Thanks for all the kind words, y'all.
I'm not even stressing about infusing. Setting aside that drop rates are waaaaay too low to even contemplate infusing everything up to the same level, but there are three things here:
Drop rates are too low and too random meaningfully allow me to optimize. Iron Banner and Trials of Osiris both gave me DISC/STR helmets, which I hate. I want INT/DISC or INT/STR. Both of those events have the perk I want "Angel of Light" and both of them only have the helmet available for a limited time. Even outside of that, when was the last time you got a legendary weapon drop? Or some boots when that's what you need? I'm missing like 8 pieces of armor that I need to really build some kits, so it's not an issue of me wanting something incredibly specific at a high light level. Beyond that, I actually care about how I look. I hate my Hesperos helm. I don't feel like a Titan with it on, but it's the only INT/DISC, Better already helmet I've gotten since TTK launch. I just want drops. I want some gloves with pulse rifle loader, I want them with sniper loader, I want them with scout loader. I want to experiment. Which brings me to my next point.
Leveling of gear discourages experimentation, especially with the absurdly high XP requirements for armor. How do I know which I'll like better, sniper loader or scout rifle loader? Provided I can even get both, it takes 10x more XP to level up even a purple armor piece than a weapon. And weapons get telemetries. It's ridiculous. I'm actually out of armor parts right now because I keep trying new gear and spending glass needles to re-roll my exotics. AND I CAN'T BUY MORE. C'mon, Bungie.
Finally, going down in level feels bad. Before, it was "hit max level once, do whatever you want." Now, it's a constant juggling act between what do I want to do, what gear can I swap out without taking the biggest hits, etc. And while I feel big and mighty as a 315 Hard Raider, going down to 295 to play Crucible doesn't feel like progression. It feels like a demotion. I'm not saying it is, I'm saying it "feels" like one.
Great posts all around John. I am feeling exactly the same way now. I've abandoned my quest for a high LL because it is not important to me beyond 310 and most of my playtime is in PvP Crucible where that doesn't matter. I hover around 302 now.
I had been using my raid gear to infuse my INT / DISC gear with Pulse and Scout reloaders, Chest Armor each for Solar, Arc, and Void armor and increased Sniper (PvE) and Shotgun (PvP) ammo, and Boots with Rocket and MG ammo. All I need is 1 helm. I only play my Titan so I've had a lot of time to min/max this class.
I am able to hit Tier 5 INT and DISC with whatever I need, so I've been lucky with drops. I am starting to look for INT / STR for the new Striker and Defender but am not looking forward to that quest and RNG. Otherwise the vendors have had pretty decent variety in what I would need.
I just wish that there wasn't so much shit tied to a piece of gear. Light, a stat distribution, plus perks that could mean there are I dunno dozens of combos that you can get when you only want 1-2 of them.