-PXG- said:
Why don't you try being single and not looking a while? Nothing wrong with being single bro
-PXG- said:
aktham said:Why don't you try being single and not looking a while? Nothing wrong with being single bro![]()
HappyBivouac said:I get where you're coming from with regard to other people in general, and I've felt the same way at times. However, I've found that if you end up going on long rants about how you feel other people aren't living up to your expectations or are disappointing/frustrating you, it means that you need to look within yourself at your own attitudes towards life and the world around you.
I know that comes off as kind of a bullshit thing to say, but it's really worked for me a ton of times.
-PXG- said:I've set very low expectations for others around me. But I guess even those are too high. I try to give the people the benefit of the doubt and some level of respect, But it seems that everyone gives me reasons to expect the worst and not want to deal with them.
People are very odd indeed. I'm quite odd myself. I can be creative, artistic, avant garde and think way outside the box. But at the same time, I can be very rigid, narrow and exhibit machine-like logic. I can be Mr. Social and the life of the party, or a complete hermit and have utmost disdain for humanity. And no, I'm not bipolar![]()
-PXG- said:I hate being single. I don't feel the same without having a lady around. Yeah, my happiness shouldn't be placed into someone else, but I don't like flying solo. I like to experience life with someone special. There are certain social voids that only a woman can fill![]()
The Shadow said:You sound co-dependent dude. You need to challenge yourself to be single and happy.
WyndhamPrice said:This. I was in a relationship for 5 years, broke up, was sad about it for a week and then decided the world was my burrito and I set out to figure out who I was by myself. Only after I spent about half a year on my own was a really ready to jump into anything else. Sounds like you need to do that.
The Shadow said:You sound co-dependent dude. You need to challenge yourself to be single and happy.
Qwerty710710 said:I had a date today.It went pretty well we made each other laugh, and talked about many things. It was nice hopefully this is a start of something good.![]()
duk said:it's weird when u don't feel like going on a date or spending time with some hotties and you'd rather just chillax
duk said:it's weird when u don't feel like going on a date or spending time with some hotties and you'd rather just chillax
I disagree. Women aren't stressful, IMO. Certain ones are, but painting them all as stressful is unfair to the ones who aren't.Tkawsome said:I don't see why. Women are stressful, even if everything is going well. Sometimes it's good to just chill.
soultron said:I disagree. Women aren't stressful, IMO. Certain ones are, but painting them all as stressful is unfair to the ones who aren't.
I think if you find women stressful you should examine why you feel that way.
-PXG- said:rant
You don't have to hit every note correctly to make music with girls. I think you're worrying too much.Tkawsome said:Read the OP of this thread and try to ask why they aren't stressful again. It's an endless number of rules, do/do nots, ways you need to act, dealing with their "tests" and constant judgment. I mean, just read any post in this thread. Shit is maddening.
Personally, I have trust issues as well, so even success is stressful as hell.
soultron said:You don't have to hit every note correctly to make music with girls. I think you're worrying too much.
Dating itsn't maddening. If that was the case, none of us would want to do it. Dating is fun.
soultron said:I think you're projecting your trust issues here. Not that it's a bad thing or that you're wrong, I just think that's what's going on.
sooperkool said:You "hang out" with friends, you "go out" with potential mates. Small difference but a huge one. Remember women are creatures of labels and definitions. They always want things defined so they can understand how they are supposed to act. Stop asking girls to hang out, start asking them to go out on dates.
SRG01 said:In this day and age, many people hang out instead of date and a couple still hangs out in a relationship.
DualShadow said:Once your in a relationship with a girl you can hang out.
But if your trying to be in a relationship with a girl she needs to see you as a potential partner not a cool friend to 'hang out' with.
SRG01 said:I would disagree with that, since many of my friends who've had the most successful long-term relationships (and marriages!) always hung out at first. It's never a clear-cut scenario.
Do what feels right with the girl.
Tkawsome said:I don't see why. Women are stressful, even if everything is going well. Sometimes it's good to just chill.
Eggo said:It sounds like you have some issues you need to work through. You're not comfortable being single, and that isn't healthy. You also have this negative attitude that pops up every once in a while which is bound to affect your relationships.
You're not living in the real world if you expect women to come out and tell you why they don't like you. Most people (guys and girls) are not that confident in themselves to deliver a message like that to someone's face. Expecting that of girls who don't know you is foolish on your part. Recognize when you're being let down easy and stop getting your panties in a bunch about the way the world is.
Your constant date updates sound like a broken record, and yet you don't seem to be making any progress in terms of forming a connection. It's like you're trying too hard to convince you or us that you're something that you're not.
sooperkool said:PXG
I'm going to act like an old-head and tell you this....
Slow down. It feels like you are dating way too much and just because you can date that heavy doesn't mean that you should. I think a woman just like any man can tell when you are not really invested in her and by saying that i don't mean super emotionally but enough so that she may want to know more about you. It feels like you're trying to race t the end and using a lot of dates as a substitute. Sort of the shotgun approach. You need to find a happy medium where you are dating enough to be social but you are also making the women that you choose to get closer to; to see the nuances and depths of your character. You probably need to take a break and decompress and not put so much emphasis on dating or at least not so much so often.
my .02 cents.
doogles said:So, in regards to all these posts saying to make your intentions known; what if you don't know your own intentions? I'm talking to this beautiful girl and we're hanging out Monday night, but I also like playing the field (especially as the semester starts) and keeping my options open, at least right now. What's the right amount of pressure to put on the gas, so to speak, so that I can keep my options open without being friend-zoned?
doogles said:So, in regards to all these posts saying to make your intentions known; what if you don't know your own intentions? I'm talking to this beautiful girl and we're hanging out Monday night, but I also like playing the field (especially as the semester starts) and keeping my options open, at least right now. What's the right amount of pressure to put on the gas, so to speak, so that I can keep my options open without being friend-zoned?
doogles said:Thanks guys. I'll hang out with her and whatever happens, happens. I've resolved not to worry about it so much
Speaking of which, PXG, I think I'm agreeing with the other guys here. No one should be posting that many enormous walls of text in a thread like this. Chill out :lol
Ah. Just take care of yourself, sir.-PXG- said:I have a habit of being verbose and going into excruciating detail. I can be brief when need be. But when trying to explain and/ or defend myself, omitting precious details isn't necessarily the best course of action.
I promise that is the last wall you'll see from me in quite some time, if not, ever.
doogles said:Ah. Just take care of yourself, sir.
"hi"y2dvd said:2 girls are at a bar, one of them really cute. How do you open conversation?
y2dvd said:2 girls are at a bar, one of them really cute. How do you open conversation?
Rabbitwork said:"hi"
I've heard that you should talk to the one you don't want first, then talk to both of them as a group in order to not be super obvious and to gain trust. You want to get both of them to like you, and you want the friend to feel like she can trust you with the girl you're actually after.y2dvd said:2 girls are at a bar, one of them really cute. How do you open conversation?
its not really a joke. its amazing how brutally honest (not tactless, honest) you can be with women and have them react positively to it. if you try and spit some truth at a female and she gets on the defense about it, fuck her, she's a hassle.-PXG- said:Go up to the counter, order a drink. Ask her what she's having. Ask her if it's her usual thing or something she's just trying. Go from there I guess.
Or that too :lol
Rabbitwork said:its not really a joke. its amazing how brutally honest (not tactless, honest) you can be with women and have them react positively to it. if you try and spit some truth at a female and she gets on the defense about it, fuck her, she's a hassle.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v5jrNoNNtrEy2dvd said:2 girls are at a bar, one of them really cute. How do you open conversation?
Then what? Bring up a current event? Straight out tell the girl you are interested in her?Rabbitwork said:"hi"
I think that works if she haven't noticed you yet. We noticed each other when I was already ordering a drink at the other side of the bar.-PXG- said:Go up to the counter, order a drink. Ask her what she's having. Ask her if it's her usual thing or something she's just trying. Go from there I guess.
I recall reading this on The Game. Makes a little sense. I was planning on doing this if I got in. Now I need an opener!soultron said:I've heard that you should talk to the one you don't want first, then talk to both of them as a group in order to not be super obvious and to gain trust. You want to get both of them to like you, and you want the friend to feel like she can trust you with the girl you're actually after.
But this doesn't make sense to me since it makes it seem like you're into the girl you don't want.
Just try talking to both of them and asking if you can "steal the friend for a second" to ask her a question or something?
I've always just walked up and started talking.