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LGBThread |OT3| Friends of Dorothy!
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Blood Diamonds
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Hey, it's not my fault he turned out to be awesome. I wasn't even looking to get into this damn curse.
Feels weird quoting myself, but it needs context.
So, it's been 10 days since our first date, and finally we met each other again.
It's been so long since he's working all the time and we don't live in the same town (we both study in the same one, but it's summer break). Since our first date we've been texting and talking every day, which is a good sign I guess. My self esteem \ confidince is in the shitter, so every day I need to remind myself that if he wanted to end it, he'd do it already....
It was a nice date. we didn't feel like sitting in a bar or something like that, so we just bought a beer from a 7\11, sat somewhere and talked. The end of the date was a tad weird. Like I said, in the first one we didn't kiss because of where we were, but this time we met in Tel Aviv, so it's a non issue. Anyway, we kissed, but... no tongue or anything. Just a soft, 2 seconds kiss on the lips and goodbye. It was nice, but I wanted so much more, and he was so tasty lol.
I have no idea why it's going like that. Maybe because we parted ways on the street and he's shy, maybe he likes to take things real slow, and maybe I'm sending a vibe that I want to take things slow.
To be honest, I don't mind taking things slow because I'm more interested in his company rather than getting into bed. I was just wondering with myself if what happened last night was a sign for something bad... The more I think of it, though, I realize I might be reading too much into things, and it can't be that bad that nothing more happened.
Next date (if there'll be one of course) will, again, take place in the far future, maybe 10 days from now as well
Oh well, at least if we'll manage to get past this period and make it to mid october, we'll be able to see each other on a daily basis since school will be back on.
(That was much longer than I expected...)
Well, speaking from experience, me and my bf barely ever kiss or show much affection in public, unless we're drunk. I realized I'm still not entirely comfortable with showing my sexuality in public, it's pretty depressing. (doesn't help that I really don't like drawing attention, I'm pretty shy )
It's probably shyness, but he still kissed you which is a pretty good sign. Considering he keeps talking to you even when you're not seeing him for a relatively good sign, I'd say he's interested in you. If you enjoy his company I don't see an issue with taking it slow
See how things go from now, I'm sure it'll go further when you both start school again or when you have the opportunity to see each other in a more private space
)It's probably shyness, but he still kissed you which is a pretty good sign. Considering he keeps talking to you even when you're not seeing him for a relatively good sign, I'd say he's interested in you. If you enjoy his company I don't see an issue with taking it slow
See how things go from now, I'm sure it'll go further when you both start school again or when you have the opportunity to see each other in a more private space
Well, speaking from experience, me and my bf barely ever kiss or show much affection in public, unless we're drunk. I realized I'm still not entirely comfortable with showing my sexuality in public, it's pretty depressing. (doesn't help that I really don't like drawing attention, I'm pretty shy
It's probably shyness, but he still kissed you which is a pretty good sign. Considering he keeps talking to you even when you're not seeing him for a relatively good sign, I'd say he's interested in you. If you enjoy his company I don't see an issue with taking it slow
See how things go from now, I'm sure it'll go further when you both start school again or when you have the opportunity to see each other in a more private space
Thanks for the confidence boost, it really helps
I hope we'll manage to make it until school starts, because I'm sure it will be easier to see where it's going - for better or worse. I'm hopeful for better since I really like him...
Gay guys are so fucking weird sometimes. Some guys have been looking at my profiles repeatedly but they don't say anything. Am I just some kind of fap material for them? 0_o;
There's this one guy who I saw has checked my profile. He's pretty hot too so I thought okay, maybe I should say something and I did. But he didn't reply so I assume he just clicked by accident. Well apparently no, because he checked on my profile again last week and this week.
There's this one guy who I saw has checked my profile. He's pretty hot too so I thought okay, maybe I should say something and I did. But he didn't reply so I assume he just clicked by accident. Well apparently no, because he checked on my profile again last week and this week.
Are you giving them fap material?
Nope. My shirtless pics are in the locked section so they have to request it first. Not that it stops some creep to just ask for it immediately without even saying "Hi" first. So much for pleasantries.
That's so bizarre.
Maybe they just forgot they had seen your profile. I've had many people who would strike up conversations with me as if we've never spoken before, anywhere between just a few weeks to several months.
I do that sometimes, too. Or go to a guy's profile and then remember when I didn't message them.
Henchmen21
Banned
Hey all.
Ugh. I think I'm getting an allergy to citric acid. Now whenever I drink pineapple juice or orange juice, It upsets me all day.
Ugh. I think I'm getting an allergy to citric acid. Now whenever I drink pineapple juice or orange juice, It upsets me all day.
Well, the good news is you probably aren't allergic to citric acid as that's basically impossible Also, you'd definitely know if you were somehow actually allergic to it since it's such a pervasive compound that you'd be breaking out in hives all the time. You could potentially have a *citrus* allergy, but even then you'd probably be experiencing a lot more than just an upset stomach. Are you drinking it on an empty stomach by any chance?
Henchmen21
Banned
Sometimes yes, sometimes no. All I know is that recently all I have to do is have a glass of OJ or PJ and the next day is spent on the bathroom.
Henchmen21
Banned
It would be if you two were looking to move in together this soon.
there was this guy hot as hell, my type, he clicked my profile in 3 dfferent moments in 4 or 5 months, I wrote to him and the asshole didn't answer.
some weeks later he clicked AGAIN on my profile, I worte again and said " why won't you talk to me? if i am not your type, just say so "sorry, not my type"
and the guy copy/pasted exactly that so I received a message with "sorry, not my type", no " hey I am sorry but" or any line that would make it friendly.
I answered back " then please stop visiting my profile and fuck off!" haha, he pissed me off.
I've never been in a serious relationship.
Each time someone really into me, i did this
Thats me!
What is this site everyone keeps talking about that let you know who visited your profile?
We arent lol. But it was fun just looking at houses.
Henchmen21
Banned
Was it like noticing houses as you drive down the road or fun, leisurely stroll with him?
No we were looking online at houses lol. Just comparing what he liked and what i liked.
it's an app i guess?? growlr, scruff, jack'd
Jack'd and OKcupid allow you to, I believe.
I've only had dates... never hookups...
I feel like such a prude
I've only had...oh wait, nothing.
I feel such an asexual
This is funny. He does what you tell him to do, and you still get mad.
He probably found you attractive in the smallish profile pic you have or something.
This is funny. He does what you tell him to do, and you still get mad.
He probably found you attractive in the smallish profile pic you have or something.
I never react like that and I've probably have done the same: to think you haven't seen a pic/profile, click again and realize is a guy you've seen before and are not into, that is all fine, I understand
but with that guy I took my time to write a long ass message, with much more than "Hi!" or "what's up" and when I didn't received any sort of reply, I was pissed cause you gotta have some decency and internet etiquette and answer back with a friendly rejection.
when he came back to my profile yet again and he shamlessly copied/pasted the phrase I wrote, my interpretation was " you know, I don't give a fuck and I can't be bothered to give you a decent reply, so here". that's not cool at all.
I didn't downright say "fuck off" as the language we used is german, but I did say "well then, I don't want to see you visiting my profile again".
Instigator
Banned
Don't shoot the messenger.
The GLBT community, at least in Germany, did include an extra P not long ago.
http://www.spiegel.de/international...liance-with-pedophiles-in-1980s-a-919119.html
The GLBT community, at least in Germany, did include an extra P not long ago.
http://www.spiegel.de/international...liance-with-pedophiles-in-1980s-a-919119.html
This isn't really news, it even happened in the States, NAMBLA managed to join gay rights marches back in the 70s. More than "dark past" it was ignorance, homosexuality was still considered an illness by the medical community, and many gay people unfortunately thought they were at the same level as pedophiles, of course that didn't last.
VICTORsaurio
Member
Just wanted to give a little update about my situation. We've kept talking, it's nice. We're probably going out tonight.
At least I have a better understanding of what's going on with him. He told me he's back to "not taking part in relationships", he thinks it's all bullshit and he's happy being single/alone.
I told him I'm sure eventually he'll find someone who will change back his mind
So at least I'm glad that I'm sure now it's not about me. We'll see. I'm a bit afraid of getting closer and falling for him and him not changing his mind but I guess maybe it's worth a shot. He seems to be very interested in having me around.
At least I have a better understanding of what's going on with him. He told me he's back to "not taking part in relationships", he thinks it's all bullshit and he's happy being single/alone.
I told him I'm sure eventually he'll find someone who will change back his mind
So at least I'm glad that I'm sure now it's not about me. We'll see. I'm a bit afraid of getting closer and falling for him and him not changing his mind but I guess maybe it's worth a shot. He seems to be very interested in having me around.
Just wanted to give a little update about my situation. We've kept talking, it's nice. We're probably going out tonight.
At least I have a better understanding of what's going on with him. He told me he's back to "not taking part in relationships", he thinks it's all bullshit and he's happy being single/alone.
I told him I'm sure eventually he'll find someone who will change back his mind
So at least I'm glad that I'm sure now it's not about me. We'll see. I'm a bit afraid of getting closer and falling for him and him not changing his mind but I guess maybe it's worth a shot. He seems to be very interested in having me around.
I am in the same state of mind as your friend. I'm very happy being single and I am not faced with the predicament that I have met someone that I think is great but I am torn because I do not want anything serious right now.
We haven't had "the talk" and I hope it's not coming anytime soon because right now my answer would be no.
So yeah, it's not necessarily about you, he might also just not be into you that way. That's alright, but don't cling to the hope that if you stick around he will realize how great you are and that he will change his mind.
User 73706
Banned
Halp, gayGAF. I don't know how I feel about kids.
(this is an awful time to bring this up given the recent LGBTP thing but it's in a totally platonic sense :lol)
Okay, so like... I'm talking from a parent perspective here. Don't get me wrong, I don't want kids any time soon, but I dunno how I feel about them. I mean, I hate the little guys, but I also don't mind them! It's confusing. D:
My mom's taught kindergarten for over 10 years and I was helping in her class for a lot of it. It sort of carried over to my lifeguarding job this summer. That is, I didn't mind dealing with them at the park. Hell, I chose spots in the back of the water park on purpose because it meant there were less asshole teenagers (and it was awesome cardio but that's not the point). I even got a few customer compliments because I didn't really yell / whistle at kids; I legitimately disciplined them. But that's where I'm conflicted. I like keeping the little ragamuffins in line because it means they won't grow up to be as huge of assholes in life, but at the same time I can't stand them! Ughhhh. I know this is more venting than an inquiry, but anyone else understand where I'm coming from? The whole kid bomb worries me in a relationship context too, and I'm starting to get to an age where kids won't land me on MTV. I feel like I'd suck as a parent since all I can do is discipline and I'd end up taking out my insecurities on them or something.
(this is an awful time to bring this up given the recent LGBTP thing but it's in a totally platonic sense :lol)
Okay, so like... I'm talking from a parent perspective here. Don't get me wrong, I don't want kids any time soon, but I dunno how I feel about them. I mean, I hate the little guys, but I also don't mind them! It's confusing. D:
My mom's taught kindergarten for over 10 years and I was helping in her class for a lot of it. It sort of carried over to my lifeguarding job this summer. That is, I didn't mind dealing with them at the park. Hell, I chose spots in the back of the water park on purpose because it meant there were less asshole teenagers (and it was awesome cardio but that's not the point). I even got a few customer compliments because I didn't really yell / whistle at kids; I legitimately disciplined them. But that's where I'm conflicted. I like keeping the little ragamuffins in line because it means they won't grow up to be as huge of assholes in life, but at the same time I can't stand them! Ughhhh. I know this is more venting than an inquiry, but anyone else understand where I'm coming from? The whole kid bomb worries me in a relationship context too, and I'm starting to get to an age where kids won't land me on MTV. I feel like I'd suck as a parent since all I can do is discipline and I'd end up taking out my insecurities on them or something.
umop_3pisdn
Member
I thought the biological clock was like strictly like a womby thing
I like kids, for an afternoon, but I'll eternally be too irresponsible/apathetic to ever take on that responsibility, even though I can imagine the rewards that it would carry in a really vivid way, I guess I imagine the costs as vividly and from that I know it's not for me. If I ever became committed to the idea I would probably be a pretty great parent because kids like me and I love being a benevolent pedagogue to a captive audience.
I thought the biological clock was like strictly like a womby thing
Yea, but it's convenient shorthand for what I mean lol
Poltergust
Member
I honestly have no idea if I want to adopt a kid or not. For now though, I'll focus on college and getting a steady job.
I... I had no idea.
Maybe that stigma is still prevalent in Russia? The main justification they have for criminalizing gays over there is because they think of them as being pedophiles. I never really understood where they got that idea from until now.
I... I had no idea.
Maybe that stigma is still prevalent in Russia? The main justification they have for criminalizing gays over there is because they think of them as being pedophiles. I never really understood where they got that idea from until now.
Just had coffee with my ex because I wanted to be reminded of the shitty parts of him that really frustrated me.
That was working really well until it came out that he's been seeing someone I used to hook up with before I met my ex. I'm not even mad or jealous or anything, but what a weird phenomena that really would only happen to gay people (or if you were straight and dated two bi people, but that seems statistically lower...)
How odd.
That was working really well until it came out that he's been seeing someone I used to hook up with before I met my ex. I'm not even mad or jealous or anything, but what a weird phenomena that really would only happen to gay people (or if you were straight and dated two bi people, but that seems statistically lower...)
How odd.
Blood Diamonds
Banned
ahhhhhhhhhhh
I just want friends! like I don't want to see them as hot or cute or anything I just...
*sigh*
I just want friends! like I don't want to see them as hot or cute or anything I just...
*sigh*
Don't worry, you'll cease being 15 one day
That being said I never fancied my friends.
I don't know. It's really easy to stigmatize a group in that light, the differences between ephebophilia(sexual attraction to young teenagers) and actual pedophilia(sexual atraction to actual children) are often blurred, but attraction to young looking people is I think something that is very common in any age, gender or culture anywhere in the world, so it's very easy to really stigmatize gay people as "pedophiles" because many like young people, as in young looking people, but that is more fear mongering and play on semantics, it also happened in the States. I don't think the idea was "implanted" from the west as some paranoid russians believe, is just the easiest of scapegoats, it happens often unfortunately, even something as old and ubiquitous as the witch who steals your children, Hansel and Gretel, those kind of things led to stuff like the witch hunts and Salem trials, it's the sure way to get your populace to rile up, It's the "can someone think of the children" mentality.
Sexism plays a huge role too, lets not forget t.a.t.u came from Russia, and they were under aged teens, and of course the same crowd that is so homophobic right now in Russia didn't bat an eye to these girls, they were actually very successful. Take Britney Spears for instance as well, underage girl, but because she was meant to arouse heterosexual men no one said anything about "pedophilia".
Blood Diamonds
Banned
Don't worry, you'll cease being 15 one day
That being said I never fancied my friends.
I'M 16 ok
But seriously, I hate the feeling.
It becomes a problem when you date someone who kinda has trust issues and you have to convince them your best friend since college (who is another gay male) is more like a brother than anyone you could even consider being sexual with, much less cheating with.
And then you realize that, for most part, this isn't as common a problem in the straight community, as most people's BFFs tend to be of the same sex, and thus not a big deal because they're attracted to the opposite sex.
Blood Diamonds
Banned
It's not a crush.Ah, I thought you recently said you were 15. It's the same anyway
I really don't know what to advice. To me it's weird that you crush so hard on people who make no romantic advances towards you, I feel like you allow it to happen to some degree.
I guess some way I could put it is that the guy is really interesting and he's weird, but in a good way, and I'd like to be his friend without worrying about some side crap like "falling" for him or whatever shit, we've talked and all so I just want to be his friend and that's it. I agree, tho, It's kind of my fault. Though I don't really have issues with other people. I just assume that every new person I meet hates me until they start talking to me, so it comes as a shock when someone.. hm... out of my confort zone (?) Talks to me.
Anyway, thanks for listening.
User 73706
Banned
You're 16 dude. Try and make sure you aren't kidding yourself or anything. I had plenty of desires to "just friends" people senseless but then realized I really didn't after letting it happen for a while. Make sure you're completely, genuinely willing to try and maintain a healthy platonic friendship with him before you go off opening up to him all the waym
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