So I just got a message from my wife saying her dad has been 'screwed' by the council and I'm trying to figure out where I stand on this. Quick history - her dad is about 76, her mum is about 45 and really quite disabled - lots of mental health problems, spine problems, confined to a wheelchair. Neither of them work, obviously.
I'm not sure the hows and whys of it but somehow (they're very very frugal) he always had a bit too much money in the bank and yearly would have to give the kids about £200 each, probably about a grand a year, I guess so he didn't get taxed on his savings. Now because of new rules he's having to pay a lot more rent than previously and apparently got stung with some kind of council tax bill too. The trouble is, he's a fretful and untrusting old man, and trying to speak with him about it is almost impossible. As an old hippy he'd deeply distrustful of the government and so now it's all about him being attacked and robbed by them.
But in the bak of my head I'm thinking "wait, you're both on benefits (for good reason, but nonetheless), you shouldn't even be able to have savings". Is it cunty of me to have this thought? I have no problem with benefits, I think they are exactly for people in their position - old and disabled, utterly unable to work. But at the same time, you shouldn't have so many benefits that you can have reserve savings of X thousands. I work and I don't have savings. IMO the benefits should be enough to cover rent, bills, food and a little bit beside for quality of life and that's it.
So basically I know that when mrs gets home tonight I'm getting an earful of this. So help me prepare - do I say how I'm feeling, or do I just nod along with general "yeah that's terrible" stuff and not give my actual opinion?