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Dating Age |OT$6| Just ask her out already
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26 dating 18 sounds a little weird to me tbh
Count Dookkake
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If she's legal and eager, do what thou wilt.
Don't listen to naysaying haters and cowards.
Don't listen to naysaying haters and cowards.
Yikes. I'm 26 having completed university and postgrad and now work 9-5; I can't imagine dating someone straight out of high school. I mean it's not illegal but it's... weird.
Advocatus Diaboli
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It's 3 years. Stop overthinking it. You're both kids, honestly.
Depends what you want from the "relationship." I'm 32 and date way younger than me all the time, I'm not trying to wifey them though.
But even if you do want something serious, who cares? Adults can do what they want. It's not weird unless you make it weird.
Silphonica
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Its not weird.
always crazy bacon
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This, you've got to read the situation. I talked to many girls that seemed interested but were never available but would happily chat Monday to Friday. The more girls you talk too the quicker you'll ID this type.
Chemistry is good, see where it goes. AD already answered you dude. Wayne Gretzky
My age cut off is 20. I don't think I could date an 18 or 19 year old due to the things I've experienced as a person. I'm not even far from those ages, but I know many from that age range would consider it emotional and family related baggage they don't want to bother with.
The women I've met that are of those ages are usually inexperienced compared to me at that age. Tie in the fact that they can't enjoy 21+ events and it's an absolute no go.
I don't see anything wrong with people dating others that are younger than them, but when it comes to the 18 y/o with a 21/22 year old, I suggest avoiding if looking for something serious
I guess it doesn't help that I like women that are older than me by two or three years, give or take. (23-25).
Lay it out and tell her that if she still feels that way about him she should just try it again if you feel like she'll not be worth the fuss.
The women I've met that are of those ages are usually inexperienced compared to me at that age. Tie in the fact that they can't enjoy 21+ events and it's an absolute no go.
I don't see anything wrong with people dating others that are younger than them, but when it comes to the 18 y/o with a 21/22 year old, I suggest avoiding if looking for something serious
I guess it doesn't help that I like women that are older than me by two or three years, give or take. (23-25).
Well, i suggest, as others have, to try, but tread under circumstances. You have to make it apparent to her if you do decide to keep with her. Let her know that you aren't really okay with dating her if she still has such feelings for her ex-boyfriend.
Lay it out and tell her that if she still feels that way about him she should just try it again if you feel like she'll not be worth the fuss.
Nah dude, don't tell her how to feel. That's ridiculous.
He should date her and see how it goes, if it's good then the feelings for her ex will go away as she becomes committed to him. If it's not good and the feelings aren't there then they'll stop dating. It's pretty simple.
That's not telling her how to feel. That's making a suggestion based on how she may feel. Besides, I would only say something like they if I knew I wasn't going to work with her.
I guess I don't understand what you are saying.
If he knows it is not going to work why does he need to "try to keep with her" and let her know not to have feelings for her ex?
ZackieChan
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There's a Reddit thread where they help with profiles. Subreddit, or whatever they call it. /r/tinder maybe?
Exams in January, eh? nervouslaughter.gif
I agree with you in spirit, but I don't think you need to have a talk with her until things move past the "getting to know you and have intercourse with you" stage. Don't get too clingy or start dictating shit right away.
Then again, a lot of people here seem to be dead set against being the "rebound guy," whereas idgaf. Either it works out, or I had a good time and it ends. I ain't trying to catch feels that quickly though. Last time it happened, it didn't go well.
As mentioned above, this is after certain stages in the relationship. This is why I said try it and see what happens, but be mindful of what she mentioned
He doesn't know what is going to happen right now. It seems he likes her...
I guess I just don't even understand the basic concept of telling the person not to like someone else... seems that should be a given.
ZackieChan
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If you don't stop liking M52B28, we can't be friends. Respect the bro code.
No, it seems you don't understand anything I am saying.
Read the bolded.
I am pretty much saying that if she still has feelings for him in such a way, she should try for another relationship with her ex. I'm not saying anything about telling her to stop liking her ex at all.
That sounds childish.
Gotdatmoney
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Maybe I'm alone in this but I dont really ever get the point of someone going "oh I still have feelings for my ex" to me. The fuck am I suppose to do with that information? Either you wanna keep this going and try to make it work or you don't. But what is telling me going to do?
I can't make you stop and me knowing that is not going to have any net positive in our relationship so why are you telling me? Just figure out what you want and come to me with an answer. Or even better formulate a solution.
I can't make you stop and me knowing that is not going to have any net positive in our relationship so why are you telling me? Just figure out what you want and come to me with an answer. Or even better formulate a solution.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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This was a great and intense day.
I dunno where we go from here. Decided to take it slow, which I'm okay with. We got mad chemistry but barely really know each other and don't wanna rush into anything crazy off the bat.
I dunno where we go from here. Decided to take it slow, which I'm okay with. We got mad chemistry but barely really know each other and don't wanna rush into anything crazy off the bat.
Miles Quaritch
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Glad it went well.
Now keep it chill and don't go crazy with the texting between dates.
I've always seen as another way of saying I want to take things slow and don't want to rush into anything. It's also a huge red flag because you know the chances of that person going back to their ex should the opportunity arise are very high.
always crazy bacon
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Excellent, gad its working out for you.
Miles Quaritch
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The zygote stirs and begins plotting your downfall.
names2hard4you
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Gotdatmoney
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Yeah I dunno. My point if view has always been you can feel however you want but if you actually wanna make something work then you need to deal with it. It's like when someone here is being super clingy or insecure about their relationship. You can feel how you want but if you want it to work out you're gonna have to get the fuck over it or your partner is going to grow tired of your behaviour.
I just find that when someone says that all I really think is "okay and?" I can't help you here but you've already made me realize you aren't really interested.
LucidMomentum
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Honestly I think the biggest way I can improve my chances on dates is to lose some more weight.
I think it's kind of weird as it's not going to change my attitude or anything, but at the same time I understand that appearances make a good first impression and I need a way to get my foot in the door, so to speak.
I think it's kind of weird as it's not going to change my attitude or anything, but at the same time I understand that appearances make a good first impression and I need a way to get my foot in the door, so to speak.
Dollar Yen
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- so I met my sleep apnea machine specialist's receptionist last week and she's damn fine. I wanted to know if I should bother asking her out or just not bothering because of a possible conflict of interest?
Advocatus Diaboli
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Uhhh. Conflict of interest? What's she going to do, not forward the calls that you won't make because you probably book shit online anyway?
Dollar Yen
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-wouldn't it be "You are already dead"?
Yep, losing weight is a great source of that swagger. To my overly-scientific brain, it's a clear numerical measure of success. Something that I did by myself, through my own willpower and research, that no one can take away.
Man, I wish my specialist's office was that computerized.
Ask her out. If she says no, things won't be weird unless you make them weird.
Man, I wish my specialist's office was that computerized.
Ask her out. If she says no, things won't be weird unless you make them weird.
Messofanego
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names2hard4you
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That is totally what it means, yup.
LucidMomentum
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Yeah, my problem was when I was younger is that I looked great but lacked confidence. Now I have some more confidence but don't look as great so my results have been more mixed.
Yeah basically. I'm already down 20 pounds from last year which is a huge improvement as someone who's been gaining on average 5 pounds or so a year for the past 6 years.
It's just time for me to stop being lazy and start working on my self-control so I can look more presentable. I'm not out of shape as my lifting numbers are solid, but you wouldn't know from first glance.
names2hard4you
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Damn. I decided to give OKCupid a look and it's miles ahead of Tinder. Already got a couple of matches too. Why didn't I ever check it out??
the microtransactions are a little meh to me. I joined it 2 years ago and it sucks to see that everything they are charging you for now was free.
also note that if a girls inbox is "full" they'll ask you for $1 to be able to message them.
I find people flake more on OkCupid, but maybe that's just me.
Tinder/Bumble are much better in my opinion.
Miles Quaritch
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Jesus Christ at that weird encounter thread.
Jesus Christ
Jesus Christ
Advocatus Diaboli
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It was a weird encounter. But not because of the girl.
I think the reaction was more weird than the encounter. Encounter seemed perfectly fine. OP seemed to have been really taken by surprise
The 'can you get more attracted to something' or whatever thread is.... something, too.
GAF OT on point for entertainment today
Gotdatmoney
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Hahaha lawd. I only read it because of this post but oh my. Just wow.
Not sure what you mean, but here in Scandinavia it is very common to have exams in January
Not sure what you mean, but here in Scandinavia it is very common to have exams in January
Here in Spain too if you are in college. Did my first exam today and I have another one tomorrow so will probably go out on Wednesday to start my challenge.
Clay posts in this thread...
What I took most from that thread is the perception of "I'm not that attractive, so why would a girl I consider attractive ask me out?" Maybe you're not as unattractive as you think, it seems like lack of confidence talking. You have to own it!
That thread is weird. Especially the guy talking about a fat contract with his would-be wife.
Link? Can't find it 😩
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