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I did try a couple of dating sites once or twice, but always seemed to forget about the profile after a week or so. Besides which, I lived in Thailand and there wasn't much of a "hey I live within a 50-kilometer radius of you" vibe to any of the dating sites (well, except for AsianFriendFinder, but man the people I talked to on there were rather ... odd, to put it mildly).
My husband and I met on a MUD called Achaea, which makes us more "hardcore" (or just bigger dorks!) than those who meet their spouses on a graphical MMO. We hit it off, and to make a long story short, now here I am in Spain with him.
*pastes a "Happily Ever After" sticker here* (J/K)
Edited to add: I'm fortunate in that my husband shares my gaming passions. Or maybe I should say he's lucky that I'm a gamer ... and that the internet was born. We never would have met otherwise.
My husband and I met on a MUD called Achaea, which makes us more "hardcore" (or just bigger dorks!) than those who meet their spouses on a graphical MMO. We hit it off, and to make a long story short, now here I am in Spain with him.
*pastes a "Happily Ever After" sticker here* (J/K)
Edited to add: I'm fortunate in that my husband shares my gaming passions. Or maybe I should say he's lucky that I'm a gamer ... and that the internet was born. We never would have met otherwise.
Went on date (well I wouldn't call it that, more like hung out) with a girl I met through OKCupid at Knotts Scary Farm and it was very, very bad and I think I'm gonna bail on internet dating.
It was just really boring as neither of us really had anything in common or any mutual grounds to talk about. Plus neither of us had any sexual interest in each other so it was just like two random people walking around. So, so boring.
Also as someone who is 25, talking to a 19 year old is ZZZZZ. Anytime you refer to "back in the day" they were two young to be a part of it and when you ask about their life stories they have none besides daytime = school / nighttime = internet or partying. They haven't gone anywhere, accomplished anything, etc...Synthesizer Patel once drunkenly stated to me that he could never date a girl still in College because they'd yet to really live at that point and after tonight I have to agree with him.
Plus I think I'm way too nice of a person and hanging out with nice girls is just boring since it's like polite x polite. My last GF of 7 years ago was a ****ed up, mean, smoker/drinker/cheater and despite the problems at least it was already exciting. If I'm going to stay a super timid, polite, chivalerous person (which I sorta picked up in Japan and doubt I can shake it off at this point), then I better look for non-polite girls; because the only thing worse than no dates is boring dates that make you want to zzzzzzz. :\
Well, either that or find someone who I can talk about import rpgs with but...yeah I think that's like one in a million so it ain't gonna happen.
All the people on the internet dating sights say they are "nice" and "kind" and etc.... so I think I'll have to hit the clubs with Mr. Patel and try to find some rocking cool gals who have some personality.
It was just really boring as neither of us really had anything in common or any mutual grounds to talk about. Plus neither of us had any sexual interest in each other so it was just like two random people walking around. So, so boring.
Also as someone who is 25, talking to a 19 year old is ZZZZZ. Anytime you refer to "back in the day" they were two young to be a part of it and when you ask about their life stories they have none besides daytime = school / nighttime = internet or partying. They haven't gone anywhere, accomplished anything, etc...Synthesizer Patel once drunkenly stated to me that he could never date a girl still in College because they'd yet to really live at that point and after tonight I have to agree with him.
Plus I think I'm way too nice of a person and hanging out with nice girls is just boring since it's like polite x polite. My last GF of 7 years ago was a ****ed up, mean, smoker/drinker/cheater and despite the problems at least it was already exciting. If I'm going to stay a super timid, polite, chivalerous person (which I sorta picked up in Japan and doubt I can shake it off at this point), then I better look for non-polite girls; because the only thing worse than no dates is boring dates that make you want to zzzzzzz. :\
Well, either that or find someone who I can talk about import rpgs with but...yeah I think that's like one in a million so it ain't gonna happen.
All the people on the internet dating sights say they are "nice" and "kind" and etc.... so I think I'll have to hit the clubs with Mr. Patel and try to find some rocking cool gals who have some personality.
Bebpo said:
Wow, I really empathise with this. And your post just made me realise I'm going to have to make a concious effort to change that. It's still early days with us, though, so I'm hoping we'll break through that timidity soon. Not that it's boring per se, we have plenty to talk about, but we're so platonic right now because we're both trying to be "nice" all the time.
Bebpo said:
HAY GUYS I tried something one time and it didn't work so that must mean it never works and I am never going to try it again because my experience has shown that internet dating is teh suck.
You're not going to get a homerun on your first at bat. Keep swinging, dude. I talked to 2-3 girls on Match without ever meeting them, went out with another one who was a complete dud, and then finally found a winner. It takes time.
zesty said:
Yeah, I get the general idea. But dating is kinda expensive! I think I finally figured out how I can spend so much on gaming...because I don't date! Last night between parking, food, tickets cost me ~$50; I could have bought GTA:VCS for that price! And I'm pretty sure I'd have had more fun with GTA:VCS >_<
I love games too much
What are some cheap things to do for dates?
Bebpo said:Yeah, I get the general idea. But dating is kinda expensive! I think I finally figured out how I can spend so much on gaming...because I don't date! Last night between parking, food, tickets cost me ~$50; I could have bought GTA:VCS for that price! And I'm pretty sure I'd have had more fun with GTA:VCS >_<
I love games too much
What are some cheap things to do for dates?
You paid for her, didn't you?
Bebpo said:Yeah, I get the general idea. But dating is kinda expensive! I think I finally figured out how I can spend so much on gaming...because I don't date! Last night between parking, food, tickets cost me ~$50; I could have bought GTA:VCS for that price! And I'm pretty sure I'd have had more fun with GTA:VCS >_<
I love games too much
With this type of attitude, you do not deserve to get laid. It might be hard to believe, but intercourse > gaming (usually).
Dating is far far far more important than video games. Sacrifice game money for date money. What will you do if you get married and have kids? You can't have such a focus on gaming like you do now.Bebpo said:Yeah, I get the general idea. But dating is kinda expensive! I think I finally figured out how I can spend so much on gaming...because I don't date! Last night between parking, food, tickets cost me ~$50; I could have bought GTA:VCS for that price! And I'm pretty sure I'd have had more fun with GTA:VCS >_<
I love games too much
What are some cheap things to do for dates?
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If you have that kind of patience then I commend you.zesty said:
This also.Bebpo said:Yeah, I get the general idea. But dating is kinda expensive! I think I finally figured out how I can spend so much on gaming...because I don't date! Last night between parking, food, tickets cost me ~$50; I could have bought GTA:VCS for that price! And I'm pretty sure I'd have had more fun with GTA:VCS >_<
I love games too much
What are some cheap things to do for dates?
zesty said:
Uh, I've had both and I still love games
I'm not some guy new to the dating scene, just very out of practice. I was pretty active back in the day, but that was 7 years ago and 7 years of giving up on women makes it very difficult to get back into liking them; especially since I've changed a lot during those years. I just had a really bad situation w/my previous GF regarding a lot of things I can't type on GAF that made me swear off ever dating a women again until I was 30 and wanted to settle down and get married. The only reason I'm thinking of starting back up now is seeing all these success stories on GAF and a few other things.
BigGreenMat
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It's true Dating is a freaking wallet drain. It is best not to get involved in it. Always have first dates be something free and easy that allows conversation... that or meeting up and getting drunk at a bar because that always lessens the blow.
Howard Alan Treesong
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I think the problem is you went on too elaborate a first date...first date should just be coffee or lunch, not a trip to an amusement park. And be glad you're not dating in Japan...like twice as expensive there. I would be out 2 man several evenings...bleh. It is expensive, and it is something you have to work at and prioritize.
fatigues_gasolini
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Myspace is what helped me, but that wasnt the best idea. Im trying to get out there and meet new people, but I dont really have any help. None of my friends want to go out with me, because they are tied down to their wives/girlfriends. So im basically flying solo, but having limited social interaction through high school, plus being large doesnt help. Ive tried eharmony, but they keep saying no one matches my profile.
Uh, yeah I'd just like to add that it was not I who choose the date. It was more like:
Girl: Hey lets go to Knotts
Me: When?
Girl: Now!
Me: No good, have work in the morning.
Girl: But we'll leave by midnight.
Me: Dunno, it's expensive these days right?
Girl: $30!
Me: Hmm....
Girl: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE
Me: Uhm..ok I guess.
Yeah I would have just preferred coffee But I'm a nice guy and it's tough for me to be a dick and say no to girls asking me to do wont-get-arrested things.
Girl: Hey lets go to Knotts
Me: When?
Girl: Now!
Me: No good, have work in the morning.
Girl: But we'll leave by midnight.
Me: Dunno, it's expensive these days right?
Girl: $30!
Me: Hmm....
Girl: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE
Me: Uhm..ok I guess.
Yeah I would have just preferred coffee
But I'm a nice guy and it's tough for me to be a dick and say no to girls asking me to do wont-get-arrested things.
.hacked
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I been out with a few girls I met on OKcupid, they all turned out to be nice people. Any awkwardness was completely my fault (i.e. picking to meet at a coffee place that was not opened anymore, seeing a movie that featured a lesbian sex scene, ect...)
It is a convenient way to meet new people if you can't do it through work or school.
It is a convenient way to meet new people if you can't do it through work or school.
Systems_id
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What the hell?:lol.hacked said:
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Systems_id said:
It was a spur of the moment thing, I didn't even look at the rating and had no idea what it was about. The movie was the Black Dahlia, and it had a girl on girl scene, made for an awkward 1st date =/
I am clueless with women so I don't know if she liked it or not but it just made me embarrassed and I was no good after that :lol
Hey but I am getting better, she says I don't turn beet red when I talk to her anymore, so it is an improvement =p
evil solrac v3.0
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YES.....
Yeah, I get the general idea. But dating is kinda expensive! I think I finally figured out how I can spend so much on gaming...because I don't date! Last night between parking, food, tickets cost me ~$50; I could have bought GTA:VCS for that price! And I'm pretty sure I'd have had more fun with GTA:VCS >_<
I love games too much
What are some cheap things to do for dates?
oh for ****'s sake man.....
.hacked said:
Yeah, I met a couple of nice girls on OKCupid... a few months ago a girl who was blonde (!), Polish (!!) and cosplayed (!!!) PMed me and I really liked her, too bad that didn't work out because she was a bit too young (18)... I actually went on a coffee date with a girl from OKCupid last night, to this local coffee house I discovered the other day (a rare find out on Starbucks Island). Hung out with her before at Dave and Busters a couple times, she is pretty cool but there are other girls I want to date first before I just pick one, lol.
I kinda like going on dates with people, even if it really doesn't have much of a chance working out... its always fun getting to meet different personalities and such and it was *GREAT* at helping me build confidence for myself (back in college, I was one of *those* people who used to think women would never be interested in him). And of course there are girls you WILL click with... folks just give it time. You'll be pleasantly surprised... they don't necessarily have to share your interests 1:1.
Some not-too-expensive things to do for dates:
-Coffeehouses
-Hole-in-the-wall ethnic food places - food is usually good, the places aren't necessarily that expensive, either. Maybe 10-15 bucks per plate.
-Walk around a park or a small village or something - great way to talk, take in the sights, get to know someone...
-Biking/Rollerblading - I am a big fan of mountainbiking, sometimes I will ride bikes around a park or on a bike trail or so with a girl. It's free (if you have the bike!), plus some girls like doing active/outdoorsy stuff on dates.
-Bowling or Pool - I pretty much suck at both games but that doesn't stop me (nor my date) from having a good time. Comes to about 10-15 bucks per person.
-Dave and Busters - I have taken more girls here than any other place, I think. Have drinks at the bar, shoot pool, play games... I have a ton of money on my card since I go here a lot so I just paid for the girl's games and stuff when I went.
.hacked
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djtiesto said:
That is basically what I have been doing over the last few months, haven't met anyone yet I would fall head over heels for but at least if I do I'll be ready for it. Made a lot of interesting new friends that honestly I would never have met any other way.
oh and stay away from eharmoney, the girls on there want to get hitched, and bad. They just come on so strong it is like they are trying to sell you a used car :lol
evil solrac v3.0
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Bebpo said:Oh no, people have different values with their time/money than you!
This is a gaming-forum. I am a hardcore gamer; yes I would cancel a date over playing a new MGS game or camping for a PS3; I'm not you
i hope to god you were joking though........
evil solrac v3.0
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Cheebs said:
that's what i wanted to say.
Cheebs said:
Ok, you might have a point with PS3 camping (though in reality you're weight six months of waiting vs. 1 or 2 nights with a caring person and that's still sorta leaning towards the PS3)
But something like playing an MGS game over a date. That's not about material possessions but rather the emotional experience and investment of an MGS game vs. the same with a real person and I have no doubt that Kojima with his dialogue would be more entertaining than any person I would date could ever be with theirs.
Perhaps I should clarify what I mean.Bebpo said:
There is nothing wrong with really enjoying a hobby, or with occasionally preferring to indulge in that hobby rather than spending time with other people. (Spending some time by yourself can be a very healthy thing.) There is also nothing wrong with choosing to be single for a while -- there are lots of reasons why dating wouldn't be preferred at a given time in your life. (Too busy with school or work, getting over another relationship, about to move, dealing with health issues, etc.)
However, human beings are inherently social animals, and a blanket preference for videogames over dating isn't normal. Yes, I've heard of people being so socially awkward and frustrated with a lack of success in dating that they give up for a while...but your drive still ought to be in the direction of "how do I meet the right girl/boy?" at this age.
So yes, if you are convinced that MGSx would be more emotionally involving than dating a human being, I think you ought to talk to someone about that.
-jinx- said:
eh, I'm the same way.... though not with kojima or video games in general for that matter. But certainly I find high quality books and movies to be more interesting than people. People are shallow, predictable, and boring.
Different people enjoy different things to different degrees. I don't see why the social people should be considered 'right' simply because they have the majority.
djtiesto said:
good words ------- I'm really really trying to do this - date with a little more innocence, but be more active when it comes to just meeting people who don't share ALL of my interests. The last 6 years of my life have been 3 year relationship living with someone, completely transitioning to another 3 year relationship of living with someone else ...... dating is new again, and i want to be more active about it being simple friendly banter and not hardcore relationships ---
whenever i've been single, i usually go about my life doing my own shit and happen uppon whatever girl who shares the same schedule/interests --------- so we end up falling for eachother. i need to build the confidence back, and fluff my feathers a bit.
in Austin TX there's just SO MANY beutiful people ---- it screws with your standards, but mostly standards of your own self --- i've never had to put up a huge amt of effort finding girls, since there seems to be a type of girl attracted to me and they usually make all the effort --------------- but here it's hard to judge yourself, there's tons of handsome gentlemen --- and tons of outlandishly pretty girls (that's help with shyness, since it's not such a rare thing)
I come from Alabama, where the criteria for being "attractive" was that you were a reasonable body-weight ---- but the majority is thin here.
I'm mostly probobly going to give the internet-dating a go --- since i have plenty of work-hours, and i love to spend my free-time drawing and bonding with my new friends ---- rather than hunting ..... I'll see how it goes, and be back...
slayn said:
i sometimes feel the same way... but realizing that it takes a while to open someone up beyond that "shallow,predictable,boring" shell...
my problem is that i really love brainstorming, creating, and art/design with people ------ and that's something that takes way way long for someone to open up about ... even still they might not have that much of it in them afterall too.
andthebeatgoeson
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Kung Fu Jedi said:As I mentioned in other thread about this last week, read the profiles of the women you are interested in carefully. Look for things that catch your eye, and then write them a personal e-mail that mentions things from their profile. Don't write a couple of messages and then just cut and paste them in. Actually take the time to write something to each woman on a personal level. It goes a long way.
Also, use spell check and proof read before you send it. There are tons of guys on these sites who can't spell or put together a co-herent sentence. It may not seem much to you and me, but to women, it makes a big deal. Plus, You'll stand out more from the crowd.
Ha, my buddy does the opposite. He sends 50 girls generic emails, all of the same type. 'Hi, I like your page, blah blah blah' and crap like that. I think he sends each chick the same message. He ends up getting a few replies and has slept with a few of them in the last 2-3 months. Pretty impressive. Well, it probably doesn't hurt that he's a doctor but still.
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slayn said:
I want to quote your tag for truth.
Your statements make sense in the context that you haven't experienced the opposite. I find it incredibly hard to believe someone could have a fulfilling, bonding relationship with someone on a friend or significant other-level and come away with the same attitude.
Mike Works
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:lol :lol :lol :lol :lol :lolBebpo said:Yeah, I get the general idea. But dating is kinda expensive! I think I finally figured out how I can spend so much on gaming...because I don't date! Last night between parking, food, tickets cost me ~$50; I could have bought GTA:VCS for that price! And I'm pretty sure I'd have had more fun with GTA:VCS >_<
I love games too much
What are some cheap things to do for dates?
There needs to be a :lol smiley that's crying at the same time just for this ****ing post.
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alright, now just a crying smileyBebpo said:
Poor guy's obviously never experienced that and is afraid to venture into the unknown in fear of getting hurt or rejected.eXxy said:
He has become a housecat in a world of lions.
eXxy said:
I've not spent my life being a social recluse (well ok, for the past 1.5 years I have). But in highschool/college etc I had a ton of friends, spent my weekends going out, not in my room. I had a handful of especially close friends, friend's I'll keep to the day I die, and what I guess I could call a hetero soulmate.
And I just grew... bored of it all. If I don't know someone well, then conversation consists of polite trivial crap. And if I do know someone well, I pretty much know what they're going to say before they say it. And so even with all that I was happiest when I was alone.
eXxy said:
Eh, I'm a halfway between you two. I've had those relationships and I can have a great time with friends/women; but at the same time I still think a Kojima experience >>>>>> much of that, but that's all subjective since you have so many different experiences with real people and they all vary completely.
I can however state that playing an MGS game for the first time >>> sex.
PS. I don't mean the crappy cheesy terrible dialogue and acting you find in US versions of MGS, but the pure "these are the letters Kojima is typing on his page" award-winning oscar-level writing in the Japanese MGS games.
Mike Works
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I want to kill myself after reading your posts.
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Why?Mike Works said:
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