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Girl/Dating Age Part 2: A combined effort to give advice for those in need

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Attackthebase

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Tkawsome said:
Funny you should mention me because I recently started seeing some opportunities. One of them in particular almost seems like a sure thing at this point. I'm trying to stay grounded and all, but I have a pretty good feeling about this one.
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Rooting for you to succeed with this girl. 2012 is your year with women, self-improvement, and overall happiness. Make Soultron and myself proud, and we shall guide you as best we can.

DoctorWho said:
I slept with a girl last night and she called me a slut today. Teh Fuck? I'm not a slut.
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That's a kick-ass compliment, dude. Embrace being a man whore.
 
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Napoleonthechimp

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I'll be 26 next month and I've never been on a date. I think it is because I'm legitimately crazy, but the self-loathing constant mild depression type of crazy.

I just wanted to share that.
 
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Bealost

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Napoleonthechimp said:
I'll be 26 next month and I've never been on a date. I think it is because I'm legitimately crazy, but the self-loathing constant mild depression type of crazy.

I just wanted to share that.
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I'm 28 and went on my first date two weeks ago, just finally met a woman I liked. Of course getting in shape over the last year helped my confidence tremendously, not to say I wasn't scared shitless when I called her. Watched a movie at her place last night, hoping to meet up with her tomorrow at some point.

I suggest working out to help with your depression/self loathing. I was in a kinda similar boat to you. Once you start realizing you are doing more to improve yourself then 90% of the population would dare your entire world view changes. The post workout endorphins don't exactly hurt either. If there's hope for me, there's hope for all of us,
 
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threenote

Banned
Same girl I've been talk about texted me at 2 am saying she was thinking about me...I was of course half asleep and told her she was adorable via text. She never texted me back. Dd I fuck up?
 
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Miguel

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Happy New Year's Dating-age. Hope next year treats you all well. Thanks for all the advice and I hope I've been able to provide some of you with some decent advice. Happy 2012 everyone.
 
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kid ness

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Tonight I went to a new years party hosted by some old high school friends at a club. It was great seeing everyone again, can't believe how long its been. This one girl came up to me and was really excited to see me. Told me that she thought I was cute in high school, and asked if I had anyone to kiss at midnight. I hadn't, so at the new year we kissed for a good few minutes.

We talked for a quick while after, then I didn't see her again for the rest of the night. She's a really cool girl and I'd love to see her again before school starts back up. I want to ask her out sometime soon, was thinking of just going like, "Hey, it was great seeing you last night, but I'd like to hear more about whats going on with you, etc. There's this small little deli/restaurant I've been meaning to go to for a while, want to tag along?" Any advice would be great GAF.

Hope you all had a great new years.
 
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JeTmAn81

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Napoleonthechimp said:
I'll be 26 next month and I've never been on a date. I think it is because I'm legitimately crazy, but the self-loathing constant mild depression type of crazy.

I just wanted to share that.
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I went on my first date at age 26. A few months in, I started dating the woman that I am happily married to 4 years later. Never give up.
 
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Miguel

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kid ness said:
Tonight I went to a new years party hosted by some old high school friends at a club. It was great seeing everyone again, can't believe how long its been. This one girl came up to me and was really excited to see me. Told me that she thought I was cute in high school, and asked if I had anyone to kiss at midnight. I hadn't, so at the new year we kissed for a good few minutes.

We talked for a quick while after, then I didn't see her again for the rest of the night. She's a really cool girl and I'd love to see her again before school starts back up. I want to ask her out sometime soon, was thinking of just going like, "Hey, it was great seeing you last night, but I'd like to hear more about whats going on with you, etc. There's this small little deli/restaurant I've been meaning to go to for a while, want to tag along?" Any advice would be great GAF.

Hope you all had a great new years.
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That sounds perfect, simple is good.

Leave out the "but" if you're going to go word for word with the above.
 
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Danj

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Napoleonthechimp said:
I'll be 26 next month and I've never been on a date. I think it is because I'm legitimately crazy, but the self-loathing constant mild depression type of crazy.

I just wanted to share that.
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I'll be 34 this year and I've never been on a date. But there is help out there. I'm currently seeing a therapist who is helping me work towards being able to go out and meet new people, and I also created myself an OKCupid profile which my therapist has been helping me improve, so there's definitely hope.

If nothing else, don't give up, because there are always people in worse situations than you.
 
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MTE

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2011 was the year of my first ever date. The first time I've asked a woman out, dating site and, more scarily, real life. (Which is to say, knew her in real life, asked out via email (Yeah, I know)). I'm 26.

I capped off the night last night with a wonderful date. Dinner and a movie (Yeah, movie isn't such a great date idea...) She seems to be into me. Implied we'd go out again, and we're still texting. (She's 3 hours away, currently) She's awesome, though physically not my type. I'm excited :)
Chatting to another girl and setting up a date soon. Feels weird, 2 on the go.

But yes, success! Looks like my first ever second date coming up soon.

2012 will be my first second date, first kiss, and first GF. Believe.
 
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hellclerk

Everything is tsundere to me
Well, I shut down my OKC account. After a year of that thing being unfruitful and depressing, I decided it wasn't worth the inbox spam. I'm sort of back to ground zero in many ways, but in others I got some dating experience sprinkled through the year, so it's not totally bunk. So I'm just gonna keep with the band, try and play some gigs, and follow up on what may present itself. I'm slowly jading on the whole process that this niggle in the back of my mind telling me to give up and curl up in a bottle of scotch is getting steadily louder, but being an optimist by life philosophy has helped me to ignore it for the most part, at least the scotch part.

Just thought I'd give an update on where I am because I have nothing to do at 7am on the first day of 2012. I still have family and friends, and in many ways my cup runneth over, so I'll keep going...
 
Sub_Level

Sub_Level

wants to fuck an Asian grill.
Follow-up on this disaster:

Sub_Level said:
Went on my first ever date last night. Bowling then casual restaurant then an ice cream shop then Girl With The Dragon Tattoo (which is the most awkward date movie ever btw). Overall it went OK.

PROS:
- She laughed a lot and seemed to be enjoying herself. Paid most attention to me and not her phone
- I kept the energy up. Things never got too awkward or dull
- I was confident as balls

CONS:
- We had met previously at a BBQ where I held hands with her. I didn't do that on this date and beyond some playful touching I didn't elevate the physical aspect at all.
- She payed for hernown movie ticket and the restaurant I took her to wasn't super nice but I spent way too much money on her
- At the end of the date I told her I had fun. She looked at me with a smile and said it was "interesting". I asked if that was a good thing (with a smile) and she said she didn't know yet. I think that was her nice way of saying I blew it lol
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Well, the date went kinda sour with that movie, but I guess she liked me regardless because we went on another date yesterday. Took her hiking, had a small picnic at a scenic overlook, then took her to my place for a couple beers and Terminator (slightly better movie choice lol) We did a lot of hugging and snuggling for sure. Lemme tell you, I was so distressed I didn't go for the kiss.

After I dropped her off at her place, I went to friends to chill and had a lotta fun there. Fast forward a few hours, I really wanted to call her to tell her happy new year's. I have no charger, my phone is dead, so I damn well go out and buy one at Wallgreene's. I call her, she's at a party and invites me to join them. So I do, and am elieved to see she's not already drunk.

We waited 10 minutes for the clock to strike 12. I'd never kissed a girl before in my life. We made out for an hour and a half.

Don't really know where things go from here. Said she has a lotta baggage and isn't ready for a relationship. Who knows where things will go, there's so many factors in life. Maybe I'll never see her again, maybe she'll call in the next few hours. Not gonna worry about things I can't control. All I know is this has been the best weekend I've had in a long time, if ever. Happy New Years Gaf :)

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soultron

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Sub_Level said:
Who knows where things will go, there's so many factors in life. Maybe I'll never see her again, maybe she'll call in the next few hours. Not gonna worry about things I can't control. All I know is this has been the best weekend I've had in a long time, if ever. Happy New Years Gaf :)
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Good attitude to have. Glad you're being realistic and rather level-headed about things, sub.

It only goes up from here. Don't you feel relieved after kissing her? Did you find you were building it up, internally?
 
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theignoramus

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doomed1 said:
Well, I shut down my OKC account. After a year of that thing being unfruitful and depressing, I decided it wasn't worth the inbox spam. I'm sort of back to ground zero in many ways, but in others I got some dating experience sprinkled through the year, so it's not totally bunk. So I'm just gonna keep with the band, try and play some gigs, and follow up on what may present itself. I'm slowly jading on the whole process that this niggle in the back of my mind telling me to give up and curl up in a bottle of scotch is getting steadily louder, but being an optimist by life philosophy has helped me to ignore it for the most part, at least the scotch part.

Just thought I'd give an update on where I am because I have nothing to do at 7am on the first day of 2012. I still have family and friends, and in many ways my cup runneth over, so I'll keep going...
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you're in a band and you have trouble meeting women?
 
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RedShift

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So last night I was talking to my friend who I got with at New Year last year and we were joking about it, when I realised I hadn't kissed anyone else since then. She says I need to get back in the game, I'm inclined to agree. New Years Resolution time.
 
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hellclerk

Everything is tsundere to me
theignoramus said:
you're in a band and you have trouble meeting women?
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Aside from the fact that we only recently finished getting all the members we'd need to gig regularly, meeting women isn't the problem, it's meeting women who are single/attractive/interested in me. Actually, that last one is really the hardest to attain.

And besides, around here, every alternative styled asshole "plays in a band". It's more of a hobby and creative outlet than anything that will get me laid.
 
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PigSpeakers

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I didn't think I'd be posting in this sort of thread ever. Not that I think that there's anything wrong with this thread, I just thought that I had personally gotten over all of my girl related problems, or was able to understand them myself. Apparently not, though.

Last night, I spent new years with my friend who I was interested in before, she knows I was interested in her (I let her know at one point), and I thought I was over it. Her friends were us that night too. We'd all dressed up nice and went to a nice restaurant in Tacoma. Over the course of the night, I found myself interested in her again. We flirted a lot, and spent a lot of time detached from the group. This girl and I know each other really well and talk on the phone weekly. And it all makes me feel so stupid because I can't even really put into words what made me interested in her again. I really like spending time with this girl, but can't get over my attraction. I don't even know what I want to do about this situation.
 
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TheSchwab_7

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Me and this girl have been on several dates now. They all have been really good...anytime we say goodbye we kiss, we hold hands, she went on a double date with me and another couple....so when is the right time to ask her to be my girlfriend? Been "dating" for almost a month now.

We really haven't talked about being in a relationship, but she mentioned she wants to see where things go. And I haven't asked a girl to be my gf in about two years so my game isn't as good as it can be.
 
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Xun

Member
I've got a slightly more positive outlook on this year than I had going from 2010 to 2011 so hopefully things will be good.

It's just got to remain that way.
 
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lawlohwhat

Banned
I think I'm going to end it with my girlfriend of 7 months tonight. She's just way more into the relationship than I am and I don't want to end up hurting her later on. It's been bothering me for a couple months to know that it won't work out in the long run while seeing her get more emotionally involved. I really like her, but sometimes you gotta make a tough decision for the good of everyone. Blah.
 
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Mr.City

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ConradCervantes said:
Pretty much. The last girl I was with wasn't on birth control because it fucked up her cycle, but I hadn't used condoms in years, so our first time I was going FOREVER. I eventually had to yank it off and beat off onto her stomach like they do in porn.
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Try no porn, no masturbation for a while.
 
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BigDug13

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Could try polyurethane condoms. Might need to find it online. It does a better job of transmitting heat than latex does, but it's not stretchy, so depending on your size, it might be uncomfortable. But if you're the right size for it, it's way better than latex and doesn't have the porous problems that lambskin does.

But it's still a condom which sucks.
 
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Ultima_5

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TheSchwab_7 said:
Me and this girl have been on several dates now. They all have been really good...anytime we say goodbye we kiss, we hold hands, she went on a double date with me and another couple....so when is the right time to ask her to be my girlfriend? Been "dating" for almost a month now.

We really haven't talked about being in a relationship, but she mentioned she wants to see where things go. And I haven't asked a girl to be my gf in about two years so my game isn't as good as it can be.
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I always think it's a good thing to just keep letting things going. Just keep making progress. Eventually she'll ask you about exclusivity... That way you're in a slightly better position relationshipwise (don't seem needy or possessive), and you can avoid possible awkwardness if she's not ready for that.
 
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Archer

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broke up with my gf last night (nye) in front of a group of my friends. we're all professionals in our 30s. she made a big scene, left me hanging. while i was on my way home, she'd already cleaned her stuff out my place, and left the key on the table.

she had raised the idea of a ring and an engagement just a couple of weeks ago, and i was about to make a purchase.

all of this came and went like lightning, my head is still spinning. i feel like im in the right, didn't do anything wrong or embarrassing to her. her actions came from booze (and her being persian. a joke, but some truth underneath.)

a strange 24h. still dont know how to feel.
 
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The Shadow

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Mr.City said:
Try no porn, no masturbation for a while.
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Seriously.

I've had to use condoms on and off with various girls and NEVER had this issue save for my first time a decade ago or so. It's not the condoms that's making you soft/less hard, it's something else. Anxiety or erectile dysfunction because of porn.
 
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Minamu

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Xun said:
I've got a slightly more positive outlook on this year than I had going from 2010 to 2011 so hopefully things will be good.

It's just got to remain that way.
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Is that you in your picture? If so, I don't understand why you're having trouble :) Go get them!
 
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Archer

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ConradCervantes said:
Was there something serious brewing, because if you were thinking about buying an engagement ring, things must've been okay.
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things were ...GOOD. no idea what happened. us/parents love each other, all was great. she flipped out last night. i blame the booze (which brings out certain traits that, i believe,are suppressed in normal daily interaction), but that can only go so far.
 
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Future PhaZe

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CherryWoodFuton said:
So what condoms does Girl-Age Gaf recommend? I've used the Trojan ultra thin lubricated and I can't seem to get hard long enough for me to come :(
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Thinnest I've used are Crown Skinless Skin condoms that are 0.047 mm thick. The thinnest in the world is supposedly Sagami originals which are half as thick as 0.02...which I can't really even comprehend as Crowns are thin enough that they are hard to pinch together if you lack fingernails to get them off.

I've gotten better at finishing in condoms but I typically just use pull out + the pill.
 
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ConradCervantes

Banned
The Shadow said:
Seriously.

I've had to use condoms on and off with various girls and NEVER had this issue save for my first time a decade ago or so. It's not the condoms that's making you soft/less hard, it's something else. Anxiety or erectile dysfunction because of porn.
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For me it's not an issue of losing an erection once I have a condom on, I can stay hard with ease. It's the fact that the condom is choking off all feeling, I feel so desensitized once it's on.
 
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Mr.City

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grap3fruitman said:
That would be a good idea but I would imagine that sex is such an infrequent occurrence for a lot of people in this thread, myself included, that this isn't a viable option. I need to fap to keep myself sane.
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No one needs sex or masturbation to live. Granted, it's not a fun way to live. Abusing porn and hand shakies is a great way to ruin your ability to connect in a real relationship.

Edit: Try a Magnum or a later size of condom.
 
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Future PhaZe

Member
ConradCervantes said:
For me it's not an issue of losing an erection once I have a condom on, I can stay hard with ease. It's the fact that the condom is choking off all feeling, I feel so desensitized once it's on.
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Same here. Pretty sure my girl loves it because I can go as hard as a porn star with unlimited endurance but my feeling is just...close to nothing.

Without one on I can finish in under a minute if I don't care about pacing.
 
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CherryWoodFuton

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Dark FaZe said:
Thinnest I've used are Crown Skinless Skin condoms that are 0.047 mm thick. The thinnest in the world is supposedly Sagami originals which are half as thick as 0.02...which I can't really even comprehend as Crowns are thin enough that they are hard to pinch together if you lack fingernails to get them off.

I've gotten better at finishing in condoms but I typically just use pull out + the pill.
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I'll look into those thanks. I just need a stopgap until me and this girl gets tested (she's on the pill)
 
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