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Girl/Dating Age Part 2: A combined effort to give advice for those in need
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Solideliquid
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Obviously, but I didn't imagine that she would say that. We had been arguing that day and when she said that I had to leave the room and she went to sleep.
Just not sure how do deal with a comment like that. I know she was emotional but wow.
Depends on what kind of guy you would like to be and what kind of girls you're trying to get with.
Count Dookkake
Member
It sounds like you are a nice guy, but not for now.
Well this is the context.
This chick was angry at me for avoiding her. And me and her kind of got into a playful fight infront of our friends and she said "Kad5, you're honestly marriage material. I wouldn't marry you though. But I think you're going to find a beautiful girl that you're going to make very happy one day."
um....kind of a hidden way of saying you're not good enough for me I guess I dunno.
This chick was angry at me for avoiding her. And me and her kind of got into a playful fight infront of our friends and she said "Kad5, you're honestly marriage material. I wouldn't marry you though. But I think you're going to find a beautiful girl that you're going to make very happy one day."
um....kind of a hidden way of saying you're not good enough for me I guess I dunno.
Sanky Panky
Banned
SON YOU GOT SHOT DOWN.
It's code word for "stop trying to remotely flirt with me. You are nice, but I don't like you at all."
lazybones18
Banned
Looks like a date is not gonna happen. Girl I'm been sending messages back and forth deleted her POF profile. Guess she lived in an entirely different state after all.
Lone_Prodigy
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What if you had a crush on a girl and she led you on then told you she didn't want a relationship with you?
CherryWoodFuton
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Bah second time I schedule a date and girl can't make it. Oh well more money in my bank account
I got a 2nd date planned tomorrow. Since I'm an idiot, I've got no clue what to expect from this. The first date went well; although I was nervous, but I noticed she was nervous also. Since then we've been chatting a lot and it's been good, really nice actually. I just can't tell whether or not she's interested in a more than "friends" way. There's some flirting going on, although normally that's not my cup of tea, but it just happens when I talk to her. And I like that feeling.
At this moment I just hope everything will just "happen" if there's a real connection between us. Maybe I'll get it when the time is right... I'm just scared to fuck up, misread signs and scare her off.
At this moment I just hope everything will just "happen" if there's a real connection between us. Maybe I'll get it when the time is right... I'm just scared to fuck up, misread signs and scare her off.
It's so hard though. Besides the interview was more like me sitting in and just chatting about life and stuff. My boss did the actual questioning stuff.
Although I feel her BF is going to propose or something over the new year so oh well.
Same girl? Let her rearrange next time. Pretty surefire way to know for sure if she's just not that into you.Bah second time I schedule a date and girl can't make it. Oh well more money in my bank account
Shot down?
I haven't even been trying to go after her. How can I get shot down if I haven't been even trying to do shit?
Also, she's the one who got angry at me for avoiding her.
So saying shit like that isn't going to keep me from avoiding her.
CherryWoodFuton
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Ehhh fuck that on to the next one. I've been warned before that she was a flaker so it's my own damn fault for falling into the trap.
Tip of the day fellas: Don't put up with bullshit. If you dont tolerate it with other people why the hell would you do with a female????
TheSchwab_7
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Date in less than an hour. Was pretty cool up until now, now im nervous as fuckkk. She seems pretty excited to be going out with me. First date with a girl in about 2 months since i got dumped. Ah well, as long as i play it cool things should go well.
Good luck buddy. Date 4.5 coming up for me tonight. Its technically the 4th, except the 3rd lasted 37 hours.
CherryWoodFuton
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Take one (just one) shot of some hard ass liquor to loosen you up a bit. Brush your teeth or chew gum so that your breath doesn't smell like a drunken hobo lol
If she led mean on I'd feel like shit, which is why I said I don't want to lead her on. But if a girl I had a crush on was like "hey, can't give you a relationship but how bout being fuck buddies?" I'd almost certainly be up for it and just know I need to put up my emotional shield
I'd simply reassure her once and leave it at that. A woman can only ask that question so many times before she starts appearing insecure or, worse yet, a control freak by using the concept of "love" as a weapon to swing decisions and/or arguments in her favour. Ex. "Do you love me? If you love me you'll let me pick the new car."
That being said, you know your situation much better than I do; context is very important with these sort of tiffs.
She's excited to go out with you, dude! Use that thought to your advantage to get psyched up. You'll have fun, don't worry.
If you weren't physical on the first date, give it a shot on this one. You can test the waters with hand holding while you walk or even if you're just sitting and chatting sometimes. The good bye at the end of the date is always a good opportunity to go for a kiss if you didn't get one in before then.
Even if things seem ambiguous, it's probably still worth trying for a kiss on a second date. A lot of girls expect the guy to make the move and don't do a good job of advertising that. And if you do get shot down, at least you can stop wasting your time with her if she isn't interested.
if you wanna erase any bad memories or thoughts about yourself https://pstecaudiosource.org/accounts/thank-686x3z9511987/download/dnl4/PSTecFile01.mp3
just do it 1-3 times. best thing ever.
just do it 1-3 times. best thing ever.
CherryWoodFuton
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So the girl that "flaked" on me texts me and asks what I'm doing tonight (which is going to a club) and she says I'm going there too....*whatatwist* So now what????
WHAT DID I JUST DOWNLOAD?????????
WHAT DID I JUST DOWNLOAD?????????
dreadfulwater
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perfect. go there and talk/flirt with other girls..if she shows interest say, "oh, I got the impression there wasn't any spark" put the ball in her court, but DO NOT make it a project. see what else is happening there. You may find yourself a less flakier crust
just say "cool, maybe I'll see you there"
You said it yourself man. Don't put up with the bullshit
Go there because YOU want to, and if she shows up, fine, do whatever. Just be ready to walk away if she continues to flake.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hqFe9SZIklQ&feature=related
This video was pretty cool
I'm almost tempted to sign up (though, writing down the opposite of what I believe my life is, isn't really that hard).CherryWoodFuton
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You said it yourself man. Don't put up with the bullshit
Yea I'm rolling with my crew tonight so if she wants to join its fine. I most definitely am not going to search for her there.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hqFe9SZIklQ&feature=related
This video was pretty cool
$90+???? Hell nawww
protip: don't text her while you're there. Don't.
Whatever you do avoid saying anything along the lines of "hope to see you there" or anything showing you're anticipating/excited about her being there. She's already flaked twice, not worth pursuing. Go have fun with your friends, let her come up to you. After that it's up to you whether you actually want to continue from there.
CherryWoodFuton
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Thanks fellas. I'm in Miami so there's plenty of hot Latina tail that will be out there
You got this. Don't clown on the flake when you get a few in you, either!Thanks fellas. I'm in Miami so there's plenty of hot Latina tail that will be out there
Just make it a fun night, CWF.
Ninja_Hawk
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Thanks fellas. I'm in Miami so there's plenty of hot Latina tail that will be out there
Ninja is jealous....oh so jealous.....I went crazy when I hung out at the clubs there this past Summer, can't wait to go back. Anyways good luck.
Thanks fellas. I'm in Miami so there's plenty of hot Latina tail that will be out there
Yeah man, just go have a great time with your friends. Get drunk, have fun.
So I went on a first date with this girl and there was a lot of awkward silence. I'm usually a pretty quiet guy, i'm not too great at creating a good conversation. Anyone have tips to avoid the silence, possibly some topics we can talk about? We're both in high school, but constantly talking about school can get boring.
Lone_Prodigy
Member
I'm no expert on FWB, but maybe try to figure out if her attraction is purely physical. Also, girls are usually more emotionally sensitive than guys, so while most guys would leap at the opportunity for no-strings-attached sex, most girls won't.
Ask about hobbies, family, etc... One thing you will want to do is start with one question and LISTEN. Listen to her and find another question based upon a tidbit of what she said. Converse. Rinse, repeat.
It also doesn't help if you're nervous. You need to loosen up and take on an "I don't give a shit" attitude.
TheVampire
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Omg me and my girl seriously need help with kissing.
I swear neither of us can do it properly.
Its like she isnt going slow and shes eating my lips.
Kinda like that youtube video going around a few weeks ago of that newly maried couple.
I swear neither of us can do it properly.
Its like she isnt going slow and shes eating my lips.
Kinda like that youtube video going around a few weeks ago of that newly maried couple.
TheSchwab_7
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Alright GAF so it's 6am where I live and my date just got over. lol. Here's what happened.
So I went to go pick her up at her house and my original plan was to go to this restaurant but it was like an hour wait so we decided to go somewhere else to eat. At first it was awkward cause we hadn't seen each other since we worked together (6 months), but after a minute or two it was pretty natural. Talked in the car the whole time, she told me stories and I just listened to her. Went to dinner and she looked way better than I ever imagined. Blue eyes, red hair o.o anyway, she looked great and I was like damn how did I not notice her earlier?
Anyway, throughout dinner she couldn't stop smiling and it was really easy to make her laugh. It was like this throughout the whole night. I'd look at her and she'd just smile. I'd ask her what? jokingly, but she wouldn't tell me. lol.
After dinner we went downtown and walked around since everything was decorated for Christmas. We just walked and talked the whole time and it was really nice. There was an ice staking rink that the city puts up for the public, but it was so packed. We decided to just sit and watch.
After that we decided to go to redbox and watch a movie at my place. Since we are both education majors, we picked Bad Teacher. It was pretty funny. We didn't just sit there and not talk, it was more of us just talking on the couch and occasionally watching the movie for laughs. lol. There was a blanket on my couch and she took it, so we sorta fought over who controls the blanket since it was small. Sounds lame, but there was some touching going on.
After the movie, I was out of ideas since it was 2am, so I just turned on the TV and we watched some skateboard movie on MTV. While we were watching I put my arm around her and she put her head right on my chest. She said I was comfy. lol. We mostly just talked and goofed around. She still couldn't stop smiling when I looked at her and I made her laugh a bunch.
By this time it was around 330am and I'm like just tell me whenever you gotta go, and shes like I want to stay, but I could tell she was really tired. So we just laid on my couch cuddling and then she fell asleep. lol. So like a ninja I moved since my arm was falling asleep. She eventually woke up about 15 mins later and I asked her if she wanted to go home to sleep, she said no.
So then we just laid on my floor right next to each other and talked for about an hour about a bunch of stuff. There was a bunch of touching and we were really close and would just look into each others eyes and smile and laugh.
She said that I had a cute face. lol. So I took her home at like 5am, and I gave her a hug and hope you had a good time, etc. etc.
She then texted me saying that she was really surprised by me since when we worked together I acted completely different (Hated job, people I worked with, miserable to be there) and that she was glad that we hungout. She said that I was really funny and pretty sexy too.
And not to mention, on her Facebook before we went out she was all.....here we go! let's make tonight count. and after was tonight was one of the best nights i've had in a long time.
So I told her we should do it again when I get back from California in 2 weeks and she said that she'd love to.
I had a ton of fun, realized that there are better girls out there than my ex, and we shall see where things go.
So I went to go pick her up at her house and my original plan was to go to this restaurant but it was like an hour wait so we decided to go somewhere else to eat. At first it was awkward cause we hadn't seen each other since we worked together (6 months), but after a minute or two it was pretty natural. Talked in the car the whole time, she told me stories and I just listened to her. Went to dinner and she looked way better than I ever imagined. Blue eyes, red hair o.o anyway, she looked great and I was like damn how did I not notice her earlier?
Anyway, throughout dinner she couldn't stop smiling and it was really easy to make her laugh. It was like this throughout the whole night. I'd look at her and she'd just smile. I'd ask her what? jokingly, but she wouldn't tell me. lol.
After dinner we went downtown and walked around since everything was decorated for Christmas. We just walked and talked the whole time and it was really nice. There was an ice staking rink that the city puts up for the public, but it was so packed. We decided to just sit and watch.
After that we decided to go to redbox and watch a movie at my place. Since we are both education majors, we picked Bad Teacher. It was pretty funny. We didn't just sit there and not talk, it was more of us just talking on the couch and occasionally watching the movie for laughs. lol. There was a blanket on my couch and she took it, so we sorta fought over who controls the blanket since it was small. Sounds lame, but there was some touching going on.
After the movie, I was out of ideas since it was 2am, so I just turned on the TV and we watched some skateboard movie on MTV. While we were watching I put my arm around her and she put her head right on my chest. She said I was comfy. lol. We mostly just talked and goofed around. She still couldn't stop smiling when I looked at her and I made her laugh a bunch.
By this time it was around 330am and I'm like just tell me whenever you gotta go, and shes like I want to stay, but I could tell she was really tired. So we just laid on my couch cuddling and then she fell asleep. lol. So like a ninja I moved since my arm was falling asleep. She eventually woke up about 15 mins later and I asked her if she wanted to go home to sleep, she said no.
So then we just laid on my floor right next to each other and talked for about an hour about a bunch of stuff. There was a bunch of touching and we were really close and would just look into each others eyes and smile and laugh.
She said that I had a cute face. lol. So I took her home at like 5am, and I gave her a hug and hope you had a good time, etc. etc.
She then texted me saying that she was really surprised by me since when we worked together I acted completely different (Hated job, people I worked with, miserable to be there) and that she was glad that we hungout. She said that I was really funny and pretty sexy too.
And not to mention, on her Facebook before we went out she was all.....here we go! let's make tonight count. and after was tonight was one of the best nights i've had in a long time.
So I told her we should do it again when I get back from California in 2 weeks and she said that she'd love to.
I had a ton of fun, realized that there are better girls out there than my ex, and we shall see where things go.
Etrian Oddity
Member
Alright GAF, I know I've made a no-no, but see if I can salvage this. The girl I posted about last week about wussing out and not taking my chance--well, earlier I sort of redeemed myself by [after asking her] friending her on Facebook. Didn't get her number, but that's why I'm here: Is it possible for me to not appear weak by trying to establish rapport over FB and getting her number, or am I basically dead on arrival?
It won't hurt to try. You'll probably dig yourself into the FZ, but don't let that discourage you.
Just remember that a number is typically higher up the chain of interest than Facebook. Next time, right?
EDIT: Congrats on your date, Schwab! See how easy that was? c:
Sounds like a very nice evening indeed.
Instead of trying to kick her out of your place, why didn't you kiss her?
Bucket-o-roadkill
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Fed up of everyone I went to school with and associate with getting fucking engaged and starting a family while I'm left to rot like some corpse in the corner. I cannot put into words how embarrassing it is to live this way. Seriously getting me down, makes you feel like questioning every decision you have ever made. I know its not my fault when women cheat just because they can't keep their pants on, but it makes me feel what makes other people so special? Why is it always me who gets shit on and then patronisingly told it wasn't 'my fault', I almost wish it was, at least then I could look back and evaluate things, do things differently if I got another chance in future. I've had a handful of what I would call 'serious' girl friends and they all ended up ruining me. I got cheated on and eventually dumped the day my grand mother died because I was 'boring' during this period. Well sorry for not being a barrell of laughs through this. What am I meant to do, say fuck it, my grans dead but hey, wont let that get in the way of having a fun night out, lets hit the town!! Last year I was dumped because my gf had basically found someone she liked better. Someone she fancied more. Well gee, I'm so honoured she put up with me for as long as she did if I'm so ugly compared to others. I mean what can I do about that really, go out and get reconstructive facial surgery or something?
This is just an immature rant, but fuck me I look back at my life and feel like I must either be as ugly as hell or only attract absolute scum. I'm seriously sick of it. Dating sites are most definitely not the answer, as much as I love messaging women who get thrills from having men throwing themselves at them 24/7 online. Due to working weekends I cant get out much to pubs and clubs and my social circle are useless, I can't physically drag them kicking and screaming to clubs if they'd rather stay indoors sat on the computer wasting their lives. I try not to act like a clingy 'nice guy' (or beta), any time I put myself down is always only part of a joke or something, I act confidently, try to be polite, honest, good humoured and above all, fun.
I'm always just in the right place for these girls it seems, something to pass the time so they aren't on their own until they meet a guy they actually like. Feels baaaaad man
This is just an immature rant, but fuck me I look back at my life and feel like I must either be as ugly as hell or only attract absolute scum. I'm seriously sick of it. Dating sites are most definitely not the answer, as much as I love messaging women who get thrills from having men throwing themselves at them 24/7 online. Due to working weekends I cant get out much to pubs and clubs and my social circle are useless, I can't physically drag them kicking and screaming to clubs if they'd rather stay indoors sat on the computer wasting their lives. I try not to act like a clingy 'nice guy' (or beta), any time I put myself down is always only part of a joke or something, I act confidently, try to be polite, honest, good humoured and above all, fun.
I'm always just in the right place for these girls it seems, something to pass the time so they aren't on their own until they meet a guy they actually like. Feels baaaaad man
There was so much potential for that guy that night. I myself am surprised he didn't kiss her. That would definitely set the stage for something. It seems he cuddled with her (which isn't bad per see) but the touching, flirting comments have him an opening for a kiss.
I can definitely say this works lol
Quite hilarious. When I was saying the part "Hey can I ask you question?" I quickly thought about your post. I was at Buffalo Wild Wings with some friends and family. I wasn't trying to hit on my server or anything it was quite hilarious. But I asked her "Hey can I ask you question?" She pushed her hair back and was real close and was like "sure what is it?" I just asked her if she had a garden salad available since I'm a vegetarian. She said "yeah but we don't have it on the menu but we can make you one." I said cool and she stood there waiting for another response. But she walked away smiling.
Just saying shit like what that can get you a kiss and set the mood. I mean obviously I was at no stage kissing a server on her job but just knowing that question alone can set a mood for the opportunity, is good to know.
kinoki
Illness is the doctor to whom we pay most heed; to kindness, to knowledge, we make promise only; pain we obey.
Sounds like a great night. Part of me misses when I was single and had nights like this.
You need to seek professional help.
CherryWoodFuton
Member
Any experience with wingmen overhyping you in front of a female? I think it may have happened to me last night
Bucket-o-roadkill
Member
Been there done that. Useless, the shrinks have just made out that I've done nothing wrong with these girls in the past and there's nothing fundamentally wrong with what I'm doing now. Like I said it makes it worse because I can't make something right if its not wrong in the first place. I was told I was suffering a bad case of 'bad luck'. I believe you make your own luck in life, so that was hard to swallow.
I can't even get help for depression because apparently my sadness is a direct result of what's happened to me. Its rational depression. If I was sad for no reason, I'd get help, but because its due to being shit on by horrible women, I have to get on with it. Professional help isn't what's needed, meeting people who are honest, dependable and decent is what I need. I've yet to be able to do that.
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