For what it's worth, I'm really proud of you for thinking this. It sucks that they are not as open minded as you and your choice of expression but it speaks to your character that you are willing to take the high road.
I appreciate that. I meant to quote you earlier when you were in support of me but I forgot.
That wasn't a nice thing of them to do. It kind of wreaks. It's the sort of thing that would damage my relationship with them unless and until it's addressed and resolved. I can understand family obligations and eating shit sandwiches, but I would be upset about it.
FWIW you can come to my wedding wearing whatever offensive stuff you want. The bride has a tattoo on her forehead, though, so it may be hard for you to outdo her.
Man, nobody's perfect. Just because somebody does one thing that's not nice doesn't mean you launch into full on retaliation mode.
And honestly it may even be my fault. Had they not seen that I was willing to let my dye fade out for my India trip, then they may not have considered it an option. They know it's possible and that I'm willing to do so in certain circumstances, so they're just asking to be one of those circumstances.
And yeah, it's annoying, but it's really not the end of the world. High class weddings generally always have strict dress codes anyway. I know I sound kind of defeatist right now but this is just not the hill I want to die on.
Lilith are you part of the wedding party or just attending in the audience? Because wedding party coordination can get nuts, as I learned not too long ago. But if you're just in the audience then yeah it's a pretty odd request.
I'm in the wedding. I'm one of the bridesmaids.