That's understandable, but please note that when, for example, May talked about the status of EU nationals in the UK, she paired that with the status of UK nationals in the EU. In truth, it's both sides who are going to use that as a bargaining chip, it's just that on the side of the UK that bargaining chip seems to be bigger, and that's why we hear about it from the UK. If the balance was on the side of the EU, we'd have heard about it from the EU.
I disagree. I believe there is a way to do a deal with the EU and get rid of free movement (of people). There *are* deals with other nations just waiting to be made, I refer you to Canada and New Zealand. Etc.
Again, it's a crisis, yes. It's not rosy. But the reasons to vote Leave (at least the ones I based my opinion on) didn't change one bit.
I don't know if you just happen to have unusually high priors, but I'm not sure how you can actually believe that based on the evidence we have received. On both subjects, near enough every piece of evidence regarding them has suggested that this will not be the case. People from Leave, from Remain, from Europe have all come out to say that free movement will have to stay. On trade deals, countries have said they aren't interested, experts have said it would take years to work anything out.
By every metric, your probability for these occurring should have been driven way down, so I can only presume your prior probabilities were way too high and not calibrated with reality for you to still believe this