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Dating Age |OT$6| Just ask her out already
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NotTheGuyYouKill
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I asked the girl out to a movie and lunch, so we're watching Split.
Movie alone isn't a great date.
always crazy bacon
Banned
Yeah movies are bad early dates because it stops you talking and getting to know each other. Afterwards the temptation is to just talk about the movie AND if the movie is terrible, it could be considered a bad date.
I though I was over with girls, but I just realized it was only because I was surrounded by guys all the time in engineering classes so girls never crossed my mind. There is a new girl were I work that has brought back old feelings. Damn it. Going to try to make sure I don't see her/look in her direction. Shes a 10, 0 chance for me.
Cow Mengde
Banned
I took the advice and downloaded the app again. Though I wish there were more options than just an app. It feels a little disconnected with apps and crap. I might as well see if I can learn more from the girls I do meet on the app.
well it wasn't the only thing that I would have planned out. others things too but yeah
Zack, your using tinder, right ?
jadedm17
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Met her at 6 PM, she was still getting ready so I had to keep her 90 lb Doberman thats only a year old entertained; Overall great chemistry, amazing conversation flow and some fun sharing of youtube music videos and games (Octodad and Portal) at my place, the whole dating was about 7 hours long so I'm going with optimistically a success.
The caveat being she is (beautifully in my mind) awkward and fresh (October) out of a 3.5 year relationship of an ex she still talks to - but wants to do other things than prioritize a relationship - so general body language (in my room, on my bed) wasn't easy to read but time spent and general lack of any conversational lapse tells me that just a quirk more than something to read into.
We were open from the start, with her mention of the ex being one of her first topics, and talk very openly of some personal things so I'll lay my intents out there for the next date and be open that I won't push anything but do find her attractive and someone I want to pursue romantically and not just a friend.
No matter the outcome today was an amazing time and I'll enjoy a peaceful sleep imagining the possibilities of the future wherever the dice may fall.
I disagree with the mentality but admittedly it has gotten to me too.
Be confident, fun, optimistic but realistic and.... What's the worst to happen? "You miss all the shots you dont take" or something like that.
I love the mindset : No matter the outcome she at some point gave you that magical feeling of dreaming about what lies in your future.
Pursue it : It may not turn out how you want, but what if it does? Fight for that feeling.
This. Who the fuck uses their work IM for sexting?
NotTheGuyYouKill
Member
Took a couple years of off and on online dating, but things seem to be going with a girl I met a couple weeks ago here in Vancouver.
ZackieChan
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Messofanego
Banned
You won't know it's a 0 chance if you don't ask her out. Put yourself out there, and who knows, she might click. If she rejects, hey, you don't have to pursue her anymore, so you can move on with your life. Why make life difficult?
Better luck with Thai hookers than Chinese I hope?
True Savior
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They have the best stories Zackie.
ZackieChan
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efyu_lemonardo
May I have a cookie?
That happened to me once, it was lame as hell.
I've certainly learned a lot from going on dates over the past year and a half, but it sounds like you've had WAY more success than I have.
I've been on about 3 dozen first dates (stopped counting a while ago) and almost zero second dates. There have been a total of about 3 girls I really felt I connected with and obviously the feeling wasn't mutual.
I know part of the problem for me is most of my friends have moved far away so there's much less of a support network, or just people to hang out with in a non romantic setting.
Quickest a girl ever left on me was an hour in. Everything seemed to be going okay if not great up to then, had no idea wtf happened.
Most of the time my dates usually last at least a couple hours even if they're not going great.
ZackieChan
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Yeah, I haven't had too many short dates. Certainly no one runs away, and even if I'm not attracted to them, I just try to have a good time.
I've had some really long dates - those were really great.
I've had some really long dates - those were really great.
Woke up feeling like shit today. Had a dream with my ex, she was already seeing other people, all that jazz.
Ended a 5 year relationship two weeks ago. I could not see any future with her, disliked her family, was scared as fuck about having a kid too.
I know it was for the best, and I missed my freedom, but sometimes I get sad about the whole thing.
I wish I could simply find someone new to swoop my world, but dating, in many aspects is a numbers game and I'm gonna get stomped.
Ended a 5 year relationship two weeks ago. I could not see any future with her, disliked her family, was scared as fuck about having a kid too.
I know it was for the best, and I missed my freedom, but sometimes I get sad about the whole thing.
I wish I could simply find someone new to swoop my world, but dating, in many aspects is a numbers game and I'm gonna get stomped.
always crazy bacon
Banned
Don't start dating until you are ready and when you are just relax and take your time.
Damn bro. Your whole post has me questioning my entire life lol.
Mastermind Vade
Banned
Have you guys had feelings for multuple people all at once? If so then what did you do because I'm going through that feeling confused right now 
LMFAO
Your self-confidence is blinding me
Maybe work on that and perhaps you'll notices that looks don't matter so much
Have you guys had feelings for multuple people all at once? If so then what did you do because I'm going through that feeling confused right now
Poly relationships exist :3~
Hi All,
I thought i would share my story of dating over the past year.
I became single after 8 years with a great lady (5 years older than me). We got on like really well but after about 4 years our relationship stopped being physical. We tried to make it work over the remaining 4 years but Dec 2016 we chatted and together understood that we were two friends living together - we both deserved more than that.
Went on my first date via POF in Feb, great girl, super sexy but after two dates in a week - we get on great. Our last date on a Friday she says she wants me to meet her mum etc. Saturday comes and she decides its all too much and she bails. Ok no probs it was only two dates.
Date two - met a girl again on POF - we go raving and get wasted. After 1 date she sends me a message asking if she can move in for a short time. I said no, i wasn't ready for that at all.
I then take a few months off as clearly I wasn't ready for anything long term.
August 2016 i meet a girl on OkCupid. Cool chick, raver, very chilled but I don't quite fancy her. We have a couple of dates but i'm upfront with her about not wanting anything long term. She seems the same - I have a game weekend with one of the boys off GAF who I've known for years. She accuses me of sleeping around so I bail from that too.
I then have another break from dating as the experiences have been weird and quite frankly not for me. maybe I'm too picky.
Fast forward to October 2016 - back on OKcupid. Meet a girl and she seems great but she lives on another continent even though shes from the UK originally. we arrange a date but because of work she cancels on me twice. Usually I take that as shes not interested. But for some reason I message her randomly (3 weeks after our cancelled date) and we start texting. We've now texted all day every day - shes the first and last person i converse with daily. We've spent 8 weeks texting, no phone calls (I know GAF goes against everything you guys say).
Finally we meet about 3 weeks ago and its amazing. She's exactly as I expected, super intelligent, independent, into gaming and amazingly sexy - everything I like. We've now got into a relationship and its going great. She moves back home permanently soon too.
I just wanted to share my experience briefly with all of you guys that have had good and bad dates. I wasn't expecting to meet a lady like her, its blown me away. So chin up dudes, there is someone out there for you. Like most have said, you learn through the bad dates. Keep going and be yourselves!!
I thought i would share my story of dating over the past year.
I became single after 8 years with a great lady (5 years older than me). We got on like really well but after about 4 years our relationship stopped being physical. We tried to make it work over the remaining 4 years but Dec 2016 we chatted and together understood that we were two friends living together - we both deserved more than that.
Went on my first date via POF in Feb, great girl, super sexy but after two dates in a week - we get on great. Our last date on a Friday she says she wants me to meet her mum etc. Saturday comes and she decides its all too much and she bails. Ok no probs it was only two dates.
Date two - met a girl again on POF - we go raving and get wasted. After 1 date she sends me a message asking if she can move in for a short time. I said no, i wasn't ready for that at all.
I then take a few months off as clearly I wasn't ready for anything long term.
August 2016 i meet a girl on OkCupid. Cool chick, raver, very chilled but I don't quite fancy her. We have a couple of dates but i'm upfront with her about not wanting anything long term. She seems the same - I have a game weekend with one of the boys off GAF who I've known for years. She accuses me of sleeping around so I bail from that too.
I then have another break from dating as the experiences have been weird and quite frankly not for me. maybe I'm too picky.
Fast forward to October 2016 - back on OKcupid. Meet a girl and she seems great but she lives on another continent even though shes from the UK originally. we arrange a date but because of work she cancels on me twice. Usually I take that as shes not interested. But for some reason I message her randomly (3 weeks after our cancelled date) and we start texting. We've now texted all day every day - shes the first and last person i converse with daily. We've spent 8 weeks texting, no phone calls (I know GAF goes against everything you guys say).
Finally we meet about 3 weeks ago and its amazing. She's exactly as I expected, super intelligent, independent, into gaming and amazingly sexy - everything I like. We've now got into a relationship and its going great. She moves back home permanently soon too.
I just wanted to share my experience briefly with all of you guys that have had good and bad dates. I wasn't expecting to meet a lady like her, its blown me away. So chin up dudes, there is someone out there for you. Like most have said, you learn through the bad dates. Keep going and be yourselves!!
DeathoftheEndless
Crashing this plane... with no survivors!
I took my gf to see Don't Breathe on our second date. I wouldn't have if I looked up the synopsis or parental warnings...
Gotdatmoney
Member
Such a good movie though.
Whitephantomzx
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alright Gaf help a homeboy out. So i met this chick a 2 years ago but she had bf at the time i made it clear that was interested in her if she ever became single and we stayed friends for a while, but we ended up having to stop talking because her bf got jealous and that was the end of it in my mind. fast forward six months later and shes hits me up out of nowhere we start texting normally and then I ask her why shes texting me and she said things have changed. So im going to met her this sunday and I really dont know what to expect since im not even sure if shes single or if she just wants to reconnect as friends or if she actually likes me.
DeathoftheEndless
Crashing this plane... with no survivors!
It was pretty good. My gf ended up liking it and even got it for me for Christmas lol.
First date though. They haven't met yet and he's bringing up movies about women abduction. Not the best play.
Movies should never be a first date anyway, unless you'll be watching them from your car's backseat or someone's bed.
Do you mind just being friends? Are you hoping it's a date? Why don't you clarify with her before you waste your time bruh.
Gotdatmoney
Member
Just meet her and get the basics. Are you single? If yes, okay lets go on a date. If no, bye brah.
At this point just meet and asknfor what you want. Nothing more you can do.
Whitephantomzx
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ya your right. it just caught me by surprise. ill give gaf an update after i met her.
Vancouver isn't so bad. Lots of young people here and there's a large migrant population (including myself) coming to and from the city constantly so there's always fresh people to date.
I've heard from a lot of my dates that most Vancouver dudes are a bunch of chumps though so that could be a factor. In general I just think that close to 90% of dudes have straight up terrible interpersonal and dating skills, it's not necessarily a Vancouver thing.
Lone_Prodigy
Member
Maybe she thought you wanted to split the cost of the movie?
Blackquill
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Hello it's me again !
I have this "crush" that I liked a lot during high school but felt like she didn't click with me, now we are both in (different) college, but she seems like to appreciate me way more when we talk on facebook. Before I was always the one to start conversation and she feels like bored of me quickly. these last weeks that was really the opposite, we talked a lot and now, she asked if I can go to bowling or movies with her after the finals, the thing I don't know is that she is talking about seeing me alone or with her friends (because we talked about that just before) but if it isn't the case I think I will go to the movies with her and maybe settle things with her. But to be honest I've never "dated" someone in this situation so I don't know how it will work out. Well what do you think guys ?
I have this "crush" that I liked a lot during high school but felt like she didn't click with me, now we are both in (different) college, but she seems like to appreciate me way more when we talk on facebook. Before I was always the one to start conversation and she feels like bored of me quickly. these last weeks that was really the opposite, we talked a lot and now, she asked if I can go to bowling or movies with her after the finals, the thing I don't know is that she is talking about seeing me alone or with her friends (because we talked about that just before) but if it isn't the case I think I will go to the movies with her and maybe settle things with her. But to be honest I've never "dated" someone in this situation so I don't know how it will work out. Well what do you think guys ?
Miles Quaritch
Member
Think about what exactly?
Ask her if you're going bowling alone or with friends and if she says with friends, make a point to ask her out on a date. Actually say let's go on a date. Movie date, coffee date, cake date, walking date... just make sure to say the word date.
It's ambiguous right now. If you had a crush on her you should have asked her out at the time, but that's in the past and doesn't help with your current situation now.
Don't ask her before you meet up whether or not your meeting is a date. Just roll with it. Show that you're cool with it either way.
If you haven't set a time and place for this after finals meeting yet, make sure you're the one to do it. Being assertive and proposing an exact time and place is attractive.
Do it like this:
"Let's go on a bowling date on Friday at 6pm. Meet me on X Street."
Don't say:
"Hey so do you still want to go to bowling or to the movies? I'm cool with either. What day works for you? I can pretty much meet any time you're free."
Blackquill
Member
Two different opinions hmmmmm
I think Miles and I gave you pretty similar advice. Ask her on a date.
I'm sorry, you can't just take the thread title and throw it in everyone's face. It's not like 95% of the issues people have can be solved with one simple line.
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And the other 5% certainly doesn't involve telling people "you're overthinking"
Blackquill
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right but one miles says that I should said clearly to her this is date which is not your case haha
I'm unclear from reading your original post whether or not this meeting is already set up.
If it isn't set up already, then you have the opportunity to organize the time and place and invite her to it as a date. Use the word date when you do this like Miles said.
If it's already set up and you're meeting Monday at whatever time and whatever place, then it's ambiguous and you just kinda have to go and roll with it. But if you show up and it's just the two of you, treat it like a date by flirting with her and initiating physical contact (I hate saying this because it makes me sound like a pick up artist, but touch the girl on a date, even if it's just on the shoulder or something).
Sorry Kyne. I know I'm breaking the rules. I'll try to be more vague with my advice in future
ZackieChan
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Sorry Kyne. I know I'm breaking the rules. I'll try to be more vague with my advice in future
Please make it clear that it's giving advice, rather than just hanging out in Dating Age typing words.
SirJackDaniels
Member
So ive been seeing this girl now for a few weeks. Shes amazing, vibrant and cheerful lady. Im not a relationship kinda guy, but after meeting her a few months back i instantly knew this one lady is a keeper.
I even said to my friends as a New Years goal, that i would like to have a steady relationship with her. My friends thought i was crazy as i never spoke about women the way i do about her.
Today we were on a date and talking about serious stuff and told her how i really felt about her. She started hugging me and said she had something to share as well. She has cancer.
Im fkkn broken now, just needed to vent.
I even said to my friends as a New Years goal, that i would like to have a steady relationship with her. My friends thought i was crazy as i never spoke about women the way i do about her.
Today we were on a date and talking about serious stuff and told her how i really felt about her. She started hugging me and said she had something to share as well. She has cancer.
Im fkkn broken now, just needed to vent.
No way man see la la land! I saw it alone and no lie I loved it.
Dude I'm so sorry
be with her still if you feel you can handle that. What type of cancer and what stage is it at?
SirJackDaniels
Member
Dude I'm so sorry
She had cancer cells removed multiple times but it keeps coming back.
I want to be with her, the way i feel around her, i havent felt like this for over 6-7 years. She is amazing man, the more i know and find out what shes been through and still is going through makes me respect and appreciate her even more.
I dont know what to do.
Christ, that is heartbreaking.
Cold hearted bastard advice maybe, but as a man who is much better off single, I'm often tempted into monogamous relationships when I meet someone I think is special. I convince myself that this time will be different. For me, that feeling always wears off after a few months and I start to miss the single life. Ends in a breakup.
Obviously your experience is your own and you know yourself better than I do. You have a tough choice.
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