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[ianp622]

I'll see her today and test the waters.

WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU NEED TO TEST THE WATERS FOR SHE DID THAT SHIT FOR YOU!

 

[ggnoobIGN]

My girlfriend is a couple days late on her period. She's already gotten all the symptoms, cramping, eating, emotional.

We use BC and I still pull out. She's freaking out and of course thinks she's pregnant. I told her she has nothing to worry about. I'm right, right?

 

[TurboLibre]

Even if you're not sure it's mutual, what harm will it do if it's not appreciated? Pride? You can't always be sure but you'll never know for certain if you never try either. You can't assume one way or another if you don't actually try it.

I'm not ignoring women if that's what you're getting at. I'm just not comfortable creating tension and acting sexual to someone I don't really know, and think that it can easily be interpreted as creepy.

I can understand not getting too attached to a certain extent, but what about family? Friends? Is that just as foreign to you?

I have family I love and friends I consider family. There's a night and day difference between them and a girlfriend though. I can go for a while without needing to contact friends and family. I don't really need to trust them with anything and everything is generally kept on a pretty superficial level.

Judging from the relationships I've seen, girlfriends are smothering. They spend every minute together. The girls "unofficially" move into their place almost immediately, my friends only hang out with the guys if their girl tags along and in the rare chance they do go out alone they spend most of the night talking to them on the phone. Now don't get me wrong, their girlfriends are great and it's fun to hang out with them, but I just can't see myself in that situation without getting incredibly sick of the person. That level of attachment just seems insane to me.

This isn't one guy I'm talking about either. Every one of my friends do this.

haha he should watch the movie about a boy

Was this directed towards me or Ether_Snake?

 

[jamesinclair]

My girlfriend is a couple days late on her period. She's already gotten all the symptoms, cramping, eating, emotional.

We use BC and I still pull out. She's freaking out and of course thinks she's pregnant. I told her she has nothing to worry about. I'm right, right?

Well, it's never 100%, but you should be good.

Also, get ready for the fun cycle.

Late period = stress = more delayed period = more stress = more delayed period = volcano

 

[norinrad]

Was this directed towards me or Ether_Snake?

It was for ES. He needs to stop beating himself so much and calm down.


Staying on topic

The lady i met online said she can't make it on Saturday but was available on Tuesday night so we will be meeting on Tuesday. She was even kind enough to send me her number in case something comes up and i can not make it. I have a good feeling about this.

get lucky

 

[Parts]

I have family I love and friends I consider family. There's a night and day difference between them and a girlfriend though. I can go for a while without needing to contact friends and family. I don't really need to trust them with anything and everything is generally kept on a pretty superficial level.

Judging from the relationships I've seen, girlfriends are smothering. They spend every minute together. The girls "unofficially" move into their place almost immediately, my friends only hang out with the guys if their girl tags along and in the rare chance they do go out alone they spend most of the night talking to them on the phone. Now don't get me wrong, their girlfriends are great and it's fun to hang out with them, but I just can't see myself in that situation without getting incredibly sick of the person. That level of attachment just seems insane to me.

This isn't one guy I'm talking about either. Every one of my friends do this.

That doesn't mean you have to. I don't. My best friend doesn't, or didn't before his girlfriend went psycho and managed to convince him to, he then realised what was happening and broke up with her. The majority of guys kinda suck at giving boundaries in relationships. Just don't be one of them.

 

[RobertM]

I'll see her today and test the waters.

My god man, she is pretty much putting her pussy on a platter for you.

 

[CrushDance]

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[RobertM]

I've thought like that before and it wasn't ever the case. There's no need to rush things. I'm heading to work now and I'll just try and make some small talk, read her and then go on from there? It all seems a little too good to be true. Rather take my time.

I think it's best that you casually ask her out to get lunch and stuff, and read her then.

 

[RobertM]

double post again....ugh

 

[-PXG-]

Hey Crush, where do you live? I will gladly take this girl off your hands, since you clearly don't want her.

 

[whitehawk]

I've thought like that before and it wasn't ever the case. There's no need to rush things. I'm heading to work now and I'll just try and make some small talk, read her and then go on from there? It all seems a little too good to be true. Rather take my time.

ASK HER OUT!!!!

 

[SmokeMaxX]

Take your time? WTF? You cockblocking yourself? Dude. Smang that shit. Or at least be more forward. IT'S OBVIOUS SHE LIKES YOU! You have to take initiative! When a girl likes a guy, it's hard for the guy to make a really big mistake to turn her off to him. Hell the biggest mistake is probably being too passive and getting her bored of him.

 

[EzLink]

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[-PXG-]

I've thought like that before and it wasn't ever the case. There's no need to rush things. I'm heading to work now and I'll just try and make some small talk, read her and then go on from there? It all seems a little too good to be true. Rather take my time.

SHE WANTS YOU!!!!

It's abundantly clear she REALLY likes you. Ask her out on a date. Not tomororw, not later this week. Ask her to go out TONIGHT. Dude, don't fuck this up. Come on man.

 

[HappyBivouac]

I've thought like that before and it wasn't ever the case. There's no need to rush things. I'm heading to work now and I'll just try and make some small talk, read her and then go on from there? It all seems a little too good to be true. Rather take my time.

So you'd "rather" keep playing it safe until this girl loses interest in you and moves on. You'd "rather" this amazing opportunity just passes you by entirely. Got it.

 

[sooperkool]

I've thought like that before and it wasn't ever the case. There's no need to rush things. I'm heading to work now and I'll just try and make some small talk, read her and then go on from there? It all seems a little too good to be true. Rather take my time.

When has any of your plans ever worked in the past? You're here asking for advice and insisting on not taking it when every single guy in here that has experience with women is telling you to go and get it. Don't die wondering, get this woman if you want her.

Edit: To clarify so there is no confusion. Ask her the fuck out right now.

 

[SpectreFire]

I've thought like that before and it wasn't ever the case. There's no need to rush things. I'm heading to work now and I'll just try and make some small talk, read her and then go on from there? It all seems a little too good to be true. Rather take my time.

*facepalm*

You are such an fucking shithead. If you do somehow manage to end up with this girl, then she has my deepest sympathies.

 

[Celine]

*big-ass-facepalm*
SHE WANTS YOU!!!!

It's abundantly clear she REALLY likes you. Ask her out on a date. Not tomororw, not later this week. Ask her to go out TONIGHT. Dude, don't fuck this up. Come on man.

Seriously, ask her a date. Now.

 

[EzLink]

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[DualShadow]

It's strange how people come into this thread for advice, ignore it, then complain about their situation :lol

This isn't just Crush either, lots of people seem to do it.

 

[-PXG-]

I swear to fucking God, that motherfucker better not post in here tonight with some lame ass excuse. Anything less than asking her out is completely unacceptable and proof that he's brain dead and/ or just one willful son of a bitch.

It's one thing to not know what to do. That's fine. But it's whole other ball game when you come in here, ask for help, receive sound advice and refuse to follow it. CrushDance, in the event that you manage to fuck this up (which is highly likely), I hope, one day, you look back on this and learn something.

 

[EzLink]

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[Solideliquid]

Seriously, ask her a date. Now.

Given Crush's situation, what are some good ways to ask her out?

 

[-PXG-]

Given Crush's situation, what are some good ways to ask her out?

"Hey, we should go out some time."

BOOM! Slam bam thank you ma'am. Not that hard.

Again, it's fine if you don't know what to do. That's why we're here. That's why there is a thread dedicated to helping you. But please, PLEASE...if you ask for advice, you better act upon it to the utmost of your abilities. It's so fucking frustrating, giving people the same (good) advice over and over, and for whatever reason, they don't follow it.

It's not like I'm expecting a kissless virgin to get laid on his first date. On the most part, people here are giving reasonable and manageable advice. But you guys on the recieving end, really need to pay us some respect, nut the hell up, take some initiative and do what we tell you to do. We know what the hell we're talking about. We're not against you, we're not your enemy, we're not trying to sabotage you. And honestly, I don't think we're asking too much of you. No one here wants to see anyone fail. No one here wants to put anyone down. We want you to succeed. But man, some of you just fight it so damn much. That's what pisses me off. Why do you do it?

 

[Shawsie64]

So my friend (well more of an acquaintance) met a German girl a while ago and is clearly friendzoned but im pretty sure she has a thing for me.. She told me and we were flirting all night..

Should I feel bad? Sorta feel bad

 

[HappyBivouac]

Fuck, he could invite her over to watch anime and it would work out great as far as I can see. In fact I daresay it would work better than dinner or some shit like that given his situation. It would be completely natural for both of them and could become something great.

 

[-PXG-]

Fuck, he could invite her over to watch anime and it would work out great as far as I can see. In fact I daresay it would work better than dinner or some shit like that given his situation. It would be completely natural for both of them and could become something great.

Hell, he could wine and dine her, then get some desert and bring it back to his/ her place, cuddle, and watch some anime. I mean, damn. They clearly have common interests. Take advantage of that shit. Plus, she's totally into him. She wants him. He already has it.

Come on man! What are you waiting for? GO GET HER!!!!

So my friend (well more of an acquaintance) met a German girl a while ago and is clearly friendzoned but im pretty sure she has a thing for me.. She told me and we were flirting all night..

Should I feel bad? Sorta feel bad

Nope. She's free game. Do whatever you want with her.

 

[f0rk]

It's so fucking frustrating, giving people the same (good) advice over and over, and for whatever reason, they don't follow it.

Not hating or anything, but you didn't exactly come into the old thread in a particularly receptive way.

 

[DualShadow]

lookatmeimanattentionwhore.jpg?

I don't really think that is the case though. Dating and relationships seem incredibly daunting and complex for people who don't have much experience with it, and breaking out of your comfort zone to try things you've never done before is scary no matter what aspect of life you are talking about. I can see how some people refuse to follow good advice, but at the same time, what is the point in asking if you already have your mind made up about how you will handle a situation?

All of us were clueless at some point. Plus overcoming rejection and failure and sadness will eventually give you a chiseled emotional fortitude that the ladies will flock to! Take some chances motherfuckers

I don't even think it's an attention whore thing to be honest. You have to assume people coming in looking for advice are at least willing to try it, especially when there is about a dozen responses telling them the exact same thing.

Shit, in this case, Crush could ask her to play games with him as a date and it would probably be successful :lol

 

[Shawsie64]

Hell, he could wine and dine her, then get some desert and bring it back to his/ her place, cuddle, and watch some anime. I mean, damn. They clearly have common interests. Take advantage of that shit. Plus, she's totally into him. She wants him. He already has it.

Come on man! What are you waiting for? GO GET HER!!!!



Nope. She's free game. Do whatever you want with her.

Gonna leave it a few days then contact her..

Also Im really happy with my performance on Saturday I was happy, funny, cocky and a gentleman.. dunno how pulled it off :lol

Was thinking of all the advice iv been given in this thread so thanks guys

 

[NIGHT-]

Had another awesome girl in bed and then again my dick goes soft when I put it in... This is the 2nd time in the month this has happened. Is this a psychological thing? Should I be asking a doctor about this?

 

[Xun]

I really wish men would stop saying that. =P

Dude take it as a compliment.

I never get compliments from anyone, although I have been hit on by a gay guy before! :lol

Perhaps I should post a pic in here to get some feedback?

 

[-PXG-]

Not hating or anything, but you didn't exactly come into the old thread in a particularly receptive way.

Fine. I admit I was a bit impatient and, at times, abrasive in the previous thread. I've cooled my jets since. I learned how to calm down and be more sensitive and respectful towards others. I honestly don't want to ridicule, intimidate or humiliate anyone.

However, it's tiresome and annoying, giving people honest, reasonable and solid advice and them not following through on it. It's fine if you don't not know what to do. It's okay if you fuck up. Failure and rejection are inevitable. Shit happens. On the contrary, if you're going to ignore and refuse our assistance, don't bitch about why you're alone and can't get a girl. If you're shy or have social anxiety, I can accept that. But blatant and willful disregard of good advice is complete bullshit.

Had another awesome girl in bed and then again my dick goes soft when I put it in... This is the 2nd time in the month this has happened. Is this a psychological thing? Should I be asking a doctor about this?

Performance anxiety? Or, if you're drunk or she's physically unattractive, that could be the reason too. It happens to everyone man. I've been there. Ugh. We all have. Just calm down and take things slow next time. Nice, long foreplay should help. Makeout, lick her neck, suck on her tits, finger/ eat her pussy. Have her do shit to you. That should make you hard as rock. If not, see a doctor.

EDIT

Again, I never understood this "wait a few days to call/ text" thing. I'll wait a couple of hours, but not days. I'm pretty assertive, and call the girl ASAP, and I've never had problems. I don't come off as creepy or clingy.

 

[EzLink]

Perhaps I should post a pic in here to get some feedback?

Couldn't hurt. I'm sure you'd be able to get some good advice from people, even if they are just minor improvements. But every little bit helps!

 

[Acid08]

Hey guys I have a little bit of a success story to tell. This girl and I have been friends for a while and I've been into her for most of that time. I backed off of it for a while because it was obvious she wasn't in to me the same way. So we just kept hanging out all regular like and finally a kind of spark started happening between us. We're going on our first date this Thursday and I couldn't be happier. I'm not sure what I expect from it but it's just nice that it's actually happening and I'm getting the chance to show her some romantic bullshit.

Basically what I'm saying is, just be yourself and if it's meant to be then it's meant to be. Good luck everyone <3

 

[DualShadow]

Couldn't hurt. I'm sure you'd be able to get some good advice from people, even if they are just minor improvements. But every little bit helps!

Sometimes it's the smallest thing that can give you a confidence boost, new hair cut/style, new/different clothes, a bit more effort getting ready to go out or something.

I got a haircut the other week and the hairdresser suggested if she could do try something she thought would suit me and I love it and gave me more confidence when going out :lol

 

[RevoDS]

Continued from my post in the old thread...

Hey guys, I have a girl problem...that's not actually about the girl in question

A few weeks back, a random event at work (part time job at Walmart) led to me telling a coworker which girl I liked most in the store (first time I tried doing that, but lesson learned - Never tell a female about that, unless you want it to be widely known). Fast-forward 2 weeks later, at least 5 people know about it, 2 of them actively teasing me about it during my shifts.

That's where I need advice - how to handle it from now. I'm not sure if I should try to put an end to it by going berserk on the handful of people who know, just let the rumor spread not particularly care, or...something else. For now I'm not really bothered as I haven't made any serious approach despite having some fun with her, but that's uncharted territory for me and I'm still afraid things could go south at some point.

Has anyone ever experienced similar rumors about their liking someone else? I'd really like some shared experiences here.

I've followed the advice I was given (which is, let the rumor run), and things have indeed gone exactly the way I suspected it would back then - pretty much everyone I talk to there knows and is actively teasing me about it, sometimes quite obviously (one of which was today, as someone actually did that right in front of her.). Turns out I still don't really mind, although I blush heavily in those occasions, but the case someone suggested where she'd make the first move or something upon learning about it didn't end up true; in fact, quite the opposite happened: although she's still friendly as ever when we actually talk, I'm led to believe she's actively avoiding me (one time she even came close and virtually ran away upon seeing me).

I'm not really looking for advice, as the signs are pretty clear. Mostly posting as a follow-up on the story for those who replied to my query. Funny thing is, though I'm not really bothered by rejection anymore, I'm still too shy and scared of what others will think to make any move on anyone. Work-in-progress still on the social skills, I suppose...that was/is definitely a good little learning experience though.

 

[HighAmperage]

Basically what I'm saying is, just be yourself and if it's meant to be then it's meant to be. Good luck everyone <3

Good work Acid...contrary to popular belief, actually being friends (gasp) with a chick first can lead to something. It's rare, but it happens.

 

[Ether_Snake]

Talked with this fucking amazingly hot girl who was sitting by herself alone at a party. I think whatever I was saying didn't make much sense at all regardless cause I can barely recall what I said to her, but then her beefcaked shortie of a boyfriend shows up and he says something. I ask her if he's her boyfriend, she says yes, and me thinking I'm not stupid I just get up and tell him something along the lines of congratulations she's a looker, have fun, and the fucker tells me he'll have fun when I get out of his face like he's gonna kick my ass or something. Me being drunk and being at a job party I didn't really think anything of it and just walked away, but I should have stayed there anyway and tell him if he doesn't want me in his sight he can move himself. What the fuck was he gonna do, hit me? Fucker would get his ass thrown out. Around five minutes later I see him bolt out of the party with his girl. Probably a small-dicked insecure jealous prick.

I always realize this shit afterwards. I gotta be less of a nice guy, even if it might land me in a fight.

But god damn that girl was hot.

 

[siddx]

Talked with this fucking amazingly hot girl who was sitting by herself alone at a party. I think whatever I was saying didn't make much sense at all regardless cause I can barely recall what I said to her, but then her beefcaked shortie of a boyfriend shows up and he says something. I ask her if he's her boyfriend, she says yes, and me thinking I'm not stupid I just get up and tell him something along the lines of congratulations she's a looker, have fun, and the fucker tells me he'll have fun when I get out of his face like he's gonna kick my ass or something. Me being drunk and being at a job party I didn't really think anything of it and just walked away, but I should have stayed there anyway and tell him if he doesn't want me in his sight he can move himself. What the fuck was he gonna do, hit me? Fucker would get his ass thrown out.

I always realize this shit afterwards. I gotta be less of a nice guy, even if it might land me in a fight.

But god damn that girl was hot.

Whenever insecure dudes act that way I just pause for second, give them the quick up and down, laugh condescendingly, and walk off without saying a word.

Also, no matter how hot a girl is, someone somewhere is completely sick of her bullshit.

 

[Mr.City]

Talked with this fucking amazingly hot girl who was sitting by herself alone at a party. I think whatever I was saying didn't make much sense at all regardless cause I can barely recall what I said to her, but then her beefcaked shortie of a boyfriend shows up and he says something. I ask her if he's her boyfriend, she says yes, and me thinking I'm not stupid I just get up and tell him something along the lines of congratulations she's a looker, have fun, and the fucker tells me he'll have fun when I get out of his face like he's gonna kick my ass or something. Me being drunk and being at a job party I didn't really think anything of it and just walked away, but I should have stayed there anyway and tell him if he doesn't want me in his sight he can move himself. What the fuck was he gonna do, hit me? Fucker would get his ass thrown out. Around five minutes later I see him bolt out of the party with his girl. Probably a small-dicked insecure jealous prick.

I always realize this shit afterwards. I gotta be less of a nice guy, even if it might land me in a fight.

But god damn that girl was hot.

You probably did the right thing. Fights aren't usually worth the trouble.

 

[EzLink]

Also, no matter how hot a girl is, someone somewhere is completely sick of her bullshit.

:lol

This is perhaps my new favorite quote. Based on my life experience I can't think of a single example where this has not been the case

 

[Ether_Snake]

Yeah I mean I'm not stupid so I don't want to start fights, but I shouldn't have walked away to easily. Then again, the fact I saw him bolt out with her five minutes later (and with some good distance between both, I'm guessing they got into an argument), makes me proud not be in this prick's shoes. Everything about him exuded insecurity; looks, talk, trophy girl, etc. Guy left early, I enjoyed the party till the last minute.

Also, funny how as soon as you talk enough with a girl for things to look like she might be your girl or that she likes you, it's crazy how suddenly all the girls around will actually take the time to look at you in the eyes, like you're suddenly a girl magnet.

 

[Celine]

Whenever insecure dudes act that way I just pause for second, give them the quick up and down, laugh condescendingly, and walk off without saying a word.

Best way.
Picking up a fight isn't a bad thing per se, just be sure it's worth it ( not an easy thing to do while drunk :lol )

 

[Acid08]

Also, no matter how hot a girl is, someone somewhere is completely sick of her bullshit.

:lol :lol :lol

This is the greatest thing ever.

Also, funny how as soon as you talk enough with a girl for things to look like she might be your girl or that she likes you, it's crazy how suddenly all the girls around will actually take the time to look at you in the eyes, like you're suddenly a girl magnet.

Yeah, bitches are crazy.

 

[SRG01]

So, like I mentioned in my last post, lucked out of date #2 with the girl. Now I'm really wondering why I never get past the first date! I know that "I'm not ready for a relationship" is just code for "I don't want to date you", but I don't get that excuse very often. I usually get responses like:

- "I don't think we have long term potential" (after a coffee date :lol )
- "We're at totally different points in our lives" (which is true, she was a student)
- "I'm moving away in a few months, so I don't want things to get complicated" (ended up being good friends with her)

And if it's not them, then it's that I don't really find her attractive at all.

I think one part of the reason is that, despite the flirting, I have no initial draw and the girl has to know me for a while in order for them to consider me semi-seriously. I've gone on some excellent dates with a few friends, but they never really work out in the end.

 

[twilitesparklemotion]

All these posts about Crush manning up and asking out his lady and not one about how he should economize details when telling a story.

 

[siddx]

Yeah I mean I'm not stupid so I don't want to start fights, but I shouldn't have walked away to easily. Then again, the fact I saw him bolt out with her five minutes later (and with some good distance between both, I'm guessing they got into an argument), makes me proud not be in this prick's shoes. Everything about him exuded insecurity; looks, talk, trophy girl, etc. Guy left early, I enjoyed the party till the last minute.

Also, funny how as soon as you talk enough with a girl for things to look like she might be your girl or that she likes you, it's crazy how suddenly all the girls around will actually take the time to look at you in the eyes, like you're suddenly a girl magnet.

When I was in college I was in the dorm courtyard smoking a cigarette when the resident "ho" came outside. She was your typical "I'm in college and I am going to be high, drunk, and fucked 24/7" type. Kind of bitchy but also straightfoward and honest about things. But probably carrying the semen from every other male on campus.
So she is looking a little annoyed and I ask her whats up. She tells me "Steve" (real named changed due to my piss poor memory) kicked her out of his room and locked the door without letting her collect her purse. I ask why and she starts laughing all of sudden. Now I gotta know.

First off Steve is the guy you described in your post. Short, stocky, ed hardy shirts, gold chain, gel in hair, angry all the time, extremely self conscious and took it out on everyone.

So she tells me she fucked him last night, and woke up a little while ago to the sound of him saying: "You are so beautiful. You are so sexy. You are so amazing." Over and over and over. Her eyes are closed and she assumes he is talking to her. She she opens her eyes and look over...and there he is standing in front of the mirror talking to himself :lol

 

[Ether_Snake]

Hey I heard that story once. Did you post that before?