the problem for me is that ideally you like to have a bit of banter, some to and fro in the discussion, and if you're constantly second guessing what you're posting, that takes away from the argument.
(this is all predicated on your natural posting style not being hateful or overly abrasive). Which is why I'm kind of surprised that both Dave and Musha got banned. Dave has a certain posting 'style' which might wind people up if you read it literally, but you'd think mods would be able to understand the context most of the time. Assuming Musha's ban was because of that ogling thread, then that is just confusing - didn't even seem to be an argument with devo, just a disagreement.