TurboLibre
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CrushDance said:
What do you mean by "special"?
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Girl/Dating Age Part 2: A combined effort to give advice for those in need
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What do you mean by "special"?
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CrushDance
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Mike, you were one of the people telling me that I was being an idiot for not jumping on her. Did you not say that because of the way she behaved? Everyone including myself at the end believed this girl was the "the one" or at least really interested. But she just played with me the entire time and then had the audacity to act like she didn't know how I came to such a conclusion. It really stings me to be the one to bare that bs.Mike Works said:
The whole respect, be courteous, place your jacket in a puddle lies. Me and some of my best male friends fight, we don't mince our words and have strong relationships because of that. I was always being all coy and shit with women and I admit,, putting them on a pedestal. I refuse to do that anymore, they can carry their own things, push their own cars and stand up for themselves. I'm not being the knight in shining armour anymore.Tkawsome said:
TurboLibre
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CrushDance said:
So if I'm reading your posts right you're not viewing them as special now. Your last post was a little confusing.
~Kinggi~ said:
Damn straight.
Mike Works
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Crush, I'm going to speak frankly with you, as I do with everyone else on here- I don't think the story you're giving us when it comes to this girl is entirely accurate.
Now that being said, I'm not accusing you of lying.
This thread is 100% full of one-sided opinions. It is also dominated by a lot of people that have very little experience when it comes to dating, relationships, and the emotional balances that come with that. I don't think that you're lying, but I do think that everyone in this thread is only privy to select information and/or a somewhat emotionally immature (when it comes to dating and women) point of view.
If a woman continually throws herself at a guy and makes him milkshakes and draws her name and his in a giant heart on that milkshake, then she likes him. The only other explanation is that she's role-playing Freddie Prinze Jr. in She's All That, and while I think you feel that this is how it played out, I highly doubt it. I don't doubt that it ended with her telling you she wasn't interested in anything more than being friends, not at all. I do doubt that she went into this with you thinking, "I'm going to go to ridiculous lengths to absolutely throw myself at him in the hope that he'll show interest so I can then dump him!" People can be mean and vindicative, yes, but that's just stupid.
As men (and women) get more and more dating and relationship experience, they tend to not overreact to the smaller things. They also, of course, tend to not make the same mistakes and misjudgements. I have a feeling that you're guilty of one of those two there, even if you don't know it.
Right now you're pissed, and if I were in your exact situation, I would be too. Give it a few days or a weeks or however long you need, and then reassess the entire situation you went through. You don't have to forgive her or anything like that, but truly evaluate what went wrong and why.
I think you'll find that the reason isn't 'all women are assholes'.
Now that being said, I'm not accusing you of lying.
This thread is 100% full of one-sided opinions. It is also dominated by a lot of people that have very little experience when it comes to dating, relationships, and the emotional balances that come with that. I don't think that you're lying, but I do think that everyone in this thread is only privy to select information and/or a somewhat emotionally immature (when it comes to dating and women) point of view.
If a woman continually throws herself at a guy and makes him milkshakes and draws her name and his in a giant heart on that milkshake, then she likes him. The only other explanation is that she's role-playing Freddie Prinze Jr. in She's All That, and while I think you feel that this is how it played out, I highly doubt it. I don't doubt that it ended with her telling you she wasn't interested in anything more than being friends, not at all. I do doubt that she went into this with you thinking, "I'm going to go to ridiculous lengths to absolutely throw myself at him in the hope that he'll show interest so I can then dump him!" People can be mean and vindicative, yes, but that's just stupid.
As men (and women) get more and more dating and relationship experience, they tend to not overreact to the smaller things. They also, of course, tend to not make the same mistakes and misjudgements. I have a feeling that you're guilty of one of those two there, even if you don't know it.
Right now you're pissed, and if I were in your exact situation, I would be too. Give it a few days or a weeks or however long you need, and then reassess the entire situation you went through. You don't have to forgive her or anything like that, but truly evaluate what went wrong and why.
I think you'll find that the reason isn't 'all women are assholes'.
Eggo said:
I find it really depressing to read statistics about what age people have had sex. Part of the problem also is that people seem to treat them as if they're probabilities, like "Oh, 90% of people have had sex by age 23, so you must have had lots of chances" and then if you haven't, the assumption then becomes "you're saving yourself" or "it's a life-choice".
CrushDance
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I know I'm immature and that's partly why I even feel this way. I won't give up.Mike Works said:
SuperAndroid17
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How do you guys cope with forgetting your ex? especially one who fucked me over and used me. Im supposed to be having a double date tommorow but I cant find myself being " excited " for it... I just feel upset and used.
johnny_park
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I'm going to repost this since it was at the end of the last page:
I went out with this girl for a second time today, first was on Wednesday. I'm pretty sure we are going to hang out again this weekend or early next week. Should I make a move on the third date?
I was in a nine year relationship before this so this whole dating thing feels new again. I don't want to scare her off.
I went out with this girl for a second time today, first was on Wednesday. I'm pretty sure we are going to hang out again this weekend or early next week. Should I make a move on the third date?
I was in a nine year relationship before this so this whole dating thing feels new again. I don't want to scare her off.
SuperAndroid17 said:
All it takes is time and lots of activities that are good for you and take your mind off of it. Someone told me it takes half the time you were together to get over someone. So if together 3 years takes 1.5 to get over, i can kind of see that. If you arent over your ext ho i wouldnt go out with someone else just yet.
johnny_park
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Yes I was talking about the kiss.scoot3r said:
When I was dating my last girlfriend I asked her if I could kiss her. Should I do that again or just go for it?
I say you "make a move" on the first date. That's how she knows it's a date and not "hanging out" as friends. If you're flirting and the vibe is good, escalating romance comes naturally from the get-go. You should be doing this all before even going on the first date, when you're first talking. If you wait till the third date to instill romance, that's pretty slow.johnny_park said:
_Alkaline_
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johnny_park said:
Never, ever ask.
soundahfekz
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News Bot said:
Bail before you catch feelings. Without treatment one day you'll b the the hero, next the villain.
Oh man last night I killed it, like yo I fucking smacked it. I went to a club with a mate of mine and we were like going there to pull. So we see a pair of girls, one blonde one brunette. The brunette was way hotter but the blonde was alright. So i start talking to the blonde and we dance and talk and i expect my friend to go after her brunette friend who I later find out is her cousin. Nothing happens with the blonde so I approach this other girl.
Now this chick is smoking, I saw her from the corner of my eye and I confidently approach her and say some shit like "hi my name is ***" . She's like what is it short for her and it sounds kinda vulgar I suppose cos she did not believe me till I pulled out my ID. She's like why don't you drive (provisional licence), I'm like I live in London I don't need to and she says touché. She tells me her name and we talk for a bit. I ask her what her ethnic make up is and she says she's half Greek and half Japanese. Man this chick was SMOKING!!!!!!!!! God help me she was fine. Like 5'7, slim but curvy. Man the type of girl if looks were your soul concern you'd marry on the spot. She then says something like "God I'm so turned on right now" and makes out with me. I'm like woah, this chick is totally on me. Now I don't think I am an ugly guy I often hear straight guys say I'm handsome even if at times a bit of a tool. But yo, I felt a bit insecure. She was probably the hottest girl I ever made out with or even likely to. She then says she has to see to it that her friends are ok in the club and we kiss and depart. Later on I see her and one of her friends is crying and I try to ask if she is ok, but she is like don't worry about it. So we go our separate paths. She texts me soon after saying sorry for the way we said goodbye her friend was ill and she'd like for us to keep in touch and I reply saying I'd like that.
I then meet the brunette from earlier that night and I start talking to her. She was like you didn't talk to me first. And I'm like hey I wanted to that's why I was trying to impress hour cousin. We got talking and I started to use some of the stuff I the game. I was doing a lot of cocky funny. I was saying some of the most arrogant shit but with a broad smile on my face and bantering with her. So after building rapport I'd say something like "hey I know I'm good-looking. Want me to prove it to you. Look me in the eye and say these words after me" "bleepey, you are not remotely handsome" she failed at saying it to me with a straight face and I told her that. Which had her kinda turned on. I then try to kiss her and she pull her neck up and I make a joke about wanting to drink her blood which has her laugh. I then act cocky whilst telling jokes. I say shit like she says I'm arrogant I say I'm honest, she says cocky I say confident and charismatic. This shit went on for like 10 minutes whispering crude shit in her ear and she was getting of on it. Then I'd try to kiss her and she'd smile, shake her head, smile and say no. So after a while of this, gave me a look saying you smooth cocky , grabbed my neck and made out with me. She kept remarking how cocky I was and I said if I was cocky I would pull out my iPhone and expect her to put your details on it. No prizes for guessing what I did. She looked at me like you motherfucker and put her number down. I suppose I should have tried to go back to her's but I didn't and I lost sight of her.
I also got this smoking hot half Iranian/ half emiritian chick's facebook by constantly throwing negs to everything she said. She said she had sisters I ask if all the looks went to her sisters; she says Nottingham is filled with a lot of women I ask if they're all prettier than her etc. Shes laughing and a bit gobsmacked, and when I ask her for her number she's reluctant to give me her details saying her brother in law would not approve, I ask for his opinion he jokingly disapproves, I then go to her sister who is like "yeah I love black guys and this one's sexy" and she's says like yeah give him your details she puts her fb email on my phone and we say goodbye.
I also wore a t shirt which says "define girlfriend" it's kinda like peacocking and man... the number of girls who asked me to explain my shirt was insane.
That was probably one of the best night outs ever.
Now this chick is smoking, I saw her from the corner of my eye and I confidently approach her and say some shit like "hi my name is ***" . She's like what is it short for her and it sounds kinda vulgar I suppose cos she did not believe me till I pulled out my ID. She's like why don't you drive (provisional licence), I'm like I live in London I don't need to and she says touché. She tells me her name and we talk for a bit. I ask her what her ethnic make up is and she says she's half Greek and half Japanese. Man this chick was SMOKING!!!!!!!!! God help me she was fine. Like 5'7, slim but curvy. Man the type of girl if looks were your soul concern you'd marry on the spot. She then says something like "God I'm so turned on right now" and makes out with me. I'm like woah, this chick is totally on me. Now I don't think I am an ugly guy I often hear straight guys say I'm handsome even if at times a bit of a tool. But yo, I felt a bit insecure. She was probably the hottest girl I ever made out with or even likely to. She then says she has to see to it that her friends are ok in the club and we kiss and depart. Later on I see her and one of her friends is crying and I try to ask if she is ok, but she is like don't worry about it. So we go our separate paths. She texts me soon after saying sorry for the way we said goodbye her friend was ill and she'd like for us to keep in touch and I reply saying I'd like that.
I then meet the brunette from earlier that night and I start talking to her. She was like you didn't talk to me first. And I'm like hey I wanted to that's why I was trying to impress hour cousin. We got talking and I started to use some of the stuff I the game. I was doing a lot of cocky funny. I was saying some of the most arrogant shit but with a broad smile on my face and bantering with her. So after building rapport I'd say something like "hey I know I'm good-looking. Want me to prove it to you. Look me in the eye and say these words after me" "bleepey, you are not remotely handsome" she failed at saying it to me with a straight face and I told her that. Which had her kinda turned on. I then try to kiss her and she pull her neck up and I make a joke about wanting to drink her blood which has her laugh. I then act cocky whilst telling jokes. I say shit like she says I'm arrogant I say I'm honest, she says cocky I say confident and charismatic. This shit went on for like 10 minutes whispering crude shit in her ear and she was getting of on it. Then I'd try to kiss her and she'd smile, shake her head, smile and say no. So after a while of this, gave me a look saying you smooth cocky , grabbed my neck and made out with me. She kept remarking how cocky I was and I said if I was cocky I would pull out my iPhone and expect her to put your details on it. No prizes for guessing what I did. She looked at me like you motherfucker and put her number down. I suppose I should have tried to go back to her's but I didn't and I lost sight of her.
I also got this smoking hot half Iranian/ half emiritian chick's facebook by constantly throwing negs to everything she said. She said she had sisters I ask if all the looks went to her sisters; she says Nottingham is filled with a lot of women I ask if they're all prettier than her etc. Shes laughing and a bit gobsmacked, and when I ask her for her number she's reluctant to give me her details saying her brother in law would not approve, I ask for his opinion he jokingly disapproves, I then go to her sister who is like "yeah I love black guys and this one's sexy" and she's says like yeah give him your details she puts her fb email on my phone and we say goodbye.
I also wore a t shirt which says "define girlfriend" it's kinda like peacocking and man... the number of girls who asked me to explain my shirt was insane.
That was probably one of the best night outs ever.
What's general protocol on bringing a girl back to your parents place? One night stand's a no? What about casual friends that you hook up with? Seems like a bad deal if you don't want a girlfriend. The hotel route seems skeezy, and a car sounds terrible but everyone's done it.
Aesius
Member
I finally, finally, finally ended my dry spell. I hadn't done it since about May (with my ex), but my friend came up to visit me last night and, yeah. We got really drunk and it finally happened. She's the same girl I tried and failed with a couple months ago.
We probably did it 4 or 5 times last night, so I feel like I redeemed myself. Fuck yeah!
Mike Works
Member
This post gave me a massive headache. Did you write it while you were still in the club, drunk off your ass, or did you just ask a 15 year old to transcribe the evening for you? Or are you 15?Bleepey said:
Good Christ
woodchuck said:
So yeah, she broke up with me today. She said she couldn't be in a relationship with med school and the boards coming up. She said she gets stressed out easily and sometimes takes it out on me, and that isn't fair to me.
Honestly, I wish she had said something else. Like something I did wrong or something. That way I'd be able to correct that in the future with other girls.
Dabookerman
Member
Mike Works said:
He's from North London. It's how they talk.
Jamesfrom818
Banned
Aesius said:
I finally, finally, finally ended my dry spell. I hadn't done it since about May (with my ex), but my friend came up to visit me last night and, yeah. We got really drunk and it finally happened. She's the same girl I tried and failed with a couple months ago.
We probably did it 4 or 5 times last night, so I feel like I redeemed myself. Fuck yeah!
brofist.jpeg
Guys, I just broke up with my girlfriend of 6 months. I'm a little sad right now, but it was kind of mutual. On paper, we were perfect for each other, but it just seemed like something was missing. She agreed. It hurts a lot, we both were really sad and would really miss each other. This is for the best, though, because even though we cared for each other, we didn't completely love each other. It became more of a chore, and less of a relationship.
Time to watch some Football.
Time to watch some Football.
Mangoverboard
Banned
Ok GAF, here's the deal.
So this day last week, a female friend of mine texts me and says that she wants to set me up with one of her friends. The friend is up for it and apparently we are very alike so will get in great. I think why the hell not? Girl might actually be decent. My friend won't even give me any details on this girl, just her number. I have to text her and we can get to know each other that way.
So I text her and it turns out we do indeed get on really well. We've been texting pretty much all throughout the day, everyday for the last week. We added each other on fb so we could see pics of each other. She's pretty damn hot and seems to think I'm pretty good looking too, seemed to become more interested after this in fact.
So I'm really turning it on with this girl, being confidant, a bit cocky, not always agreeing with her, teasing a lot. She tells me I'm cheeky and that she loves cheeky.
So then today we meet up. It went really well, wasn't awkward it anything, conversation kept going, I was making her laugh and all that. I know I could have brought a few more topics but I'd been up since 4 in the morning for work and was pretty wrecked, but we still had a great time. We didn't kiss or anything, just hugged, which is cool, first time meeting her in person and all.
So that was about 6 hours ago. I'm wondering when I should text her again. Now? Leave it till tomorrow? Keep her waiting kind of deal? I want to talk to her more but I also have work in 6 hours so can't be staying up too much longer. Is it best to wait till tomorrow afternoon? It's 11 at night here now.
Advice welcome!
So this day last week, a female friend of mine texts me and says that she wants to set me up with one of her friends. The friend is up for it and apparently we are very alike so will get in great. I think why the hell not? Girl might actually be decent. My friend won't even give me any details on this girl, just her number. I have to text her and we can get to know each other that way.
So I text her and it turns out we do indeed get on really well. We've been texting pretty much all throughout the day, everyday for the last week. We added each other on fb so we could see pics of each other. She's pretty damn hot and seems to think I'm pretty good looking too, seemed to become more interested after this in fact.
So I'm really turning it on with this girl, being confidant, a bit cocky, not always agreeing with her, teasing a lot. She tells me I'm cheeky and that she loves cheeky.
So then today we meet up. It went really well, wasn't awkward it anything, conversation kept going, I was making her laugh and all that. I know I could have brought a few more topics but I'd been up since 4 in the morning for work and was pretty wrecked, but we still had a great time. We didn't kiss or anything, just hugged, which is cool, first time meeting her in person and all.
So that was about 6 hours ago. I'm wondering when I should text her again. Now? Leave it till tomorrow? Keep her waiting kind of deal? I want to talk to her more but I also have work in 6 hours so can't be staying up too much longer. Is it best to wait till tomorrow afternoon? It's 11 at night here now.
Advice welcome!
SpectreFire
Member
You did learn something you should correct, don't date med students. When push comes to shove, their careers will almost always be more important.woodchuck said:
HappyBivouac
Member
Xun said:
So go out?
_Alkaline_
Member
Mangoverboard said:
Give it some time.
She might msg you over the next couple of days. If she doesn't, don't take it personally, it might just be the way she operates. Take initiative and ask to meet up again.
And don't overthink things. It sounds like you're on the right track. Relax mate.
Mike Works said:
I wrote it at 5 am in the morning half asleep, what didnt you understand? Anyhow, i could have gotten my first club lay, but i spent 20 minutes talking to a dude in the toilet thinking she'd be there till the end cos she lost her coat ticket. She was gone by the time i left. FML.
I just want to know if I made the right decision, please don't be too harsh on me gaf, as this is the first time I write in a thread like this.
I have known this asian girl for around 4 years, sometimes we have been chatting, other times not. Last October I went on vacation there again and spent time with her. Here's a quick rundown:
- We slept together, she later said she have a boyfriend.
- She breaks up with this boyfriend when I went back to Denmark.
- She always says she loves me, she calls me "hon" and says she misses me.
- Wants to be with me later.
- She is now with her ex again, but it started back at New Year, she only admitted yesterday.
- Her ex has her password to her Facebook, she don't know the password to her own account.
- I couldn't even borrow her password, yet her ex has it!
- She had not told me any of this and admits another guy from America is coming to visit her next month after I asked her about it.
- I found out this american dude is visiting her through one of her friends accounts, she did not tell me until I asked her about it.
- That guy is taking her to the capital, and I couldn't take her there when I asked.
- I found a photo of her ex hugging her so tight at New Year on his profile.
- Before all this she suddenly didn't text me much from New Year (when her ex visited her).
- She said she was busy with school, then this week she said she had dropped her cellphone in the water. She have a hard time texting and can't buy a new phone.
- I had to pay the trip I was invited to for her family and I did pay.
- She promised to give me a love poem she had written, I never got it.
- Her sister promised to send me the vacational pictures, I never got them.
- She didn't want me to borrow her digital camera, but I eventually did and fixed her memorycard, with the result that there was a lot of photos of her ex on it.
- Her relationship status is still as "complicated" just like at her ex's profile.
With all of this, I never really felt appreciated. Back in 2007/08, she had another boyfriend as well while I have been waiting and waiting for us to be together. But yesterday I couldn't take anymore, I really did not feel appreciated, I did not feel loved at all. I did not feel like she even fought for me. To me, I made the right decision in letting her go, as I can now concentrate on my personal projects - what do GAF think? Based on these bulletpoints, does she seem like someone you would want to spent time with?
I have known this asian girl for around 4 years, sometimes we have been chatting, other times not. Last October I went on vacation there again and spent time with her. Here's a quick rundown:
- We slept together, she later said she have a boyfriend.
- She breaks up with this boyfriend when I went back to Denmark.
- She always says she loves me, she calls me "hon" and says she misses me.
- Wants to be with me later.
- She is now with her ex again, but it started back at New Year, she only admitted yesterday.
- Her ex has her password to her Facebook, she don't know the password to her own account.
- I couldn't even borrow her password, yet her ex has it!
- She had not told me any of this and admits another guy from America is coming to visit her next month after I asked her about it.
- I found out this american dude is visiting her through one of her friends accounts, she did not tell me until I asked her about it.
- That guy is taking her to the capital, and I couldn't take her there when I asked.
- I found a photo of her ex hugging her so tight at New Year on his profile.
- Before all this she suddenly didn't text me much from New Year (when her ex visited her).
- She said she was busy with school, then this week she said she had dropped her cellphone in the water. She have a hard time texting and can't buy a new phone.
- I had to pay the trip I was invited to for her family and I did pay.
- She promised to give me a love poem she had written, I never got it.
- Her sister promised to send me the vacational pictures, I never got them.
- She didn't want me to borrow her digital camera, but I eventually did and fixed her memorycard, with the result that there was a lot of photos of her ex on it.
- Her relationship status is still as "complicated" just like at her ex's profile.
With all of this, I never really felt appreciated. Back in 2007/08, she had another boyfriend as well while I have been waiting and waiting for us to be together. But yesterday I couldn't take anymore, I really did not feel appreciated, I did not feel loved at all. I did not feel like she even fought for me. To me, I made the right decision in letting her go, as I can now concentrate on my personal projects - what do GAF think? Based on these bulletpoints, does she seem like someone you would want to spent time with?
Mangoverboard
Banned
She actually texted me last night about an hour after I posted that. I had already fallen asleep tho :lol_Alkaline_ said:
I am overthinking things tho. I'm gunna take it easy, need to relax as you said. Thanks!
Mike Works
Member
I understood it all. That's why I got the headache.Bleepey said:
I know you pretty much wrote all of that just to receive total validation on your decision (since obviously no one would tell you to go for her), but you live in Denmark. She lives in Japan. Who gives a fuck? Find a Danish girl. Done.Anastacio said:
Yea?
I just looked at her facebook and she have changed her relationship status to "married with ex" (i don't mention names) lol! I am so pissed at myself when I can read the signs but i am waiting for so long. Now I can save money (it was expensive for someone like me) and emotions. Of course she won't admit anything and tells me she does nothing wrong, grr can make me mad. I will ignore her so much and move on with my projects in life.
She actually lives in the Philippines lol. And it's not the first time, my cousin told me my second ex kissed with another guy there in the same country as well.
Yea, f*ck it, I don't even want a gf for the next years, got too many projects going on now.
Beside, I find it very hard to find girls here in Denmark, I am much more confident in Asia, here in my country I got social phobia. Two completely different worlds but I know what you mean. =)
I just looked at her facebook and she have changed her relationship status to "married with ex" (i don't mention names) lol! I am so pissed at myself when I can read the signs but i am waiting for so long. Now I can save money (it was expensive for someone like me) and emotions. Of course she won't admit anything and tells me she does nothing wrong, grr can make me mad. I will ignore her so much and move on with my projects in life.
She actually lives in the Philippines lol. And it's not the first time, my cousin told me my second ex kissed with another guy there in the same country as well.
Yea, f*ck it, I don't even want a gf for the next years, got too many projects going on now.
Beside, I find it very hard to find girls here in Denmark, I am much more confident in Asia, here in my country I got social phobia. Two completely different worlds but I know what you mean. =)
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