Going on a blind date, well sorta, I have her on facebook but...
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POWERSPHERE
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Kids these days..,
Well now you've sort of turned the expectation into her being hot, so now the shamalan twist would be she's
a ghost.
Omegasquash
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Don't sweat the details...you're both just learning about each other. Go in with a positive attitude, smile, be a gentleman. No need to try to impress...just be you.
We had been talking to each other over e-mail for about a month and decided to meet up for lunch. When she arrived the disappointment on her face was obvious, she refused to look me in the eye, said she had something else on and just left.
Eeyup
NinjaBoiX
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Dat avatar, :O
One of GAF's very best, achingly cool!
Sorry to go OT, Dali is a sporadic poster, I took the opportunity.
Yeah how is this a blind date? The point of a blind date is to not get preoccupied with this shit.
I was going to post something similar. When I met the woman who became my wife, she didn't have a Facebook profile yet, but she was on Myspace. Most of her photos were about a year old and weren't very flattering, but she was really nice and I wanted to meet her. She was so much more beautiful in person, not just in terms of her looks but with her attitude and mannerisms. It turned out that she hates having photos taken of herself, so whenever someone does take her picture she looks like she clearly doesn't enjoy it. The one exception was for our wedding photos.
ResidentDante
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Nice, just started some chatting on a dating site myself again, hope I find someone to date too.
No.
No.
But really, it's just one date; at the worst, it'll be one night out of your life.
What is this I don't even
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defriend+block
block the friend that recommended her as well. scorched earth policy only way.
Johnny Cage In The Shower
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Ok GAF never disappoints, there's some good, sound advice in here, also some seriously hilarious posts.
I hate to bait and switch this thread to "Dating Age advice |OT|" but seems like it's heading that way.
I'll be a little more honest and say I'm more self-conscious myself to go on this date.
I had the same GF for over 2.5 years, we broke up about 4 months ago, it wasn't bad or dramatic, we just gradually grew apart, it was just not going to happen for the long haul, (still somewhat friends with her) Anyway when it comes to impressing women, dating etc. I've been quite out of touch and out of the game. (it's been almost three years now) This is my first date since I broke up, unlike me throwing the term "rebound" around so casually in my previous posts, I'm quite confident I'm over that faze.
I'm just damn nervous, I am not the most handsome and confident dude, especially at this stage in my life, I am working a lot this summer (in front of the computer) I should be thankful I have a job and don't take it for granted, but the reality is my work can be very stressful, weekly deadlines, I am constantly fighting to meet deadlines, and on top of that I work alone from my home studio, and I work crazy hours, sometimes very late. I live and work alone basically.
Needless to say my Spring and Summer haven't been that exciting: Wake up at a random hour between 8am -11:30am , drive to coffee shop, come back home, sit down, browse GAF, facebook, other bullshit on the internet and then start work in early afternoon if I am lucky...go to bed extra late, putting in the required daily hours to my work rinse and repeat daily I used to jog every day, now I am lucky if I run 1.5 miles a week.
Minus the aforementioned LA trip recently , which was a nice week off and lot of fun, I literally havent done much with myself in the past 4-5 months, I really became a recluse to the eyes of my close friends, who understand me, yet still are pissed I've been a no show to most summer social Barbeques/events etc.
Anyway now that you all caught up with me, I am just nervous to go on this date, I've known to be a pretty well rounded and a social dude in the past among Gf's and friends, I can shoot the shit about politics, music, movies, world news, I like to think I am pretty open minded, but I have this fear that I don't have that anymore, I dont have the energy nor the care to engage in long conversations with people anymore, my brain just drifts away The LA trip was a little wake up call for me in this regard, met cousins and friends I haven't seen in ages, but I didnt feel like I was at my "A" game at getting caught up and socializing etc. Anyway before you get all .."WTF dude just chill and go on this stupid date !"
Just saying as I see it, this is now a dating advice thread, so yeah, fire some useful tips my way please, and remember this date is pretty much a blind date, I hardly know anything about this woman, so dont ask me "what does she like? into etc.."
I hate to bait and switch this thread to "Dating Age advice |OT|" but seems like it's heading that way.
I'll be a little more honest and say I'm more self-conscious myself to go on this date.
I had the same GF for over 2.5 years, we broke up about 4 months ago, it wasn't bad or dramatic, we just gradually grew apart, it was just not going to happen for the long haul, (still somewhat friends with her) Anyway when it comes to impressing women, dating etc. I've been quite out of touch and out of the game. (it's been almost three years now) This is my first date since I broke up, unlike me throwing the term "rebound" around so casually in my previous posts, I'm quite confident I'm over that faze.
I'm just damn nervous, I am not the most handsome and confident dude, especially at this stage in my life, I am working a lot this summer (in front of the computer) I should be thankful I have a job and don't take it for granted, but the reality is my work can be very stressful, weekly deadlines, I am constantly fighting to meet deadlines, and on top of that I work alone from my home studio, and I work crazy hours, sometimes very late. I live and work alone basically.
Needless to say my Spring and Summer haven't been that exciting: Wake up at a random hour between 8am -11:30am , drive to coffee shop, come back home, sit down, browse GAF, facebook, other bullshit on the internet and then start work in early afternoon if I am lucky...go to bed extra late, putting in the required daily hours to my work rinse and repeat daily I used to jog every day, now I am lucky if I run 1.5 miles a week.
Minus the aforementioned LA trip recently , which was a nice week off and lot of fun, I literally havent done much with myself in the past 4-5 months, I really became a recluse to the eyes of my close friends, who understand me, yet still are pissed I've been a no show to most summer social Barbeques/events etc.
Anyway now that you all caught up with me, I am just nervous to go on this date, I've known to be a pretty well rounded and a social dude in the past among Gf's and friends, I can shoot the shit about politics, music, movies, world news, I like to think I am pretty open minded, but I have this fear that I don't have that anymore, I dont have the energy nor the care to engage in long conversations with people anymore, my brain just drifts away The LA trip was a little wake up call for me in this regard, met cousins and friends I haven't seen in ages, but I didnt feel like I was at my "A" game at getting caught up and socializing etc. Anyway before you get all .."WTF dude just chill and go on this stupid date !"
Just saying as I see it, this is now a dating advice thread, so yeah, fire some useful tips my way please, and remember this date is pretty much a blind date, I hardly know anything about this woman, so dont ask me "what does she like? into etc.."
CrocMother
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Just focus on having fun, not what she looks like. It's a first date, there shouldn't be any expectations.
I would be upset if she wasn't as attractive as your friend advertised. Yea, she might still be nice and everything, but if thats all it boiled down to, then I could have saved a bunch of money by not going out to eat or whatever y'all are doing and gone to the bar with some friends and had her and your original friend come along or something instead.
I've never been on a blind date and I wouldn't do it unless I really trusted the person setting it up. Looks aren't everything, but they're still a necessity for me. In most all cases, looks are the first line of weeding out the girls in which I'd be interested in(to date). I dont want to be going on dates and spending money for a girl that if I had just seen a good picture of before, would have known that it'd be a waste of time/money.
I've never been on a blind date and I wouldn't do it unless I really trusted the person setting it up. Looks aren't everything, but they're still a necessity for me. In most all cases, looks are the first line of weeding out the girls in which I'd be interested in(to date). I dont want to be going on dates and spending money for a girl that if I had just seen a good picture of before, would have known that it'd be a waste of time/money.
thecouncil
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The Elite
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My shymalan sense tells me it will end with a marriage proposal.
Johnny Cage In The Shower
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Well yesterday (Sunday) we did plan a date this coming up Saturday afternoon, (she wanted to do something on Wednesday) I kinda wasn't up for it so I extended it till Saturday, she seems very flexible and cool with schedule changes, leaving everything up to me pretty much, so I guess that's alright?...I told her give me till Tuesday to decide where to go and when to meet etc.
I guess it's gonna be a dinner date in downtown Toronto, but not sure where to take her yet, I have till tomorrow to decide, don't wanna keep her waiting
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FUCK HER.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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My advice is to ignore anything Eggman says.
try looking at it another way. thanks to facebook you already laid some of your cards on the table, and she 'still' decided to go on a date with you. she already has a general idea of what to expect, so the 'power' kinda shifts back to you and she should be the one worrying.
Johnny Cage In The Shower
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Yep, I may actually down a screwdriver or a beer or two, before meeting up. It does help me.
I only fuck Greek women on the first date, since the chances are high that I may not want to see them again.
I actually thought about this, It sure does put the ball on her court as far as presentation goes.
Trouble with my friend is, he lives in Australia, he is an old childhood friend, I kinda had a "reunion" with him in L.A. through a wedding of another mutual childhood friend. On top of that, this girl I'm about to go on a date with, she is friends with his GF, not so much with him, and I really don’t know his GF, I met her at the wedding. Basically I am not close enough to my friend or his GF to ask too many things about her. It will require me to literally call him up in Australia and ask him to ask his girl to email me pics of this girl…It just wont work.
Also my friend knows that I have her on facebook now, since all three of us are mutual friends, but like imagine me messaging my friend on facebook..."hey man, as you can see...she doesn't have any pics of herself on her facebook account, you think you or your girl have any pics of her kicking around? and can send them this way?" haha, no matter which way you slice it, it will just be weird.
BigJonsson
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When I had a female friend try and set me up with one of her friends/acquaintances I had never met I always asked for pics before adding to Facebook or texting them
Hell, after some bad experiences meeting girls from the internet who looked nothing like their pics I started to ask to cam chat with them before I met them, always have to watch those "myspace" angles
Hell, after some bad experiences meeting girls from the internet who looked nothing like their pics I started to ask to cam chat with them before I met them, always have to watch those "myspace" angles
Johnny Cage In The Shower
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So what say you GAF?
For a first (Blind) date, what's an ideal place to take a date to to sit down and talk? Coffee? Alcoholic beverages/cocktails, or full on dinner date?
I don't really subscribe to the "Coffee dates" becasue I just don't care for it, seems like such a cop out! I drink coffee to wake up in t he morning and focus on work, it's almost counter productive on dates, where I want to be more calm and relaxed than my usual self. Which brings us to the liquor. but going out just for cocktails, also seems lame for a first date, and kinda sends wrong signals, I don't want to look like I just go out and drink day in and day out like an alchy, drinking is best reserved for the pub and among friends.
So Dinner date it is, even as a first date? yeah? what's a good type of restaurant to go eat on a first date? I don't really wanna pretend I am a high roller and take her to some crazy fancy steakhouse or whatever... I donno, help me out here!
For a first (Blind) date, what's an ideal place to take a date to to sit down and talk? Coffee? Alcoholic beverages/cocktails, or full on dinner date?
I don't really subscribe to the "Coffee dates" becasue I just don't care for it, seems like such a cop out! I drink coffee to wake up in t he morning and focus on work, it's almost counter productive on dates, where I want to be more calm and relaxed than my usual self. Which brings us to the liquor. but going out just for cocktails, also seems lame for a first date, and kinda sends wrong signals, I don't want to look like I just go out and drink day in and day out like an alchy, drinking is best reserved for the pub and among friends.
So Dinner date it is, even as a first date? yeah? what's a good type of restaurant to go eat on a first date? I don't really wanna pretend I am a high roller and take her to some crazy fancy steakhouse or whatever... I donno, help me out here!
DragonSworne
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Olive Garden
Johnny Cage In The Shower
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Nah, (Not sure if you are joking but...) I highly doubt there's even one Olive Garden in downtown Toronto area.
I would say drinks with at least an idea of where to grab a bite to eat if the date is going well.
And pick up there tab. Come on. Its bush league to not do that. (though I live in Texas, so its more traditional to do that here).
Host Samurai
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I ain't gonna lie but I want one to change my user name to a MK character doing something name.
PhoenixDark
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You should have a coffee/dinner meeting/date outside if possible. It breaks the monotony of those types of dates
Go on your friend's girl's facebook. Try to see if they have pictures together or something.
For a first date/blind date, I think you're doing it wrong with dinner. The worst thing you can do is lock yourself into an extended date/awkward meal with someone you have no chemistry with. The drinks or coffee date is perfect. Verify you're attracted to each other, no outward signs of crazy, then schedule a real first date at a later time. 20 mins tops. What can go wrong? Either of you can leave at a moment's notice so nothing's awkward.
Vietnamese restaurant?
I know where I'd go if it were in Ottawa...nice Vietnamese restaurant with a cozy atmosphere, and plenty of different meals available (not just pho) for around $8 a plate.
See now this is what I don't agree with and I'm fairly old fashioned when it comes to dating. A first meeting or "blind date" is super casual, almost like an interview, why pay for the drink(s)?. If you actually MAKE it to a first real date and pull out the fancy dinner or interesting event, then yah, front the bill.
Johnny Cage In The Shower
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I am gonna have to agree with all of you guys here, and change my plan. makes more sense than jumping straight to a confined space and being locked there for hours. Although it's my first date in the longest time, and I am pretty excited and looking forward to it, so I wont be content with a 20-30 minute date, sipping on a drink and shake hands/hug and goodbye. Unless of course the night ends up being that shitty for whatever reason, where I have to do that and I have no other choice.
Even though this is a "blind date" she's someone recommended by a trusted friend. so it's a little different than say, responding to a blind date classified etc. I have a bit of confidence she will be alright, we did exchange a few emails already, but nothing more than just planning a date and short info about how we both know our mutual friend.
I will start off maybe at some nice central location, downtown patio for drinks, open space for sure (hope it doesn't rain) just get acquainted, hopefully can find enough common interests to keep a conversation going. then have a few good places in mind to eat and suggest it to her, make it seem like I just came up with them top of my head, "Hey there's a really nice Sushi place around the corner...or if you like Italian it's just a two block walk..." just pretend I know my shit around the city! give her choices to decide to and agree on where to eat together and hopefully walk over there (without being a long walk).
But yeah I think moving around on a first date is good, change of environment, keep the night flowing, interesting, rather than sit at a booth at a restaurant and stare at the ceiling, awkward quiet moments...fuck, I am having doubts already!
Isn't this like the most expensive Steakhouse in Toronto? That's exactly what I am trying to avoid, I don't want to eat somewhere where I wouldn't usually go and afford. even though it may not be a problem for one or two dates (but not the first date) and on that subject, yeah I am paying for it for sure...blind date shmlind date... gotta be a "gentleman" like that, it's part of the deal, weather the date works out or not is irrelevant.
Johnny Cage In The Shower
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Bumping this...sorry
Yeah the "What watch you wear" thread, got me thinking....
Shall I "rent" a fancy looking watch for the date? nothing too expensive, but I donno something about having a cool watch while going on a date.
I do have a close friend who sells many brands of watches, actually his store is "prestigious" enough to even sell Rolex's.... has a dedicated Rolex section...not saying he will lend me a Rolex for the date, or even if I want to wear one for that matter but... should I ask him if I can borrow a watch for my (first date)?
Like a nice TAG, or Tissot, Omega or Baume and Mercier or something?
Would this be too superficial? I may wear it it on the next few dates, granted this shit goes anywhere, then give it back? Do I sound like a douche? is this a douchy thing to do ? Again nothign fancy maybe a watch that goes for $1000 or so.
I just want to look like a "traditional" dude who still wears a watch you know? even though I don't wear a watch.
Yeah the "What watch you wear" thread, got me thinking....
Shall I "rent" a fancy looking watch for the date? nothing too expensive, but I donno something about having a cool watch while going on a date.
I do have a close friend who sells many brands of watches, actually his store is "prestigious" enough to even sell Rolex's.... has a dedicated Rolex section...not saying he will lend me a Rolex for the date, or even if I want to wear one for that matter but... should I ask him if I can borrow a watch for my (first date)?
Like a nice TAG, or Tissot, Omega or Baume and Mercier or something?
Would this be too superficial? I may wear it it on the next few dates, granted this shit goes anywhere, then give it back? Do I sound like a douche? is this a douchy thing to do ? Again nothign fancy maybe a watch that goes for $1000 or so.
I just want to look like a "traditional" dude who still wears a watch you know? even though I don't wear a watch.
StoppedInTracks
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So you want to lie about who you really are.
Not a good idea if you are not in it for one night stand only.
Bam Bam Baklava
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He makes it sound like wearing a watch is some grand lifetime commitment. Just get one and wear it whenever you want. It makes you look cool....right?
Kung Fu Jedi
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You're over thinking this man. If you don't wear a watch then don't wear one on the date. Why would you want to present any kind of image that isn't who you really are? Even if it is as simple as a watch.
She probably wouldn't notice one way or another unless you were wearing something expensive.
She probably wouldn't notice one way or another unless you were wearing something expensive.
Yeah, sorry. Wasn't great advice. You take her there the night you propose. =P
DjangoReinhardt
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Only rent a watch if you're renting a helicopter, too.
StrangeADT
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If you're up front and ask for more photos, you might scare her off and find out later she is a bombshell.
If you don't, you endure a pointless date and move on.
Possible loss of bombshell is the worst of the 2 options IMO.
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