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Girl/Dating Age Part 2: A combined effort to give advice for those in need

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Miguel

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Yeah, call (wake) up a friend, go for some drinks w/ friends tomorrow. Work out, don't mope around, it doesn't help anything, and just shoves you down further into a hole that gets harder and harder to get out of.

While I'm (as well as everyone here) is more than happy to listen to anything you want to get off your chest, I don't think there's a replacement for actual in person interaction with someone in this situation.

Sorry buddy.
 
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soultron

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BobFromPikeCreek said:
Just got dumped. Super serious, long term relationship. CHEER ME UP I HATE EVERYTHING.
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I've always liked you ever since I was a lurker. Hopefully that cheers you up a touch.

The great thing about life, if you'll allow me to be cliche, is that it goes on. Give yourself some time to heal, hang with friends, and eventually you'll meet someone better. Don't mope alone though. The busier you are, the less time you'll have to dwell.
 
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hipgnosis

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BobFromPikeCreek said:
Just got dumped. Super serious, long term relationship. CHEER ME UP I HATE EVERYTHING.
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Go out with your buddies, grab some drinks and try to have fun. Flirt with new girls and get a first taste how it is to be single again. The whole world is open now. I ended a long relationship at the end of summer too and shit wasn't easy. Rebounded almost immediately and now I'm dating new girls and enjoying life. I'm happier than I've been in years. It takes time though. Take some time for yourself too and mourn.
 
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Bucket-o-roadkill

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Why do I bother with dating sites or going out looking for potential gfs? Can't get over ex, compare every girl to ex, dumb thing to do because in my ridiculous mind this girl who chose to remove me from her life is perfect. 55 weeks and counting of being miserable and feeling hopeless. can't wait for another depressing Christmas. /vent
 
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Minamu

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Received yet another text message from that girl I mentioned last week. Feels pretty good to get woken up by the sound of your phone bleeping :) We've been talking and flirting quite a bit recently and we're probably gonna meet up tonight. Let's hope it doesn't turn out the same as last time...
 
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BobFromPikeCreek

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Thanks guys. I'll get over it. It's just UGH.

Bucket-o-roadkill said:
Why do I bother with dating sites or going out looking for potential gfs? Can't get over ex, compare every girl to ex, dumb thing to do because in my ridiculous mind this girl who chose to remove me from her life is perfect. 55 weeks and counting of being miserable and feeling hopeless. can't wait for another depressing Christmas. /vent
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Well this is encouraging.
 
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daviyoung

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Bucket-o-roadkill said:
Why do I bother with dating sites or going out looking for potential gfs? Can't get over ex, compare every girl to ex, dumb thing to do because in my ridiculous mind this girl who chose to remove me from her life is perfect. 55 weeks and counting of being miserable and feeling hopeless. can't wait for another depressing Christmas. /vent
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I think you need to seek professional help.
 
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CherryWoodFuton

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Bahh I shouldn't have told my friend (who knows the girl I'm going on a date with) about our date. Now she's pissed off and wants me to cancel lol. What do Gaf what do????
 
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brucewaynegretzky

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CherryWoodFuton said:
Bahh I shouldn't have told my friend (who knows the girl I'm going on a date with) about our date. Now she's pissed off and wants me to cancel lol. What do Gaf what do????
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Wait what?! Why would a friend ever do that? I'd ask my friends not to date my ex, but a girl who we were both interested in? If she's interested in you than why wouldn't you?

EDIT: Missed the "she." Now I'm just confused. What's her problem? Go on the date.
 
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CherryWoodFuton

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hipgnosis said:
Why she's pissed?
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Well i think a couple of posts back i posted that my friend thinks that she's not a good fit for me, she's flaky/fucked over guys before. I told her that its not that serious but she thinks that I might get too attached to her which while I do admit I've had problems with that before its just one freaking date
 
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Dilly

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Ah fuck it, if I'm in a decent position I'm just going to go for it.

Fourth date tonight, nothing happened yet (both pretty noobish in this stuff) but every night we go out we have a great time, a lot of laughs and it's always late. She was also very keen on seeing me again today so yeah.
 
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Schlep

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CherryWoodFuton said:
Bahh I shouldn't have told my friend (who knows the girl I'm going on a date with) about our date. Now she's pissed off and wants me to cancel lol. What do Gaf what do????
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I would say it's just a date, and she (your friend) is already falling behind in that race. I'm kind of an asshole, though.
 
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Miguel

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CherryWoodFuton said:
Well i think a couple of posts back i posted that my friend thinks that she's not a good fit for me, she's flaky/fucked over guys before. I told her that its not that serious but she thinks that I might get too attached to her which while I do admit I've had problems with that before its just one freaking date
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Yeah, go on the date. Your friend's reasons seem kinda hollow, and it's just a date. You can find out if someone a good match on your own, can't always rely on 3rd party info.

If you want to piss off your friend if she tries to steer you towards canceling again, tell her "I'll be fine, mom"
 
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Dilly

Banned
Dilly said:
Ah fuck it, if I'm in a decent position I'm just going to go for it.

Fourth date tonight, nothing happened yet (both pretty noobish in this stuff) but every night we go out we have a great time, a lot of laughs and it's always late. She was also very keen on seeing me again today so yeah.
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Goddamnit, next week is my last chance since she has to focus on studying after next week.

I just don't know how to go for that kiss, touched her hands a few times and fiddled around with a bracelet she was wearing but that last step is just so hard to make.
 
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Miguel

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Dilly said:
Goddamnit, next week is my last chance since she has to focus on studying after next week.

I just don't know how to go for that kiss, touched her hands a few times and fiddled around with a bracelet she was wearing but that last step is just so hard to make.
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4th date, I'm pretty sure she's expecting it right now, no transition needed. Just go for it. Do it early in the next date, and get it out of the way.
 
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Kad5

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Ok two girls are about to come into my room to show me porn again.


I wanna make a move on these two girls.

WHAT DO?
 
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Kad5

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reilo said:
Put your P into their V. Maybe into their A and then their M.
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How the hell do I transition from watching porn on my laptop from my bed to making out with them to possibly hooking up with them?

There is a potential for a 3 way here boys and if you could help it'd be awesome.
 
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Furio53

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Kad5 said:
I have no alcohol dammit...
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make remarks about the porn. Like, "that looks like it'd be fun to try"
or just get turned on and let them figure it out. If they get turned on by the porn, then there's a very good chance they'll want to play around a little bit. Escalate it from there.

edit- just keep in mind you have absolutely NOTHING to lose. Make dumb comments, innuendos, or just straight up ask (tell) them to lay down next to you on either side. Then as the porn goes on, get a little touchy
 
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Jazzy Network

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Need help guys. I really like a girl in my job and we've been hanging out for about 3 weeks or so. We go to the gym and gone out to drinks. I've gone to the gym with her twice with just the two of use and once went drinking socially with other co workers and friends. I'm up to the point where I really think I should ask her to dinner or something. Problem is I have to ask her quick or I think she could be snatched up by someone else.

I'm mostly fearing her saying no and then having to have to work with her everyday afterwards. How awkward would that be. I dunno. She's a really nice person and seems to really enjoy my company, but I'm not good at reading girls at all. Any advice? I'll include more specifics if you want me to.
 
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Quick

Banned
I might meet up with my co-worker tomorrow afternoon. I told her I might go skating, hoping I could indulge her as well.

Not really looking for advice, just some luck? She's already established that she doesn't date co-workers, so anything further than being friends is out of the picture, but I can maybe wish.

She also had a negative experience recently when another co-worker of mine went to an event with her and he ended up ditching her in the middle of downtown alone at one in the morning.
 
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Kad5

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ok the girls left my room. I said things along the lines of, "I bet you guys havent done crazy shit like that." And I commented on how the girls in the porn knew how to fuck and shit.

They want to hang out in an hour or so because my friend is coming back with alcohol and one of the girls im trying to hook up with wants to get drunk so....

yeah......


The girl is supposedly mad at me because I came at her life. She's clearly not serious because she wants to hang out later.

I tried tickling her too and she just laughed and fell off the bed.


I think I can do something here but I have no idea what.

Am I supposed to just look at her and be like "wanna make out?" or something?
 
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la flama blanca

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Kad5 said:
ok the girls left my room. I said things along the lines of, "I bet you guys havent done crazy shit like that." And I commented on how the girls in the porn knew how to fuck and shit.

They want to hang out in an hour or so because my friend is coming back with alcohol and one of the girls im trying to hook up with wants to get drunk so....

yeah......


The girl is supposedly mad at me because I came at her life. She's clearly not serious because she wants to hang out later.

I tried tickling her too and she just laughed and fell off the bed.


I think I can do something here but I have no idea what.

Am I supposed to just look at her and be like "wanna make out?" or something?
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try to get alone with her and be very playful about it, make her feel totally comfortable. You can bet that once you've made it kind of obvious that you want to do something without being literal about it, she will know the deal and either stay away from you or come in closer. Don't just go right out and kiss her unless it obvious to her what she wants to do and has felt like she isn't being pressured.
 
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Miguel

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Well, we made last minute plans to go out tonight as well but a family emergency popped up so we're back on for just tomorrow... spent the night chatting, and probably will some more later. Usually at this point I'd be in serious "ok what is going to go wrong?" mode, but the thought hasn't even crept up into my head. Every convo before and after the date has gone swimmingly, and we've got a fun day planned tomorrow, so I'm pretty excited. She asked if I liked pina coladas... I (had to) responded with "and getting caught in the rain?" and that pretty much won me a ton of points lol. But then she goes "no seriously, they have some good ones where we're going" A little alcohol should be fun after a day of hanging out together.
 
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Sanky Panky

Banned
Kad5 said:
ok the girls left my room. I said things along the lines of, "I bet you guys havent done crazy shit like that." And I commented on how the girls in the porn knew how to fuck and shit.

Am I supposed to just look at her and be like "wanna make out?" or something?
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Sure, why not. You might want to wait until she's drunk for that noob question though. If you are in bed watching porn, it's not too hard to physically tease her in a playful way (no fall-off-the-bed tickling) and leave your hands on her/arms around her. She'll get the point that shit's bout to go down.

Why do these girls want to watch porn with you again? How did it start?
 
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Kad5

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Sanky Panky said:
Sure, why not. You might want to wait until she's drunk for that noob question though. If you are in bed watching porn, it's not too hard to physically tease her in a playful way (no fall-off-the-bed tickling) and leave your hands on her/arms around her. She'll get the point that shit's bout to go down.

Why do these girls want to watch porn with you again? How did it start?
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I was talking to one of them on Facebook and they asked me if I wanted to watch porn with them. Apparently they like watching porn. The weird thing though is that when they came to my room they asked if they could watch porn in the common area of my dorm floor.

I explained they couldn't obviously so they went into my room as planned.
 
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NihonTiger90

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Well, Internet dating has hit a brick wall, it seems. I actually had something odd happen today: a girl I messaged hanged her profile because of something I brought up in my message and gave me a thank you in her profile for reminding her about it. But sadly, not even that got a message back to me in any shape. It sucks; had the best profile I've run across so far, unquestioned.

I'm really feeling like I'm doing something wrong. Everyone I have messaged has actually looked at my profile but not one has responded, which leads me to believe there is still something off about my profile. Or maybe it's just the looks thing (I'm not the best looking fellow out there) rearing its ugly head again. I don't want to just give up, but since the local scene is beyond dead here unless you're into "curvy" single mothers ... but man, this seems like it's just me spinning my wheels and going nowhere.
 
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Kinitari

Black Canada Mafia
Okay, I have to share this story.

So tonight, I had a date. It was probably the best date of my life. This girl was amazing, the chemistry - immediately - was outstanding. She was funny, witty, and substantially prettier than her already very flattering OKC pictures.

At the bar where we had the date, my MONDAY date walks in and sees me, it wasn't really awkward or anything - she sees me, looks surprised, smiles and waves - I wave back, and that was that - so now I'm curious as to what's happening monday!

Anyway, after the bar I take her to a friends place nearby, tons of chemistry, my friends thought she was awesome and I, to be honest, was showing her off a bit. But we were digging each other, and eventually we leave together - so we're walking down the street and I turn to her and I say:

Me: Hey, can I ask you a question?

And she turns to me, pulls her hair over her ear, smiles and says

her: Hmmm... sure!

So I walk into her, and kiss her. Fucking amazing kisser, absolutely amazing. We kissed up and down that street. We kissed when we said goodbye - and she's still texting me right now. AMAZING date, I don't even know if I should still GO on monday's date.

One of the best nights of my life GAF.
 
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luckyboyceo

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Ok GAF, I'm trying not to get too excited here but I may have hit a potential jackpot.

Just got word that a friend of mine, who also happens to be the single most gorgeous girl I personally know, recently broke up with her boyfriend of 5 years. He cheated on her and apparently she's now out for revenge. She's in town for winter break and invited me to a party she's having next week, but she's been blowing up my phone this week talking about how we need to hang out "just me and her" before then. We're going to get dinner this weekend.

We've always been extremely flirtatious towards each other and I've always had a hunch she's been into me, despite being in a relationship already. Now that she's single (albeit, newly), I'm pretty sure she's looking towards me as a potential rebound and I'm going to do everything I can to make sure that happens.

I will keep you all posted.
 
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Miguel

Member
luckyboyceo said:
Ok GAF, I'm trying not to get too excited here but I may have hit a potential jackpot.

Just got word that a friend of mine, who also happens to be the single most gorgeous girl I personally know, recently broke up with her boyfriend of 5 years. He cheated on her and apparently she's now out for revenge. She's in town for winter break and invited me to a party she's having next week, but she's been blowing up my phone this week talking about how we need to hang out "just me and her" before then. We're going to get dinner this weekend.

We've always been extremely flirtatious towards each other and I've always had a hunch she's been into me, despite being in a relationship already. Now that she's single (albeit, newly), I'm pretty sure she's looking towards me as a potential rebound and I'm going to do everything I can to make sure that happens.

I will keep you all posted.
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Hit that shit, for great justice.
 
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NihonTiger90

Member
luckyboyceo said:
Ok GAF, I'm trying not to get too excited here but I may have hit a potential jackpot.

Just got word that a friend of mine, who also happens to be the single most gorgeous girl I personally know, recently broke up with her boyfriend of 5 years. He cheated on her and apparently she's now out for revenge. She's in town for winter break and invited me to a party she's having next week, but she's been blowing up my phone this week talking about how we need to hang out "just me and her" before then. We're going to get dinner this weekend.

We've always been extremely flirtatious towards each other and I've always had a hunch she's been into me, despite being in a relationship already. Now that she's single (albeit, newly), I'm pretty sure she's looking towards me as a potential rebound and I'm going to do everything I can to make sure that happens.

I will keep you all posted.
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Kinitari said:
Okay, I have to share this story.

So tonight, I had a date. It was probably the best date of my life. This girl was amazing, the chemistry - immediately - was outstanding. She was funny, witty, and substantially prettier than her already very flattering OKC pictures.

At the bar where we had the date, my MONDAY date walks in and sees me, it wasn't really awkward or anything - she sees me, looks surprised, smiles and waves - I wave back, and that was that - so now I'm curious as to what's happening monday!

Anyway, after the bar I take her to a friends place nearby, tons of chemistry, my friends thought she was awesome and I, to be honest, was showing her off a bit. But we were digging each other, and eventually we leave together - so we're walking down the street and I turn to her and I say:

Me: Hey, can I ask you a question?

And she turns to me, pulls her hair over her ear, smiles and says

her: Hmmm... sure!

So I walk into her, and kiss her. Fucking amazing kisser, absolutely amazing. We kissed up and down that street. We kissed when we said goodbye - and she's still texting me right now. AMAZING date, I don't even know if I should still GO on monday's date.

One of the best nights of my life GAF.
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Good luck to both of you. May you have not bad luck like me, lol.
 
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SRG01

Member
Kinitari said:
Okay, I have to share this story.

So tonight, I had a date. It was probably the best date of my life. This girl was amazing, the chemistry - immediately - was outstanding. She was funny, witty, and substantially prettier than her already very flattering OKC pictures.

At the bar where we had the date, my MONDAY date walks in and sees me, it wasn't really awkward or anything - she sees me, looks surprised, smiles and waves - I wave back, and that was that - so now I'm curious as to what's happening monday!

Anyway, after the bar I take her to a friends place nearby, tons of chemistry, my friends thought she was awesome and I, to be honest, was showing her off a bit. But we were digging each other, and eventually we leave together - so we're walking down the street and I turn to her and I say:

Me: Hey, can I ask you a question?

And she turns to me, pulls her hair over her ear, smiles and says

her: Hmmm... sure!

So I walk into her, and kiss her. Fucking amazing kisser, absolutely amazing. We kissed up and down that street. We kissed when we said goodbye - and she's still texting me right now. AMAZING date, I don't even know if I should still GO on monday's date.

One of the best nights of my life GAF.
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I'm stealing this.
 
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Idde

Member
Well GAF, it appears I'm engaged. Sort of. To my best friend. Yesterday she and I decided that if we're both still single and have no kids when she turns 36 (in 13 years) we'll get married. On our wedding night we'd get really drunk, and make babies together.

Once we're married we'd both be allowed to cheat with whomever we want. We'd just be living together and raising our kids. Really weird friends with benefits...Tell me GAF, what could possibly go wrong?
 
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BocoDragon

or, How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Realize This Assgrab is Delicious
Idde said:
Well GAF, it appears I'm engaged. Sort of. To my best friend. Yesterday she and I decided that if we're both still single and have no kids when she turns 36 (in 13 years) we'll get married. On our wedding night we'd get really drunk, and make babies together.

Once we're married we'd both be allowed to cheat with whomever we want. We'd just be living together and raising our kids. Really weird friends with benefits...Tell me GAF, what could possibly go wrong?
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You'll be single in 13 years. She won't.
 
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SRG01

Member
Idde said:
Well GAF, it appears I'm engaged. Sort of. To my best friend. Yesterday she and I decided that if we're both still single and have no kids when she turns 36 (in 13 years) we'll get married. On our wedding night we'd get really drunk, and make babies together.

Once we're married we'd both be allowed to cheat with whomever we want. We'd just be living together and raising our kids. Really weird friends with benefits...Tell me GAF, what could possibly go wrong?
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Why not just date her now?!

Where's the psyduck gif when you need it?
 
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Miguel

Member
SRG01 said:
Why not just date her now?!

Where's the psyduck gif when you need it?
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This will do...
 
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