I broke up with my girlfriend...

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fatigues_gasolini said:
One last question brea: do I need a formal letter for the eviction notice or can I use a generic one.
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I would go for a formal one. A generic might be acceptable, but it's better to be safe than sorry.

However, the downside is, evictions can turn into a nightmare.
Before you begin that process, try and get her to leave on her own.

I had a guy who tried to pull squatters rights on me once in the face of an eviction. it took 3 months and about $2000 to get him out, not to mention all the time I had invested.

I'm not saying it will end up bad, just that it could. If you can't convince her to leave, my advice is to immediately give her the notice, assuming the laws in your state don't allow oral eviction notices.

~S


Edit: Whatever you do, do not just put her stuff outside and change the locks. Doing that without a constable supervising can get you jail time. She was at least at one time a paying tenant, and that's enough to make putting her stuff outside illegal.
 
not sure whether this a poor attempt of an elaborate troll or OP is in need of some serious help.

no contract? kick her out now you fool what are you waiting for? invites peeps without ur permission to ur place and you're asking whether thats trespassing whats the matter with you ofc it is. did you throw away your common sense along with your self respect? grow a pair, evict and deny trespassers or call police.

if troll and I'm leaning towards troll, you messed up mentioning friendzone for 3 years. unless one of ye are of some misguided zealous religious nut who waits until after marriage to make love, absolutely zero excuses to not get busy. or perhaps you had a horrid misunderstanding in the relationship between you and her and has been trolling yourself for 3 years.

either way, I am not amused.

edit: legally a tenant? ouch. if serious you have my condolences. erm can you move?
 
Turok_TTZ said:
not sure whether this a poor attempt of an elaborate troll or OP is in need of some serious help.

no contract? kick her out now you fool what are you waiting for? invites peeps without ur permission to ur place and you're asking whether thats trespassing whats the matter with you ofc it is. did you throw away your common sense along with your self respect? grow a pair, evict and deny trespassers or call police.

if troll and I'm leaning towards troll, you messed up mentioning friendzone for 3 years. unless one of ye are of some misguided zealous religious nut who waits until after marriage to make love, absolutely zero excuses to not get busy. or perhaps you had a horrid misunderstanding in the relationship between you and her and has been trolling yourself for 3 years.

either way, I am not amused.

edit: legally a tenant? ouch. if serious you have my condolences.
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fatigues_gasolini said:
Christ, I cant, she is legally a tenant and therefore I cant kick her out.
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Basically at this point she is legally a tenant. She is not a "girlfriend" at any point in the last three years apparently and has a verbal lease agreement with him. He needs to do this legitimately he can't just kick her out now.
 
Just curious about anyone here who understands U.S. law: is there a distinction between legal and equitable interests in things such as property?

OP - I just want to post this again. Please stand up for yourself in the future. You just cannot let someone treat you like shit for three years without doing anything. I'm really happy you had the guts to break up with her but harsh action should usually be taken AFTER the first cheating encounter. Also, no sex for three years? No sex for one month should have made you question her devotion to you.

I'm not saying sex is the be-all-end-all but its a good way to make it obvious that a partner has lost interest in the other party.
 
Tragicomedy said:
Recapping for our new arrivals:

- OP and live-in girlfriend haven't had sex for over three years.
- OP asks girlfriend if they'll ever have sex again and she bites his head off.
- Girlfriend is caught sexting with furry horseman about creampies. On Thanksgiving.
- OP continues living with girlfriend.
- Girlfriend travels to Furcon and sleeps with King Kong Dong, Mr. Friskie, One-Eyed Willie Whiskers, and Hairy Penis Monster.
- OP allows girlfriend to continue living at his place, despite not paying rent.
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Well shit, OP man you need to kick this girl out. You can do it, I have faith in you.
 
Tragicomedy said:
Recapping for our new arrivals:

- OP and live-in girlfriend haven't had sex for over three years.
- OP asks girlfriend if they'll ever have sex again and she bites his head off.
- Girlfriend is caught sexting with furry horseman about creampies. On Thanksgiving.
- OP continues living with girlfriend.
- Girlfriend travels to Furcon and sleeps with King Kong Dong, Mr. Friskie, One-Eyed Willie Whiskers, and Hairy Penis Monster.
- OP allows girlfriend to continue living at his place, despite not paying rent.
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Great recap. Now we just need Lionel Mandrake to put it in narrative.
 
At this point you need to serve her both notices. That way if she pays, you get some money and she is out in a month, and if she doesn't, then she is out sooner.

Take pictures of the condition of your house. Move anything valuable somewhere else. Any sort of altercation happens, call the cops. Then you can either stay there and deal with whatever spiteful shit she pulls, or find somewhere else to be until her time is up.

Then you change the locks, and if she shows up tell her to leave, and if she doesn't, call the cops and get a restraining order for harassment.

Good fucking luck. Hopefully you can finally stand up for yourself and get rid of her once and for all. Trust me, there are plenty of women out there who fuck you more than once every 3 years.

Depending on how fucked up she is, you might want to consider a restraining order for abuse(you have evidence, right?) before she decides to.
 
I guess it hasn't been clear yet but is she actually trying to be a jerk to you and stay as long as possible? Have you actually asked her if she wouldn't mind leaving asap?

She probably doesn't know the laws does she? I mean how likely is it that she knows she's a "Legal Tenant" or whatever?

Can you try just asking her to leave. Tell her you get that things didn't work out between you two so there's no point in living together still.

I mean if she's sane, wouldn't she want to leave too?
 
Holy shit hahah this thread got interesting with the furry shit. Wow. Anyways kick the bitch out. You don't owe her shit bruh.
 
Hoodbury said:
I guess it hasn't been clear yet but is she actually trying to be a jerk to you and stay as long as possible? Have you actually asked her if she wouldn't mind leaving asap?

She probably doesn't know the laws does she? I mean how likely is it that she knows she's a "Legal Tenant" or whatever?

Can you try just asking her to leave. Tell her you get that things didn't work out between you two so there's no point in living together still.

I mean if she's sane, wouldn't she want to leave too?
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Ive asked her to leave at the beginning of February. She has nobody to go with and nowhere to go. She has no money and all her family lives in California. She was going to drive back home but she is going to school here and will go back at the end of the semester.
 
Man, I was a bit hasty with that escalation.gif.

  • She goes to furcon for random dogging
  • She sexted a horse-man
  • OP and ex didn't have sex for three years
  • His plan of dealing with her is to change the wifi password
The escalation has escalated.
 
I just can't imagine what those three sexless years were like. Were you hoping it would all turn around at some point? Did she have a wonderful personality and you had loads of fun otherwise? I am sorry this happened to you.
 
Tragicomedy said:
Recapping for our new arrivals:

- OP and live-in girlfriend haven't had sex for over three years.
- OP asks girlfriend if they'll ever have sex again and she bites his head off.
- Girlfriend is caught sexting with furry horseman about creampies. On Thanksgiving.
- OP continues living with girlfriend.
- Girlfriend travels to Furcon and sleeps with King Kong Dong, Mr. Friskie, One-Eyed Willie Whiskers, and Hairy Penis Monster.
- OP allows girlfriend to continue living at his place, despite not paying rent.
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Sounds like you should have gotten out a looooooooooooooooooong time ago, OP.
 
fatigues_gasolini said:
I broke up with my girlfriend at the beginning of February and since she was living with me gave her until the end of February to move out. I asked her to ask me if if she has friends over and her answer was since she was paying me rent, legally she shouldn't have to. The problem is that she isn't on the mortgage and we don't have a lease, so does she have any right to tell me anything? My thought is that I have the right to tell her to get the fuck out and change the locks if I want and there's nothing she can do, other than taking what she owns. Please tell me I'm right.
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Depends on what state you're in honestly. But you know if she's paying part of the rent you probably shouldn't be a dick and tell a grown person what to do.
 
Wow....3 years? And u stayed with her all this time? Kind of strong hold does she have on u? Man the fuck up dude. God I wish I was your friend, I would head to your house right now & grab all her shit & put that shit on the curb and replace the locks.

Anyone live close to OP? We need a NeoGaf Intervention ASAP!
 
Coconut said:
Depends on what state your in honestly. But you know if she's paying part of the rent you probably shouldn't be a dick and tell a grown person what to do.
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I hate to tell a grown person what to do, but read the rest of the thread. He shouldn't trust her with anything.
 
Coconut said:
Depends on what state your in honestly. But you know if she's paying part of the rent you probably shouldn't be a dick and tell a grown person what to do.
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Im trying to stop her from having people over that I dont know when Im not home that will steal my shit. Shes far from an adult. I own the house so I should have a say in who comes into my house, more than 5 minutes beforehand.
 
Tragicomedy said:
Recapping for our new arrivals:

- OP and live-in girlfriend haven't had sex for over three years.
- OP asks girlfriend if they'll ever have sex again and she bites his head off.
- Girlfriend is caught sexting with furry horseman about creampies. On Thanksgiving.
- OP continues living with girlfriend.
- Girlfriend travels to Furcon and sleeps with King Kong Dong, Mr. Friskie, One-Eyed Willie Whiskers, and Hairy Penis Monster.
- OP allows girlfriend to continue living at his place, despite not paying rent.
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The fuck. What's wrong with you OP? Stop being soft, kick her out.

How you last 3 years without fucking her, I don't even understand.
 
fatigues_gasolini said:
Im trying to stop her from having people over that I dont know when Im not home that will steal my shit. Shes far from an adult. I own the house so I should have a say in who comes into my house, more than 5 minutes beforehand.
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Well then you should have kicked her out from the get go.
 
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