Really unimportant question, but this girl I went to lunch with and I are texting and I told her I was cooking lasagna. She replied with "Yum" with the heart-eyes emoji, would it be creepy to reply with "You're yum" >_>
I know, if you have to ask and all that...
Nah, you gotta create tension. Act confident and, while not necessarily distant, don't be too obviously into someone you've just started things up with. You gotta create tension and you gotta get them to try and work for you, a bit.
I try not to give outright compliments and flirtations like that, until I'm basically sure that she wants me. Even then, I try to keep it to sincere compliments, until we've had sex for the first time. After that, you can start doing stupid flirty stuff. But, even then, don't do it too much, unless you find yourself in an exclusive relationship. It sounds kind of stupid, I know. Why shouldn't we be able to gush on someone? Well, its generally a better idea to let that stuff seep out slowly.
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Here are a few words, for you online daters.
1. about people misrepresenting themselves with their pics: If you actually pay close attention, you can often learn to tell this is happening. Figure it out and you won't end up wasting time. Really, with online dating, the only important bits of a profile are 1. are the pics real and do I like them? 2. does the profile info seem at all sincere or hint at who this person is? (rather than specifics of content and interest. Think about the overall impression you get). Once you actually meet, all that profile stuff, goes out the window. and probably half of your chatting or texting before meeting, will also not matter or be retread through actual conversation.
2. For people having issues with getting people to show up:
A. A lot of online daters are insecure about themselves, one way or another. Don't take it personally.
B. Many online daters are in contact with more than one person at a time. At any given moment, you may not be 1st string. Again, don't take it personally.
I found that, with online dating, volume is the key. Law of averages. That type of thing. Rather than being hyper specific and carefully choosing one person to try and chat: Message a few people, per week. Eventually, you will filter through people who won't attach to you for one reason or another and you will end up with a date.
On the date, try to be confident, be yourself. Don't highlight negatives in your life. Hold back a bit, without compromising your ability to connect. In the event you are out with someone who seems out of your league or has a lot more going in their life: own it. Don't fold under false pressure. Some people will expect you to be able to meet their robust life with your own robust life. But not everyone cares about that.
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Absolutely you should date at work. Think about all the times you have seen people wonder out loud, about how to meet people. We spend a lot of time at work, around our co-workers. Its one of the best opportunities to connect with someone with little pressure or manufacturing of a scenario. Wearing boring uniforms or work wear. If you connect with someone at work, its probably a good sign of something fun, at the least.
Of course, there are certain professional situations, in which it may not be appropriate. But generally speaking, most jobs are great opportunities to meet someone.
subsequent problems it can create at work, comes down to maturity level. Often, its lack of maturity in other co-workers and not necessarily the two whom have something going on. In the event that the two of you have a bad falling out, just be professional about it. If the other person can't seem to do that. Get them to have a sincere talk about it. Its probably because they didn't get some sort of closure and are otherwise a little crazy because of it. *Unless of course, you really did something crappy and hurt that person. But that's not a problem with work. That's a problem with you.
