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[CherryWoodFuton]

Thanks for your response. Yeah, I've went out with her twice some time ago and we both really enjoyed ourselves. The second time I went out with her I should have told her that I like her, but I failed to. And recently I have asked her out, but due to she genuinely can't due to circumstances. I guess just being very close, being really nice and having pet names is not enough basis to assume she likes me in any other way than a friend.

Like I said no urgency. She's probably thinking about the last two times you guys went out as just two friends hanging out. No pressure but next time ramp up the physical contact and let it be known that you're interested in being more than friends. Its a win win for you....if she reciprocates then you're in and if she doesn't no big deal.

 

[low-G]

Teach us your ways. Techniques are always welcome.

Gee thanks for sharing :/

Err, I think you misunderstand. These are secrets about 'me', not 'technique'. In fact I will go so far as to say I still don't believe in 'technique', unless that technique is actually thinking about what you're doing, remaining calm, and liking yourself enough to get over basic hurdles.

What I actually employed was a personal spin on creative messages, openness, and persistence.

An actually creative opener makes a huge difference. Just asking a question or telling something about yourself is not enough. Once you write you first truly creative message you'll see what I mean. This especially is hard to describe. You find something in their profile and you think of a creative way to comment or ask a question about it.

I stated it earlier in this thread, but you have to find a balance between shutting yourself up and talking too much. A lot of the advice in this thread would emphasize no communication before you've been on two dates or some shit, but in every case I've seen with actual girls, you absolutely must communicate. That doesn't mean spilling your guts, either though.

You know what, it's not always a bad idea to message a girl on a dating site if a few weeks have gone by and you haven't heard back from her. Girls get so many messages on there that they can easily miss you, even if they care. Be courteous, have ZERO expectations, and realize you have NOTHING TO LOSE AT THAT POINT.

I feel like strictly following the rules of 'the game' caused the last girl I dated to not want to see me again.

Anyways finally, a lot of people just constantly scorn the friend zone, saying oh blah blah that girl will complain about her boyfriend to you or whatever. Guess what, if she cares about you that friend can give you the keys to the castle too. I suggest people be open with their female friends and get some real advice. Girls give advice differently than guys, so pay attention. A single sentence might be all you need.

Oh, one more thing. Maybe try even asking the girls on OKC, very politely, why they stopped talking to you or whatever. If you're at that point and you've given them plenty of time to respond, why not?

So I'm going to dinner with flower girl tomorrow. Not sure what to expect...

Makes me think of Hugo. How many smiles do you have?

Pics (of you)? Dating sites are 95% looks in pics in my experience.

No I really don't want to, not here. I used to be fat & in my opinion quite ugly, but losing a lot of weight has made an incredible difference.

Here's another girl-advice concept. Definitely take pictures of yourself with very happy smiles. You know that pic of yourself that you think looks pretty good because it's all manly and shit? Girls HATE that picture. If you have no female friends to ask just go with something genuinely happy. The trick I employ is I think of funny things as opposed to happy things when I get a picture taken. In this particular picture I was actually thinking about how stupid I would look in the picture.


Also, to the haters in this thread, get over yourselves. That is the side of you that is fucking up your life, not anything else.

 

[Drinkel]

So I'm suffering from a pretty bad case of having feelings for my best friend and roomate, I know deep down this would be a meaningless pursuit and very toxic for our friendship so I've decided to try my luck with online dating to get my mind and hopefully emotions on other things. So far all sites I've come across have felt extremely creepy and given me a bad vibe. Are dating pages just like that? I have no experience with this at all but will try to employ the healthy advice I've read. I've got nothing to loose after all.

 

[Dr_Boris_Goltz]

First of all, 909 is not LA. The sooner you stop living this delusion, the better.

As far as a fun date in that area, I'd go with Speed Zone in Diamond Bar. Go karts and mini golf. There are also some good Asian dessert places nearby.

Ahahaha. I can 100% assure you, I'm not delusional. 909 sucks.

That said LA is about a 40 minute drive, so I included it within the area of date possibilities.

 

[Grimm Fandango]

Sigh...

So I was originally planning on going to the ice skating rink with the girl I've been studying with. Today she texts me that her previous relationship ended a couple weeks ago and she's not really ready to start dating again. She ends the text with, "I hope we can still hang out when we go back to school".

I feel like total crap now dammit.

 

[ACE 1991]

Carry on as usual, but don't try to press her on how she feels about you. Let her be the one to bring it up again and in the meantime just try and have a great time while she's around. Only becomes awkward if she noticies that you're uncomfortable about it.

Okay, thanks. The only thing i'm worried about is setting myself up for failure; taking things to be hints that she wants to move to a relationship only to end up being wrong.

 

[BriareosGAF]

Ahahaha. I can 100% assure you, I'm not delusional. 909 sucks.

That said LA is about a 40 minute drive, so I included it within the area of date possibilities.

Comedy club, preferably small venue improvisational (Acme was my usual dest).

Also the 909 may suck, but at least you can eat Cuca's every day if you want.

 

[Rookje]

No secrets revealed. Roflmao. GTFO.

 

[grap3fruitman]

Makes me think of Hugo. How many smiles do you have?

What?

 

[faulty_fork]

Okay, thanks. The only thing i'm worried about is setting myself up for failure; taking things to be hints that she wants to move to a relationship only to end up being wrong.

Just jokingly throw out "Are you flirting with me now?" or something when you feel like she's giving you hints. She knows how you feel about her now and if she doesn't have any romantic interest in you she'll probably make that clear soon.

 

[Kad5]

Be a better version of yourself then. It doesn't seem like you're comfortable in your own skin which is ok. Do whatever it takes to achieve that goal (hanging out with friends and family, learning a new skill/hobby, travel, therapy, etc.). What I like about Brent Smith's (Cubs lol) videos is the theme of always loving yourself first before you love someone else....

This is why i've been saying that the advice sucks. It's better to tell people that you need to be the best YOU that you can be.

The previous wording is honestly shitty and i'm surprised it has existed for so long because CLEARLY it doesn't work. Myself and other people in this thread included. It's flawed advice.

Plain and simple.

 

[CherryWoodFuton]

This is why i've been saying that the advice sucks. It's better to tell people that you need to be the best YOU that you can be.

The previous wording is honestly shitty and i'm surprised it has existed for so long because CLEARLY it doesn't work. Myself and other people in this thread included. It's flawed advice.

Plain and simple.

I guess it all depends on the individual. While I do see that "be yourself" means to not be a fake douche just to get a girl I also agree that blanket statements such as those oversimplifies some of the issues that some posters here have. The reason I keep going back to this thread more than any other here on Gaf is because this place is for people that need help on problems on an individual basis and people who are capable of giving advice tailor made to another posters situation.

 

[Kad5]

I guess it all depends on the individual. While I do see that "be yourself" means to not be a fake douche just to get a girl I also agree that blanket statements such as those oversimplifies some of the issues that some posters here have. The reason I keep going back to this thread more than any other here on Gaf is because this place is for people that need help on problems on an individual basis and people who are capable of giving advice tailor made to another posters situation.

All i'm saying is that if it was as easy as telling someone to "be yourself" this thread would not exist.

 

[CherryWoodFuton]

All i'm saying is that if it was as easy as telling someone to "be yourself" this thread would not exist.

Yea dude nothing is ever simple especially when it comes to dating. There's no "magic" solution to get girls to like you. It starts with liking yourself and yes it can be a very hard and long process and sometimes it can be very complicated to fix deep rooted self-esteem issues. This thread exists because of all the complex issues, which is not to say this thread will and should solve all of your problems. I feel that at most this thread should be a jump start for people to take responsibility and take action (like I posted earlier whether to be more social, work on self improvement, to seek therapy, whatever).

 

[luckyboyceo]

Sigh...

So I was originally planning on going to the ice skating rink with the girl I've been studying with. Today she texts me that her previous relationship ended a couple weeks ago and she's not really ready to start dating again. She ends the text with, "I hope we can still hang out when we go back to school".

I feel like total crap now dammit.

Ouch man, sorry to hear that. Think of it this way, at least she told you now rather than 3 dates and a bunch more emotional baggage later. It stings but it's for the best.

But hey, new quarter, new women. That's how I'm approaching things when I get back to school. Do the same.

 

[Attackthebase]

Err, I think you misunderstand. These are secrets about 'me', not 'technique'. In fact I will go so far as to say I still don't believe in 'technique', unless that technique is actually thinking about what you're doing, remaining calm, and liking yourself enough to get over basic hurdles.

What I actually employed was a personal spin on creative messages, openness, and persistence.

An actually creative opener makes a huge difference. Just asking a question or telling something about yourself is not enough. Once you write you first truly creative message you'll see what I mean. This especially is hard to describe. You find something in their profile and you think of a creative way to comment or ask a question about it.

I can second this man. I usually get more of a reply back from women when I go batshit insane in the message (i.e. make it creative and something they wouldn't get from the normal chumps). The chances of getting a reply back goes a lot higher when a woman sees you are different from the crowd.

It's a pity I figured this out a year after having a profile. Also like Low G said, being persistance isn't a bad thing for online dating, since the girl might miss your message. Shit like that happens.

Plus, nothing really bad will happen by being persistance, the worst is her replying back in a jerk-like way. But, she's a random person, and what the fuck does she know about my awesome Gaffer friends? That's right, nothing!

 

[Grimm Fandango]

Ouch man, sorry to hear that. Think of it this way, at least she told you now rather than 3 dates and a bunch more emotional baggage later. It stings but it's for the best.

But hey, new quarter, new women. That's how I'm approaching things when I get back to school. Do the same.

Thanks man.

I really need to put it behind me now and look ahead. The problem is I've had the same questions going through my head all day now and I can't stop. And there's the small part of me that hopes she'll want to do something down the line but I shouldn't count on it. School starts in 4 weeks which is a long time.

And after her text I responded, "Well if that's how you really feel, okay" so not sure if that sounded wrong at all.

Sigh again.

 

[Tonche]

Here's another girl-advice concept. Definitely take pictures of yourself with very happy smiles. You know that pic of yourself that you think looks pretty good because it's all manly and shit? Girls HATE that picture. If you have no female friends to ask just go with something genuinely happy. The trick I employ is I think of funny things as opposed to happy things when I get a picture taken. In this particular picture I was actually thinking about how stupid I would look in the picture.

Not true according to OKC.

 

[soultron]

Not true according to OKC.

http://cdn.okcimg.com/blog/four_G][/QUOTE]

Some context would be nice.

 

[NeOak]

Damn it. I haven't slept well in the past 3 days and now because of not thinking correctly I think i kinda fucked up a chance with a girl i liked by playing the big no-no i-wont-disturb-you-anymore useless card.

And in case I hadn't fucked it up the first time, I send a second message explaining the situation and asked her to disregard what i said. DAMN IT.

FML

 

[Tonche]

Some context would be nice.

It was a study of how various photo characteristics affect contact.

Full article here: blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-4-big-myths-of-profile-pictures/

That said, what works is probably going to be different for everyone so it's worth testing different types of photos to see for yourself.

 

[Kad5]

Not true according to OKC.

What the hell is a flirty face?

This applies to pictures of yourself on okcupid right?

 

[Sanky Panky]

Online dating tip:

- NEVER compliment a girl about her looks on the first message (or at all)

- never make it sexual before a date.

- Never go by two weeks (assuming she replies twice or 3 times per week) without suggesting a meet-up. By your 4th-5th reply, you should be exchanging numbers and switching to texting.

Oh and the whole picture thing... it just needs to be natural (hence the whole "no eye contact/no smiling" thing). Pick one that you think you look good and natural in (or the image you want to portray - which should be yourself DUH!)

 

[-PXG-]

Random words of wisdom.

As cliche and played out as this sounds, seriously, just be yourself. As long as you're not a complete creep, horrendously awkward or a total social deviant, any woman worth your time will like you. She will admire your confidence and not give (too much of) a shit about your bad qualities. You ain't perfect, and neither is she. The sweetest girl, the coolest chick, the thickest ass or the tightest vagina on Earth isn't worth you being trying to live someone else's life. If she doesn't appreciate you for who you are, quite frankly, she isn't worth a second of your time.

Part of the whole "not caring thing" is learning how to not put women on pedestals. Once you do that, it's much easier to move on and not get hung up over a rejection or a break up.

Once you discover how to love yourself and show that you're comfortable in your own skin, without being a conceited douche, females will be attracted to you. It isn't some elusive secret. As I said a while ago, if getting a girlfriend and getting laid was so hard, our species would have gone extinct a long time ago. If you think less about the whole thing and relax, you'll end up being much happier and have more peace of mind. And hey, being calm, cool and collected is a good thing too.

 

[Biff]

Damn it. I haven't slept well in the past 3 days and now because of not thinking correctly I think i kinda fucked up a chance with a girl i liked by playing the big no-no i-wont-disturb-you-anymore useless card.

And in case I hadn't fucked it up the first time, I send a second message explaining the situation and asked her to disregard what i said. DAMN IT.

FML

"think"?

 

[ACE 1991]

Alright guys, so I did some dumb shit last Saturday. I drunk texted the girl I've been interested in for months now (we're close friends) telling her how I feel and that it's difficult to continue being close since I've developed strong feelings for her. We had a talk about it yesterday and she told me she doesn't really know how she feels and wants to spend some time thinking about us... She actually had no idea I was interested in her until I told her, which makes it understandable that she's confused. What is the best course of action here, GAF? I realized I did a lot of things wrong including not making my intentions known earlier in the game and sending a drunk text (I still feel shitty about sending that, I handled it poorly). However, until she figures out how she feels about me/us it seems like our relationship will be strained and awkward. Should I just carry on business as usual or try to distance myself a little?


Thanks!

(To provide context for my question) A couple people in this thread have said earlier today that I'm better off just carrying on as usual... The more I think about it, isn't it more likely she's just trying to keep from hurting me feelings? It seems to me like if she had feelings for me she would know what they are by now. Furthermore, our relationship is in a weird awkward place right now. I really, really like her but I don't want to convince myself that this is salvageable only to be crushed.

 

[Kad5]

Random words of wisdom.

As cliche and played out as this sounds, seriously, just be yourself. As long as you're not a complete creep, horrendously awkward or a total social deviant, any woman worth your time will like you. She will admire your confidence and not give (too much of) a shit about your bad qualities. You ain't perfect, and neither is she. The sweetest girl, the coolest chick, the thickest ass or the tightest vagina on Earth isn't worth you being trying to live someone else's life. If she doesn't appreciate you for who you are, quite frankly, she isn't worth a second of your time.

Part of the whole "not caring thing" is learning how to not put women on pedestals. Once you do that, it's much easier to move on and not get hung up over a rejection or a break up.

Once you discover how to love yourself and show that you're comfortable in your own skin, without being a conceited douche, females will be attracted to you. It isn't some elusive secret. As I said a while ago, if getting a girlfriend and getting laid was so hard, our species would have gone extinct a long time ago. If you think less about the whole thing and relax, you'll end up being much happier and have more peace of mind. And hey, being calm, cool and collected is a good thing too.

This is good advice. Most people simply just say "be yourself" without explaining anything deeper.

 

[Biff]

(To provide context for my question) A couple people in this thread have said earlier today that I'm better off just carrying on as usual... The more I think about it, isn't it more likely she's just trying to keep from hurting me feelings? It seems to me like if she had feelings for me she would know what they are by now. Furthermore, our relationship is in a weird awkward place right now. I really, really like her but I don't want to convince myself that this is salvageable only to be crushed.

It is absolutely over. The fact that she needs time to "think about it" means she doesn't feel the same way as you.

Sorry dude. I know you won't take my advice because I was in your shoes before, but distance yourself. You will never be close friends again, and if you somehow do, you will just get the same feelings again and it'll end worse.

If you really, really want to get her, distancing yourself is your only chance. Her confidence will be deflated and she'll start wondering why she hasn't noticed you before etc etc

 

[Kad5]

Ok so this girl said she wants to hang out with me tonight. Here is how the convo went:

(Before the text she needed to me to bring her in the dorm but she had someone else do it instead cuz I was away doing something else in another room)

Her: I'm at your room. (I had no idea why she was there.)

Her: What time will you be back later? Im about to go to underground so can I just put my backpack in your room?

And ill get it later?

Me: Yea

Let's hang out later for sure though. (We had discussed hanging out previously because we hardly saw each other.)

Her: K when? I get off at 5 am.

Me: Um how about sometime tomorrow?

Her: If I have time yeah. What day are you leaving for break?

Me: Tuesday

Her: K if not tomorrow we can def Monday after my exam.

Me: Sure i'm looking forward to it. :]

Her: K :]


The previous times we hung out she would visit me in my room or ask me if we could hang out in my room at night and we'd talk while she would study on her computer. She played with my hair and she told me about her ex and how he's an asshole and stuff.


We'll see where this goes i'm not getting my hopes up.

 

[Biff]

Ok so this girl said she wants to hang out with me tonight. Here is how the convo went:

(Before the text she needed to me to bring her in the dorm but she had someone else do it instead cuz I was away doing something else in another room)

Her: I'm at your room. (I had no idea why she was there.)

Her: What time will you be back later? Im about to go to underground so can I just put my backpack in your room?

And ill get it later?

Me: Yea

Let's hang out later for sure though. (We had discussed hanging out previously because we hardly saw each other.)

Her: K when? I get off at 5 am.

Me: Um how about sometime tomorrow?

Her: If I have time yeah. What day are you leaving for break?

Me: Tuesday

Her: K if not tomorrow we can def Monday after my exam.

Me: Sure i'm looking forward to it. :]

Her: K :]


The previous times we hung out she would visit me in my room or ask me if we could hang out in my room at night and we'd talk while she would study on her computer. She played with my hair and she told me about her ex and how he's an asshole and stuff.


We'll see where this goes i'm not getting my hopes up.

Why wouldn't you get your hopes up? Sounds like she's into you. If you don't make your move tomorrow/the very next time you are alone with her she will think you don't want anything more than friendship.

And by move I obviously mean kiss. Not a hug or hand hold or some shit like that. You are in danger zone already by not doing it last time you are with her. It's do or die time my man.

 

[Kad5]

Why wouldn't you get your hopes up? Sounds like she's into you. If you don't make your move tomorrow/the very next time you are alone with her she will think you don't want anything more than friendship.

And by move I obviously mean kiss. Not a hug or hand hold or some shit like that. You are in danger zone already by not doing it last time you are with her. It's do or die time my man.

Alright. I should also mention that I never saw a backpack in my room...

But yeah she's probably into me.

You guys got any tips on how I should go for a kiss? Im curious what you guys can provide.

 

[Biff]

Alright. I should also mention that I never saw a backpack in my room...

But yeah she's probably into me.

You guys got any tips on how I should go for a kiss? Im curious what you guys can provide.

Hard mode:

1. Have a good time, don't be all nervous and awkward
2. Sit close next to her
3. Make eye contact
4. Kiss

EZ mode:

1. Have a good time, don't be all nervous and awkward
2. Sit close next to her
3. Ask for permission to kiss
4. Kiss

Most girls find EZ mode "sweet". True story. Neither is wrong, but GAF pickup-artists will call EZ mode "beta", lol

 

[Slayer-33]

Hard mode:

1. Have a good time, don't be all nervous and awkward
2. Sit close next to her
3. Make eye contact
4. Kiss

EZ mode:

1. Have a good time, don't be all nervous and awkward
2. Sit close next to her
3. Ask for permission to kiss Can I tell you a secret? *smile on face* (Whisper in her ear, "I am going to kiss you now")
4. Kiss

Most girls find EZ mode "sweet". True story. Neither is wrong, but GAF pickup-artists will call EZ mode "beta", lol

Don't ask for permission imo.

1 is optimal

 

[Miguel]

Ok so this girl said she wants to hang out with me tonight. Here is how the convo went:

(Before the text she needed to me to bring her in the dorm but she had someone else do it instead cuz I was away doing something else in another room)

Her: I'm at your room. (I had no idea why she was there.)

Her: What time will you be back later? Im about to go to underground so can I just put my backpack in your room?

And ill get it later?

Me: Yea

Let's hang out later for sure though. (We had discussed hanging out previously because we hardly saw each other.)

Her: K when? I get off at 5 am.

Me: Um how about sometime tomorrow?

Her: If I have time yeah. What day are you leaving for break?

Me: Tuesday

Her: K if not tomorrow we can def Monday after my exam.

Me: Sure i'm looking forward to it. :]

Her: K :]


The previous times we hung out she would visit me in my room or ask me if we could hang out in my room at night and we'd talk while she would study on her computer. She played with my hair and she told me about her ex and how he's an asshole and stuff.


We'll see where this goes i'm not getting my hopes up.

Everything came to a screeching halt in my mind at the end there. Friend or more, eliminate the ex BS before it becomes a regular thing. Either ignore it and bring up another subject you were talking about already or tell her she's wasting her time bringing him up and make a move if you haven't already. Having been there that a game of chutes and ladders and you're a few spaces away from a friendzone chute.

 

[Kinitari]

Last time I had a first kiss what worked for me was saying "Can I ask you a question?" And when she said "hmm, sure!" I just walked into her and kissed her - mind you we were out on the street, and I don't know if that was an in-context thing, or something that would be applicable anywhere with anyone.

 

[Kad5]

Everything came to a screeching halt in my mind at the end there. Friend or more, eliminate the ex BS before it becomes a regular thing. Either ignore it and bring up another subject you were talking about already or tell her she's wasting her time bringing him up and make a move if you haven't already. Having been there that a game of chutes and ladders and you're a few spaces away from a friendzone chute.

I remember she brought it up cuz I asked about him. And she explained to me he was an asshole cuz he cheated on him and stole out of her purse and stuff....

 

[ACE 1991]

It is absolutely over. The fact that she needs time to "think about it" means she doesn't feel the same way as you.

Sorry dude. I know you won't take my advice because I was in your shoes before, but distance yourself. You will never be close friends again, and if you somehow do, you will just get the same feelings again and it'll end worse.

If you really, really want to get her, distancing yourself is your only chance. Her confidence will be deflated and she'll start wondering why she hasn't noticed you before etc etc

I really needed to hear that. Thank you.

 

[Biff]

I really needed to hear that. Thank you.

No prob. I've been there before. Most of us have. You won't make the same mistake again, I promise you that.

Just remember, the next cute girl you meet, make sure to go down the 'potential boyfriend' fork in the road, not the 'potential bestfriend'. Plant those seeds early (not literally - that would be too forward).

 

[ACE 1991]

No prob. I've been there before. Most of us have. You won't make the same mistake again, I promise you that.

Just remember, the next cute girl you meet, make sure to go down the 'potential boyfriend' fork in the road, not the 'potential bestfriend'. Plant those seeds early (not literally - that would be too forward).

Right. I tried, but didn't act quickly enough. We danced together at parties earlier in the year (I guess this was before I friend-zoned myself) and two weekends ago she told me verbatim "I am hitting on you" and "I've always thought you were cute" which it makes it kind of difficult to just cut it off. On top of that she told me that she really likes me a lot and part of her thinks we would be good together but she doesn't know. I think I'll just stick to studying the shit out of finals to keep my mind off of it. Thanks again, by the way =)

 

[johnny_park]

I had a first kiss with a girl this past Sunday and usually I just go for it but this time I asked first. I was super nervous this time. She ended up saying "I think we should". It was nice.

 

[lazybones18]

Been messaging this girl on POF for a few weeks and.....we're close to finally meeting. Sent her a message earlier asking if she's ready to meet and when. She responded not too long ago saying she's interested and has plans this week. Sending her another message tomorrow seeing if next week is good for her.

 

[Kinitari]

Guys... what percentage of girls that you've slept with have wanted a good 'choking' during sex? Cause for me, 100% have - and I think the next girl will probably want that stuff too. Is it me, do I give off a "I choke girls" aura, that makes those types of girls attracted to me, or do more girls than I realized like getting choked?

 

[soultron]

Guys... what percentage of girls that you've slept with have wanted a good 'choking' during sex? Cause for me, 100% have - and I think the next girl will probably want that stuff too. Is it me, do I give off a "I choke girls" aura, that makes those types of girls attracted to me, or do more girls than I realized like getting choked?

Different girls like different stuff. Don't assume that what one girl likes, all girls like.

Choking is a tough call because it can freak a girl out if she doesn't like it, especially from my experience. One girl I dated had a bad experience (dude who took her virginity was too rough for her liking) and really didn't like me going near her neck (even necking) so that was out of the question.

I find that if a girl will let you gently grip her neck while you're in the swing of things, chances are she'll appreciate more pressure. Some girls are direct and will tell you to choke them once you're there. You can ask when your hand is there too -- I always encourage communication. Mix in some obvious dirty talk and it can really accentuate things.

 

[ConradCervantes]

I dated a girl who liked to be choked until her eyes rolled into the back of her head. It was quite disturbing to watch, but she said it felt even better when she came, so I was happy to oblige.

I think guys and girls can give off a certain "aura", if you will, regarding their willingness to do certain things in bed. I've been told by more than one woman that I would probably possess a dominant personality in bed, just by the way I carry myself whenever I flirt.

 

[JambiBum]

I dated a girl who liked to be choked until her eyes rolled into the back of her head. It was quite disturbing to watch, but she said it felt even better when she came, so I was happy to oblige.

I think guys and girls can give off a certain "aura", if you will, regarding their willingness to do certain things in bed. I've been told by more than one woman that I would probably possess a dominant personality in bed, just by the way I carry myself whenever I flirt.

This. I can usually tell pretty easily now if a girl will be into things like choking. Sometimes I get thrown for a loop though.The past few girls I have dated have all been into choking.


Also, after the whole ex fiance thing I posted about a long time ago I'm usually not one that just straight up falls for a girl anymore. That whole situation jaded me pretty badly but I think that I found a girl that has just completely swept me away. Got a message from a girl on OkC a while ago and we just hit it off immediately. She's a pretty great singer which is a huge thing for me. I can't sing at all but if a girl can it just makes me nuts. I'm trying to stay reserved and all that good shit but honestly I don't give a fuck right now. I'm tired of one night stands and relationships that amount to nothing in the end. I'd post more but I have to work in the morning so I need to go to bed.

 

[soultron]

This. I can usually tell pretty easily now if a girl will be into things like choking. Sometimes I get thrown for a loop though.The past few girls I have dated have all been into choking.


Also, after the whole ex fiance thing I posted about a long time ago I'm usually not one that just straight up falls for a girl anymore. That whole situation jaded me pretty badly but I think that I found a girl that has just completely swept me away. Got a message from a girl on OkC a while ago and we just hit it off immediately. She's a pretty great singer which is a huge thing for me. I can't sing at all but if a girl can it just makes me nuts. I'm trying to stay reserved and all that good shit but honestly I don't give a fuck right now. I'm tired of one night stands and relationships that amount to nothing in the end. I'd post more but I have to work in the morning so I need to go to bed.

It's great that she can sing, but being logical here: that won't matter in the long run. Your compatibility isn't dependant enough on her singing abilities. Just stay realistic. All the best.

 

[JambiBum]

It's great that she can sing, but being logical here: that won't matter in the long run. Your compatibility isn't dependant enough on her singing abilities. Just stay realistic. All the best.

Oh no I know lol. It isn't just the fact that she can sing. At all actually. That's just a huge bonus thing for me. Everyone has things they look for in a person, and usually they have things that are extra turn ons and such. Singing is just one of those extra things.

 

[Kad5]

Nothing happened.

I ended up hanging out with the girl and our gay friend.

We smoked in his bathroom.

Then she fell asleep. Shit sucks.

 

[BocoDragon]

I have a date through fucking craigslist this week... Who even does that?? Somehow I stumbled on her when I was looking to see if anyone had any turntables for sale, and said "what the hey". Her message sounded uniquely appealing.

We exchanged pics, yes she's cute, and we've been in touch for a few days via email and text... she's definitely not a nigerian scammer or anything

Am I the only one in 2011 who has ever arranged a date through craigslist... or.....?

 

[Jamesfrom818]

I have a date through fucking craigslist this week... Who even does that?? Somehow I stumbled on her when I was looking to see if anyone had any turntables for sale, and said "what the hey". Her message sounded uniquely appealing.

We exchanged pics, yes she's cute, and we've been in touch for a few days via email and text... she's definitely not a nigerian scammer or anything

Am I the only one in 2011 who has ever arranged a date through craigslist... or.....?

I value my kidneys.