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Dating Age |OT$6| Just ask her out already
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I dropped the "I'm falling in love with you" about 2 months into dating and didn't get a response. We're now 8 months into dating and she's asking me when I'm going to pop the question. I think you're good.
Finding some one less into nerdy shit is going awesome fot me we balance eachother out
Ha! Like I said, I'm not that anxious, it's clear that she's pretty into me, so I'm still really happy. Glad to know I'm not alone though!
"Nerds girls" in the sense are out there but are probably doing what we're doing; game binges lol.
Though I'll give it to you in all seriousness that you may be better of trying to find someone who can at least tolerate it. Just don't expect fully immersed in the culture to pop up too often.
Though I'll give it to you in all seriousness that you may be better of trying to find someone who can at least tolerate it. Just don't expect fully immersed in the culture to pop up too often.
eqqsquizitine
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People who are nerdy are great, people who define their entire self as nerdy tend to be weird.
What sort of place did you go out to? Generally I don't though, I had to go out alone all the time in solo travels and it was fine then but got no desire to do it here at home.
What sort of place did you go out to? Generally I don't though, I had to go out alone all the time in solo travels and it was fine then but got no desire to do it here at home.
Messofanego
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I never go anywhere unless It's work, school or my little bro invites me to see a movie with him.
I went to some bar by my house. I was mostly just in the mood for one drink. There was karaoke. It wa kinda boring still. It's just not the same without friends and I am not social enough to talk to others. I probably won't do it again.
Search for hey dog
Messofanego
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always crazy bacon
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It should be this one:
That works? How long until the women are tired of that being sent to them all the time?
So far it seems to be working fine. Use it before it's the past!
. I guess age is also to take into account, my range is 23-28.Pantaghana
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So, I've been wanting to try out Bumble. As an extremely shy individual, it'd be so much easier (and less anxiety attack inducing) for me if someone else initiated contact.
Only problem is that my phone is old and doesn't support the app. Any way of using it on a Win10 PC?
Apparently I have to use an emulator? Anyone have advice for that?
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Nevermind. Got Bluestacks and... app not available in my country. Wonderful.
Only problem is that my phone is old and doesn't support the app. Any way of using it on a Win10 PC?
Apparently I have to use an emulator? Anyone have advice for that?
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Nevermind. Got Bluestacks and... app not available in my country. Wonderful.
Yeah, people.. remember gaming is a hobby, not a lifestyle.
I've dated a few women via OKC and all, minus one, liked videogames. Hell even if you tried to find a person specifically they might not even like the specific subset of games you do. One was a Sims and FF-no-later-than-9 player. The other was mostly Super Mario and board games. My recent buddy with the Dreamcast and N64 only.
I've dated a few women via OKC and all, minus one, liked videogames. Hell even if you tried to find a person specifically they might not even like the specific subset of games you do. One was a Sims and FF-no-later-than-9 player. The other was mostly Super Mario and board games. My recent buddy with the Dreamcast and N64 only.
DJ Lushious
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Online dating question:
What is DatingGAF's views on a follow-up message to someone that went unanswered. I've seen this discussed on various dating blogs, but it seems so counterintuitive. The person didn't answer once, so why would they a second time?
And if it's a viable strategy, then what does one even say in a follow-up? "Hey, remember me? I wanted to talk to you and you ignored me. So, here's another chance for you to ignore me some more!"
There's a person I messaged 4 days ago and got a response within15 minutes. I had fallen asleep by then and wasn't able to reply until, not the next day, but the following, as I went to a concert with a friend. And no response, but it's someone I would at least like to talk with more.
Disclaimer, if I were to follow up with anyone, not just this person, I would think waiting a week would be reasonable and anything less a bit creepy/stalker-y.
What is DatingGAF's views on a follow-up message to someone that went unanswered. I've seen this discussed on various dating blogs, but it seems so counterintuitive. The person didn't answer once, so why would they a second time?
And if it's a viable strategy, then what does one even say in a follow-up? "Hey, remember me? I wanted to talk to you and you ignored me. So, here's another chance for you to ignore me some more!"
There's a person I messaged 4 days ago and got a response within15 minutes. I had fallen asleep by then and wasn't able to reply until, not the next day, but the following, as I went to a concert with a friend. And no response, but it's someone I would at least like to talk with more.
Disclaimer, if I were to follow up with anyone, not just this person, I would think waiting a week would be reasonable and anything less a bit creepy/stalker-y.
Ultramantaro1
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I think 1 more message is fine. You literally have nothing to lose, everything to gain. People get busy and forget to respond for any number of reasons. However, I get the hint after 2 unanswered messages and move on.
I'm the same with date cancellations / re-scheduling. If it happens once, no big deal. Circumstances change etc. 2 cancellations or re-schedules in a row, I'm not messaging until she does first.
ZackieChan
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For some reason it takes forever to load those damn gifs in Tinder. What an awful app.
Well, I mean, defining what's a nerd or not I think is the issue here. Like, most of my interests are decidedly very nerdy and whatnot, but I don't really identify wholly as a 'nerd girl', lol.
I think most people are talking about the people that define their whole being on their nerdy stuff, which typically revolves solely around niche media consumption. That goes for nerdy guys, too. Any guy I've met that bases his personality/worth on games/anime/cartoons/other nerdy stuff I've also found absolutely insane.
Essentally...
It should be this one:
OMFG THAT'S ADORABLE
I'd so respond to a guy that would send me that lol
Haha.. I was specifically referring to my city. I've seen plenty of cute nerdy girls but they're all in Toronto or Montreal.
100%. Why don't you send my SMS code, you POS of an app?!
Haha, I'll try it some more tonight for the funz.
TangerineCloud
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This "hey dog" gif is the truth. My response rate is so high right now.
Sent it to three girls that is probably above my league by a good margin. Let's see.
I've been going out alone pretty often lately. My roommates are horrid homebodies and never want to be social, so I have to get it somewhere. The place you choose makes all the difference. A lot of people like coffee shops for this. I always go to cozy pubs. I take a book or do some writing if there's nobody to talk to. I enjoy myself just fine.
Insane Metal
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So, I've been talking to her and getting to know her a bit more. We're going out someday this week. I dunno what to expect, guess I'll just go and not expect anything.
Messofanego
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This is true. I'm probably most defined by my career at this point, though most of my interests are nerdy... haha.
I dunno. I guess I don't define my whole being around dorky stuff, but TV/movies/games are most of my interests. -shrug-
And that stupid dog is really cute.
Psssh. Big city nerds.
efyu_lemonardo
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What is your career?
You should just give up on dating if you have anxiety. Women detest dudes with anxiety and /or depression.
Legal! I'm in a law office and was an assistant, now I do a lot of projects and training and such, and I'm working towards becoming a paralegal as well.
Or he should continue to try, get burned by it and use it as inspiration to conquer his anxieties. Or he may find someone! To give up without even trying is a little harsh.
What were your questions? Be a little cheeky and riff on what you asked. You're just trying to get a reaction out of them amongst a sea of messages.
I somehow managed to get someone to respond to me and all she had in her profile was "...". I just said that she was right and ellipses were awesome or something to that extent. Just have fun with it. If she doesn't reply, shrug and move on.
DJ Lushious
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Okay, here's my dilemma, then. What do you possibly say to someone, then? I message people and ask them questions about themselves, following up with more questions. So, my last message has a question or two just hanging there.
How do you follow that up? Like I said, messaging someone again that hasn't responded is just so counter-intuitive.
efyu_lemonardo
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Cool! Good luck!
always crazy bacon
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Dont you have other girls you've matched with? Just let this one go.
DJ Lushious
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To answer your question, no. Regardless, I am asking this as a general inquiry. So, ignore any personal involvement.
Haha, yeah, to be honest, I'm mostly the same. My main interest is gaming by far, and I watch TV... well, enough I guess. I can't really define myself with my career though because... man, accounting scares people. Or bores them. One of the two.
While it's important to work on oneself and try to be "the best you you can be" (to be cheesy af), that is some shitty advice. No one ever got over anxiety/shyness by building a bubble of isolation around themselves.
Thanks!
Games and media sistas.
Accounting can be interesting! The accountants in my firm are all cool and I talk to them about their work haha.
But yeah, it probably scares most people lol. I mean, I guess law isn't that interesting, but I always have fun stories about different files haha. I like the law though...it's super cool to me lol. 🤔efyu_lemonardo
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I'm not sure if define myself in a single word anymore. It started with my race, then it was my hobby (primarily gaming and tech), then it was my job in IT and now it's a mishmash of gaming, deal site owner, personal finance guy, IT guy, likes to stay fit, football (euro and American) watcher and electric car owner? It's weird but that's what my friends go to me for.
How the fuck does "getting burned" inspire anyone?
Unless you have any experience dating with anxiety, then I have no idea how you can begin to give advice. Dating with anxiety will only lead to heartache and greater feeling of worthlessness.
Yeah I go by this as well. I tend to let conversations die, but every once in awhile I will send a follow up if I think we'd get along well.
Actually had someone send 3 follow up messages to me recently on coffee meets bagel. Those chats close after a certain amount of time too, unless you extend them, which she did. She seemed nice but I lost interest in the conversation (and also realized after scrolling through more of her pictures that she had an uncanny resemblance to my recently deceased aunt). Ended up unmatching, did not know what to say, really. Couldn't tell her THAT.
Count Dookkake
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On tinder, I saw a profile of a girl that said "Hitler did nothing wrong."
Huh.
Fascination with the abominable moved me to swipe right. If I get a match, I'll see what happens if I bust out a dreidel.
Huh.
Fascination with the abominable moved me to swipe right. If I get a match, I'll see what happens if I bust out a dreidel.
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