I can't prevent myself from save scumming. I wish ironman was unlocked from the beginning, I would play with ironman on easy (if that's even a thing) - I don't want the uber stress / difficulty of regular xcom + ironman, but I want the tension from knowing bad mistakes do matter. And yes, the occasional thrill of losing my favorite soldier.
But ultimately, as much as I enjoy many things when playing this game, I think I don't really enjoy the 'real' xcom. I like the tactical positioning and the actual battles, but I don't enjoy the moment right before the battle, the pod discoveries and metagame around making sure you're not awakening a pod with your last soldier's last turn.
I get it's part of the core of xcom mechanics, but it just feels unfair (on the other hand, I have no trouble with the RNG itself). The enemy always gets to go behind cover or get closer to you for free.
This with the time pressure the game added - I don't know. I must also be one of the few that prefers xcom to xcom 2. The procedural maps often feel a bit wonky - and some mission types are just not fun to me. The worst being the ambush - it's not that hard, but for some reason I find these extremely unfun.
(On the other hand, my favorite type of mission is the rescue, so perhaps I should just go play metal gear solid :/ ).
The chosen base missions are pretty good, too.
One final note - I only played xcom 2 with WOTC (same with Xcom 1, only played EW). I dislike the fact they removed missions! It almost feels like I am missing part of the story. For instance people keep referring Valhen when meeting alien kings, but without the intro mission, that tidbit of dialogue makes no sense :/