For those of you in here who lift, what kept you motivated while searching? Did you continue after you found success dating?
I'm trying to motivate myself.
Yes, because I can feel the desire lacking when I get out of shape. I was in perfect shape last summer, but because dating and GF even more, requires drinking and going out, and nursing hangovers I did start to work out less, and eat more junk.
While searching, its easier. What motivates me is the amazing feeling of feeling you look good, and being attractive to society, not just the opposite sex. I have been very strict with diet and exercise in the past, all to attract people to me. I guess, just knowing its worth it.
The bigger your social group, the more I socialize, have friends, the more it motivates me not to be a slob, or to eat better and socialize. Putting yourself in these situations instead, of just going home and vaporizing and watching TV, that is what will motivate one.
Eh, my boyfriend's and I's TV/movie tastes only match up every once and a while (if there's enough action and fights and explosions, we can both like it lol). He like anime, me... not at much. I like most sitcoms and drama stuff, he doesn't. It's whatever, you don't have to have a bunch in common to be with someone. I mean you gotta have some common thread or something, but media doesn't have to be the one
I do believe this, but I do personally need to at least be able to talk about art and culture with person I am dating, in a certain way. I mean, I have talked to this with my GF many times, because there is lots of stuff we wouldn't enjoy together, and that is fine. But I just don't get it when someone can't enjoy the same comedies or some rather obvious stuff. I get it if she doesn't wanna watch Star Wars.
But everyone should like Community, lol. Sorry, they should fucking LOVE it.
If I had to choose between that person and alone? Alone. Right now I'd rather be alone, free, and unattached since I just got out of a relationship. I'm only 27 and right now I'm trying to get a fling going with an older woman 30 - 40 without being an asshole, of course. Just honest and something casual, nothing serious. But it's proving difficult due to my lifestyle and what they want so I may just drop it for a while and get back into it when I'm ready for something real. Then I would search for women closer to my age.
Yeah, I think that is the right answer. But man, just having someone who loves you is intoxicating. Dunno if I love her, but I certainly love feelin loved. The physical connection is powerful, but yeah. You got ages man, relax. Especially if you can meet people at work. Work or university. I do think many people should make their move at work or university, depending on the person.
