Going on a blind date, well sorta, I have her on facebook but...

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Johnny Cage In The Shower

Johnny Cage In The Shower

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How much should one's facebook profile tell about themselves?

So long story long, I ran into an old friend in LA and her fiancé learning about me being on the rebound, asked me to ask her friend out. She was all like "she's really nice, beautiful, she'll be perfect for you…blah blah." so I was like "fine! I guess tell her to add me on facebook or something, and we'll go from there."

Sure enough the same night I get home, new friend request, I'm pretty excited.
I add her, but to my disappointment, her profile pics are just full of random weird vacation photos of empty beaches, flowers, and other random nature shots she snapped herself. There's only one pic of her buried deep in her profile pics from early 2010, and she is bundled up and ice skating. And the shot is too far away, I can barely make out her face…(She kinda looks like a female version of Evilore..no joke! She has that same grin, lol!)

So we exchange very straight forward emails (messages via facebook) "Hey whats up. blah blah" small talk, you can only ask so much with two email exchanges.. We planned a date next weekend, but now I am having a bit of cold feet. I don't like blind dates, and this seems even worst.

This just seems a little too "in the dark" for me, and I find it weird how she simply knows a lot more about me due to my in depth facebook profile and countless photos of me, and I barley know anything about her, due to her bare bones, mugshotless FB profile.

Am I too vain/shallow in hoping to see a few more photos of her before a date? And is there a way I may ask to see photos of her without being a creep or simple awkward? Ugh!
 
Johnny Cage In The Shower said:
How much should one's facebook profile tell about themselves?

Am I too vain/shallow in hoping to see a few more photos of her before a date? And is there a way I may ask to see photos of her without being a creep or simple awkward? Ugh!
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The question you should be posing to gaming age is whether you should go on the date considering you're unsure of this woman's appearance.

You should go on the date. The worst that can happen is you'll find out you're not compatible.

It's called a blind date for a reason.
 
I was hesitant to go on a date once with a girl I met online, mainly due to her not having many pictures but I chose to go as had nothing else to do.. Long story short I married her! She was just a bit wary of posting too much info online on her facebook.

Go for it! The worst that can happen is you dont click with her and leave it at just the one date
 
a lot of girls dont like to put up pics on facebook because so many weirdos randomly add them

edit - to the op if you see your mutual friend just ask her if she has any pictures with her or something. girls love taking pictures together on their phones

I would have done that before even admitting interest if i was in the situation
 
Ah yeah, her friend is helping her not to feel to down, and trying desperation.
You got gipped son.
 
Johnny Cage In The Shower said:
Sure enough the same night I get home, new friend request, I'm pretty excited. I add her, but to my disappointment, her profile pics are just full of random weird vacation photos of empty beaches, flowers, and other random nature shots she snapped herself. There's only one pic of her buried deep in her profile pics from early 2010, and she is bundled up and ice skating. And the shot is too far away, I can barely make out her face…(She kinda looks like a female version of Evilore..no joke! She has that same grin, lol!)
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Secret Fatty.
 
birdcity said:
Secret Fatty.
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birdcity said:
Secret Fatty.
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hehe I hope not, she looks decent, but really hard to tell, but she definitley doesn't look like a

"fatty"...

She kinda looks tall, taller than me... I'm more self consious about myself, I liek women shorter than me and I'm only 5'8"...She seems a bit taller... But a friend of mine made a good point

"She's on (ice) skaes dude, of course she looks tall in the pic, chill the fuck out!"

I know it's just a date but I jsut broke up from a long (comfort zone) relationship, and haven't been on a date in ages... kinda nervous.
 
Johnny Cage In The Shower said:
hehe I hope not, she looks decent, but really hard to tell, but she definitley doesn't look like a

"fatty"...

She kinda looks tall, taller than me... I'm more self consious about myself, I liek women shorter than me and I'm only 5'8"...She seems a bit taller... But a friend of mine made a good point

"She's on (ice) skaes dude, of course she looks tall in the pic, chill the fuck out!"

I know it's just a date but I jsut broke up from a long (comfort zone) relationship, and haven't been on a date in ages... kinda nervous.
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Doesn't sound like you're ready to be dating man.... nothing wrong with that. But a ready u wouldn't make this post. You'd just go on a blind date.
 
She could also turn out way more attractive than you thought.

It goes both way bro.

How would you feel if you bailed out, and discovered later that she was absolutely stunning?
 
It's just a date. If she's ugly/sucky personality/whatever just don't go out again, but you'd be dumb to skip it just because she might be ugly.
 
This is how I met my first girl friend. Although back then it was MySpace. She turns out to be really hot and it was evident on her MySpace pictures which made me eager but all the more nervous.

I'd suggest just going with a mind set of trying to enjoy the night. If she's not attractive no problem. You won't be expected to make a huge night of it.
 
I just want to applaud the OP's name and picture. It's not quite Liu Kang level, but it's damn good.

Actually, I can add to this. My current girlfriend and I were set up by mutual friends, and we are pretty damn happy. So blind dates can totally work! Had no idea what she looked like until I met her at the cafe other than that she was blonde.

Hilariously the key thing was that our mutual friend didn't tell me anything about the girl. Meanwhile, as roommates, they gossiped all about me.
 
Johnny Cage In The Shower said:
I add her, but to my disappointment, her profile pics are just full of random weird vacation photos of empty beaches, flowers, and other random nature shots she snapped herself. There's only one pic of her buried deep in her profile pics from early 2010, and she is bundled up and ice skating. And the shot is too far away, I can barely make out her face…
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go on the date. take a very clear photo of her. upload that photo to facebook and tag her. this could save the next guy who cant handle a blind date.

this is a joke, by the way.
 
Johnny Cage In The Shower said:
How much should one's facebook profile tell about themselves?

So long story long, I ran into an old friend in LA and her fiancé learning about me being on the rebound, asked me to ask her friend out. She was all like "she's really nice, beautiful, she'll be perfect for you…blah blah." so I was like "fine! I guess tell her to add me on facebook or something, and we'll go from there."

Sure enough the same night I get home, new friend request, I'm pretty excited.
I add her, but to my disappointment, her profile pics are just full of random weird vacation photos of empty beaches, flowers, and other random nature shots she snapped herself. There's only one pic of her buried deep in her profile pics from early 2010, and she is bundled up and ice skating. And the shot is too far away, I can barely make out her face…(She kinda looks like a female version of Evilore..no joke! She has that same grin, lol!)

So we exchange very straight forward emails (messages via facebook) "Hey whats up. blah blah" small talk, you can only ask so much with two email exchanges.. We planned a date next weekend, but now I am having a bit of cold feet. I don't like blind dates, and this seems even worst.

This just seems a little too "in the dark" for me, and I find it weird how she simply knows a lot more about me due to my in depth facebook profile and countless photos of me, and I barley know anything about her, due to her bare bones, mugshotless FB profile.

Am I too vain/shallow in hoping to see a few more photos of her before a date? And is there a way I may ask to see photos of her without being a creep or simple awkward? Ugh!
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If you show up and you aren't physically attracted at all, eat dinner with her, pay (dutch if you're all new age like that) and then gently let her down. A date is not a trap that ends in sex with someone.
 
Just go on the date. You can always fall back on the "not ready yet" excuse. You have nothing to lose, so sack up.
 
This happened to me once, the girl had some unrealistic expectations about how I looked. She made an excuse and bailed within 5 minutes of meeting. I never spoke to her again. So yeah I think it's perfectly fine to want to know how she looks like. People who claim that looks aren't important are flat out lying; looks ARE important, just a matter whether it's the most important aspect.
 
bring a basket full of baguettes to the date, great conversation starter. maybe later when you're making sweet love to her you can spank her with one of them
 
maomaoIYP said:
This happened to me once, the girl had some unrealistic expectations about how I looked. She made an excuse and bailed within 5 minutes of meeting. I never spoke to her again.
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How rude. I always try to give everyone a chance. I wouldn't want them pulling that same shit on me.
 
LordCanti said:
If you show up and you aren't physically attracted at all, eat dinner with her, pay (dutch if you're all new age like that) and then gently let her down. A date is not a trap that ends in sex with someone.
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This. Just friendzone her if she's cool and see if she has any hot available friends.
 
Bilbo_T_Baggins said:
This. Just friendzone her if she's cool and see if she has any hot available friends.
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My cachet with women is almost exclusively getting friendzoned by stupidly attractive ones, and then having them recommend me to their friends. It's been this way since middle school
so a decade, basically
.
 
It won't kill you to go. Just don't go, "you look kind of like this guy I know online", that's not an ace icebreaker.
 
maomaoIYP said:
This happened to me once, the girl had some unrealistic expectations about how I looked. She made an excuse and bailed within 5 minutes of meeting. I never spoke to her again. So yeah I think it's perfectly fine to want to know how she looks like. People who claim that looks aren't important are flat out lying; looks ARE important, just a matter whether it's the most important aspect.
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Lol wtf. What excuse did she give?
 
LordCanti said:
My cachet with women is almost exclusively getting friendzoned by stupidly attractive ones, and then having them recommend me to their friends. It's been this way since middle school
so a decade, basically
.
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Luckily for me that situation was reversed. I was friends with the hot ones and recommended to the homely ones during middle/high school, now I'm kicking it with the hot ones, phew!
 
Just go on the date...if you don't like her personality or aren't attracted to her, don't go on a second one.

That's why it's called a blind date.
 
maomaoIYP said:
This happened to me once, the girl had some unrealistic expectations about how I looked. She made an excuse and bailed within 5 minutes of meeting. I never spoke to her again. So yeah I think it's perfectly fine to want to know how she looks like. People who claim that looks aren't important are flat out lying; looks ARE important, just a matter whether it's the most important aspect.
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Cold-blooded... karma's an even bigger bitch, though.
 
Alucrid said:
The point of the date is getting to know the person.
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Seriously man. I know it's a cliché, but it's not all about the looks. I met this DJ down Leeds a while back, my mate said we'd hit it off. She walked in, and I was like, "Buzz, your GF, woof!", but then she started her set, impressed the fuck out of me, we sat and had a few drinks, and I suddenly started being quite attracted to her.

I mean, I still didn't do anything, she really wasn't my type, and her set wasn't that good, but she went from, "not a chance", to, "actually, she not fine per se, but there is definitely something there."

Go for it OP, she could turn out to be an absolute diamond!
 
I've been in a somewhat similar situation. I met this girl at a bar and I had serious beer goggles. When I met her for brunch the next week she looked like a man wearing a wig, like I was dating Tyler Perry or something. I still keep it cool and went through with the date, but it was the last time I ever saw her.
 
samus i am said:
I've been in a somewhat similar situation. I met this girl at a bar and I had serious beer goggles. When I met her for brunch the next week she looked like a man wearing a wig, like I was dating Tyler Perry or something. I still keep it cool and went through with the date, but it was the last time I ever saw her.
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Bahaha you were dating Madea?

To the OP, go for it. What do you have to lose? #Yolo, right?
 
Damn son, this girl is already too good for you. Relax, breath. Are you sure YOU'RE good enough for this person? Maintain, you arent getting married. Have a good time, meet a person that you know is nice from friends. If you dont click, then you dont click. Good luck.

Unless you know someones FB is legitimately full of their real life activities and information, I wouldnt put too much weight into it. I use facebook as a way of laughing and sharing things that make me laugh, not everyone does though.
 
samus i am said:
I've been in a somewhat similar situation. I met this girl at a bar and I had serious beer goggles. When I met her for brunch the next week she looked like a man wearing a wig, like I was dating Tyler Perry or something. I still keep it cool and went through with the date, but it was the last time I ever saw her.
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I have to admit, I lost it right here. Your facial expression must have been priceless.
 
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