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Girl/Dating Age Part 2: A combined effort to give advice for those in need
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HappyBivouac
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TheBranca18 said:
Eh. It happens. Story of my life. Girls tell me I'm great, fantastic, this and that, but then end up being uninterested or find someone else. They're fickle, indecisive creatures at times...get used to it. Eventually you'll find one who will give you more than empty compliments and actually want to be with you.
The girl from the other night claims to be busy and has been kind of distant all of a sudden. Yeah, it blows, but I have art work, video games and other ladies to occupy my time. I can't get too hung up over some girl I went on one date with.
Qwerty710710
a child left behind
Well so far it looks like I rebounded from my mistake. I have a date with this chick this Thursday afternoon we're suppose to go to the mall. I'm pretty excited and nervous at the same time she is a beauitful girl. I'm still kicking myself a bit what I said to her last week but it looks like she forgave me, and wants to give this shot. Fingers crossed can't fuck up here.
Well I texted her this morning and she still agreed to the terms that we decided upon last night so I think that I might just give it a whirl. I mean, if worst comes to worst I'll just have to hurt her feelings and deny her which isn't that big of a deal, I already broke up with her once when I actually had emotional feelings for her. Also, we go to different colleges and this would only continue for things like winter break/summer break.
I posted this in that crush thread but i think it might be more useful here:
There's this girl I gave a ride home to and from college a while back. She had been in my french class last year and I was kinda acquainted with her through that till then I didn't know her. On the ride we actually had a pretty solid time, it's hard to spend 8 hours with someone you don't know very well and keep up good conversation(even if you are good with the ladies)... After that we've been texting on and off but since we jumped right into finals after that drive it's been tough as hell trying to set aside some time to hang out/go on a date. But she is coming with me to a fraternity formal later and we're still communicating even though she's out of the country, so maybe I'm not fucking this one up as bad as I think?
It's just going slowly and that feels weird for me. I don't think I'm friendzoned or anything by our communication, but... i dunno.
EDIT: This girl does live like 20 minutes away from me but I don't know what to do to get her away from her place and parents(and me from mine). I need some ideas!
There's this girl I gave a ride home to and from college a while back. She had been in my french class last year and I was kinda acquainted with her through that till then I didn't know her. On the ride we actually had a pretty solid time, it's hard to spend 8 hours with someone you don't know very well and keep up good conversation(even if you are good with the ladies)... After that we've been texting on and off but since we jumped right into finals after that drive it's been tough as hell trying to set aside some time to hang out/go on a date. But she is coming with me to a fraternity formal later and we're still communicating even though she's out of the country, so maybe I'm not fucking this one up as bad as I think?
It's just going slowly and that feels weird for me. I don't think I'm friendzoned or anything by our communication, but... i dunno.
EDIT: This girl does live like 20 minutes away from me but I don't know what to do to get her away from her place and parents(and me from mine). I need some ideas!
Aesius
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Man, OKCupid pisses me off so much.
I don't message girls very often on there (which might be mistake No. 1), but one girl really caught my eye. Cute and had a very funny profile. So I messaged her with some snide remark about something in her profile, and we had precisely three back and forth messages. Multiple paragraphs, playful, flirtatious, teasing - all that good stuff.
Then I messaged her again last night, and today - nothing. She's been online and has seen the message, but no response. Which is odd because she was previously responding almost instantly. Looks like I blew it somehow - or maybe she just lost interest because she's currently talking to ten other guys who are all funnier/better looking than me.
In summary: I hate online dating.
I don't message girls very often on there (which might be mistake No. 1), but one girl really caught my eye. Cute and had a very funny profile. So I messaged her with some snide remark about something in her profile, and we had precisely three back and forth messages. Multiple paragraphs, playful, flirtatious, teasing - all that good stuff.
Then I messaged her again last night, and today - nothing. She's been online and has seen the message, but no response. Which is odd because she was previously responding almost instantly. Looks like I blew it somehow - or maybe she just lost interest because she's currently talking to ten other guys who are all funnier/better looking than me.
In summary: I hate online dating.
Thanks guys. Feeling pretty good. One new year's resolution down! :lol
Hopefully we'll get to build up something long term.
Goes to show that putting in the effort helps. I started seriously dating around September last year both online and offline. Burned through more dates than I ever had (which isn't hard when that number is zero) and gained a ton of dating experience, both good and bad. Had some difficult moments where I asked myself whether I was ever going to be good enough and if I shouldn't just throw my life around 180 degrees. Ultimately though the whole ordeal made me realize a very important thing. Girls want to date me. More specifically: good looking girls want to date me.
So yeah, if I can do it, anyone can. The girl I'm seeing now is one of the women I met online. So don't rule out online dating. It's especially great to get you started and gaining experience in the dating world and who knows, something great may cross your path.
Hopefully we'll get to build up something long term.
Goes to show that putting in the effort helps. I started seriously dating around September last year both online and offline. Burned through more dates than I ever had (which isn't hard when that number is zero) and gained a ton of dating experience, both good and bad. Had some difficult moments where I asked myself whether I was ever going to be good enough and if I shouldn't just throw my life around 180 degrees. Ultimately though the whole ordeal made me realize a very important thing. Girls want to date me. More specifically: good looking girls want to date me.
So yeah, if I can do it, anyone can. The girl I'm seeing now is one of the women I met online. So don't rule out online dating. It's especially great to get you started and gaining experience in the dating world and who knows, something great may cross your path.
Aesius
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Danielsan said:
Because you're a good looking guy.
I'm slowly realizing that I could nearly have my pick of the litter as well. The only things holding me back are confidence and effort. Which tend to go hand in hand. Low confidence in being able to get the girl=lack of effort on my part.
I'm also realizing that I enjoy the process of making a girl like me more than I enjoy having sex with them (although, obviously I enjoy that as well). To me it's more gratifying to turn a total stranger into a person who wants to be around me as often as possible than it is to put my penis inside her.
Qwerty710710
a child left behind
Aesius said:
The same shit almost happened to me with this current chick I'm talking to. I sent her a message after the 5th time and no reply. I sent her one more message saying how cute she was and other shit and gave her my number. About 24 hours later I was able to land her number.
Danielsan said:
That's pretty damn good of you. I've been lurking in this thread for far too damn long:lol but I had to come out to give props to you. It is true, you are a pretty good looking guy, so that certainly does help. So that's pretty inspiring as are a lot of people's progress in this thread.
Since I'm out here I may as well explain my current situation.(PXG knows via PMs) I'm 22, never made out with a woman, never gone out on a date (or at least a proper 1 on 1 date) and I'm virgin, oh and I'm also a good looking guy (I've posted a picture of me in the picture thread before) and hit the gym regularly. On top of that, I get flak from my 2 older brothers (older one has is in a 5+ years strong relationship, oldest dates multiple women) for not talking to women, for still being a virgin and to get a haircut. Oh and I also have nocturnal emissions (Read: wet dreams) about twice a week so yeah. I do have an OKC profile, hit up one chick, didn't get a response, got discouraged and have given up on it. It doesn't help that I currently look hairy and shaggy but out my own choosing because I want a new haircut/style and I don't know what to get. And finally, I've been out of school for a semester and start school again towards the end of this month and thus have been in a depressive a depressive state.
I don't mean to be whiny and bitchy, but it's good that I explain my situation and background. One last thing, last summer when I went on vacation to the Dominican Republic, I got a mean wake up call when women over there told me that I'm too shy that I have stop being so shy because I never danced in clubs. Give me a mean wake up call GAF, I need one badly.
Qwerty710710
a child left behind
I know at this point I'm bitching but is it normal for the guy to start all the text conversions. With this chick she seems to never to talk to me unless I start it up I'm pretty inexperiance when it comes to online/regular dating or hitting on chicks. I don't want to text this chick today because it's been 3 days in a row we've been texting I don't want to show I'm clingy person.
Qwerty710710
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Aesius said:
Trust me man I'm the same way. But sometimes you have to wait a few days for a reply easy for me to say.
Bam Bam Baklava
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Kano on the Phone
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Yes it is. She had you by the balls before she knew your name. Would you want to date someone that clingy and completely lacking in confidence, bro?Aesius said:
Future PhaZe
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GAF how do you go about avoiding the "I love you" thing. I think in some of our first relationships we tend to just go along with it, but as I get older I find myself not wanting to say it unless I find that I really mean it.
The problem with that is that it creates an awkward air. How do you respond to her saying it? Clearly when they first say it they expect a response.
Last question for Dating Age: What is the experience of dating age when it comes to more or less demanding an STD test before intercourse in what seems like a serious relationship? Obviously this isn't for those times where you're using protection and having a quicky outside of relationships, but for when you've been dating a girl you really dig and maybe have made out quite a bit, really been affectionate but never really did the deed yet and you don't want to be held back by any limitations sexually (Whether thats birth control, giving oral, whatever).
Obviously if you're dating the girl you should feel she is a responsible enough individual, as well as mature enough, to respond favorably to such a request, but its something that I'm wondering if Dating GAF has any experience with.
The problem with that is that it creates an awkward air. How do you respond to her saying it? Clearly when they first say it they expect a response.
Last question for Dating Age: What is the experience of dating age when it comes to more or less demanding an STD test before intercourse in what seems like a serious relationship? Obviously this isn't for those times where you're using protection and having a quicky outside of relationships, but for when you've been dating a girl you really dig and maybe have made out quite a bit, really been affectionate but never really did the deed yet and you don't want to be held back by any limitations sexually (Whether thats birth control, giving oral, whatever).
Obviously if you're dating the girl you should feel she is a responsible enough individual, as well as mature enough, to respond favorably to such a request, but its something that I'm wondering if Dating GAF has any experience with.
TurboLibre
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Kano On The Phone said:
Yes? Now that you ask, the answer would probably be yes.
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Aesius said:
From what I have heard from girls on dating sites, alot of guys just want to message back and forth forever and never ask for numbers or IM information. They felt like those guys are only comfortable with messaging and nothing else, so they move on and hit the ignore button. If you are not comfortable with giving your number, then try the IM thing, then move to phone number.
Around the 3rd message you need to move on to something outside of the site. either phone or IM. Also, we have no idea what was in your messages, so hopefully you didn't say you like the blow hole of dolphins or something.
SuperAndroid17
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Alright , so I went my cousin's house party on new years and I met this chick but couldnt get her name for some dumbass reason ( me ) but I danced with her for a bit. So the next day I asked my cousin if he knew who she was and it turns out shes His girlfriends best friend.
So I told my cousin to tell her I said Hi or whatever , he said he would tell his girlfriend to do it. She ended up doing it and I saw I had a friend request on facebook and it was her. So I added her and sent her a message sayin hey whats up!
She replies
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hey, it was great meeting you.
How come I've never met you...I've known your cousins all my life!!!
So we have a small conversation but it didnt go anywhere. It kinda ended when I asked her if she was into the club scene.
Should I say .. fuck it and just move on? or wait a little longer?
So I told my cousin to tell her I said Hi or whatever , he said he would tell his girlfriend to do it. She ended up doing it and I saw I had a friend request on facebook and it was her. So I added her and sent her a message sayin hey whats up!
She replies
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hey, it was great meeting you.
How come I've never met you...I've known your cousins all my life!!!
So we have a small conversation but it didnt go anywhere. It kinda ended when I asked her if she was into the club scene.
Should I say .. fuck it and just move on? or wait a little longer?
SuperAndroid17 said:
Next time you see her on facebook get to know her better. Eventually get her phone number (once you feel she's warmed up to you). Then go on a date with her after that. It's just like online dating at this point except you have a mutual friend so she knows you're not a serial killer.
SuperAndroid17
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TheBranca18 said:
just an update
My cousin said she wants to go on a double date with me and my cousin/gf. Not sure if this is good or not , because I dont even have her number!
TurboLibre
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SuperAndroid17 said:just an update
My cousin said she wants to go on a double date with me and my cousin/gf. Not sure if this is good or not , because I dont even have her number!
Uhhhhh....
Huh?
BentMyWookiee
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SuperAndroid17 said:just an update
My cousin said she wants to go on a double date with me and my cousin/gf. Not sure if this is good or not , because I dont even have her number!
Well since she wants to go on a double date, she seems obviously interested. So just ask her for her number and I'm sure she'll happily give it to you.
SuperAndroid17
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Tkawsome said:
lol , cousin and his gf . heheh
Oooh man I can't decipher this one girl :lol
As I said earlier... she seeks me out, asks me out, we chat a lot and we have a lot of fun together. Yet at the same time I feel she ignores me. What the hell :lol
My fame of being an extreme party guy and being a bit of a gigolo seems to be biting me in the ass this time. Maybe she's scared of it? She knows how to party well but even she has admitted I can be a bit too hardcore for her in that sense. I honestly just think she's scared of that side of me. I don't wanna pressure her, I kinda like the girl a little more than other previous ones, so I'll just take it easy and see how stuff goes. I will make a move tomorrow though. Will invite her to stay some place in the beach with me, if she wants to invite some pals to make it easier for her then cool. Hopefully it works well and I score. ;-)
As I said earlier... she seeks me out, asks me out, we chat a lot and we have a lot of fun together. Yet at the same time I feel she ignores me. What the hell :lol
My fame of being an extreme party guy and being a bit of a gigolo seems to be biting me in the ass this time. Maybe she's scared of it? She knows how to party well but even she has admitted I can be a bit too hardcore for her in that sense. I honestly just think she's scared of that side of me. I don't wanna pressure her, I kinda like the girl a little more than other previous ones, so I'll just take it easy and see how stuff goes. I will make a move tomorrow though. Will invite her to stay some place in the beach with me, if she wants to invite some pals to make it easier for her then cool. Hopefully it works well and I score. ;-)
hydragonwarrior
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Danielsan said:
Badass! Even better is to look back at your older posts and see how far you've come!
Relix said:
Some girls play the "I want to fuck you but I don't want to feel like a slut" game. They do it in different ways, some just constantly tell you they won't have sex with you (which guarantees they will, probably that night, hell probably within an hour of saying it). Others rely on friends to yank them out of situations that may end up with them fucking the guy. Or they might just retreat every so often as they feel themselves slipping. She might just be attempting to keep herself as the person in control by maintaining space every so often and attempting to keep the upper hand by ignoring you and making you chase and/or desire her. It's more stupid fucking games that annoy me very quickly.
Jipan said:That's pretty damn good of you. I've been lurking in this thread for far too damn long:lol but I had to come out to give props to you. It is true, you are a pretty good looking guy, so that certainly does help. So that's pretty inspiring as are a lot of people's progress in this thread.
Since I'm out here I may as well explain my current situation.(PXG knows via PMs) I'm 22, never made out with a woman, never gone out on a date (or at least a proper 1 on 1 date) and I'm virgin, oh and I'm also a good looking guy (I've posted a picture of me in the picture thread before) and hit the gym regularly. On top of that, I get flak from my 2 older brothers (older one has is in a 5+ years strong relationship, oldest dates multiple women) for not talking to women, for still being a virgin and to get a haircut. Oh and I also have nocturnal emissions (Read: wet dreams) about twice a week so yeah. I do have an OKC profile, hit up one chick, didn't get a response, got discouraged and have given up on it. It doesn't help that I currently look hairy and shaggy but out my own choosing because I want a new haircut/style and I don't know what to get. And finally, I've been out of school for a semester and start school again towards the end of this month and thus have been in a depressive a depressive state.
I don't mean to be whiny and bitchy, but it's good that I explain my situation and background. One last thing, last summer when I went on vacation to the Dominican Republic, I got a mean wake up call when women over there told me that I'm too shy that I have stop being so shy because I never danced in clubs. Give me a mean wake up call GAF, I need one badly.
Nice to see you post in here
This cat right here is a good fellow. Help him out GAF.
I started IMing a Chinese girl I dated a while go. She immediately gave me her number and added me on FB. She was really nice. She seemed REALLY happy to hear from me. I was kind of dumb and immature back then. I might ask her to chill with me sometime next week, tomorrow. We'll see....
TurboLibre
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duk said:
Why would anyone like the chase? It's a useless game that has potential in ruining what they both want, the way I see it, it's absolute nonsense.
Jipan said:That's pretty damn good of you. I've been lurking in this thread for far too damn long:lol but I had to come out to give props to you. It is true, you are a pretty good looking guy, so that certainly does help. So that's pretty inspiring as are a lot of people's progress in this thread.
Since I'm out here I may as well explain my current situation.(PXG knows via PMs) I'm 22, never made out with a woman, never gone out on a date (or at least a proper 1 on 1 date) and I'm virgin, oh and I'm also a good looking guy (I've posted a picture of me in the picture thread before) and hit the gym regularly. On top of that, I get flak from my 2 older brothers (older one has is in a 5+ years strong relationship, oldest dates multiple women) for not talking to women, for still being a virgin and to get a haircut. Oh and I also have nocturnal emissions (Read: wet dreams) about twice a week so yeah. I do have an OKC profile, hit up one chick, didn't get a response, got discouraged and have given up on it. It doesn't help that I currently look hairy and shaggy but out my own choosing because I want a new haircut/style and I don't know what to get. And finally, I've been out of school for a semester and start school again towards the end of this month and thus have been in a depressive a depressive state.
I don't mean to be whiny and bitchy, but it's good that I explain my situation and background. One last thing, last summer when I went on vacation to the Dominican Republic, I got a mean wake up call when women over there told me that I'm too shy that I have stop being so shy because I never danced in clubs. Give me a mean wake up call GAF, I need one badly.
I am barely functional right now and very little of what I write will probably be comprehensible but I just wanted to mention that you just need to go out. You are old enough for the bars. Get some friends together and go out. No friends? Get your brothers to go with you.
You sound like you just filling yourself with excuses for why you aren't doing anything about your situations. It's easy to do so, everyone does sometimes. But you need to stop thinking about why you are in that situation and just go out get fucked ASAP. Otherwise you are going to be a mess when it comes to women. If your virginity is on your mind every time you talk to a pretty girl you will make a complete ass out of yourself. Get laid, by any means necessary. If you wait for "love" I will kick you in your face. :lol
Once you aren't thinking about the fact you have never placed your penis inside a vagina and how hers might feel (warm and soft) and if you would cum too fast (probably) and if she will know (probably not since a lot of guys suck at sex their entire lives) and if she will hate you afterwards (probably not but even if she does who gives a shit you stuck your dick in her you win by default even if you came in 5 seconds). Don't think of your first time as magical, it wont be. Don't think of it as defining your sexual identity, it wont. Don't get mad or sad if a female doesn't like you or rejects you or blows you off, women want to want far more they want to have and you might be fun and new and interesting for a while but sometimes they just lose interest and you have to keep going and find someone else.
And remember everyone wants to have sex, from the 70 year old on viagra to the 18 year old in college to the 22 year old who is looking for a shy guy who dresses like you and has your sense of humor and outlook on life. You are not alone in your desires and wants. Don't feel embarrassed or bad about it.
Also, remember that there is a very large dating pool out there. So many people walk into a bar and think "these are my options at being happy and satisfied". It's like the world narrows for us when we step into the bar or club. We forget that thousands upon thousands of other potential dates are out there too. In other bars, clubs, restaurants, or just sitting at home.
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