Alright, that's what I'm doing then. And yeah, we've been dating for about 4 months now.DoctorWho said:If you've been dating a while, I see no reason why you shouldn't do this.
Alright, that's what I'm doing then. And yeah, we've been dating for about 4 months now.DoctorWho said:If you've been dating a while, I see no reason why you shouldn't do this.
whitehawk said:Alright, that's what I'm doing then. And yeah, we've been dating for about 4 months now.
Yes and no at the same time :lol The thought was there, but I couldn't get it up.WyndhamPrice said:So did you guys do it yet or what? Me and mine are a little over a month now and the fact that we haven't (though not for lack of trying if you look back a few pages) and that she's 3000 miles away until the 6th is driving me bonkers.
jamesinclair said:Gentlemen,
So I went on that date Ive been talking about for a very long time. Some of you said it would be a fail. others called upon massive red flags. Generally, the members of this thread had a negative consensus.
Well, it was an enormous success. All of it, including the gifting of season 1 of community. More details tomorrow (I need to sleep).
So, thanks for your advice, but it appears that many of you aren't as smooth with the ladies as you think you are. My way led to great times.
jon bones said:he didn't even sleep with the poor woman :lol
doomed1 said:Alright, in my depression and likely half-drunkenness, I have created an OKCupid account to my abject horror. Have had one chick contact me so far last night, and I responded, but she's on the higher end of the "How old I'd date" bubble. Though I guess beggars can't be choosers |3
But that's not why I'm posting. I'm posting because you know the MOST AWKWARD thing with online dating sites? Coming across someone you know IRL. I've found at least two and I D:
Kccitystar said:Little did she know that well, I have been pushing to release this house mix I've been working on for the winter, and I never got around to it because this garbage is consuming the time I'd spend getting around to doing it and it's not allowing me to focus. So as compensation for this nonsense, for my friends and people who listen to my stuff, I took the liberty of uploading every mixtape I had ever made since I started DJing in 2006 and putting it on that one giant fat Facebook note, with links to download them and everything. I thought it was funny that she posted that about a note that had absolutely nothing to do with her, and I haven't mentioned shit, absolutely nothing in regards to this breakup nonsense on Facebook. I've only posted one or two abstract thoughts in regards to it because out of my own maturity and self-control, I wanted to handle this shit as privately as possible. If she is taking the high road, I must be taking the high road to motherfucking SPACE with how mature and respectful I've handled everything. She's been the one who has blocked me from her wall so I couldn't read shit, then defriended me altogether that same afternoon, followed by blocking me on Twitter so I can't read her tweets. I on the other hand, have still kept my profile publicly available to all my friends like it always has been, with every friend I have able to view the same content I allow them to. I haven't blocked anybody from saying shit, and I haven't deleted any friends whatsoever.
doomed1 said:Alright, in my depression and likely half-drunkenness, I have created an OKCupid account to my abject horror. Have had one chick contact me so far last night, and I responded, but she's on the higher end of the "How old I'd date" bubble. Though I guess beggars can't be choosers |3
But that's not why I'm posting. I'm posting because you know the MOST AWKWARD thing with online dating sites? Coming across someone you know IRL. I've found at least two and I D:
JB1981 said:Has anyone here dated/married someone that the rest of your family dislikes, or doesn't like the person FOR YOU?
djtiesto said:Nice, I've always found that DJing and delving into/exploring new music is great therapy for when I'm down about girls. In fact I've made quite a few great mixes when I was in a slump. Why not share some of your mixes here?
And also btw, in your update part 2 on the past page, what DJ was playing in Manhattan that you went to see?
whitehawk said:Alright guys, need some advice. Sadly, my girlfriend is working on New Years Eve. I'm thinking maybe I should show up to her work at 11:50 to surprise her and do the countdown with her. Is this a good idea?
Magik said:What the fuck? Did you really have to ask such a question? Come on, man! Step your game up!
This is one of those opportunities to create those "special" moments in your relationship.
Better make it a damn good one while you're at it.
Oh no, looks like we are going to get wet.coopolon said:I was set up for a threesome...and then they all went to sleep. FML.
Edit: in the game.
Her profile said:My self-summary
I'm artsy, and down to earth. Genuine, and enjoy good conversation with intelligent, wholesome company. (I'm tempted to remove "wholesome" but instead feel that this sentence alone conveys what I want to say.)
What Im doing with my life
Freelance illustrator, I'm a volunteer art tutor in a mental health charity, and work part time in a museum to pay the bills. I try to fit in some travelling in the spaces in between.
Im really good at
listening and no-nonsense straight talk. In a diplomatic way. Er..
The first things people usually notice about me
Well, it isn't really noticeable but I'm half Swedish. Which usually is cause for banter. (As a side, I'm frankly shocked at just how many people believe Switzerland and Sweden are one and the same.)
My favorite books, movies, music, and food
Film:
Wes Anderson films, Lost in Translation (in fact most titles featuring Bill Murray), The Science of Sleep, Lars and the Real Girl, Fargo (/some other Coen Brothers), dark comedies, awful zombie films..
Music:
I'm pretty broad musically. Folk, lo-fi, glam rock, some indie, so to name-drop: Pixies, Iron and Wine, Beck, Modest Mouse, Pavement, Bowie, David Byrne to name a handful.
I also thoroughly enjoy good comedy. I was an avid follower of Adam and Joe's BBC6 Music Podcast, and also enjoy a bit of Bill Bailey.
As for food I'm not fussy, love all cuisine and would try anything. I tend to be fairly healthy though!
Err.. I collect children's picture books whenever I visit a new country.
I also feel I should mention dear, dear Nintendo. And my love for older consoles.
The six things I could never do without
My passport.
(Others to be added as and when.)
On a typical Friday night I am
Either with friends at their house, or at a favoured pub over a pint.
My email said:Wow, I have to admit, I was taken back by a nice lady such as yourself with a love for game consoles, but I don't want to geek out on that just yet, especially since you have such a nice profile to talk about.
Maybe we can chat some more if you want? Let me know
<my real name> x
I didn't need to post here, was already 99% sure I was going to do it. So actually, didn't need to post here at all :lolMagik said:What the fuck? Did you really have to ask such a question? Come on, man! Step your game up!
This is one of those opportunities to create those "special" moments in your relationship.
Better make it a damn good one while you're at it.
disappeared said:GAF, I thought I'd post my situation because I feel maybe a little frustrated.
A few posts ago, I talked about a gal I'd met a record store. Turns out, after some chatting and semi-flirting, that we exchanged numbers. She texted me that very same night and we've chatted every night since (it's been roughly two weeks).
Just this past weekend, we went out for drinks. We wound up back at my place and slept together. It was downright incredible because, for the first time, I had slept with a girl I was genuinely attracted to and interested in (my previous sexual encounters have been mostly one-night-stands). We both seem to be really into each other. We share a lot of ideals and similar tastes in things.
The next day she apologized saying she didn't really expect it to happen so soon like that (first date, etc). We talked on the phone and I told her it was fine, and that it was my fault mostly for perhaps being so forward. We agreed that we both made the choice to do the deed, and that was that.
As I said, we've texted every night, and tonight being the first evening we haven't talked.
Now, I guess I'm the type of person who just goes all-in. I get really excited and always want to talk to her.
Long story short; should I cool my heels a bit? I know I should give her some space but it's so tough! I want to talk to her but I know I shouldn't smother her, so to speak.
I just really want things to work, I'm just anxious as all fuck.
Hell, I don't know. Maybe I'm just overthinking everything. :/
Aesius said:If she seems just as eager, then by all means - dive right in.
K.Jack said:You can't let her become the center of your universe so quickly.
Make plans with friends tomorrow. Text her and say your having a night with the boys. Go out and have a good time. This will give you some perspective.
Call her the next day and see what she's doing for lunch.
It is, which is why I've avoided it for so long, but at the same time IRL dating sucks too. It's messy and frustrated where you have to put yourself out there to compete with better looking guys that are more traditionally "cool". So I'm basically stuck between a rock and a hard place with dating. There's this really good looking girl from my English course over last semester, and I friended her on facebook under the guise that she's an English major too and we've had a few nice conversations. Only problem is that she's already got a BF (figures) and what frustrates me isn't that she's not available, it's that this guy looks like the biggest douchebag chino gangsta wannabe I've ever seen. He LOOKS like illiterate scum. This has happened over and over again with women I am attracted to, and it's a frustrating enough dance to just find out if their available. Honestly, they both suck, equally, but hey, I might have better luck with the other.Aesius said:Online dating just sucks. It's so fucking cold and sterile. You're competing - quite intensely - against hundreds of other dudes for, at best, an average looking girl's attention. Fuck that.
Well, do you have any family nearby that you're on good terms with? Like, brothers, sisters, parents, aunts, uncles, that sort of thing. Would have the double effect of showing that you value family.disappeared said:I really like this advice, except I literally have no guy friends to do shit with. I live in a small town and go from work to home every evening. :/
doomed1 said:It is, which is why I've avoided it for so long, but at the same time IRL dating sucks too. It's messy and frustrated where you have to put yourself out there to compete with better looking guys that are more traditionally "cool". So I'm basically stuck between a rock and a hard place with dating. There's this really good looking girl from my English course over last semester, and I friended her on facebook under the guise that she's an English major too and we've had a few nice conversations. Only problem is that she's already got a BF (figures) and what frustrates me isn't that she's not available, it's that this guy looks like the biggest douchebag chino gangsta wannabe I've ever seen. He LOOKS like illiterate scum. This has happened over and over again with women I am attracted to, and it's a frustrating enough dance to just find out if their available. Honestly, they both suck, equally, but hey, I might have better luck with the other.
Heh... didn't think I'd type up this much. Oh well, don't mind me, that's just my bitter showing...
Aesius said:Honestly, I feel like I'd have better luck IRL just hitting on random girls on the street/at the mall/wherever. I'm keeping my OKCupid profile, because I do randomly get messages from girls, and I might get lucky with one, but I'm not holding my breath.
"Hey this is a neat book. If you're boyfriend is into art too, I bet he'd love this."
Kccitystar said:The deed has been done. I went to her house, took all of my shit and left. Tomorrow is a new fucking day.
Kccitystar said:The deed has been done. I went to her house, took all of my shit and left. Tomorrow is a new fucking day.
Well sure, I know the whole routine. It's really just easiest to friend them on facebook if you have a half-understandable reason to do so. But in both cases, the effort put out to do some bullshit dance with low chance of success to get a date that I'll probably just get stood up for anyway just puts me off to the whole thing. High school never ends, huh?-PXG- said:I think the main gripe, besides being nervous, when approaching girls IRL, is whether or not they're taken. Nothing is more frustrating than talking and hanging out with a girl, and finding out later on that she has a boyfriend. Of course, it makes it worse, if you ever meet him, and he's a complete idiot or a total douche bag.
I'm pretty subtle about asking, or at least I like to think I am. For example, I start talking to a girl in a bookstore. We're in the art section looking at and discussing art books. I'll say something like this:
Now, chances are the girl will either respond with some kind of statement, confirming or denying the existence of a significant other. If she doesn't have one, you may proceed. If so, continue talking for a bit and bail. It's as simple as that.
Kccitystar said:The deed has been done. I went to her house, took all of my shit and left. Tomorrow is a new fucking day.
Fuck man, there are people here who always end up stood up and rejected. Go with the rest of us poor lonely saps at heart, show her a good time. >:|Shawsie64 said:Got a date tonight but I REALLY cant be fucked going.. got nothing else to do though. Im not buying her shit, she can buy her own drinks and dinner and shes catching the bus home :lol
Good job, man!Kccitystar said:The deed has been done. I went to her house, took all of my shit and left. Tomorrow is a new fucking day.
doomed1 said:Fuck man, there are people here who always end up stood up and rejected. Go with the rest of us poor lonely saps at heart, show her a good time. >:|
Good job, man!
Rubenov said:So against my better judgement I decided to check an ex's profile on facebook... saw that she just returned from a cruise with her current boyfriend.
She went on the same cruise she had gone with me, visited the same spots, took the same pictures of the fuckin little towel animals, and even wore some of the same dresses. I don't know if I should take this as the ultimate compliment or ultimate insult.
Rubenov said:So against my better judgement I decided to check an ex's profile on facebook... saw that she just returned from a cruise with her current boyfriend.
She went on the same cruise she had gone with me, visited the same spots, took the same pictures of the fuckin little towel animals, and even wore some of the same dresses. I don't know if I should take this as the ultimate compliment or ultimate insult.
Rubenov said:So against my better judgement I decided to check an ex's profile on facebook... saw that she just returned from a cruise with her current boyfriend.
She went on the same cruise she had gone with me, visited the same spots, took the same pictures of the fuckin little towel animals, and even wore some of the same dresses. I don't know if I should take this as the ultimate compliment or ultimate insult.