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Girl/Dating Age Part 2: A combined effort to give advice for those in need
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sooperkool
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I dont really know how to put this into Ez but you have to not hide your interest and attraction. This isnt 5th grade anymore where you dont want her to know that you like her. You want the opposite but not overboard. Make eye contact, don't let others distract you from conversations you're having with her, whoever she is. Be bold.
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God damnit fuck why isn't there a quicker way to getting laid damnit. And I don't feel like paying a ho.
SpectreFire
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Just looking for some second opinions. I got a number from a girl on campus this afternoon. When should I give her a call? Tommorow or Monday?
Back from my date. Couldn't have been better. We hit it off really well. Amazing chemistry. Worked some of my kino shit on her too. She's a bit shy, but I know it will melt away over time. She wants to chill with me tomorrow, if not, Wednesday (I have another date planned, but its in th early afternoon). She can't wait to see me again and I can't wait to see her. FUCK YEAH!
I feel like a fucking boss right now. She had a wonderful time and really enjoyed being with me. This is what I needed. I was having such a shitty day, and a pretty shitty week. It was worth it. I feel so great right now. As lame as it sounds, excuse me while I brush my shoulders off.
I wish ya'll the best of luck and hope things go well for those of you who have dates tonight or tomorrow.
Mr.City said:
Yeah. City, once again, speaking the truth. It sucks when you're working on one girl, because you're constantly looking at your phone, waiting for her to get back. Plus, the anxiety of her cancelling on you. The more girls you have, the less you worry about that shit. Plus, it also helps if you have a busy life (school, job, friends, hobbies, ect)
HighAmperage
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SpectreFire said:
I'd go with Monday, let her finish her weekend, you finish yours, then call her up, ask her how it was, banter a bit, then go for the date.
Starchasing
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EzLink said:
i think the key is emotional conversation..
Best three topics ever: sex , violence and love... but dont be gross. Learn old stories from your hometown or nearby, most of them involve those topics. Also most old stories like the sleeping beauty , or beauty and the beast, red little riding hood in their original form included all 3 topics.
Also good movies like the godfather include those topics...
note: if you dont want to sound like a psycho remind her that violence is always a last resort and always a form of protection not agression.
if you get away from those topics then put everything on a emotional perspective. Substitute most verbs with a emotional verb. You dont have a dog... you love your dog.
I think thats a good start... once you can get into those topics... its easier to talk about sex..
but remember to be always classy... you dont want to f*uck her you want to do to her what the spring does to the cherry trees.
sooperkool
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Starchasing said:
I don't even really understand this post...
Starchasing
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sooperkool said:
what i meant to say that the key to be more sexual in a conversation is to talk about sex, violence and love, and always in a emotional way.
Ok, I was going to make a new thread to ask this, but I think the embarrassment would be too much so I'll ask in here.
Ok, so have you guys experienced climaxes with your partners (female) where they get to a point of orgasm (through sex, oral, fingers on or a combination of these) where they not only claim everything is at the peak of sensitivity/intensity, but where they also claim they feel like they really need to 'pee'. At around this point, they NEVER let me continue, and will ask, beg, push, pull, move around to get you to slow or stop, if even for a second or two (enough for that extreme sensation to dull just a touch), at which point they often let you carry on for a few/several seconds more before it's the same thing again (you can pretty much continue this cycle over and over, but they always seem to hold back when it gets to that 'NEED to pee' sensation).
I call it 'The Point of no Return', and have never been able to get passed it, any of the dozens and dozens of times it's happened, with different partners to boot. Either because they said it was too sensitive/intense or because they didn't want to pee themselves.
What actually happens if they do let themselves go beyond this point? I've always wanted to know and experience it but've never been allowed. Has anyone been allowed to go beyond it? Do they actually urinate? Or does something else happen, perhaps an even more powerful orgasm? (if that's possible lol.)
Ok, so have you guys experienced climaxes with your partners (female) where they get to a point of orgasm (through sex, oral, fingers on or a combination of these) where they not only claim everything is at the peak of sensitivity/intensity, but where they also claim they feel like they really need to 'pee'. At around this point, they NEVER let me continue, and will ask, beg, push, pull, move around to get you to slow or stop, if even for a second or two (enough for that extreme sensation to dull just a touch), at which point they often let you carry on for a few/several seconds more before it's the same thing again (you can pretty much continue this cycle over and over, but they always seem to hold back when it gets to that 'NEED to pee' sensation).
I call it 'The Point of no Return', and have never been able to get passed it, any of the dozens and dozens of times it's happened, with different partners to boot. Either because they said it was too sensitive/intense or because they didn't want to pee themselves.
What actually happens if they do let themselves go beyond this point? I've always wanted to know and experience it but've never been allowed. Has anyone been allowed to go beyond it? Do they actually urinate? Or does something else happen, perhaps an even more powerful orgasm? (if that's possible lol.)
sooperkool
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Can be too much clitoral stimulation. Could be too much G-Spot. Could be a lot of things but it sounds like you have some partners that arent allowing themselves to have their orgasm before they become over stimulated. You're in potentially a good spot because you know how to get them off you just need to dial down the stimulation early and let them get there a bit slower.
So minigolf got canceled with the girl. Turns out that something happened a few months ago and that she's not ready for dating just yet.
Could've been better I suppose. Something about canceling it right there didn't jive with me, but at least she told it to me in person, right?
Could've been better I suppose. Something about canceling it right there didn't jive with me, but at least she told it to me in person, right?
sooperkool said:
Dude, I've tried that, I've tried everything lol. I've taken serious time on it, with pacing evenly spread from extremely gentle and slow all the way built up to fast over long durations of time, but irrespective of the method used to get there, the time frame or the intensity of stimulation, always the same. Never allowed too get past 'The Point of no return' (lol.) because it's either too intense or they claim they're gonna pee themselves (as in literally, piss all over the bed/table/chair etc). I also wouldn't say they're not orgasming, whatever this point is, it's different from a normal orgasm (big climax, legs shaking, all the rest). I also find it takes a lot more time to get there (sometimes multiple normal orgasms in-between).
My guess is it might be to do with mainly g-spot stimulation, which from what I can gather, involves the gland adjacent to the bladder. Which makes sense given them wanting to pee.
Someone on here must have got passed this point. I basically mainly want to know if she will actually end up peeing herself. If the answer is 'yes', I think I might stop perusing what comes 'next' lol.
Tony Danza
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I don't know where else to post this. But I'm drunk on a Saturday night in college, and fuck me, but there's nothing to do. I go to SUNY Geneseo, which has seen a diminished party scene in the last two years as result of an incident leading to the death of a student at an unrecognized fraternity. Now, there's far less open parties and the atmosphere here just fucking sucks. I consider myself a kid with insecurities, but I managed to be successful in a large high school (I won most artistic using my talent to draw funny pictures). Here, I have a small group of friends. There's a lot of kids who are real awkward yet I find myself in isolation. Fuck this. I also had a steady girlfriend throughout high school. I guess I'm just disappointed in myself that in my sophmore year of college I have yet to find a girl that I like. I feel pissed off all the time too, but only while here. My lack of success coupled with my disdain for the general popualation of the school only fuels my anger. I do not know what advice I seek. The most attractive girls are usually associated with a sorority and thus, are only putting out for the fraternities (so fucking dumb, especially when greek life meant nothing two years ago). Perhaps I need to regrow a pair and stop making excuses but what the FUCK should I do? Life sucks in Geneseo, New York. /Emo rant.
This is going to be a really weird piece of advice... but watch Tim Delaghetto for a bit. Dude is fucking hilarious, as in genuinely funny and not just getting people to laugh because of who he is, but the dude somehow conveys sexuality by being unafraid to bring it up and not flinching or deflating tension when it does. So, by displaying that confidence, even this tiny asian man can be seen as 'sexy'.EzLink said:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-w_DmdJk1wQ
It's weird advice but I had to try and give an example between funny and sexy funny. Compare this dude and Seth Rogan or even the vast majority of comedians. The difference is body language and the fact that he is cocky as shit without being an asshole, again something that many comedians simply cannot do (Dane Cook...)
Again, weird advice but I'm trying to give you an example of the concept of the difference between confidence and sexy confidence. Sexy funny dudes will be
Such a weird post. :lol
Another simple way of putting this is simply DO NOT BE AFRAID OF TENSION. It is the best thing in a dudes arsenal, as it's an instant way of signalling that attraction and keeping things EXCITING by making her feel just that tiny bit nevous. I think this is a problem a lot of guys suffer from in this thread, they are afraid of being creepy or being 'obvious' so they laugh too much or never let the conversation stop. Sometimes it's better, rather than trying to fill a lull in the conversation, to just pause, look her and the eyes and smile (very) slightly and not look away first (I should add on that you should be looking her in the eyes strongly anyway). It sends a powerful message that you are comfortable with silence and non verbal communication, much stronger than any joke.
Remember that feeling when that hot girl you liked just kinda stopped talking, looked at you and you couldn't tell what she was thinking about? Flip it around. Make her feel that way, get her giggling nervously wondering what's on your mind. Let them feel that excitement and wonder for you by just kinda stepping back occasionally, instead of always talking/being funny with just words.
Hope I managed to explain this alright.
So. You're good enough to get this far?nib95 said:
There's not too much you can physically do to get her beyond this point. Basically, the prize for getting her over this fence is a real orgasm. I mean a REAL orgasm. Uncontrollable body spasms, squirting (if they can manage it), etc. If you want to compare it to what a male experiences, think of it as the difference between dry orgasms (if you know the feeling) and one where you actually ejaculate. The feeling of wanting to pee is primarily the thing that holds her back. If you want to prove to them that they really don't need to pee when reaching this point, then get them to completely empty their bladder prior to engaging in sexual activity.
So, how to get them over this hump? Your partner has to be completely comfortable with you and herself. They have to trust in you and be willing to let themselves go. Essentially, they have to be completely relaxed, mentally and physically.
There's a few books and tutorials out there that go into more depth about getting them over the plateau, but I hope this helps a little. Good luck.
sooperkool
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nib95 said:
i've been past it plenty which why i wrote what I did. There isn't a magic technique thats going to solve things for you. You need to work on everything else but the sex because these women that you're with need you to help them past that point. Have you actually spoken to them about it?
1) Diner at expensive place.
2) A tour around the city in a Mercedes.*
3) A quick stop at a high-class pub with a balcony to the sea and some exotic drinks.
4) Some smart talk.
5) Buy a few Corona's, go to upscale motel.
6) Drink Corona's while having fun and stuff.
7) Get laid.
8) Leave her at home.
9) Happy smile.
*I am a cheap asshole so I don't own a Mercedes, it was my business partner one. :lol
Man what a fantastic night with a great outcome. Very good sex
2) A tour around the city in a Mercedes.*
3) A quick stop at a high-class pub with a balcony to the sea and some exotic drinks.
4) Some smart talk.
5) Buy a few Corona's, go to upscale motel.
6) Drink Corona's while having fun and stuff.
7) Get laid.
8) Leave her at home.
9) Happy smile.
*I am a cheap asshole so I don't own a Mercedes, it was my business partner one. :lol
Man what a fantastic night with a great outcome. Very good sex
TurboLibre
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Parts said:
Guilty. Guilty as hell.
I find attraction and love a little creepy though, so it's an uphill battle.
The Shadow
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Tkawsome said:
Serious?
Have you guys ever just gone to a popular resturant, just by yourself, and watched people interact? If not, you should. Showing a woman that you're attracted to her is going to look a lot less creepy than trying to repress and hide it. As a matter of fact, I think the only time it's shown as being "charming" is in videogames and anime from Japan.
That's a sound advice, but I would feel creepy eating by myself looking around and shit...fuck, it's like one way streetThe Shadow said:
. My problem is, what do you mean by creepy? Acting creepy? I have said some weird shit on the date, but I don't think that qualifies as creepy.The Shadow
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RobertM said:That's a sound advice, but I would feel creepy eating by myself looking around and shit...fuck, it's like one way street
It's not really. You're just out getting a meal. It's not creepy at all to look up from your plate here and there. Just don't stare. Quick glances here and there. And if you make eye contact, smile and look away. Don't jerk your head or eyes to avoid that eye contact, which definitely gives the impression you were staring even if you weren't.
Even better idea. Go to a coffee shop with a book. Look around from time to time.
Good question. I don't think there is any specific action that I've heard of. Just exes and female friends always talking about a guy from work, class, or whatever that they know likes them but doesn't say anything and just acts shy and awkward. Some think it's cute and harmless. Others think it's creepy and weird. Depends on the girl and probably on the age of the guy crushing on them. It's cute when it's a teenager. Would be really creepy if he was in his late 20's, early 30's or older.
Point is, if you like a girl, approach her and let her know. If she rejects you, move on. Don't focus on her. I think that's why it creeps out some girls. The guy doesn't say anything and just continues to focus on one girl, as if she's an obsession. Don't do that.
TurboLibre
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The Shadow said:
I'm no loner, I'm constantly interacting/watching other people. It doesn't make their actions any less strange (to me) though. I guess it's because I'm not sure if the feeling is mutual, so I assume that any advances would not be appreciated. It could also be because I don't really allow myself to get too attached to things, so when I see people who do it just seems crazy to me.
The Shadow said:
Pffft. I'm not trying to be charming here and I'm certainly not modeling my behavior off videogames or anime.
The Shadow
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Tkawsome said:
Even if you're not sure it's mutual, what harm will it do if it's not appreciated? Pride? You can't always be sure but you'll never know for certain if you never try either. You can't assume one way or another if you don't actually try it.
I can understand not getting too attached to a certain extent, but what about family? Friends? Is that just as foreign to you?
Norwegian Wood said:
You should see him in "hot women" threads. Dude seems high strung.
Aesius
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Haha! So I was leaving the bar tonight (a primarily dance-floor oriented bar) out of absolute disgust/drunkenness when, as I was trying to find my coat, I was cold approached by a solid 7/10.
Ended up doing the loud, intimate whisper/hand on her back shout back and forth into each others ear for 20 minutes before I suggested we move to a private karaoke room to the side.
We talked in there for about 10 minutes before she told me she had to leave with her friends, but I got her number right before she left. I ran into her again in the parking lot on the way out, and she hugged me and told me to text her.
I hate to ask this, but: When should I text her? I have to work all day tomorrow, so I feel like tom. night would be appropriate, but my friend says I should wait even longer. Thoughts?
Ended up doing the loud, intimate whisper/hand on her back shout back and forth into each others ear for 20 minutes before I suggested we move to a private karaoke room to the side.
We talked in there for about 10 minutes before she told me she had to leave with her friends, but I got her number right before she left. I ran into her again in the parking lot on the way out, and she hugged me and told me to text her.
I hate to ask this, but: When should I text her? I have to work all day tomorrow, so I feel like tom. night would be appropriate, but my friend says I should wait even longer. Thoughts?
Solideliquid
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Aesius said:
Tomorrow. After work. If you want to know what to text, we can help with that also.
sooperkool said:
Yeap, spoke to every one of them about it. Every-time, it's because they don't want to piss themselves and can't take any more lol. I must stress, body shaking (legs especially) orgasms are different, that is not what I am describing, I'm talking purely about a latter feeling which comes after all that at the end of the climax, involving them wanting to desperately pee (even if they've emptied there bladder before hand).
Still haven't had a definitive answer at this point on whether girls do pee past this point. I guess there's one way I could find out, it's a bit kinky but what the hell lol...
What an unusual conversation...can't even believe I'm asking lol..
CrushDance
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Kccitystar
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Just wanting to gauge opinions here.
What defines a break to you?
Are there factors involved that alter the definition of a break to you? If so, what are they?
To me, personally, a break is just a way for a woman to be mentally prepared for a breakup. In this time, she is going to start to test the waters for other dudes to replace you. While she's doing this, instead of trying to mend things with you and make some form of effort to repair anything that's broken in the current relationship, she will somehow mindfuck you into believing that some issues are your fault. She'll insist that you need to change things about yourself.
This break is supposed to allegedly "help you figure out what you need to change for yourself", and that while you think these are relationship-centric issues that you two can fix together, she'll insist that "you have to work on yourself before you can work on your relationship", but at the same time, she will somehow not be in the wrong and thinks there is nothing on her end that she needs to fix about herself. Somehow relationships are not a mutual thing anymore. Its' all about being a selfish fucking cunt. It's not a two way street. It's a highway and a fucking bike path.
Am I angry right now Girl/Dating-GAF? Hell, motherfucking, yes.
Right now I'm at a point in this two year relationship that I just want to throw and break every picture I have of this chick at my house. I mean, like, I just want to burn it all. I just want to fucking burn it and take everything of hers here that triggers an emotional response from me and throw that shit out of the window, since I can't erase the memories I have of this bitch like Kate Winslet's character in Eternal Sunshine. GAHHHH
I wish I could explain the context in why I feel the way I feel but after this disastrous night, I want to go to bed and forget about all of this shit. Fuck my life.
What defines a break to you?
Are there factors involved that alter the definition of a break to you? If so, what are they?
To me, personally, a break is just a way for a woman to be mentally prepared for a breakup. In this time, she is going to start to test the waters for other dudes to replace you. While she's doing this, instead of trying to mend things with you and make some form of effort to repair anything that's broken in the current relationship, she will somehow mindfuck you into believing that some issues are your fault. She'll insist that you need to change things about yourself.
This break is supposed to allegedly "help you figure out what you need to change for yourself", and that while you think these are relationship-centric issues that you two can fix together, she'll insist that "you have to work on yourself before you can work on your relationship", but at the same time, she will somehow not be in the wrong and thinks there is nothing on her end that she needs to fix about herself. Somehow relationships are not a mutual thing anymore. Its' all about being a selfish fucking cunt. It's not a two way street. It's a highway and a fucking bike path.
Am I angry right now Girl/Dating-GAF? Hell, motherfucking, yes.
Right now I'm at a point in this two year relationship that I just want to throw and break every picture I have of this chick at my house. I mean, like, I just want to burn it all. I just want to fucking burn it and take everything of hers here that triggers an emotional response from me and throw that shit out of the window, since I can't erase the memories I have of this bitch like Kate Winslet's character in Eternal Sunshine. GAHHHH
I wish I could explain the context in why I feel the way I feel but after this disastrous night, I want to go to bed and forget about all of this shit. Fuck my life.
Rocket Scientist
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Crush, that post is pretty creepy. You're analyzing things way too much. This girl wants your dick and you just spent half an hour or more typing that. Congrats man.
CrushDance
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Wait why am I creepy? :IRocket Scientist said:
grap3fruitman
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I really wish men would stop saying that. =Pcashman said:
Link1110
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OK, could use some help with the profile. Not having a good response rate (and I never got a
fourth message back from that girl for some reason.)
fourth message back from that girl for some reason.)
My self-summary
I'm a first semester grad student for teaching ESL. I am a very laid back type of guy, and am usually up for whatever, but I have a very romantic side to me.
Even though I live on Long Island, I 'm in Manhattan every day for school, so I'm only looking for women who either live there or are there as much as I am.
What Im doing with my life
I'm in grad school for teaching ESL. I'm now in my first semester. My ultimate goal is to make a career out of teaching abroad.
Im really good at
Losing in Scrabble. Still love playing though.
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably that I always have headphones on. My family says they're gonna bury me in those things.
My favorite books, movies, music, and food
... and TV Shows
The IT Crowd, Arrested Development, Community, Curb Your Enthusiasm. I'm also a huge fan of cop shows, everything from Law & Order to Psych
Movies:
Austin Powers, The Dark Knight, Terminator 2, The Wedding Singer. My tastes here are quite varied, I'll enjoy pretty much anything that's good.
Books:
All over the place, like my favorite movies. A Series of Unfortunate Events or Anything by Oscar Wilde is always fun.
Food:
Fried calamari, pho, buffalo wings, patbingsu.
I'm also an adventurous eater. I tried chicken feet once, and they were great.
The six things I could never do without
1) My family
2) My friends
3) Writing
4) Good food
5) My iPhone
6) Netflix
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My classes. They're a ton of work and keep me busy, but I enjoy them, and the program I'm in is a really great one.
On a typical Friday night I am
Gallanting around the city, trying a new restaurant or going to a fun event that I saw in Time Out New York.
The most private thing Im willing to admit
I was a Ninja Turtles kid, I loved the shows, but I always read about the original comics that were before my time, put out by a company by the name of "Mirage Comics." Because I was a kid, I pronounced that "My-rage Comics." I know how to pronounce Mirage now, but in that context, I still read it as "My-rage comics."
You should message me if
My biggest turn on is intelligence. Part of the reason I'm on here is that someone who is intelligent, but with a fun side is so hard to find.
sooperkool
Member
nib95 said:
Hey man, this is what we're here for to support each other. That really sounds like they're scared of the big big orgasm. You just have to keep coaxing them along, its a comfort thing they need to relax and let it out basically. You might have to talk them through it and keep reassuring them that it will ok and that they really don't have to pee.
sooperkool
Member
grap3fruitman said:
Youre a good looking dude but the first thing you have to do is believe it for yourself. No woman wants to be with a guy that doesnt think hes attractive. They'll just wonder why they're with you in the first place.
Last night I was at a cafe and saw this drop-fucking-dead-gorgeous chick sitting by the window....imagine Hayden Panettiere's older, hotter, fitter sister. About an hour later in walks this dude who's really not in very good shape, and looks a little like you (slightly uglier cuz he had a kind of chubbier face/chin). They say hi, he sits right beside her and they kiss. Inside I was really making the FFFFUUUUUUUUU face. This guy was no male model, but he clearly wasn't too ugly to bag a perfect 10 (she really was). Looks really don't mean shit for guys.grap3fruitman said:
Just stop making creepy grins.
CrushDance
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Solideliquid
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Yeah I know how you feel. My wife of 7 years started the breakup with "I want to take a break", which then led to "I think I want a separation", which led to a divorce.Kccitystar said:
I went through this feeling of confusion, guilt, sadness, and anger for the entire time we were on break as I didn't know what was going on or what was going to happen. She became very distant and wasn't a person I recognized anymore. It will all pass, you need to find something solid to hang on to, for me it was work and my career. Hang on to that rock and the storm will eventually pass.
I think once this break occurs, the chances of putting things back together (assuming you had at least a semi-healthy relationship) are very very low. My theory is when a girl wants to take a break, she has already made up her mind and wants out. There's probably nothing you can do at this point. It's their way of "letting you down easy" and feeling less guilty about leaving you. It's all about them and making themselves feel better about the situation. Your repeated attempts at fixing things or getting in her face emotionally only cements her decision in her mind.
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