So you got laid and sobered up and now you don't want to talk to her anymore right?
No sex yet, not sure when actually... but whatever, I am not about that right now, let me solidify the second date before I can even think about first base, let alone "sex"
So to recap from last night, we hung out around Yorkville, went, from eating at a place, to dessert at another place around the corner and finally at 2am we went for a cappuccino at another place... we did lotta walking just around (Yorkville Ave and Cumberland)
Couple things to observe.
Pros and Cons.
Cons
-100 points deduction....
I was late to this date about an hour and 20 minutes (OUCH!) BUT...But I did keep her updated while driving, from an hour before the original schedule time, until the 5 minutes before I showed up to the table "I just parked my car, be right there"
Even though she played it really cool, kinda brushed it off "It's ok no problem...don't worry" I could tell she wasn't happy at all, and honestly who would be?... I fucked up bad!
I had to totally come up with a stupid ass story about a friend's birthday party/ backyard bbq that was happening 100 miles outside TO, where I showed up there late, I was gonna leave early but more friends showed up and before I knew it I was running late, and then there was lotta traffic driving into TO (that part actually wasn't a lie).
Honestly I donno if she bought any of that or not... I didn't want to repeat myself either...
Cons II
-100 points deducted
She didn't happen to be much of a drinker at all, she nursed a half glass of wine all night!
While I had two pints of beer and vodka and tonic earlier in the night.
This didn't sit with her too well, even though she didn't outright say it, I could tell she wasn't amused... but honestly I cannot really be calm and relaxed, specially at a first date, if I don't have a few drinks in me. I seriously need it, specially after starting off the night on the wrong foot.
Another con, I went to the washroom 3 if not 4 times during the night it was a long night though, lasted over 5 hours, so yeah, I went to the washroom three times in five and a half hours, where she didn't go once!? This was kinda unusual, since she is the woman and I am the man, but I was drinking lotta water all night along with my beer and vodka and cappuccino..I am not gonna sit there with my dick in a knot.
I think what pissed her off is when I went to the washroom the first time and I made that post above.. I was kinda tipsy and lost track of time.. checking GAF, and my other text messages, I hate people who fuck off and play with their phone during social, face to face times, let alone being on a date with someone, I was precisely being that douche that I can't stand. So you could just imagine one's frustrations, made her wait hour and twenty minutes... finally show up and sit down and shoot the shit for about hour and a half...leave her again, go to washroom for another 7-8 minutes, but at the time the 7 minutes must've felt like infinity for her and even for me ( I was nervous).
Ok Now that we're done with the cons...haha let's see if I can crawl myself out of this deep pit.
Not being on a date for a long time, one thing I was so nervous about is not having things to talk about, the awkward silences, etc. This was never the case, there was always something to converse about, we kept talking, from one subject to next.. the conversation flowed smoothly, never got boring, I can partially thank the two pints of beer and the vodka above, also the fact that we came from the same childhood background (same country) even though we didn't know each other back then, we had lots of childhood things in common to reminisce and laugh at (about) etc.
She also happen to show some interest in my work, not many women have, she was cool, but our professions couldn't be any further apart, corporate banking vs arts and animation.
She seemed very excited and enthusiastic about lots of things, kept talking about "I want to go do this..." we should go do that" she wanted me to go see "Cirque Du Soleil" with her in September, I was like "Ookay, so you are already going to this thing? You already got your tickets?" She was like "yes, I am going with two of my (female) friends." I slapped her across the face with a reality check....."Well, what are the chances of me finding tickets (seats) next to you guys?" she was like.."uhmm...yeah probably not good?" ..."yep" ...Anyway that got a bit awkward, but that was about it.
And not to brag, I was making her laugh a lot, I've been with women who are just cold mannequins, I am no comedian but I think I am good at figuring out what makes people laugh, there sense of humour... she was really bubbly and easy to get laughs from, so that was cool...
Anyway night ended pretty well... I think, I pulled in her apartment building, she was like "Let's hug" this I found a bit awkward...It was almost like a pre cautionary "lets hug...before you try to pull something more stupid on me" haha! So hug, good night... I watched her walk through the glass doors of her building, she did turn around and check if I was still there as she went through the last doors before walking into the lobby and waved goodbye, as in "I'm inside the building now, good to go" I was kinda glad I stuck around for few seconds making sure she gets in to the building okay... made me look "caring" awww yeeah!
I have no idea where this is gonna go next, honestly it's a crap shoot. I fucked up bad, there was also some cool chemistry here and there, She did seem like the type with high standards though, corporate banker, punctual, professional, not that I am not any of those but..c'mon...Not exactly what I've been known for.
I may ask her out again to go out coming up Friday, if I do not hear anything from her by Wednesday or Tuesday? sounds right? or... any better advice?
