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Girl/Dating Age Part 2: A combined effort to give advice for those in need
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WyndhamPrice
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whitehawk said:
So did you guys do it yet or what? Me and mine are a little over a month now and the fact that we haven't (though not for lack of trying if you look back a few pages) and that she's 3000 miles away until the 6th is driving me bonkers.
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jamesinclair said:
I mean...congrats on the date going so well. Good for you. But I don't know why you're chirping the guys on here who told you not to buy that DVD. Did you notice the date would've WENT THE EXACT SAME WAY if you hadn't spent money on a gift for a girl you never meant?
Good start. Now work on having "great times" without blowing your money. :lol
So there's two chicks which I'm currently getting nowhere with for various reasons. I'll post a quick summary of each, and then elaborate later.
1. Most recent: she messages me on okc, trade a few messages back and forth, ask for her number, she asks for my facebook profile instead. I send it, she responds back with her number. We exchange texts for the rest of the night. She calls the next night, we talk, text some more, more talking, more texting the next night, set up plans for drinks on a thursday. we go, sit around talking, she's not drinking cause she doesn't feel too well, I have a 2 drinks then the waitress convinces her into taking a shot which I join in on. Not too much going on, but she stuck around for 2 hours, so I can only assume the not feeling too well thing was legit. Walk her to her car, exchange goodbyes, kiss on the cheek, etc, drive back home (an hour drive btw >:|) debating which way I managed to screw this up... not giving her a kiss, or what initially made her "sick", as I tend to not always take people at their word to start when I first meet them. I'll play along but the doubt is always in my head.
Anyway, she messages me on FB that night apologizing for bailing out early (2 hours = early?) and I tell her I had fun, feel better, etc.
Next day we go back to our texting routine, few days between callls, I call, she'll call, etc. Had plans for last wednesday night to have dinner, she rescheduled for saturday. Friday night around 4am (works an overnight shift) she texts me saying she can't have dinner cause she has to go to work again the next night, same shift. She'd mentioned previously that her brother was graduating that day, so I figured with graduation, late shift, the only time available she'd have would be for sleep. So I let her figure out when the next time is gonna be, so we'll see where that goes.
Sidenote: Had a bet going with her between my team and her team, whoever scored the most points that weekend, wins the bet. Needless to say, I'm a Texans fan... That didn't go well for me.
Now I've got to cook dinner for her at some point, also, based on the Packers/Patriots game, she gets to pick the movie we're going to watch after.
While it appears to be a great situation, I'd be much more happy if she'd give me a rough estimate of when she'll be available to either go out to dinner, or cash in on her bet.
2. Female friend's sister, has been trying to hook us up for the better part of 2 years now, and I think we're both in the "I hate getting set up" camp, at least I am. She didn't show any interest, so finally my friend dropped it. Not that I didn't like her, I just didn't like the premise of being set up. Anyway, all that passes, one day I post I have an extra Rockets ticket if anyone wants to go on facebook, and she says she wants to go. We'd never really hung out alone before that, so I say sure, why not, let's go. So I go pick her up at a friends house, had a good time, took her back to her friend's place, etc. Didn't think too much of it.
A week later, nosy sister finds out, and she plans an outing with herself, her husband, the sister, and myself. ...alright fine.
So we go, again, have fun, but nothing really much to go on.
I ask randomly a few days later via text if she wants to go catch a movie that friday night, has an exam for a certification she needed. Ok, tried another event 2 weeks later, was going out of town.
Kinda just left it at that for a while, still see each other at events amongst the group of friends of myself and her sister.
I got some tickets to a play recently, and while I did want to see it, I wasn't going alone. Gave her a call to see if she wanted to go, said yes, ok, so we go, great play, walk her to her car, no time for dinner/drinks as it was late/wednesday. Still no vibe of anything besides friends there.
She calls me a week later and asks if I want to go see a rockets game again. I say yes, buy tickets, we go, have dinner before, go to the game, she's getting into it, but every 5 seconds her phone is blowing up... sister mcnoseyington is asking for a play by play... ugh.
Anyway, that continues most of the night, but she's getting into the game, asking questions, etc. Walk to car, go home. Yeah.
At another friends party last week, friend/husband, sister, and myself are talking and they mention they're going somewhere later in the evening, the girl in the story asks if I want to come along to another bar with the 3 of them, and their other sister who's rarely ever in town... ok why not..., during the course of the night she asks if I want to go to a club the next weekend, again, with the entire entourage... in any case... late night/ihop later, they happened to be parked away from where we were, so I walk her to her car, she walks in and says bye as she's closing the door. ...ok, bye. I go home.
As far as the club, the original plan was the same group, plus other sister, to go to the club, but they were going to a fashion show before... I had plans and wasn't going to go to that anyway, so I declined. the nosy sister's husband says he's going to bail out after the fashion show... now, do I really want to get cornered by the 3 sisters? Well, it depends on the situation... this one, no.
I call to say it sounds like a little too much of a girls night out, and that I'd have to skip it and catch up with her the next week. I get a call an hour later that the guy is suddenly going again... ok fine, I'll go, I had nothing better to do anyway and was already dressed nice.
Same scenario, although at least there was more interaction this time, danced with her a few songs (badly) and then we all ended up going to grab food at an IHOP-ish type place nearby. Text her afterwards saying I had fun, thanks for inviting me, etc. I don't know if she's friendzoned me, if she thinks I've friendzoned her, but one thing's for sure, she's way too dependent on her sister. It's getting a bit frustrating, cause even once that I've asked her out for drinks, somehow it ended up turning into the sister inviting herself, then inviting some of her friends... I haven't put much effort into this one mostly because of the entourage aspect of things.
1. Most recent: she messages me on okc, trade a few messages back and forth, ask for her number, she asks for my facebook profile instead. I send it, she responds back with her number. We exchange texts for the rest of the night. She calls the next night, we talk, text some more, more talking, more texting the next night, set up plans for drinks on a thursday. we go, sit around talking, she's not drinking cause she doesn't feel too well, I have a 2 drinks then the waitress convinces her into taking a shot which I join in on. Not too much going on, but she stuck around for 2 hours, so I can only assume the not feeling too well thing was legit. Walk her to her car, exchange goodbyes, kiss on the cheek, etc, drive back home (an hour drive btw >:|) debating which way I managed to screw this up... not giving her a kiss, or what initially made her "sick", as I tend to not always take people at their word to start when I first meet them. I'll play along but the doubt is always in my head.
Anyway, she messages me on FB that night apologizing for bailing out early (2 hours = early?) and I tell her I had fun, feel better, etc.
Next day we go back to our texting routine, few days between callls, I call, she'll call, etc. Had plans for last wednesday night to have dinner, she rescheduled for saturday. Friday night around 4am (works an overnight shift) she texts me saying she can't have dinner cause she has to go to work again the next night, same shift. She'd mentioned previously that her brother was graduating that day, so I figured with graduation, late shift, the only time available she'd have would be for sleep. So I let her figure out when the next time is gonna be, so we'll see where that goes.
Sidenote: Had a bet going with her between my team and her team, whoever scored the most points that weekend, wins the bet. Needless to say, I'm a Texans fan... That didn't go well for me.
Now I've got to cook dinner for her at some point, also, based on the Packers/Patriots game, she gets to pick the movie we're going to watch after.
While it appears to be a great situation, I'd be much more happy if she'd give me a rough estimate of when she'll be available to either go out to dinner, or cash in on her bet.
2. Female friend's sister, has been trying to hook us up for the better part of 2 years now, and I think we're both in the "I hate getting set up" camp, at least I am. She didn't show any interest, so finally my friend dropped it. Not that I didn't like her, I just didn't like the premise of being set up. Anyway, all that passes, one day I post I have an extra Rockets ticket if anyone wants to go on facebook, and she says she wants to go. We'd never really hung out alone before that, so I say sure, why not, let's go. So I go pick her up at a friends house, had a good time, took her back to her friend's place, etc. Didn't think too much of it.
A week later, nosy sister finds out, and she plans an outing with herself, her husband, the sister, and myself. ...alright fine.
So we go, again, have fun, but nothing really much to go on.
I ask randomly a few days later via text if she wants to go catch a movie that friday night, has an exam for a certification she needed. Ok, tried another event 2 weeks later, was going out of town.
Kinda just left it at that for a while, still see each other at events amongst the group of friends of myself and her sister.
I got some tickets to a play recently, and while I did want to see it, I wasn't going alone. Gave her a call to see if she wanted to go, said yes, ok, so we go, great play, walk her to her car, no time for dinner/drinks as it was late/wednesday. Still no vibe of anything besides friends there.
She calls me a week later and asks if I want to go see a rockets game again. I say yes, buy tickets, we go, have dinner before, go to the game, she's getting into it, but every 5 seconds her phone is blowing up... sister mcnoseyington is asking for a play by play... ugh.
Anyway, that continues most of the night, but she's getting into the game, asking questions, etc. Walk to car, go home. Yeah.
At another friends party last week, friend/husband, sister, and myself are talking and they mention they're going somewhere later in the evening, the girl in the story asks if I want to come along to another bar with the 3 of them, and their other sister who's rarely ever in town... ok why not..., during the course of the night she asks if I want to go to a club the next weekend, again, with the entire entourage... in any case... late night/ihop later, they happened to be parked away from where we were, so I walk her to her car, she walks in and says bye as she's closing the door. ...ok, bye. I go home.
As far as the club, the original plan was the same group, plus other sister, to go to the club, but they were going to a fashion show before... I had plans and wasn't going to go to that anyway, so I declined. the nosy sister's husband says he's going to bail out after the fashion show... now, do I really want to get cornered by the 3 sisters? Well, it depends on the situation... this one, no.
I call to say it sounds like a little too much of a girls night out, and that I'd have to skip it and catch up with her the next week. I get a call an hour later that the guy is suddenly going again... ok fine, I'll go, I had nothing better to do anyway and was already dressed nice.
Same scenario, although at least there was more interaction this time, danced with her a few songs (badly) and then we all ended up going to grab food at an IHOP-ish type place nearby. Text her afterwards saying I had fun, thanks for inviting me, etc. I don't know if she's friendzoned me, if she thinks I've friendzoned her, but one thing's for sure, she's way too dependent on her sister. It's getting a bit frustrating, cause even once that I've asked her out for drinks, somehow it ended up turning into the sister inviting herself, then inviting some of her friends... I haven't put much effort into this one mostly because of the entourage aspect of things.
Alright, in my depression and likely half-drunkenness, I have created an OKCupid account to my abject horror. Have had one chick contact me so far last night, and I responded, but she's on the higher end of the "How old I'd date" bubble. Though I guess beggars can't be choosers |3
But that's not why I'm posting. I'm posting because you know the MOST AWKWARD thing with online dating sites? Coming across someone you know IRL. I've found at least two and I D:
But that's not why I'm posting. I'm posting because you know the MOST AWKWARD thing with online dating sites? Coming across someone you know IRL. I've found at least two and I D:
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Alright GAF, let's see how you do with this.
Met girl 2 yrs ago, could've had sex on the first night with her, didn't because I was talking to someone else at the time, became cool friends, obvious attraction between us still remained.
Fast forward to now, we're both single, still good friends, we go out, I say fuck it and tell her to kiss me, she kisses me, we make out, multiple times (parents in house, couldn't get her in bed). Everything went great.
Wanted to speak with her afterward to make sure everything was ok, never got the chance to but had a little communication with her and she seemed fine, thought everything was ok. I've tried to reach her for awhile, realized she's ignoring me. If this was just some girl, I wouldn't bother, but because i've been friends with her for so long I didn't want it to just end like that. I didn't get it, I mean we can't be together because we live too far apart, a relationship isn't practical she knows that, she's liked me for forever I figure I finally give her what she's wanted, it should work out...then this happens. There isn't another person involved, i've heard theories that possibly she's scared and doesn't know what to do now and that's why....I dunno, i'd be ok with whatever the reason was, I just hate to be left hanging, especially with someone I considered a friend.
The last thing I did was send her message telling her I don't what's up but i'm ok with however she feels, if she ever wants to reach me she knows how, and left it at that.
Met girl 2 yrs ago, could've had sex on the first night with her, didn't because I was talking to someone else at the time, became cool friends, obvious attraction between us still remained.
Fast forward to now, we're both single, still good friends, we go out, I say fuck it and tell her to kiss me, she kisses me, we make out, multiple times (parents in house, couldn't get her in bed). Everything went great.
Wanted to speak with her afterward to make sure everything was ok, never got the chance to but had a little communication with her and she seemed fine, thought everything was ok. I've tried to reach her for awhile, realized she's ignoring me. If this was just some girl, I wouldn't bother, but because i've been friends with her for so long I didn't want it to just end like that. I didn't get it, I mean we can't be together because we live too far apart, a relationship isn't practical she knows that, she's liked me for forever I figure I finally give her what she's wanted, it should work out...then this happens. There isn't another person involved, i've heard theories that possibly she's scared and doesn't know what to do now and that's why....I dunno, i'd be ok with whatever the reason was, I just hate to be left hanging, especially with someone I considered a friend.
The last thing I did was send her message telling her I don't what's up but i'm ok with however she feels, if she ever wants to reach me she knows how, and left it at that.
Kccitystar said:
Nice, I've always found that DJing and delving into/exploring new music is great therapy for when I'm down about girls. In fact I've made quite a few great mixes when I was in a slump. Why not share some of your mixes here?
And also btw, in your update part 2 on the past page, what DJ was playing in Manhattan that you went to see?
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djtiesto said:
Scott Grooves
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Oh no, looks like we are going to get wet.coopolon said:
> Get wet
Mecha_Infantry
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Urrgh! So I've been pondering over whether to email this girl and I've built it up so much that I don't even know what to say now 
Now for my lame-o response. I'm normally good at things like this, but I dunno she kinda spooked me out!
Her profile said:
Now for my lame-o response. I'm normally good at things like this, but I dunno she kinda spooked me out!
My email said:Wow, I have to admit, I was taken back by a nice lady such as yourself with a love for game consoles, but I don't want to geek out on that just yet, especially since you have such a nice profile to talk about.
Maybe we can chat some more if you want? Let me know
<my real name> x
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GAF, I thought I'd post my situation because I feel maybe a little frustrated.
A few posts ago, I talked about a gal I'd met a record store. Turns out, after some chatting and semi-flirting, that we exchanged numbers. She texted me that very same night and we've chatted every night since (it's been roughly two weeks).
Just this past weekend, we went out for drinks. We wound up back at my place and slept together. It was downright incredible because, for the first time, I had slept with a girl I was genuinely attracted to and interested in (my previous sexual encounters have been mostly one-night-stands). We both seem to be really into each other. We share a lot of ideals and similar tastes in things.
The next day she apologized saying she didn't really expect it to happen so soon like that (first date, etc). We talked on the phone and I told her it was fine, and that it was my fault mostly for perhaps being so forward. We agreed that we both made the choice to do the deed, and that was that.
As I said, we've texted every night, and tonight being the first evening we haven't talked.
Now, I guess I'm the type of person who just goes all-in. I get really excited and always want to talk to her.
Long story short; should I cool my heels a bit? I know I should give her some space but it's so tough! I want to talk to her but I know I shouldn't smother her, so to speak.
I just really want things to work, I'm just anxious as all fuck.
Hell, I don't know. Maybe I'm just overthinking everything. :/
A few posts ago, I talked about a gal I'd met a record store. Turns out, after some chatting and semi-flirting, that we exchanged numbers. She texted me that very same night and we've chatted every night since (it's been roughly two weeks).
Just this past weekend, we went out for drinks. We wound up back at my place and slept together. It was downright incredible because, for the first time, I had slept with a girl I was genuinely attracted to and interested in (my previous sexual encounters have been mostly one-night-stands). We both seem to be really into each other. We share a lot of ideals and similar tastes in things.
The next day she apologized saying she didn't really expect it to happen so soon like that (first date, etc). We talked on the phone and I told her it was fine, and that it was my fault mostly for perhaps being so forward. We agreed that we both made the choice to do the deed, and that was that.
As I said, we've texted every night, and tonight being the first evening we haven't talked.
Now, I guess I'm the type of person who just goes all-in. I get really excited and always want to talk to her.
Long story short; should I cool my heels a bit? I know I should give her some space but it's so tough! I want to talk to her but I know I shouldn't smother her, so to speak.
I just really want things to work, I'm just anxious as all fuck.
Hell, I don't know. Maybe I'm just overthinking everything. :/
You can't let her become the center of your universe so quickly, unless you're also becoming the center of hers.
Make plans with friends tomorrow. Text her and say your having a night with the boys. Go out and have a good time. This will give you some perspective.
Call her the next day and see what she's doing for lunch.
Make plans with friends tomorrow. Text her and say your having a night with the boys. Go out and have a good time. This will give you some perspective.
Call her the next day and see what she's doing for lunch.
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Aesius said:
I want to, believe me, but I don't want to be that stupid sonofabitch who fucks it up because he talks/texts her every. single. night. Even personally I might start to feel a bit smothered after a while.
My first red flag came yesterday when she forgot about the follow-up date for drinks we were supposed to go on. She didn't answer my call and told me at about 1030pm that she forgot her phone wherever she was. Fair enough.
K.Jack said:
I really like this advice, except I literally have no guy friends to do shit with. I live in a small town and go from work to home every evening. :/
It is, which is why I've avoided it for so long, but at the same time IRL dating sucks too. It's messy and frustrated where you have to put yourself out there to compete with better looking guys that are more traditionally "cool". So I'm basically stuck between a rock and a hard place with dating. There's this really good looking girl from my English course over last semester, and I friended her on facebook under the guise that she's an English major too and we've had a few nice conversations. Only problem is that she's already got a BF (figures) and what frustrates me isn't that she's not available, it's that this guy looks like the biggest douchebag chino gangsta wannabe I've ever seen. He LOOKS like illiterate scum. This has happened over and over again with women I am attracted to, and it's a frustrating enough dance to just find out if their available. Honestly, they both suck, equally, but hey, I might have better luck with the other.Aesius said:
Heh... didn't think I'd type up this much. Oh well, don't mind me, that's just my bitter showing...
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The hell with it. I'm just going to cool off for a couple days. I won't chat with her unless she instigates it. I'll ask her for supper before christmas here to perhaps seal the deal.
TheVampire
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Had my first date today.
Overall it was actually pretty good.
Lots of eye contact, laughing, no awkard silence and she wants to meet up again at the start of Jan (she has alot on during christmas)
At the end she walked me back to the carpark and we said our goodbyes, she leaned over and gave me a little kiss on the cheek.
At first I was thinking "ooook so here we are at the end now, do I make a move or something?.... wait whats shes doing, shes coming over, ah a little peck on the cheek, nice"
I really like her and cant wait to meet up again in Jan when she has some more free time.
Although im wondering where to take her. We both still live at home and I want to be in an enviroment where we can make out - any suggestions? : D
*edit* should I send her a txt saying I had a good time today or tomorrow?
Overall it was actually pretty good.
Lots of eye contact, laughing, no awkard silence and she wants to meet up again at the start of Jan (she has alot on during christmas)
At the end she walked me back to the carpark and we said our goodbyes, she leaned over and gave me a little kiss on the cheek.
At first I was thinking "ooook so here we are at the end now, do I make a move or something?.... wait whats shes doing, shes coming over, ah a little peck on the cheek, nice"
I really like her and cant wait to meet up again in Jan when she has some more free time.
Although im wondering where to take her. We both still live at home and I want to be in an enviroment where we can make out - any suggestions? : D
*edit* should I send her a txt saying I had a good time today or tomorrow?
Aesius said:
I think the main gripe, besides being nervous, when approaching girls IRL, is whether or not they're taken. Nothing is more frustrating than talking and hanging out with a girl, and finding out later on that she has a boyfriend. Of course, it makes it worse, if you ever meet him, and he's a complete idiot or a total douche bag.
I'm pretty subtle about asking, or at least I like to think I am. For example, I start talking to a girl in a bookstore. We're in the art section looking at and discussing art books. I'll say something like this:
Now, chances are the girl will either respond with some kind of statement, confirming or denying the existence of a significant other. If she doesn't have one, you may proceed. If so, continue talking for a bit and bail. It's as simple as that.
Kccitystar
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The deed has been done. I went to her house, took all of my shit and left. Tomorrow is a new fucking day.
Well sure, I know the whole routine. It's really just easiest to friend them on facebook if you have a half-understandable reason to do so. But in both cases, the effort put out to do some bullshit dance with low chance of success to get a date that I'll probably just get stood up for anyway just puts me off to the whole thing. High school never ends, huh?-PXG- said:
Anyway, a comic for Girl-Age. Good ol' Patrick Alexander :lol
http://www.comics.chickennation.com/archive/dramacephaloids/
Random joke on a status update on facebook turns into convo about how funny I am (I've got them all fooled), turns into movie date thursday with chick who wants to go see Black Swan. That was the easiest of the recent chicks (the other two have stalled so it was easy to make plans for this one)
Confidence = snowball effect, it's been rolling quickly downhill again for the better part of 2 weeks. Starting to feel like less of a chore now trying to figure out what to say to chicks.
Confidence = snowball effect, it's been rolling quickly downhill again for the better part of 2 weeks. Starting to feel like less of a chore now trying to figure out what to say to chicks.
So against my better judgement I decided to check an ex's profile on facebook... saw that she just returned from a cruise with her current boyfriend.
She went on the same cruise she had gone with me, visited the same spots, took the same pictures of the fuckin little towel animals, and even wore some of the same dresses. I don't know if I should take this as the ultimate compliment or ultimate insult.
She went on the same cruise she had gone with me, visited the same spots, took the same pictures of the fuckin little towel animals, and even wore some of the same dresses. I don't know if I should take this as the ultimate compliment or ultimate insult.
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Rubenov said:
It should only be taken as a complement. She's trying to relive the glory days.
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Rubenov said:
What a waste of money :lol Girl must be crazy.
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I'm glad I'll never feel this way about my vacation photos. I traveled solo
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