Messofanego
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Good, hopefully that racist ex gets what's coming to her.
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Dating Age |OT$6| Just ask her out already
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Spoiled Milk
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That was n-word girl? That story made my draw completely drop.
artsi
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I got 169 matches now after reinstalling a few weeks ago.
I think I'm kind of addicted to it, meeting new girls gives a kind of a rush.
But if I found a good one I'm able to settle down.
After doing it a lot I don't really get nervous anymore, I did before though
Subpar Scrub
Banned
Too many matches, got to hustle
I'm planning to reset Tinder soon, can't handle all this backlog.
You sexy son of a bitch
I get around 25 matches in that same time, I'm so jealous haha. I'll probs get more once I lose more weight though.
What is your range artsi? I live in a city with a very large land area but only 500,000 people, so my range is 30km from my house.
I got 169 matches now after reinstalling a few weeks ago.
I think I'm kind of addicted to it, meeting new girls gives a kind of a rush.
But if I found a good one I'm able to settle down.
After doing it a lot I don't really get nervous anymore, I did before though
Reinstallning how does that work? Does it resets all previous matches and swipes?
Subpar Scrub
Banned
If you're on iOS there's an option in settings to delete your account and all data
Oh I see. I might try that if these upcoming dates doesn't go well. And start all over again.
LookAtMeGo
Member
Huh. Mine just says search but no number.
You cray. Its not so much nervousness with me I dont think. I just dont like having my whole week planned out. That plus I cant afford that many dates.I got 169 matches now after reinstalling a few weeks ago.
I think I'm kind of addicted to it, meeting new girls gives a kind of a rush.
But if I found a good one I'm able to settle down.
After doing it a lot I don't really get nervous anymore, I did before though
Subpar Scrub
Banned
Can't hurt I guess. I tend to delete and reset mine every month or so when I get more nice pictures haha
Weird. Are you on ios or android?
Haha, I might give that a shot. Just that problem to get more "nice" pictures. I don't like how I look on photos.
LookAtMeGo
Member
Android
I see. On iOS it says the number of matches
artsi
Member
I've been optimising my default picture using Photofeeler and my results have got better after that.
Basically it's A/B testing for your dating profile. I've chosen the one that has given the best attractiveness points, forget about the other metrics.
My town is only about 100,000 people, my range is 50km which reaches the surrounding towns too, so around 300,000 people total in my range.
Basically it's A/B testing for your dating profile. I've chosen the one that has given the best attractiveness points, forget about the other metrics.
My town is only about 100,000 people, my range is 50km which reaches the surrounding towns too, so around 300,000 people total in my range.
LookAtMeGo
Member
The worst thing about my range setting is that the island I live on is penetrating the US. If I set it to any more than 30km then I get all the Americans on Tinder and nobody is taking a ferry over the border for a date.
She sent me a message last night ending it, so it's unfortunately over.
I admittedly grew too attached to her, but considering how great things were going before she left for New York I feel it was somewhat justified. She is younger than me though (she's 20 and I'm 27), so I should've proceeded with more caution than I did.
In retrospect she gave me all the signs that something was up when I asked if she wanted to make things official, but I didn't properly see/accept it. She said then (and again in her message) that New York changed her, so her feelings towards me must've vanished.
She wants to remain friends, but I'll just have to see how I feel. We share so much in common and as an individual she inspires me greatly (she's an illustrator), but I'm not sure it'd be wise and I need to give myself time.
This is the second time I've felt heartbreak this year, so I'll likely get over it easier than the first but I still feel like complete shit right now. I also fear this will make me too closed and guarded as an individual, but only time will tell.
Any feedback/comments would be welcome.
Edit: If you quote this post you'll see what she said.
always crazy bacon
Banned
I've dated 20 year olds as a older man and they change feelings about you like the wind. I knew this from anecdotal evedence going in so I didn't get attached and enjoyed it while it lasted and sure enough one day out of the blue they tell you it's over. Your story gets added to the list. You got the classic "It's not you it's me, I hope we can stay friends" dumping, but by email. That's not respectful to you. When she said she didn't meet anyone in New York, did she offer that information freely? If so I'd say she was projecting. I'd put good money down that she met someone in New York, she might not have done anything but that American green card is pretty attractive, compared to the UK or Romania. " I should have told you in London" I don't know the situation but I'll take a stab in the dark and say she didn't want to miss out on getting treated one more time by you in London.
So, don't get hung up on her. You don't have bad luck it just goes with the territory of dating women that age. Don't change how you are in dating and get guarded becuse that will become a self fulfilling prophecy of failed relationships.
Don't fall for the "Let's stay friends" chances are she's only saying that to absolve guilt AND more importantly will make it harder for you to move on.
As always dating Gaffers, block delete and move forward. I guarantee in a few months you'll get an "I really miss you" message otherwise and that's really going to ruin your day.
Timings good, everyone's finished the summer holiday so it's a great time to get back out there and start dating again before the clocks change.
always crazy bacon
Banned
Being a foreigner abroad gets you so much attention, recommended.
Write something in the description.
always crazy bacon
Banned
Done in one.
Krauser Kat
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My luck has been terrible lately. 3 out of the last 4 women i have gone on dates with in the past week had major red flags.
Last girl was assaulted sexually when she was younger and is 28 and still a virgin since. She is actually pretty great but it would be a slow going and i have my own baggage with have dead bedrooms and bad sexual chemistry in long term relationships. i think its just a bad match up for us that way.
Good thing i have 4 more dates (3 first dates) from now until monday...
Hustle Hustle.
Finished a big project at work. Have 2 drawing sessions. Start a new 6 week printmaking workshop next week to shore up my printmaking skills. Cute girls are walking in and out of the studio, that may have boosted my want to take a class there. Have a giant project planned for all my free time this weekend. Started my 100 pushups a day again and added ab stuff. I fucking feeling it today. Lets do this.
Last girl was assaulted sexually when she was younger and is 28 and still a virgin since. She is actually pretty great but it would be a slow going and i have my own baggage with have dead bedrooms and bad sexual chemistry in long term relationships. i think its just a bad match up for us that way.
Good thing i have 4 more dates (3 first dates) from now until monday...
Hustle Hustle.
Finished a big project at work. Have 2 drawing sessions. Start a new 6 week printmaking workshop next week to shore up my printmaking skills. Cute girls are walking in and out of the studio, that may have boosted my want to take a class there. Have a giant project planned for all my free time this weekend. Started my 100 pushups a day again and added ab stuff. I fucking feeling it today. Lets do this.
If in china download tantan and get to work.
War Peaceman
You're a big guy.
Use a flag emoji.
ZackieChan
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He can't do any worse than me
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Yeah
But you an underclassman
You 18/19/20, why date
Like I know I got committment issues but damn I just can't imagine bein with one person my next two years
Megalosaro
Banned
That's you. Lots of people don't have that problem.
Raptomex
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They want a relationship?
Krauser Kat
Member
I married and divorced the girl i started dating freshman year. Whole thing was 9.5 years sucked away from my 20s.
fuck this shit, dont do it. experiment in college. At least during your freshman and sophomore years.
Potentially dangerous situation. I've been friends with a girl for about a year now, we got to be really close and eventually tried to see if dating would work. It didn't and ended amicably (by her) and we're still good friends and hang out. Last month we did a brunch at her place with her close friends and everyone got along great.
Fast forward to last week I get a text from one of her friends that she thinks it'd be fun if we hung out. Hmmm.
I'm potentially interested, but I think there's two things I'd need to get out of the way first:
1. Asking my friend if she's ok with it. She is not the jealous type so I expect this won't be a problem, more a token effort, but it'd lead into #2 which is
2. Finding out if my friend's friend knows the two of us had dated and slept together a few times. If not, I feel it's the right thing to do to tell her so she's informed.
In both cases it's really getting any potential weirdness out of the way and seeing if the path is still clear.
Fast forward to last week I get a text from one of her friends that she thinks it'd be fun if we hung out. Hmmm.
I'm potentially interested, but I think there's two things I'd need to get out of the way first:
1. Asking my friend if she's ok with it. She is not the jealous type so I expect this won't be a problem, more a token effort, but it'd lead into #2 which is
2. Finding out if my friend's friend knows the two of us had dated and slept together a few times. If not, I feel it's the right thing to do to tell her so she's informed.
In both cases it's really getting any potential weirdness out of the way and seeing if the path is still clear.
This is my mentality, I have many many many many years to get committed to one person, hell I have my freshman and sophomore year alone to just be like nah I'm good on dating one person
PancakeBurglar
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I'm a pretty straightforward person so I'd talk with both of them personally, it would help people on the same page. But that's just my 2 cents.
Well that's what I'm saying, yeah. I'd get the go-ahead from my friend and then, if things needed to be clarified with her friend (it's possible she already knows something happened between me and my friend) then I'd do that and ask if she was still interested.
PancakeBurglar
Member
Too many
Not that many?
Not Tinder, but dating apps in general. Generally pretty accurate, other than the justified selection bias of showing their good side.
This weekend was the exact opposite, actually. Her photo was an extreme face close-up, and after scheduling the date I wondered "What have I done?"
Ended up being a fit & petite woman that I didn't even recognize at first.
Haha I wish I have that luck next time. Had the complete opposite tonight.
Raptomex
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Yeah, you lucked out. I always pass on the extreme close up shots. That and group shots. Especially if every pic in the profile is group shot. Besides the obvious annoyance of that, I find it weird that people are just cool putting up pictures of their friends. Maybe they have permission or whatever but I'm assuming they don't. At least censor their faces or something. Damn.
I agree with most of this. Her CMB profile was nice, though, so I went against my normal judgment.
Group photos-only = swipe left.
Extreme close-ups = swipe left.
CMB?
Coffee Meets Bagel
Some american thing or?
New-ish app, started to really take off last summer. American, I guess? Not sure about its distribution, but in Chicago it has probably been the best for meeting genuinely nice people. Not as much for hook-ups or one-night-stands as Tinder, but that hasn't been my focus recently.
Krauser Kat
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i have been 109 first dates from online dating. i would say at max 10 of those have looked better then their profile. and 20 have looked larger or older then their pics. Most people match what they look like within reason.
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