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I ask again, how do you have the patience to put up with this?djtiesto said:
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demon said:yikes.
You should be a virgin, not me.
Insane gamer by day, Insane party-person by night. Get's you the best of both worlds and best of all you always get to be yourself and never give in to these bullshit pretentions everyone puts around you.
Fifty said:
Hey, Kojima is pretty sexy.
djtiesto said:
For me, going on a bunch of dates where it "doesn't have much of a chance working out" doesn't help me build confidence at all. On the contrary, it seems to be destroying it. Because I can't seem to get past the 1-2 date "hump" and progress any further. Me being able to have a pleasant conversation with a girl over coffee or drinks doesn't help me progress to anything physical, for example.
Like the last girl I went out on two dates with. When I asked if she wanted to do something this weekend, she said:
"Aaron, i'm not really sure if we're compatible dating wise"
"and i think i might lose my mind travelling downtown every weekend...haha"
"sorry...the first date was awesome...but the second date felt like we were just friends"
yeah, a real confidence booster that is.
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Mike Works said:
QFT
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anyways, any tips on going about e-dating on Myspace? How do you search for people in your area, etc? I've kinda-sorta tried on plentyofwhales.com, but there just isn't much selection on that site in my area. And it seems all the other decent dating sites aren't free.
anyways, any tips on going about e-dating on Myspace? How do you search for people in your area, etc? I've kinda-sorta tried on plentyofwhales.com, but there just isn't much selection on that site in my area. And it seems all the other decent dating sites aren't free.
demon said:
For myspace, I tend to browse with pretty loose criteria. You'd be surprised how many results you are narrowing down if you specify, say, race, or smoking or something. Because I think a lot of people leave stuff blank, and those will get ignored.
The other thing to be absolutely sure about when searching any of these sites, is 'last longin.' Sometimes it isn't that you got ignored, but that the person doesn't even remember they have an active account. Unless the person has logged in within the last month, I wouldn't bother.
Yeah I'm not what you may call a "dating expert" quite yet, but I think boogie just needs to throw in some random titty-grabs and obsene gestures with his tongue. What else can you say if the guy has it all together otherwise yet keeps getting "friendzoned"?Gruco said:
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I just got a great idea for a tv show: I show up in Toronto (or where ever boogie is in Canadia) and coach boogie on his dating skills and help him out with dates. It'll be called "Blind Leading the Blind", coming next spring on Fox!
Ahh, ok. Actually I was looking at the "Search" page and didn't even notice the "Browse" page with all the search criteria, lol. That helps.
Gruco said:
First date when I tried to kiss her, she said she doesn't kiss on first dates.
Second date, I didn't feel comfortable going for a kiss because we had to meet up with her sister and her sister's friends at the end of the night for them all to catch the subway home. I didn't feel confident risking getting turned down for a kiss in front of an audience.
Fact is, I wasn't comfortable making the initiative for physical contact with her after her saying that she has a policy of not kissing on a first date. Given that, how was I to know what sort of contact she'd allow. Maybe I'd try to put my arm around her and she'd tell me she has a policy of not having someone put his arm around her on a second date, or some shit like that. Just made me paranoid and tentative.
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Boogie said:
Pinch her on the bot bot when she's not expecting it
Boogie said:
You fail because you're playing by their rules. Entertain them by entertaining yourself. If you're not entertaining yourself, and you're not entertaining them, then the whole thing is pointless anyway.
If a girl tells me she doesn't kiss on the first date, I lean back and say "yikes, sounds like you have some hangups!" then I let her talk, and then I say "hey listen, we should probably cut this short" and assuming you were entertaining enough, she'll come out with an explanation and be willing to "work it out".
After that, I usually end up making out with her that day or the next time.
demon said:
Fact: I get rejected ALL the time.
Fact 2: Which also means I've simultaneously rejected them.
Fact 3: You're accepted or rejected within the first 15 seconds to 5 minutes. After that all you have to do is not screw up, which is a simple matter of building on the momentum you began with in the first 15 seconds, ie: be fun, don't be nervous, and they won't be freaked out.
FiRez said:
WTF, why is this surprising?
I used to be a crazy wild punk kid; ditching school to get do Mexico runs and get drunk with my GF, crashing parties together; rocking the punk/ska shows; evading cops while enjoying the inside of a car; etc.. but then I was also failing college and ****ing up my life
So after all that I worked my ass off to get my grades up high; mellowed down; moved to Japan; learned to become zen and enjoy nature and rpgs and became who I am now (though back in the US).
I'm still a crazy punk rocker in heart and soul, but at the same time I've learned how you need to act in society and what you need to do in order to progress and make lots of money. So I just try to act what's appropriate when it counts (work/school/etc..) and act as myself when I'm on my own.
I've had chances to create relationships while in Japan but the girls hitting on me were like 15 and yeah...I don't swing that way.
I'm me, myself, I. On GAF I'm like 50% of my real self since you need to be somewhat well-spoken when arguing about the videogame industry; but in real life I'm fairly different than my GAF persona.
Boogie said:
You get nervous because you care. Why do you care? Because you're already picturing yourself having sex with the girl.
But WHAT IF she's secretly a bitch? What if she's only into picking flowers all day? What if she wants you to be a slave to her and pick her toenails while you cook her dinner?
What if you two literally have no compatible personality traits aside from the fact you think she's hot? Turn that feeling off because the girl could be a nightmare, and most girls stop caring about a guy's looks by their early 20s, no matter what they say.
So all of a sudden, this girl who you're getting nervous about the prospect of sex with is not thinking the same way, because even if you're good looking, looks mean almost nothing to her, they're just a bonus.
Any bad personality trait she displays should have you tease her instantly. "Oh god, you're a complainer!" Most girls are going to instantly treat you like their girlfriends unless you put the kibosh on it RIGHT AWAY. And if the girl starts mouthing off you have a right to mouth off back, walk away, or continue joking. Let her know YOUR rules. Never waste time on time wasters.
You're the man, and while you don't have to take it to a caveman mentality, you have every obligation to make her know that you are the man!
I'm currently dating a girl I have no business being with, simply because of the fact that I don't take shit or lousy behavior from anyone. The night I met the girl, I was invited by a friend to her party. That night, I downtalked, in a joking but serious way, a good looking 6'5" bouncer dude about a bunch of topics and didn't waiver for a second. I'm 5'8" and 140lbs. After that I teased her all night about her dumb insecurities and complaining until I guided her into the kitchen and started making out with her. She's absolutely stunning. Had I backed down and not been stern, funny, or shown my personality completely and totally, I never would have heard from her again, guaranteed.
I went on a date a week ago, first time I've ever asked a girl out(
). I tried to call her several time the week before, spent hours with the phone on my hand :lol I finally got brave enough to do it. I was waaaaay nervous on the date but had a good time, she said she had a good time too. Didn't kiss her, didn't want to do it on the first date. There was an ackward moment when I said goodbye though, don't know if she was expecting it. We are planning on a second date 
I'm 27
junkster said:
none of this seems helpful in any way. I don't care about those hypotheticals. If the girl has "no compatible personality traits", then I won't be attracted to her, I won't care, and I won't see her again. That doesn't help me succeed with the ones I AM interested in.
And I'm not very good at "teasing". It doesn't come naturally to me, and I don't recognize opportunities to do so.
And when I do tease women, it never provokes attraction in them. In high school, I just pissed girls off with my "don't care" attitude. Hell, I have one longtime girl_friend who I tease the crap out of, and all it does is piss her off. But I'm more Frienzoned with her than with any girl I've ever met, and she's the one I tease the most.
Well then I suggest Street UFC with hot bystanders.
Seriously though, have you ever suggested that they blow it out their ass if they get pissed? Or "lighten up, I'm just joking"? You ARE a good looking dude and you are a black belt at martial arts, that's enough to intimdate most girls.
Don't let them intimidate you or say sorry if you really are joking. I used to get blown out by that within 2 minutes, and when I'd say sorry I'd quickly become just another one of their gf's.
You're allowed to joke! In fact, letting them know, in a non apologetic way would probably do well. Joking about something circumstantial is almost always the way I start talkin to a new girl.
Seriously though, have you ever suggested that they blow it out their ass if they get pissed? Or "lighten up, I'm just joking"? You ARE a good looking dude and you are a black belt at martial arts, that's enough to intimdate most girls.
Don't let them intimidate you or say sorry if you really are joking. I used to get blown out by that within 2 minutes, and when I'd say sorry I'd quickly become just another one of their gf's.
You're allowed to joke! In fact, letting them know, in a non apologetic way would probably do well. Joking about something circumstantial is almost always the way I start talkin to a new girl.
junkster said:
Yep. Then they just tended to stew on it. They certainly don't seem to lighten up, anyway.
Yeah, I'm sure I intimidate girls. Where's the rolleyes smiley?
I know that. I just don't have enough ability to joke. When I'm on a date, I live in mortal fear (exaggeration) of running out of things to say/talk about and her getting bored. I can carry on well enough for an hour or two, but I just tend to sputter out after a while.
alejob said:I went on a date a week ago, first time I've ever asked a girl out(). I tried to call her several time the week before, spent hours with the phone on my hand :lol I finally got brave enough to do it. I was waaaaay nervous on the date but had a good time, she said she had a good time too. Didn't kiss her, didn't want to do it on the first date. There was an ackward moment when I said goodbye though, don't know if she was expecting it. We are planning on a second dateI'm 27
Sounds like it went well
boogie said:
I used to know a guy who picked up his GF without saying a word; instead he showed her crazy shapes he could make with his tongue and she kept laughing and wanted to hang out with him again. Ie. Sometimes just doing random stuff works as well as actually being funny with words. I'm a fan of walking strangely and just acting wierd in general or saying random stuff that makes no sense; jokes come secondary.
McLesterolBeast
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Most girls (and guys) dont need much stimulation to keep them going in a conversation.
Just try to look interested.
Just as an experiment I decided to try the whole resume bombardment. Mostly I had been trying to construct meaningful/specific/conversational emails to the girls that interested me. I've now decided thats a terrible, terrible idea. First, it meant I didn't send that many messages because of the effort involved. But also, because its that much more annoying when it gets ignored.
So instead, I decided to just try copy and pasting the same thing and just blast out like 50 different messages in the matter of about 10 minutes, and I already have a few responses. It seems like this is definitely the way to go.
And hell, its easier too. Laziness ftw.
So instead, I decided to just try copy and pasting the same thing and just blast out like 50 different messages in the matter of about 10 minutes, and I already have a few responses. It seems like this is definitely the way to go.
And hell, its easier too. Laziness ftw.
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demon said:
with me. sorry pal.
Cosmic Bus
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Beyond simply holding an practically inactive Myspace account, I'm trying Consumating at the moment. It is an admittedly slight attempt to meet someone, if only to talk with and whatnot; dating and relationships just aren't things I'm capable of in an emotional sense (or financially, for that matter). The interface and "tagging" system on Consumating are kind of neat, and I can see myself having a decent time looking around.
Trouble is, this being such a rural, reasonably secluded area, there are hardly any people within a suitable distance, and even fewer gay guys. IIRC, when I checked, the only three or four were in the next state over. :\
I would really like an event, an opportunity, anything push me into moving away to a more populated, interesting location... It's unlikely to ever happen voluntarily, with my ****ing mindset and lack of any direction elsewhere.
Trouble is, this being such a rural, reasonably secluded area, there are hardly any people within a suitable distance, and even fewer gay guys. IIRC, when I checked, the only three or four were in the next state over. :\
I would really like an event, an opportunity, anything push me into moving away to a more populated, interesting location... It's unlikely to ever happen voluntarily, with my ****ing mindset and lack of any direction elsewhere.
Dude, why don't you just f*cking move? Hating where you live is the worst, and that alone should be enough incentive to move. Unless you're really set in your job, why not just pick a city that really interests you and move there?Hotarubi said:
Too much cocky, not enough funny?Boogie said:
Seriously though, I myself am pretty good at playfully teasing girls with positive reactions, on those oh so rare occasions that I actually get to feel comfortable with a girl. I think I attribute that at least partially to growing up with two younger sisters, so I have years of experience with teasing girls and having a good idea how they'll take it. You can't be too annoying when you do it....that's the kicker.
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demon said:
Because I don't exactly have a wealth of job opportunities at my fingertips or the ability to build any significant savings required for living outside this sort of low-cost, low-populace town.
Retail is my only real option, and given that I'm fairly content with my current job and truly adore the people I work with, to say I'm hesitant about dumping it all for a starting anew somewhere else would be quite an understatement. I don't exactly relish going out in society much, either, so I'm quite grateful for the comfort having my family and a few close friends nearby provides. Moving could provide a host of wonderful new things for me -- or push me further into my already secluded life. I'm utterly terrified of pursuing the option.
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I was at a party the other night, invited by my new flatmate, and I was chatting to one of her friends, getting on alright, having a laugh, nothing happened, party ended. Walking home with my flatmate she commented on how flirty I was, stroking the girl's arm, whispering to her, eye contact.
I'd mentioned to my flatmates the week before I was crap at chatting to girls so she paid particular attention to me that night, the day after the partyshe mentioned she didn't know many guys that act that naturally with birds, and says the girl in question wants to see me again, I'm playing it cool, sounds like I'm a bit of a playaa without knowing it. Going for a few drinks this week some time.
Touching the girl's arm and telling her stupid "secrets" if you're in a social situation is a good way to show you're interested.
I wouldn't mind trying some of these dating sites, I've heard a couple of stories from friends that it's mainly bored housewives up for it!!
I'd mentioned to my flatmates the week before I was crap at chatting to girls so she paid particular attention to me that night, the day after the partyshe mentioned she didn't know many guys that act that naturally with birds, and says the girl in question wants to see me again, I'm playing it cool, sounds like I'm a bit of a playaa without knowing it. Going for a few drinks this week some time.
Touching the girl's arm and telling her stupid "secrets" if you're in a social situation is a good way to show you're interested.
I wouldn't mind trying some of these dating sites, I've heard a couple of stories from friends that it's mainly bored housewives up for it!!
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:lolHotarubi said:
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wow, I just read the thread title as "Dating Sisters" and I thought "FHUTA"
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