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[soultron]

I feel like I don't know how to be in a relationship right now.

I broke up with my super-clinger Ex in October of 2009.

After going on dates and having various flings with several women since then, I'm finally in a committed relationship now. She's very laid back (just like I am; it's the only reason I agreed to committing when she brought up "the talk") and I really enjoy her company when we're together. Everything's good.

But I just feel strange. It feels strange to me to say that I have a girlfriend again. I'm not sad that I'm not single or anything. I'm trying hard to explain it, but am really at a loss for words. But has anyone else ever felt rusty or out of their element after not having a GF for so long?

I guess some of it could be the shock that she respects my space and doesn't demand I see her 6 times a week and/or FLIP OUT when I don't respond to her text messages within 15 minutes. I like that about her.

 

[eiskaltnz]

Hello GAF.

I have recently came to the conclusion that I really like a girl, the problem is that she is my best friend.
I have realised that I have shot down other girls because of my friend and I feel as if I need to talk to her about it.
If anyone has any advice on how I can deal with this situation it would be appreciated.
I am thinking of just telling her and then just keeping things normal no matter the outcome.

 

[Sanky Panky]

But I just feel strange. It feels strange to me to say that I have a girlfriend again. I'm not sad that I'm not single or anything. I'm trying hard to explain it, but am really at a loss for words. But has anyone else ever felt rusty or out of their element after not having a GF for so long?

I guess some of it could be the shock that she respects my space and doesn't demand I see her 6 times a week and/or FLIP OUT when I don't respond to her text messages within 15 minutes. I like that about her.

Same boat here. Holy shit your post just reminded me that my 2 month anniversary is today! Thankfully my gf might be like yours, really laid back. She won't flip out.

It felt really strange too, but the biggest reason why I am willing to be in a relationship is that she makes me not want to be with any other girl, and she enhances all the activities I like to do. As far as the space thing goes, the biggest change is that now I plan my weekends around her, while I have the entire week to myself if I want.

The weirdest thing (blame our shitty generation) is the fateful status change on facebook. That is when you are ready to tell all your flings, ex's, friends, and potential hookups, that you are off the market. That one took some decisive action.

 

[Ultima_5]

Hello GAF.

I have recently came to the conclusion that I really like a girl, the problem is that she is my best friend.
I have realised that I have shot down other girls because of my friend and I feel as if I need to talk to her about it.
If anyone has any advice on how I can deal with this situation it would be appreciated.
I am thinking of just telling her and then just keeping things normal no matter the outcome.

I would tell her how you feel, and that you're interested in being more than friends. If she says yes, awesome. If she says no and things get awkward, just distance yourself for awhile until you're interested in someone else.

 

[CherryWoodFuton]

I feel like I don't know how to be in a relationship right now.

I broke up with my super-clinger Ex in October of 2009.

After going on dates and having various flings with several women since then, I'm finally in a committed relationship now. She's very laid back (just like I am; it's the only reason I agreed to committing when she brought up "the talk") and I really enjoy her company when we're together. Everything's good.

But I just feel strange. It feels strange to me to say that I have a girlfriend again. I'm not sad that I'm not single or anything. I'm trying hard to explain it, but am really at a loss for words. But has anyone else ever felt rusty or out of their element after not having a GF for so long?

I guess some of it could be the shock that she respects my space and doesn't demand I see her 6 times a week and/or FLIP OUT when I don't respond to her text messages within 15 minutes. I like that about her.

Iknowthatfeelbro

Looks like I have a potential gf too. I know i know its only been 2 1/2 weeks but I definitely see good things happening with her. Should I dial down my excitement???

 

[SRG01]

I feel like I don't know how to be in a relationship right now.

I broke up with my super-clinger Ex in October of 2009.

After going on dates and having various flings with several women since then, I'm finally in a committed relationship now. She's very laid back (just like I am; it's the only reason I agreed to committing when she brought up "the talk") and I really enjoy her company when we're together. Everything's good.

But I just feel strange. It feels strange to me to say that I have a girlfriend again. I'm not sad that I'm not single or anything. I'm trying hard to explain it, but am really at a loss for words. But has anyone else ever felt rusty or out of their element after not having a GF for so long?

I guess some of it could be the shock that she respects my space and doesn't demand I see her 6 times a week and/or FLIP OUT when I don't respond to her text messages within 15 minutes. I like that about her.

I had the exact same feeling when I first dated my ex. It is rather surreal to be in a relationship after dating constantly. Your attention is constantly on one woman instead of a few.

 

[Calion]

I feel like I don't know how to be in a relationship right now.

I broke up with my super-clinger Ex in October of 2009.

After going on dates and having various flings with several women since then, I'm finally in a committed relationship now. She's very laid back (just like I am; it's the only reason I agreed to committing when she brought up "the talk") and I really enjoy her company when we're together. Everything's good.

But I just feel strange. It feels strange to me to say that I have a girlfriend again. I'm not sad that I'm not single or anything. I'm trying hard to explain it, but am really at a loss for words. But has anyone else ever felt rusty or out of their element after not having a GF for so long?

I guess some of it could be the shock that she respects my space and doesn't demand I see her 6 times a week and/or FLIP OUT when I don't respond to her text messages within 15 minutes. I like that about her.

First of all, congrats on the relationship. I know this is how I'll feel when my next relationship rolls around. Not conflicted, but oddly refreshing. When you're single, you're living life comfortably with no boundaries and in a rhythm. It's literally a 180.

 

[Jhoan]

Remember how things were going so well yesterday?

Yeah, not so well anymore, it seems. I knew I should not have said anything. I don't even know what went wrong but looks like she's not responding to me anymore. Guess I'm starting over from scratch again ... *sigh*

EDIT: At this point, I don't know what's up. Kinda sucks.

Like everyone else said, it's better if you fall back (which you are going to do as I saw) and don't contact her. I've been there before and it does suck. It's happened to me a lot on OKC, but I take each lesson in stride.

Here's a personal example of that. I was exchanging messages with this one chick from OKC last summer left and right before we transitioned to texting; we hit it off pretty well and had similar interests. She was looking forward to hanging out with me. The kicker was that she was back down at her family's house in Florida, and wasn't going to get back to NY until school started.

So eventually, I told her that we should stop talking and told her to hit me up when she was back in NY so we could hang out. Fast forward, circa one and half weeks into the Fall semester, I decided to hit her back up to see what's up. Bad freakin' move captain. She never responded; her interest level went kaput after weeks of not communicating. So I deleted her number unfortunately despite knowing that we had a lot in common.

What I'm trying to say is don't hold your breath if you expect her to respond; it's not the end of the world if this one chick doesn't respond. Keep hitting up other women and if she doesn't respond say within the next week, then unfortunately, she lost interest. I don't mean to be negative because I do hope she responds to you soon.

Any way, good luck man and don't give up. Online dating is tough because it's hard because of the response rate; it is frustrating, If a chick doesn't respond, then don't get frustrated and think "She's not interested in me." Think "Well, at least there's dozens of other women who would like to meet me."

---

Now that I think about it, all I've done in this thread is whine about my girl problems to you guys. I'm gonna do my best to try to give more advice more often on despite my limited experience with women.

That said, I have nothing to report on myself other than I deleted the girl's number/texts that I tried contacting but always got 1 reply back after talking it over with my brothers. This was over 3 weeks ago; it feels good.

 

[Xun]

Went out tonight and already feel more confident in the New Year, got a few looks too (hopefully in a good way haha).

Hopefully this shit lasts.

 

[soundahfekz]

Fun thing is, she doesn't. I went with the enough to be comfortable bit, and actually ... there is some distance involved between us (it's about 2 1/2 to 3 hours, which we are both OK with and is manageable. I live in the middle of four or five major cities, for reference.)

Might fall back a bit and see if she hits back. Won't give up on this one quite yet.

What I'm trying to convey to you is that "facts" don't matter when it comes to dating and relationships, only perception.

If she perceives she's learned enough, and that you weren't assertive enough towards setting up an actual date, you're out of there and no amount of logic or rationale is going to change that. It doesn't matter how complex or interesting you PERCEIVE yourself to be. It's all subjective.

I wouldn't "might" fall back, as continuing to engage will push her further away. I'd seriously fall back. Let a couple weeks or so go by, and if you hear nothing, maybe shoot a text her way. Life's best lesson in dating is that NO ONE is the end all, be all of your life.

Hello GAF.

I have recently came to the conclusion that I really like a girl, the problem is that she is my best friend.
I have realised that I have shot down other girls because of my friend and I feel as if I need to talk to her about it.
If anyone has any advice on how I can deal with this situation it would be appreciated.
I am thinking of just telling her and then just keeping things normal no matter the outcome.

Do you feel friendzoned, or was this a genuine friendship that developed, in which you weren't thinking about getting it in with her?

if A) you wanna know how to get a woman's attention when friendzoned? Start dating other women. It's win win as you might actually find someone you're more interested in. Women like a man who's sought after. It brings about a competitive nature in which they will sometimes ask themselves, "why not me?"

if B) you just have to man up and be honest about it. Once the feelings are present and overwhelming, the friendship is altered forever anyway.

Iknowthatfeelbro

Looks like I have a potential gf too. I know i know its only been 2 1/2 weeks but I definitely see good things happening with her. Should I dial down my excitement???

Appreciate the pace in which things are going, but take it day by day mentally!

 

[ConradCervantes]

Heh, I must have missed your story, but by that sentence, I can't imagine it ended well. Sorry bro.

No story to post, that's just how all my relationships have been. The girl is either hung up on the last dude, or she's so bitter about how shit ended between them that she projects her issues with him onto me.

It's my curse. I have yet to be legitimately attracted to a woman who is neither single nor a total emotional wreck. Shit sucks.

 

[NeOak]

Thanks guys, I didn't think I was being over-dramatic. The worst part of it is that I bought us both tickets to see Radical Face when we get back from the holidays. Hope it wont be awkward

It will BE awkward. Take someone else.

WHY AM I SCREAMING

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[johnny_park]

I made out with a girl last night. She said I have a nice penis. That's the first time I got that compliment.

 

[soultron]

I made out with a girl last night. She said I have a nice penis. That's the first time I got that compliment.

Penis compliments are hilariously awesome sometimes.

I take comfort in the fact that even though I'm average sized, women have always told me I have a huge dong. Maybe they don't watch enough porn. Maybe I watch too much.

 

[number47]

best part of nye is making out.
worst part of nyd is the "i was drunk"

come on, why do people really think its a valid excuse.regardless, the hazy memory was fun.

 

[Liquid_015]

I've posted my situation a few times in this thread, and the thing that I do not understand is why people categorize being "friendzoned" is the equivalent to "there is no hope, bail out." I mean, I am sure there are times where "being just friends" escalates into a real relationship. Many people continues to state that being "friendzoned" is a bad thing, but I seriously cannot, for the life of me, figure out why it is? There has to be a solution or method to move things along from the friendzone to a relationship...

I know for a fact that there are instances with my friends where friendships escalates into a real relationship, but on GAF it seems to be contrary.

Sorry for the rant, I guess. -__-'

 

[soultron]

I've posted my situation a few times in this thread, and the thing that I do not understand is why people categorize being "friendzoned" is the equivalent to "there is no hope, bail out." I mean, I am sure there are times where "being just friends" escalates into a real relationship. Many people continues to state that being "friendzoned" is a bad thing, but I seriously cannot, for the life of me, figure out why it is? There has to be a solution or method to move things along from the friendzone to a relationship...

I know for a fact that there are instances with my friends where friendships escalates into a real relationship, but on GAF it seems to be contrary.

Sorry for the rant, I guess. -__-'

Exception rather than the rule.

My personal beef with dudes holding onto hope that they'll make it out of the friendzone is that they won't be doing things for the girl out of the goodness of their heart, they'll be doing it because they want something from the girl. It doesn't make you a nice guy, it makes you a bit of a hapless creep.

To be fair, some girls take advantage of the situation and clamour for attention.

Still, if a girl says she only wants to be friends when you've tried to escalate, grant her that wish. Move on, for her sake and yours. If you want to continue wasting your time in the friendzone thinking you'll be the one to change her mind, be my guest. But just remember that for the 2 friends that you have that managed to wait it out with a girl who wanted to be friends first, you've (more than likely) a greater number of friends who've gotten trapped in the FZ and wasted more time than they should have.

 

[SRG01]

Exception rather than the rule.

My personal beef with dudes holding onto hope that they'll make it out of the friendzone is that they won't be doing things for the girl out of the goodness of their heart, they'll be doing it because they want something from the girl. It doesn't make you a nice guy, it makes you a bit of a hapless creep.

To be fair, some girls take advantage of the situation and clamour for attention.

Still, if a girl says she only wants to be friends when you've tried to escalate, grant her that wish. Move on, for her sake and yours. If you want to continue wasting your time in the friendzone thinking you'll be the one to change her mind, be my guest. But just remember that for the 2 friends that you have that managed to wait it out with a girl who wanted to be friends first, you've (more than likely) a greater number of friends who've gotten trapped in the FZ and wasted more time than they should have.

Actually, my experiences -- and observations -- have taught me that friends date more often than not. Otherwise, I have to agree with you in that holding onto a girl isn't the most respectful thing to do.


... On the other hand, there are circumstances whereby you can ask the girl out again much later on.

 

[~Kinggi~]

Man im pretty hopeless. I was hoping the New Year would inspire me to do something but nope, nothin.

 

[Atramental]

Man im pretty hopeless. I was hoping the New Year would inspire me to do something but nope, nothin.

So how many more times are you going to say this? It's becoming your mantra at this point.

 

[SMT]

It's much easier to meet women when you go out and have fun. Kinggi,why don't you pick a hobby that includes the interest of the ladies, and participate in it periodically?
I mean you won't reel in any fish by feeling all withered down, your sentiments will also appear on your face, and no woman wants someone to bring her down.
Put on a smile, and then you will see more women will suddenly gravitate towards you. Body language is a key factor, along with your mental health!

There's also the new semester of school on its way!

 

[CherryWoodFuton]

Man im pretty hopeless. I was hoping the New Year would inspire me to do something but nope, nothin.

Duder....Its only January 3rd. Stop being so down on 2012 already.

 

[soultron]

Man im pretty hopeless. I was hoping the New Year would inspire me to do something but nope, nothin.

You need internal inspiration rather than external.

 

[RelentlessRolento]

So i've posted my OkCupid profile on here before, but any suggestions on things to add or remove? Might be a good idea to remove video games since some girls consider it a turn off:

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/LopezDeVictoria

 

[soultron]

So i've posted my OkCupid profile on here before, but any suggestions on things to add or remove? Might be a good idea to remove video games since some girls consider it a turn off:

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/LopezDeVictoria

Quick thoughts:

Too long.
Cut the list of bands/movies/books. List what genres you like and a couple standouts.
Remove why you haven't had a GF. Don't give people a reason to doubt your awesomeness.

Also: Why be ashamed of what you do? I tell girls that I make games all the time. If you frame it in the right sense (it's challenging work, a passion, and a job) girls will see you as a driven individual who follows his dreams. It sounds cheesy, but several women I've been with found it really cool! The others who weren't immediately wowed by it found it to be at least respectable.

 

[Ultima_5]

So i've posted my OkCupid profile on here before, but any suggestions on things to add or remove? Might be a good idea to remove video games since some girls consider it a turn off:

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/LopezDeVictoria

I'd remove all the emoticons.

I'd also drop this line "Would love to meet a girl up here so her and I can be awesome for each other ^_^ " You're on a dating site, they already know you're looking for ladies =p

Possibly extrapolate a bit on the things you're good at (mainly the programing and the illustration. Maybe add another sentence or two? What sort of illustrations or what sort of programming things

I'd also probably drop the list of favorite video games. You shouldn't be ashamed of gaming, but it's probably not the best idea to flaunt it on a dating website. Like you said, alot of women view it as a turn off and a hobby of the socially inept. Let them talk to you for awhile or meet you first.

The rest is pretty good imo. These are just my opinions! take 'em with a grain of salt!

 

[Laughlin]

Made out/got a little finger action with a girl on NYE. We talked for a while afterwards and she was actually a pretty cool chick.

Unfortunately, the next morning I realized I had some beer goggles going on the night before.
Kinda sucks, if I found her more attractive I might have tried to pursue something. Oh well.

 

[soundahfekz]

Actually, my experiences -- and observations -- have taught me that friends date more often than not. Otherwise, I have to agree with you in that holding onto a girl isn't the most respectful thing to do.


... On the other hand, there are circumstances whereby you can ask the girl out again much later on.

The idea though is time conservation. You won't get these years back to be in your prime, so it's best not to waste ANY time waiting for an opportunity to pounce. I know I've said it several times already but there's simply too many women out there who are compatible to stay hung up on one.

No go? Move forward. As I said earlier 99% of the time moving forward will do more in that person considering you than waiting still like a lap dog ever would.

 

[Eggo]

So i've posted my OkCupid profile on here before, but any suggestions on things to add or remove? Might be a good idea to remove video games since some girls consider it a turn off:

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/LopezDeVictoria

I'd cut the paragraph you dedicate to listing video games. It's too much. You can mention in a sentence that you like playing video games or just omit that entirely. Personally, I don't mention it, and I work in the game industry. It's better for the girl to find out on her own. It's not really an aphrodisiac for most girls.

I also suggest cutting the last sentence where you say you have yet to meet someone comfortable with sending messages to a stranger. It's a negative comment that lowers your social status and can be read as being bitter, both things you want to avoid. This sentence "A large portion of my work involves empathy, humor, interaction, and pugs " is redundant as it repeats what you said just prior to it.

In general, I think your profile is rather bland. Where are your hobbies? What are you going to do when you take a girl out on a date? If the goal in online dating is to stand out from the pack, your profile fails to do that. You can either list more exciting things you do in your spare time, or list the qualities that separate you from the rest of the guys on the dating site, or rather why she should choose you.

I'd also experiment with swapping out your profile pic with others to see if you get a better response. I'm not a fan of pics where you're looking off in the distance with a frown, but I know others say that's the way to go. Try different pics and see what sticks. Try one smiling, with a pet, outdoors doing something, etc.

 

[RelentlessRolento]

I'd cut the paragraph you dedicate to listing video games. It's too much. You can mention in a sentence that you like playing video games or just omit that entirely. Personally, I don't mention it, and I work in the game industry. It's better for the girl to find out on her own. It's not really an aphrodisiac for most girls.

I also suggest cutting the last sentence where you say you have yet to meet someone comfortable with sending messages to a stranger. It's a negative comment that lowers your social status and can be read as being bitter, both things you want to avoid. This sentence "A large portion of my work involves empathy, humor, interaction, and pugs " is redundant as it repeats what you said just prior to it.

In general, I think your profile is rather bland. Where are your hobbies? What are you going to do when you take a girl out on a date? If the goal in online dating is to stand out from the pack, your profile fails to do that. You can either list more exciting things you do in your spare time, or list the qualities that separate you from the rest of the guys on the dating site, or rather why she should choose you.

I'd also experiment with swapping out your profile pic with others to see if you get a better response. I'm not a fan of pics where you're looking off in the distance with a frown, but I know others say that's the way to go. Try different pics and see what sticks. Try one smiling, with a pet, outdoors doing something, etc.

Thanks for the input everyone. I def agree my profile is bland and needs a redo, that's why I asked here. I'll revamp it, make it shorter, remove stuff, etc.

One last thing, should I add my website in the first sentence so they can see my work ala:

"Currently working on my Masters of Art+Technology at UF being a visual computer contemporary art person thing who primarily works in the realm of empathy, interactivity, and video (go here if you want to see what I do)."

or would that work against me?

 

[Ultima_5]

Thanks for the input everyone. I def agree my profile is bland and needs a redo, that's why I asked here. I'll revamp it, make it shorter, remove stuff, etc.

One last thing, should I add my website in the first sentence so they can see my work ala:

"Currently working on my Masters of Art+Technology at UF being a visual computer contemporary art person thing who primarily works in the realm of empathy, interactivity, and video (go here if you want to see what I do)."

or would that work against me?

I wouldn't include it. You can always share that at a later time. Try not to be to much of an open book. Leave some stuff for them to learn about on the actual date =p

 

[RelentlessRolento]

I wouldn't include it. You can always share that at a later date. Try not to be to much of an open book. Leave some stuff for them to learn about on the actual date =p

Point taken ^_^

thanks guys. Now onto editing it

I'll repost my link once I clean it up a bit

 

[TheSchwab_7]

Hey GAF so I just got back from going to the movies with this girl I've been seeing....long story short.....we are now official! feelsgoodman

 

[Count Dookkake]

Hey GAF so I just got back from going to the movies with this girl I've been seeing....long story short.....we are now official! feelsgoodman

What movie was it?

 

[Ultima_5]

I once watched A Clockwork Orange with a girl I was just storta starting to date. That was a poor choice.

 

[TheSchwab_7]

What movie was it?

Sherlock Holmes. She wanted to see Girl With Dragon Tattoo and I remember some guys talking about how awkward it was with the rape scene. lol

 

[soultron]

I once watched A Clockwork Orange with a girl I was just storta starting to date. That was a poor choice.

Nothing wrong with a spot of the old ultraviolence.

Wait--no, that's a terrible idea.

 

[Ultima_5]

Nothing wrong with a spot of the old ultraviolence.

Wait--no, that's a terrible idea.

Well at the time I wasn't aware of the the content of the movie. I just knew it was by the guy who did Dr. Strangelove, so I assumed it would be a semi serious dystopian movie with some witty dialogue and iconic characters. Shit didn't go over well.

 

[RelentlessRolento]

Well in december the rough off and off again relationshop I had for a quick few days we watched Boogie Nights which lead to a long makeout session. Not entirely sure if I can thank the movie for that though since I think it was the dinner before that sparked things off.


OKCupid time:
taking suggestions I trimmed fat, took out what I saw was negatives, and tried to spice it up (along with adding pics that might help better):

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/LopezDeVictoria

does it need work still? I'll keep redoing this thing till I have to.

I shot out a few messages to some girls, a few weeks back so once I get this fixed I'll shoot out some again (not to same girls though)

 

[Miguel]

Well at the time I wasn't aware of the the content of the movie. I just knew it was by the guy who did Dr. Strangelove, so I assumed it would be a semi serious dystopian movie with some witty dialogue and iconic characters. Shit didn't go over well.

I feel your pain, bro. lol

Luckily it was like 6 dates in, so it wasn't really an issue. I'd have hated to have made that mistake for the first date.

Smoothed things over the next time with We Bought a Zoo... lol

 

[hipgnosis]

Yeah always pick neutral films first, a movie can make things really awkward. You can't go wrong with a comedy, it might be really shitty but at least it is nonoffensive and you can laugh about it.

 

[Eggo]

Well in december the rough off and off again relationshop I had for a quick few days we watched Boogie Nights which lead to a long makeout session. Not entirely sure if I can thank the movie for that though since I think it was the dinner before that sparked things off.


OKCupid time:
taking suggestions I trimmed fat, took out what I saw was negatives, and tried to spice it up (along with adding pics that might help better):

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/LopezDeVictoria

does it need work still? I'll keep redoing this thing till I have to.

I shot out a few messages to some girls, a few weeks back so once I get this fixed I'll shoot out some again (not to same girls though)

It's a lot better than before. Personally, I'd omit the part about never having a gf and not knowing why. TMI. Let them figure that out in person. I don't think calling attention to it is going to help your chances.

Also, keep swapping out pics until you find one that resonates with people. I'd say you're ready to start shooting off some messages. Good luck!

 

[dreadfulwater]

So i've posted my OkCupid profile on here before, but any suggestions on things to add or remove? Might be a good idea to remove video games since some girls consider it a turn off:

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/LopezDeVictoria

"never had a girlfriend" is a turn off.

 

[Ultima_5]

"never had a girlfriend" is a turn off.

Yeah, as awful as it sounds, they'll think that there's something wrong with you that other women have noticed that they might not see yet. Just leave it out.

Early in the relationship, things are always a bit awkward for the first few dates/weeks/etcetera. They probably wont think anything of it. If the question comes up about prior relationships (which it shouldn't. always an awful conversation) just say that you've had some shorter relationships, but you made sure things didn't get to serious because you wanted to focus on other things in your life or something.

 

[Attackthebase]

Well in december the rough off and off again relationshop I had for a quick few days we watched Boogie Nights which lead to a long makeout session. Not entirely sure if I can thank the movie for that though since I think it was the dinner before that sparked things off.


OKCupid time:
taking suggestions I trimmed fat, took out what I saw was negatives, and tried to spice it up (along with adding pics that might help better):

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/LopezDeVictoria

does it need work still? I'll keep redoing this thing till I have to.

I shot out a few messages to some girls, a few weeks back so once I get this fixed I'll shoot out some again (not to same girls though)

Omit the never had a GF part. It lowers your value, and your profile should be spiked with DHV spikes.

I think it is pretty decent otherwise. Though, I would kill a few pictures: the one with you licking your armpit (pretty disgusting imo), I'm not a fan of the "fancy mirror" picture, the last picture makes you look a little emo, and the morning wake up isn't doing you any favor. But I want to point out I am a fan of your other pictures, they are superb. Not boring, and it shows a little more about yourself. Plus, you look good in them.

 

[Hypereides]

Well in december the rough off and off again relationshop I had for a quick few days we watched Boogie Nights which lead to a long makeout session. Not entirely sure if I can thank the movie for that though since I think it was the dinner before that sparked things off.


OKCupid time:
taking suggestions I trimmed fat, took out what I saw was negatives, and tried to spice it up (along with adding pics that might help better):

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/LopezDeVictoria

does it need work still? I'll keep redoing this thing till I have to.

I shot out a few messages to some girls, a few weeks back so once I get this fixed I'll shoot out some again (not to same girls though)

Okay. lets see:

-Licking penguins? Really? Kinda over the top. I get that its your humor and all that shiz. But keep it to the minimum unless you really know/get to know a gal.

-interests: Personally I gotta say you give away too much of yourself in the books/movies/music department. You ought to add a bit of mystery and narrow it down to the things that matter the most to you. I'd save some of these things to the date or whatever, if I were you.

-Disregard "dancing" in your profile, but its alright if youre going out on a date. Just show it instead of writing it.

-"How some of the craziest ideas are sometimes the best" - I dig it, but I'd put a "Why" instead of a "How".

-I like the swerman Rican part.

-I think youre slightly over-selling yourself. IMO youre mostly coming of as a guy who wants a "friend" not a girlfriend.

EDIT: I agree about the "never had a girlfriend" needs to go. Its unnecesary. Save it for the moment when you get close enough, private and intimate with a girl thats showing signs of being interested in something long term.


Just my 2 nickles.

 

[Mr.City]

Man im pretty hopeless. I was hoping the New Year would inspire me to do something but nope, nothin.

Is that you, Combine?

 

[LordPhoque]

Finally asked this girl out at work. She was glad I asked and said yes (she was sending huge signals for a few days so it wasn't a big surprise) Since she just got a new cellphone she didn't have her number so she took mine. At first I thought it was legit, but it was yesterday morning and she didn't even text me so I could have her number. I'm 99.9% sure this girl dig me though, and never been wrong about whether a girl liked me or not in the past. So I don't know what to think. I have a date with a chick I met in the subway this week-end, but I was more interested in the one from work, hope I'll still be able to enjoy this date.

 

[Ultima_5]

Finally asked this girl out at work. She was glad I asked and said yes (she was sending huge signals for a few days so it wasn't a big surprise) Since she just got a new cellphone she didn't have her number so she took mine. At first I thought it was legit, but it was yesterday morning and she didn't even text me so I could have her number. I'm 99.9% sure this girl dig me though, and never been wrong about whether a girl liked me or not in the past. So I don't know what to think. I have a date with a chick I met in the subway this week-end, but I was more interested in the one from work, hope I'll still be able to enjoy this date.

Be careful that you don't shit where you eat.

Also, it's only been a day or so. I wouldn't get to caught up in it.

 

[LordPhoque]

Be careful that you don't shit where you eat.

Also, it's only been a day or so. I wouldn't get to caught up in it.

She's an interim, she probably won't be here for more than two weeks. We probably ain't going to see each others at work since I don't work until Monday, and she's already been here for way too long for an interim (they switch a lot for some reason)
Also it's just my student job. Even if it's been only two days, I find it strange that she wouldn't text me to say "this is my number".