pre-prepped and obvious anyway.

Having said that....be contextual. Are you at a book store? Look at the book(s) she's looking at and mention the cover. Ask her if she has any recommendations since you're trying to read something new (if it's true). Ask her if she's read this book or that if she's in a section you do know.

Things like that.

What's more important is actually initiating the conversation. That's the first huge hump. Once you've got a topic, just let it go from there. If she stops, walks away, doesn't look at you when talking, etc. Don't pursue it. If you keep thinking about talking to her, what to say, how to say it, etc, it'll never happen. Plus, she'll probably notice you staring at her while you're thinking about the perfect thing to say. It doesn't have to be perfect, it just needs to get you both talking.

Edit:

Figure I should give a real life example. Had picked out a book and was walking to the cash register when I saw a really good looking brunette looking at some map books. She picked one that was of Hawaii and I walked up and asked her if she had ever been. She said no, that she wasn't planning on traveling, she was looking at maps for a class project. I said that if she ever gets the chance, she should go for it. She said that it was expensive and could never afford it. I mentioned that I did it by saving every little bit and flew on a red eye to save money.

Nothing happened as a result, she had a boyfriend (gd it), but it a was a pretty friendly conversation and entirely contextual. That's all it takes, nothing ground breaking.

 

[Mr.Squirrel]

That would be good.

Anything like 'Hey, how are you?'?


:lol

People didn't like them and I kind\ agree. Yes they were fun and interesting but I doubt newcomers would like them and they would probably be daunted by them. They were fun none the less!

edit: Holy cow, over 200 posts already! I'm off for the night. Some good advice here Should help people out.

:lol how can you not like them, a lot of them were funny/sick/perverted. Unless people were really trying to go for em all

 

[The Technomancer]

Just a disclaimer. I think having pre-prepped openers is a huge mistake. If you should get nervous (and you should a little if you're asking for advice) you could fuck it up, forget some of it, blank out, etc. Plus, more often than not, it's going to look pre-prepped and obvious anyway.

Having said that....be contextual. Are you at a book store? Look at the book(s) she's looking at and mention the cover. Ask her if she has any recommendations since you're trying to read something new (if it's true). Ask her if she's read this book or that if she's in a section you do know.

Things like that.

What's more important is actually initiating the conversation. That's the first huge hump. Once you've got a topic, just let it go from there. If she stops, walks away, doesn't look at you when talking, etc. Don't pursue it. If you keep thinking about talking to her, what to say, how to say it, etc, it'll never happen. Plus, she'll probably notice you staring at her while you're thinking about the perfect thing to say. It doesn't have to be perfect, it just needs to get you both talking.

Yeah, problem is in my experience I get a response but no reciprocation. Opening casual conversation usually seems to get back reflexive "mhm"s and "yeahs"

 

[jon bones]

:lol how can you not like them, a lot of them were funny/sick/perverted. Unless people were really trying to go for em all

they weren't funny but i'll give you the latter two - it seems like people need/want a practical thread to help with girls and all the Internet Bravado makes the thread less accessible

 

[Mr.Squirrel]

Also, telling a girl you want to smang is a a sure fire way to get laid at anytime, anyplace.
Just say the words "lemmie smang it girl" and you are in like gungadin.

:lol I'll try it this week and report back

 

[Mr.Squirrel]

they weren't funny but i'll give you the latter two - it seems like people need/want a practical thread to help with girls and all the Internet Bravado makes the thread less accessible

i wish i had a had a why so serious gif on hand

 

[Rocket Scientist]

How to initiate conversation when you have literally nothing to use as an opener.

The advice you should be asking for is: how do I spot something which could be used as an opener? There is always something in your environment that you can use. Even if you're in the most boring and lifeless place ever, the fact that it's so boring and lifeless is in itself and opener. Listing some of the ways I've started conversation would probably have you rolling in laughter at how lame they can sound, but somehow, lame works as long as it fits the context. You won't always have something 'meaningful' or 'intelligent' to say when you want to try to strike up a conversation, and it's not necessary. The best advice really is to say the first thing that comes up in your mind. That method consistently gets results. If you over think and start analyzing a situation, yea you can come up with something 'good', but you can also lose an opportunity to say something spontaneous.

 

[lunarworks]

OP makes me depressed :/

 

[jon bones]

OP makes me depressed :/

why's that?

i wish i had a had a why so serious gif on hand

nah i have a propensity to hate on "character" accounts

 

[Max@GC]

"I don´t know where this behaviour comes from but I view people as fake personalities who behave completely different to every person so I always want to be myself. To give you an example I would hate it not to talk shit at moms thanksgiving dinner. And if I hate it how I behave I feel like I behave fake. So I talk shit at moms thanksgiving dinner to be myself...if that makes any sense."

What do you think about that behaviour gaf?

 

[BronzeWolf]

I will give the proposed post a run and I'll send the draft to the OP! Glad I am done with school already

 

[Mr.Squirrel]

Another thing that I noticed came up a fair bit in the other thread, and that I could certainly stand to re-read, if anyone wants to spout some advice:
How to initiate conversation when you have literally nothing to use as an opener.

Lately I've been using "Hey I thought you was kinda fly and I wanted to introduce myself" Real basic, doesn't come off as pushy or anything, and can lead into any type of convo you want it to.

Then I get their name, start talking, and try to ascertain they're feelings on ass to mouth.

 

[The Shadow]

Yeah, problem is in my experience I get a response but no reciprocation. Opening casual conversation usually seems to get back reflexive "mhm"s and "yeahs"

It's going to happen. Not everyone is going to be open to conversation and sometimes they just want to be left alone.

There's no magic bullet (LOL!) that's going to make anyone instantly want to talk to you. If they have the time to chat, they will. If not, so be it.

Where have you tried?

 

[Veelk]

This may not be entirely on topic, but it mainly happens when I'm trying to court a girl, so here it goes: I have trouble keeping a conversation going. I was planning on asking this girl out for coffee (but now I think an activity date might be better), but...well, how the hell do you keep a conversation going? Any conversation I try and start just fizzles out after a few sentences. How do you guys do it?

 

[Mr.Squirrel]

Yeah, problem is in my experience I get a response but no reciprocation. Opening casual conversation usually seems to get back reflexive "mhm"s and "yeahs"

You have to learn how to get people to open up to you. It takes practice, so start with trying to get the person at McDonalds, book store, starbucks, etc to have a convo with you. Practice on people you aren't intimidated by and hone your skills that way.

 

[WyndhamPrice]

My title got used, nice.

Not much to report from my current relationship, a little over two weeks in now and it's going great. We both work a lot so we have to find time to hang out when we can but we click on so many things as well as have distinctly different interests so it's never been boring.

Haven't slept together yet (I mean we have just not in the sexy way), I'm sure it will happen but I'm not being pushy about it.

 

[Mr.Squirrel]

This may not be entirely on topic, but it mainly happens when I'm trying to court a girl, so here it goes: I have trouble keeping a conversation going. I was planning on asking this girl out for coffee (but now I think an activity date might be better), but...well, how the hell do you keep a conversation going? Any conversation I try and start just fizzles out after a few sentences. How do you guys do it?

Are you comfortable having a conversation with men/women you're not attractive to? The best advice I can give is to practice talking to everyone you meet. From the cashier to your co-worker, to the dude at gamestop buying Black Ops. You'll get used to having a conversation about anything, and you'll be able to talk for hours w/o thinking about it.

Being social is skill. You have to sharpen that skill at all times. Practice makes perfect.

 

[siddx]

Another thing that I noticed came up a fair bit in the other thread, and that I could certainly stand to re-read, if anyone wants to spout some advice:
How to initiate conversation when you have literally nothing to use as an opener.

"Hi I'm Siddx, whats your name?"

Other nonsense that has worked.

At bar;
me: I am so damn thirsty, are you thirsty?
her: I am very thirsty
me: You are? What do you want to drink?
her: cran and vodka
me: You're paying right?
her: haha yeah right
me: Whats that? You're paying for the entire bar?
her: what noooo, shut up!
me: Thats amazing, you are so generous, I'll let everyone know!"

So lame, yet it worked.


Just adjust your lines to your surroundings. Nobody at a bar is expecting you to make a beautiful speech about your love of water color paintings.


What NOT to do

I was in a bar last week and some dude comes in with his dog and spends the next hour trying to use his dog to hit on every single woman in the bar. After getting rejected by all of them for being so fucking transparent and obvious, he starts standing next to the entrance and hitting on women the moment they walk inside the bar. I thought I was going to have to pry him off my sister when she came to get me. So pathetic. No matter how cute your dog is, if you come across as dumb and overeager, you are getting ignored.

Please don't be "grind up on everyone dude" at the club. The guy who just wanders from girl to girl trying to grind on them all night, getting rejected over and over.
When I went to see Ludacris and J.Cole, my sister and her two friends tagged along. So of course I spent half the night playing bodyguard to my sister. Some douche starts grinding on her, my sister being the grown up she is handles it and tells him to get lost. 2 minutes later he tries again, she tells him more aggressively to fuck off. 2 minutes later...he's at it again. This time I step in and shove the guy off and square off. He puts his hands up and cowers away. I can guarente no girls who saw that go down give him the time of day for the rest of the night.

Which leads me to, never start a fight, always finish a fight. No matter what a girl tells you about "guys being soooo dumb always fighting and stuff its so immature"... if you are made to look like a bitch by another man, her pussy is forever off limits to you. Nothing turns a girl off more than seeing you get emasculated by another man.

Dont flirt with the bartender. She isn't going to fuck you and she is flirting with you because she knows you are going to tip her good money to continue flirting with you.

Don't buy her friend's drinks. If you buy her friends and her a round of drinks right off the bat, you are no longer the dude they might go home with (except the ugly/fat one, she probably will) you are the guy who is paying for them to get drunk all night and take some other dude home.

 

[The Shadow]

This may not be entirely on topic, but it mainly happens when I'm trying to court a girl, so here it goes: I have trouble keeping a conversation going. I was planning on asking this girl out for coffee (but now I think an activity date might be better), but...well, how the hell do you keep a conversation going? Any conversation I try and start just fizzles out after a few sentences. How do you guys do it?

I think this is something you just get better at with practice, and not something you can read about and just do.

If you get a blank silence, it doesn't hurt to start something else with, "You know, this reminds me of..." and just start talking about something else. I've done that a few times and one girl even asked me how that related. I told her straight up that it didn't and just wanted to talk about something else. Do something like that with a smile, obviously.

Different subjects don't have to have some kind of link between them. Just start talking about the weather, or how much you love the season (if you do).

 

[-PXG-]

Fuck yes! This is a different girl:

Every time we talk, we hit it off. Very good chemistry. I asked her if she wanted to do something this weekend. She didn't want to do the tired dinner and movie shtick. I suggested that she come over my place instead. So, I'm going to cook her some lunch at my house, then we're gonna chill and watch a movie or play some games afterwards. I told her she could stay as long as she wanted. She didn't object to that at all. She sounds really excited.

Damn I feel good.

 

[Deadly Cyclone]

And then there is the 'break them down and build them' up method where you take away all their confidence and self worth and build it back up yourself so that every positive thing she feels about herself is due to you and your compliments. It's a supremely douchey way to treat anyone but if you ever wanted complete adoration and a woman who will do anything for you....

Thought of this.

 

[Veelk]

Are you comfortable having a conversation with men/women you're not attractive to? The best advice I can give is to practice talking to everyone you meet. From the cashier to your co-worker, to the dude at gamestop buying Black Ops. You'll get used to having a conversation about anything, and you'll be able to talk for hours w/o thinking about it.

Well, it takes time. I can go up to a stranger and do that, but the conversation doesn't last long, it just fizzles out. However, once I get to know him/her a bit, it flows more naturally. And I'm not talking about attractive girls or even regular friends. I frequent a gamestop, and I was basically in and out the whole time. Eventually, I became a regular, and the people there started trying to have a conversation with me, which I held for a few seconds, then I had to go, even when I didn't, because I had nothing to say to these people. After another 10 visits or so, I could stick around however long and talk about anything, like you said. But that shit takes time for me, and it's back to square 1 if I don't know the person.

 

[lunarworks]

why's that?

All the stuff I've done wrong / haven't done / gotten myself into.

 

[Mike Works]

How about some bullet points for ending a relationship?

I prefer to use a knife, but I suppose bullet points could work as well.

 

[-PXG-]

WHERE'S THE ACHIEVEMENTS!!!!!!!!!!

Tada!

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=24639939&postcount=19934

 

[The Shadow]

Well, it takes time. I can go up to a stranger and do that, but the conversation doesn't last long, it just fizzles out. However, once I get to know him/her a bit, it flows more naturally. And I'm not talking about attractive girls or even regular friends. I frequent a gamestop, and I was basically in and out the whole time. Eventually, I became a regular, and the people there started trying to have a conversation with me, which I held for a few seconds, then I had to go, even when I didn't, because I had nothing to say to these people. After another 10 visits or so, I could stick around however long and talk about anything, like you said. But that shit takes time for me, and it's back to square 1 if I don't know the person.

Sounds more like general social anxiety.

To get better at it, it's something you're going to have to do more often, as uncomfortable and uneasy as that idea may seem.

 

[Veelk]

Sounds more like general social anxiety.

To get better at it, it's something you're going to have to do more often, as uncomfortable and uneasy as that idea may seem.

Which kind of sucks because I really want to score with this girl. She's very hot. Can you just give me all the pointers you can?

 

[Deadly Cyclone]

Alright GAF, so here is my deal. I have no issues talking to women and no issues getting too nervous or anything, my overall problem is not being anywhere to meet anyone and not knowing how to just randomly approach someone without feeling like a creep for walking up to some girl at a coffee shop while she is studying.

My best friend in the college town I live in is engaged and does not like the bar scene much, my two other friends that are still around since we all finished college (I am 24) like to go to this dive bar instead of the strip of main bars we have here. That means either I hit the main bars on my own or see what I can find with them.

I laugh because I live in a college town and know there are a ton of women here, but yet I cannot seem to find them. At the main bars usually almost every girl is in a group with guys, so it really is difficult just to walk up and say hello.

Suggestions?

 

[Jamesfrom818]

Fuck yes! This is a different girl:

Every time we talk, we hit it off. Very good chemistry. I asked her if she wanted to do something this weekend. She didn't want to do the tired dinner and movie shtick. I suggested that she come over my place instead. So, I'm going to cook her some lunch at my house, then we're gonna chill and watch a movie or play some games afterwards. I told her she could stay as long as she wanted. She didn't object to that at all. She sounds really excited.

Damn I feel good.

If she brings a lot of ice, keep an eye on your kidneys.

Alright GAF, so here is my deal. I have no issues talking to women and no issues getting too nervous or anything, my overall problem is not being anywhere to meet anyone and not knowing how to just randomly approach someone without feeling like a creep for walking up to some girl at a coffee shop while she is studying.

My best friend in the college town I live in is engaged and does not like the bar scene much, my two other friends that are still around since we all finished college (I am 24) like to go to this dive bar instead of the strip of main bars we have here. That means either I hit the main bars on my own or see what I can find with them.

I laugh because I live in a college town and know there are a ton of women here, but yet I cannot seem to find them. At the main bars usually almost every girl is in a group with guys, so it really is difficult just to walk up and say hello.

Suggestions?

Yoga.

 

[Alucrid]

I was in a bar last week and some dude comes in with his dog and spends the next hour trying to use his dog to hit on every single woman in the bar. After getting rejected by all of them for being so fucking transparent and obvious, he starts standing next to the entrance and hitting on women the moment they walk inside the bar. I thought I was going to have to pry him off my sister when she came to get me. So pathetic. No matter how cute your dog is, if you come across as dumb and overeager, you are getting ignored.

Who the fuck brings a dog to a bar? What bar allows a dog in the bar? What crazy world do you live in? Well...maybe not that crazy considering what else you've posted...but still. What kind of dog was it anyways?

 

[-PXG-]

If she brings a lot of ice, keep an eye on your kidneys.

:lol

I think this girl's a freak too (in a good way). I'm not expecting to get my dick wet nor am I going to try. I don't want to scare her off. She's really cool. I just want to take things slow and have a nice afternoon with this girl. But I'll be sure not to get friendzoned. I'm pretty confident she knows what my intentions are. She's extremely receptive to everything I say. Like I said, we clicked really fast.

Sucks that it's only Tuesday

 

[Deadly Cyclone]

Yoga.

Hmm, not sure we have Yoga anywhere here. I had been doing a biking class at the gym, for a while. The gym is a hard place to pick people up to as everyone has earbuds in. :lol

 

[Mr.Squirrel]

Well, it takes time. I can go up to a stranger and do that, but the conversation doesn't last long, it just fizzles out. However, once I get to know him/her a bit, it flows more naturally. And I'm not talking about attractive girls or even regular friends. I frequent a gamestop, and I was basically in and out the whole time. Eventually, I became a regular, and the people there started trying to have a conversation with me, which I held for a few seconds, then I had to go, even when I didn't, because I had nothing to say to these people. After another 10 visits or so, I could stick around however long and talk about anything, like you said. But that shit takes time for me, and it's back to square 1 if I don't know the person.

Go out of your way to start initiating conversations with people. You have to get out of your comfort zone if you want to become the type of person you want to ultimately be. From now on, make sure you speak to everyone you meet. You have to practice speaking so that when you see someone you actually WANT to talk to, it'll be natural and easy for you to have that conversation and keep it going.

 

[siddx]

Who the fuck brings a dog to a bar? What bar allows a dog in the bar? What crazy world do you live in? Well...maybe not that crazy considering what else you've posted...but still. What kind of dog was it anyways?

lol It was some weird hipster bar in Portland Maine. It was the closest place to my sister apartment that served booze so I said fuckit.
I have no idea what kind of dog it was, looked like a lab mix, but the owner kept talking about his hair getting all over girl's chests and how they should be thankful they aren't wearing black.

 

[Jamesfrom818]

Hmm, not sure we have Yoga anywhere here. I had been doing a biking class at the gym, for a while. The gym is a hard place to pick people up to as everyone has earbuds in. :lol

I've never done yoga but I imagine that you can't wear earbuds because you actually have to hear what the instructor is saying.

 

[Mr.Squirrel]

Alright GAF, so here is my deal. I have no issues talking to women and no issues getting too nervous or anything, my overall problem is not being anywhere to meet anyone and not knowing how to just randomly approach someone without feeling like a creep for walking up to some girl at a coffee shop while she is studying.

My best friend in the college town I live in is engaged and does not like the bar scene much, my two other friends that are still around since we all finished college (I am 24) like to go to this dive bar instead of the strip of main bars we have here. That means either I hit the main bars on my own or see what I can find with them.

I laugh because I live in a college town and know there are a ton of women here, but yet I cannot seem to find them. At the main bars usually almost every girl is in a group with guys, so it really is difficult just to walk up and say hello.

Suggestions?

Learn to go out by yourself. I do it all the time. Yes you feel awkward at first, but fuck it. Being able to go solo brings a whole new level of freedom.

If you see a group of chicks surrounded by dudes, introduce yourself to the guy, and work your way into the girls. Just be friendly, and introduce yourself to everyone there. 1) you can meet new male friends (potential wingmen) and 2) you can meet new chicks, win/win!

I went to a bar a few weeks back and this cute chick was having a bday party (surrounded by a bunch of men and women). I walked up to the group, and just started chit chatting. Everyone assumed I knew the bday girl, and even asked me to sign the bday card for her :lol.

Ultimately you have to be bold. BOLD BOLD BOLD

 

[dvolovets]

OK, since I am getting some contradictory advice in this thread, I decided to go with something in between. I'm going to text her something like "Hey *insert name*, it was great to see you yesterday. *insert reference to yesterday*, I'd like to take you out for dinner. How about *insert place here* at *insert time here*?".

Fairly direct and not "heavy", I don't think...

 

[Enco]

I know i said I'm off but.. PXG, the last bit of the op is duplicated.

Do you think it would be easier if people send specific updates to me and I fit them into the op for you to then put in?

 

[Deadly Cyclone]

Learn to go out by yourself. I do it all the time. Yes you feel awkward at first, but fuck it. Being able to go solo brings a whole new level of freedom.

If you see a group of chicks surrounded by dudes, introduce yourself to the guy, and work your way into the girls. Just be friendly, and introduce yourself to everyone there. 1) you can meet new male friends (potential wingmen) and 2) you can meet new chicks, win/win!

I went to a bar a few weeks back and this cute chick was having a bday party (surrounded by a bunch of men and women). I walked up to the group, and just started chit chatting. Everyone assumed I knew the bday girl, and even asked me to sign the bday card for her :lol.

Ultimately you have to be bold. BOLD BOLD BOLD

Your advice reminds me of the most interesting man in the world commercials.

 

[Alucrid]

lol It was some weird hipster bar in Portland Maine. It was the closest place to my sister apartment that served booze so I said fuckit.
I have no idea what kind of dog it was, looked like a lab mix, but the owner kept talking about his hair getting all over girl's chests and how they should be thankful they aren't wearing black.

Ah, hipsters. They even have their own bars now.

Learn to go out by yourself. I do it all the time. Yes you feel awkward at first, but fuck it. Being able to go solo brings a whole new level of freedom.

If you see a group of chicks surrounded by dudes, introduce yourself to the guy, and work your way into the girls. Just be friendly, and introduce yourself to everyone there. 1) you can meet new male friends (potential wingmen) and 2) you can meet new chicks, win/win!

I went to a bar a few weeks back and this cute chick was having a bday party (surrounded by a bunch of men and women). I walked up to the group, and just started chit chatting. Everyone assumed I knew the bday girl, and even asked me to sign the bday card for her :lol.

Ultimately you have to be bold. BOLD BOLD BOLD

When you drink, is it Dos Equis?

Spoiler

Did you actually sign it? If not, you should have. :lol

 

[Mr.Squirrel]

Your advice reminds me of the most interesting man in the world commercials.

Man that dude is the greatest man to ever live. He might even be more awesome than chuck norris and the old spice guy.

Ah, hipsters. They even have their own bars now.



When you drink, is it Dos Equis?

Spoiler

Did you actually sign it? If not, you should have. :lol

:lol hell yeah I signed it. That whole night was a blast though, even got someone to buy me a beer too.

 

[-PXG-]

I know i said I'm off but.. PXG, the last bit of the op is duplicated.

Do you think it would be easier if people send specific updates to me and I fit them into the op for you to then put in?

Yeah. Do that.

 

[BronzeWolf]

I love XX ambar! best beer ever!

 

[GeneralIroh]

First off let me explain myself. I'm a 25 year old social retard who has never dated anyone since highschool. Back in high school, I used to be that chubby anti-social geek who wore the same thick jacket all the time because I was extremely insecure. Gynecomastia aka man boobs continue to be the bane of my existence but I've managed to tone up a bit by committing myself to the gym. I think I look pretty decent now. In fact I'm in the best shape of my life and have some sliver of confidence but I'm still extremely nervous around people. I have been putting myself out there more but lately I've encountered a lot of flakes. While I can get some digits I can never get the girl to go out with me D:

The closest I ever gotten was when I got mixed up in a triangle that involved a close friend and this one chick who he was supposed to go out with. That girl was interested in me and we hung out a couple of times but I sabotaged my chances of progress whenever she wanted to go out with me. It was my guilt of getting in the way of my close friend that prevented me from being assertive. For some dumb reason I always brought my friend along when ever she wanted to hangout with me because I felt uncomfortable without a group to interact with. The other reason was because I was 18 and she was 16 lol. I had some regrets but overall I'm able to look back and milk some confidence because I know that I was at one time attractive to someone else.

Now to the issue...
Yesterday I scored a digit from a cute cashier in this one chinese take-out restaurant I sometimes go to after class. I've actually talked to her a couple of times but this time was different. After finishing my meal I came up to her asked her "Do you want to get coffee sometime?". Surprisingly she said said sure and gave me her #. Unfortunately I forgot to ask her when she as free.

So help me out gaf, I'm not sure how I should proceed smoothly. I haven't had any casual phone conversations and I'm not sure when to call her to get that coffee.

 

[Entropia]

Now to the issue...
Yesterday I scored a digit from a cute cashier in this one chinese take-out restaurant I sometimes go to after class. I've actually talked to her a couple of times but this time was different. After finishing my meal I came up to her asked her "Do you want to get coffee sometime?". Surprisingly she said said sure and gave me her #. Unfortunately I forgot to ask her when she as free.

So help me out gaf, I'm not sure how I should proceed smoothly. I haven't had any casual phone conversations and I'm not sure when to call her to get that coffee.

Call her Wednesday or Thursday evening and make plans for coffee on Friday or Saturday. The sooner, the better in case she makes plans for the weekend before you call her.

 

[GeneralIroh]

Call her Wednesday or Thursday evening and make plans for coffee on Friday or Saturday. The sooner, the better in case she makes plans for the weekend before you call her.

Gotcha. When I call her how should I remind her that I'm that guy who asked her out. I've always felt awkward when I call a girl I just met. The previous attempts with different girls have been pretty unsuccessful.

 

[Urban Scholar]

It's very admirable how the thread title is giving props to Combine. Not sure it this will help much but, flirting as much as you can with random women at work helps me, my friends & colleagues often. I know this is common knowledge but it doesn't hurt to remind some. I'm sure this has been hammered often but never be scared to go for it, 5 minute conversation will lead to an exchange of numbers & a fun weekend thereafter.

 

[twilitesparklemotion]

It's very admirable how the thread title is giving props to Combine. Not sure it this will help much but, flirting as much as you can with random women at work helps me, my friends & colleagues often. I know this is common knowledge but it doesn't hurt to remind some. I'm sure this has been hammered often but never be scared to go for it, 5 minute conversation will lead to an exchange of numbers & a fun weekend thereafter.

One of the best pieces of advice in these threads/ever is to just stop worrying about it so much. Worrying about it has never gotten me anywhere; things only happen when I stop giving a shit. That's when I start running into the right people and start doing the right things.