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Dating Age |OT$6| Just ask her out already

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Advocatus Diaboli

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Jzero said:
I hate you 😔
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Right there with you.

I cut short a business trip today because my grandmother's dying. I'm glad that I was there for my mother; I'm thankful I had the chance to say goodbye.

It just makes me wish that I had anyone to lean on in my life -- but, you know, I don't.

The only person I could even text during this was my ex-wife, who's a goddamned saint. And I'm thankful for that, but it's not enough.
 
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vern

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Armadilo said:
Have you guys done speed dating? what was your experience
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I did speed dating in china once just for fun with some friends. Got a few numbers (wechats), won an expensive bottle of wine... and got zero dates. Didn't really try though to be honest. It was a fun way to practice conversation. Gotta be witty and interesting quickly.
 
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always crazy bacon

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Jintor said:
Thanks man

I chose right before my finals of my grad dip to have the future talk so yeah I kinda burned myself here too (leaving aside how crap I feel overall)

I should give her and myself space right? I want to reach out but everything in me is screaming that's a bad idea for a few weeks if not months, no matter how amicable...
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It's a bad idea, she'll be fine and statistically be dating before you. Focus on you or risk the danger of sliding back into a relationship with her that you both know does not have a future.
 
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Salamando

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Armadilo said:
Have you guys done speed dating? what was your experience
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Tried it twice, no intention of trying a third time. The only local Speed Dating events are costly, and that money is better spent increasing your dating worth...new shirt, haircut, some free weights, anything.

Each time I got one date that never went to a second date (neither of us wanted one).
 
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always crazy bacon

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Megalosaro said:
Was talking to each other and the conversation went something like this.

Me: how was your day?
Her: good. Missing you of course. Its too early, but I'm finding it really hard to be so far away from you.
Me: what do you mean too early.
Her: we haven't been together that long, but I feel like we have this intense bond already.
Me: I know what you mean. We clicked so well. But everything feels so right. You feel right.
Her: you feel right for me too.

I miss her so much.
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I feel ya this week. For context this is China craziness.

My wifes ex husband and family are crazy. So my wife wants to spend a week with her daughter in the city where we live while it's the school holidays. Except her daughter lives with her ex's family and her ex husband is a mentally ill, controlling, insecure man.

So first the grandmother wont let her granddaughter out of her sight with her mother in case the mother abducts her own daughter. So she follows the granddaughter to the city, then the ex husband decides to tag along. Then 2 days later an aunt decides she wants to come too.

My wife and I agree we don't want this family to know where we live AND they don't know we are married so the cover story is my wife lives with a friend and it's a small apartment so she has to book a hotel for the week for everybody. Eventually I'm the one that's going to have to pay for these hotel bills.

The ex husband has prior for snooping on my wife's phone so we agreed not to message each other so he wont see something. So the only communication I get with my wife is to post things to Wechat moments and she'll like them and comment on them (that way she knows I'm OK). I get maybe 5 minutes of messaging each day where I think she hides in the bathroom to do that so her crazy ex does not see.

I've got two more days of this.
 
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artsi

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always crazy bacon said:
I feel ya this week. For context this is China craziness.

My wifes ex husband and family are crazy. So my wife wants to spend a week with her daughter in the city where we live while it's the school holidays. Except her daughter lives with her ex's family and her ex husband is a mentally ill, controlling, insecure man.

So first the grandmother wont let her granddaughter out of her sight with her mother in case the mother abducts her own daughter. So she follows the granddaughter to the city, then the ex husband decides to tag along. Then 2 days later an aunt decides she wants to come too.

My wife and I agree we don't want this family to know where we live AND they don't know we are married so the cover story is my wife lives with a friend and it's a small apartment so she has to book a hotel for the week for everybody. Eventually I'm the one that's going to have to pay for these hotel bills.

The ex husband has prior for snooping on my wife's phone so we agreed not to message each other so he wont see something. So the only communication I get with my wife is to post things to Wechat moments and she'll like them and comment on them (that way she knows I'm OK). I get maybe 5 minutes of messaging each day where I think she hides in the bathroom to do that so her crazy ex does not see.

I've got two more days of this.
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You're paying your wife's ex-husbands family's hotel and you can't even communicate with your wife because of her ex-husband?

That's crazy man.
 
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always crazy bacon

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artsi said:
You're paying your wife's ex-husbands family's hotel and you can't even communicate with your wife because of her ex-husband?

That's crazy man.
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Well she intends to pay it but I know she'll just be putting it on a credit card so I clear that off when I have extra money. The ex husband is actually crazy and did things like take her phone when they were married. It's only this week we have to do this.
 
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So I've been bored at work and decided to look up the kinds of messages many women receive with online dating, holy shit it's even worse than I was imagining. Reading some of the sexist, racist, perverted shit guys send some women honestly makes me think less of my own gender. I always knew women got bombarded with creepy messages but some of the things I've seen man, the death threats, temper tantrums, sexist bullshit is just insane. It's really informative to see the other side of the spectrum when I comes to online dating.
 
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Puck Beaverton

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PancakeBurglar said:
So I've been bored at work and decided to look up the kinds of messages many women receive with online dating, holy shit it's even worse than I was imagining. Reading some of the sexist, racist, perverted shit guys send some women honestly makes me think less of my own gender. I always knew women got bombarded with creepy messages but some of the things I've seen man, the death threats, temper tantrums, sexist bullshit is just insane. It's really informative to see the other side of the spectrum when I comes to online dating.
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My friend would send me pics of the messages she got. She always found them funny, I found it depressing.
 
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Leeness

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PancakeBurglar said:
So I've been bored at work and decided to look up the kinds of messages many women receive with online dating, holy shit it's even worse than I was imagining. Reading some of the sexist, racist, perverted shit guys send some women honestly makes me think less of my own gender. I always knew women got bombarded with creepy messages but some of the things I've seen man, the death threats, temper tantrums, sexist bullshit is just insane. It's really informative to see the other side of the spectrum when I comes to online dating.
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Yep
 
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gaiages

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Man, my mom's ex contacted me when he saw an article I wrote years after they broke up to try and like sleep with me. He knew me when I was like 9! What made it extra creepy was that he asked about my mom, I said she died like 8 years ago (at that point), and he like immediately focused in on me. Like ew.

Also this was before I wrote for any site professionally, so he had to Google ME specifically to find that article.

Men can be super gross. My online dating stint was brief though so like I didn't deal with too many weirdos there.
 
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Elginer

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Random update. That girl I thought had ghosted me hadn't, I just have not been texts in my phone. Told her and we both thought we had ghosted each other lol. We're planning something for next weekend.

Now here's the crazy thing, I also started talking to another girl and we're meeting up this weekend. Man, online dating is wild.
 
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Leeness

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gaiages said:
Man, my mom's ex contacted me when he saw an article I wrote years after they broke up to try and like sleep with me. He knew me when I was like 9! What made it extra creepy was that he asked about my mom, I said she died like 8 years ago (at that point), and he like immediately focused in on me. Like ew..
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Wtf, that's disgusting. 😨
 
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Ralemont

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Elginer said:
Random update. That girl I thought had ghosted me hadn't, I just have not been texts in my phone. Told her and we both thought we had ghosted each other lol. We're planning something for next weekend.

Now here's the crazy thing, I also started talking to another girl and we're meeting up this weekend. Man, online dating is wild.
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Shit always happens in bunches. It's crazy
 
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Peltz

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gaiages said:
Man, my mom's ex contacted me when he saw an article I wrote years after they broke up to try and like sleep with me. He knew me when I was like 9! What made it extra creepy was that he asked about my mom, I said she died like 8 years ago (at that point), and he like immediately focused in on me. Like ew.

Also this was before I wrote for any site professionally, so he had to Google ME specifically to find that article.

Men can be super gross. My online dating stint was brief though so like I didn't deal with too many weirdos there.
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Yikes. That's just insane.

Yep. Men are pretty much animals.
 
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Prime crotch

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Ever had to push back on a relationship because you just don't feel it's going to work out despite logically it should?
I've met this girl and we get along pretty good and sex is amazing etc.. but, something in my gut just tells me it's not going to work and she's starting to quiz me how I feel about taking this casual fling into something more serious. I really like her, but ever since we started I felt we could be great friends but not right as a couple, partially due to how we match our anxieties and worries way too perfectly.
 
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I still want to message some girls on Tinder with like "Hey, I know you probably didn't ask for it, but you should check out this dick pic, it even has a fluffy bunny on it.", then wait ten seconds and post this picture:

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And follow up with, "Sad isn't it?". I'm just curious towards to reactions. People will still assume I'm some crazy lunatic I suppose.
 
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Spoiled Milk

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Daedardus said:
I still want to message some girls on Tinder with like "Hey, I know you probably didn't ask for it, but you should check out this dick pic, it even has a fluffy bunny on it.", then wait ten seconds and post this picture:



And follow up with, "Sad isn't it?". I'm just curious towards to reactions. People will still assume I'm some crazy lunatic I suppose.
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Maybe not a good idea
 
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Thorgal

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Daedardus said:
I still want to message some girls on Tinder with like "Hey, I know you probably didn't ask for it, but you should check out this dick pic, it even has a fluffy bunny on it.", then wait ten seconds and post this picture:



And follow up with, "Sad isn't it?". I'm just curious towards to reactions. People will still assume I'm some crazy lunatic I suppose.
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I dunno, some girls may get off on dating crazy lunatics.
Ads some spice to their life :p
 
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PancakeBurglar

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Daedardus said:
I neither intend to use it as an opener for a girl I'd actually like, neither do I want to harass people, so I'm just not bothering with it. I'm just curious how this social experiment would fare.
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Probably not that well, most women just want to be talked as normal (there's that word again) people. Just be friendly and get a conversation going and if it seems to be going well get their number and set up a date. Sending silly messages might get you few laughs but I imagine most people would just ignore it or roll their eyes.
 
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Daedardus

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PancakeBurglar said:
Probably not that well, most women just want to be talked as normal (there's that word again) people. Just be friendly and get a conversation going and if it seems to be going well get their number and set up a date. Sending silly messages might get you few laughs but I imagine most people would just ignore it or roll their eyes.
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I know that very well if I actually wanted to date some people, but sometimes I love doing silly stuff. Like the one time where I asked people if they liked tomatoes and we had a whole conversation discussing merits of tomatoes and derived food. Tinder for me is more a casual talking app I suppose.
 
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PancakeBurglar

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Daedardus said:
I know that very well if I actually wanted to date some people, but sometimes I love doing silly stuff. Like the one time where I asked people if they liked tomatoes and we had a whole conversation discussing merits of tomatoes and derived food. Tinder for me is more a casual talking app I suppose.
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I guess that's fair, hell I've gotten a date using Aziz Ansari's Whole Foods pick up line before.
 
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always crazy bacon

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Daedardus said:
I neither intend to use it as an opener for a girl I'd actually like, neither do I want to harass people, so I'm just not bothering with it. I'm just curious how this social experiment would fare.
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There too many people that use this defense for shitty behavior. Don't do it, don't make a joke about sexual harassment. Women are very likely to receive real unsolicited dick picks. Gauging how well humor will be revived by someone you've never met over text is more likely than not to blow back on you. We have had specific incidences of people being funny to women they wanted to date and then not realizing where they went wrong when the woman ignored and blocked them.
 
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I was feeling down, so one of my Discord friends set me up a tinder in his state, and i got some matches in the first few minutes of it being created, as well as like 5 others, which was cool! So, i decided to make an actual tinder in my home town, and i got NO MATCHES, lol

Im still trying to get over my insecurities and stuff, but im making progress. Not sure if im ready to date just yet. I've never tried dating, but I don't want my insecurities to get in the way, so I need to conquer them first.
 
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gaiages

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Daedardus said:
I know that very well if I actually wanted to date some people, but sometimes I love doing silly stuff. Like the one time where I asked people if they liked tomatoes and we had a whole conversation discussing merits of tomatoes and derived food. Tinder for me is more a casual talking app I suppose.
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I don't know, I don't think it's a very good joke.

Just like stick to funny GIFs or something.
 
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SuperBanana

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What do people think would be a good second date? We went mini-golfing and to a bar on the first date. Do you think dinner together would be ok or something else?
 
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Daedardus

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always crazy bacon said:
There too many people that use this defense for shitty behavior. Don't do it, don't make a joke about sexual harassment. Women are very likely to receive real unsolicited dick picks. Gauging how well humor will be revived by someone you've never met over text is more likely than not to blow back on you. We have had specific incidences of people being funny to women they wanted to date and then not realizing where they went wrong when the woman ignored and blocked them.
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Biggest reason why I won't do it, since it's more the influx of jokes that would bother people and I don't want to contribute on that. Then again, I wouldn't blame someone who blocked me over something funny (like an other joke or so), it just means they aren't worth your time and effort dating them.
 
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Messofanego

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Daedardus said:
I still want to message some girls on Tinder with like "Hey, I know you probably didn't ask for it, but you should check out this dick pic, it even has a fluffy bunny on it.", then wait ten seconds and post this picture:



And follow up with, "Sad isn't it?". I'm just curious towards to reactions. People will still assume I'm some crazy lunatic I suppose.
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C'mon
Sai-kun said:
why cant any of you fuckers just be normal people
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