Me: "Voting for ____ism is morally wrong"
You: "Hey man, it's all relative"
Am I understanding you correctly? I don't want to put words in your mouth if I'm off base. Like there has to be a baseline of things we can consider as a culture/nation/species to be morally wrong. If its "your morals" vs. "my morals" then there are no such things as actual morals. I don't disagree that the general acceptance of where this baseline is moves with time but you seem to refuse to say those who voted for Trump made a morally reprehensible choice. Why? They did. That doesn't mean they are irredeemable or don't have real concerns worth addressing but they still fucked up.
Again, nothing about Clinton's campaign was exclusive to white people. If they felt that way that's not on her. Again this isn't to absolve her from the real errors she made but at no point did she throw white people under a bus. It's just her opponent offered up "non-white people are trash and took your jobs".
"Everyone who voted for Trump voted for Racism, Xenophobia, Sexism, etc."
Is that a statement you stand behind? Trust me I was like you. I'm ready to throw tens of millions of people under the bus. Unfortunately those tens of millions of people also decided they wanted a Republican President. And a Republican Congress. And a Republican Supreme Court. So it's not as easy as telling those people that they're wrong. You really can't say 'How can you be a racist by supporting a person who said racist things?'. You can't write off these people that won the country for Trump. You really, really can't.
So I'm not saying that you should support their racism. I'm not saying you should support their Xenophobia or sexism. I'm saying you should tailor your message to them, even if you'll take different actions. 'But that's immoral to lie to them', 'but it's not morally right to appeal to these racists whilst trying to appeal to minorities'. Morality comes and goes. Taking the moral road and writing off and ignoring those people you both assumed would automatically vote for the 'right' choice and would care about minorities caused the government to be lost.
Saying they made a 'morally reprehensible choice' and that they 'fucked up' isn't going to win any of those people to your side. Yes, we can absolutely say they fucked up because we are looking at the broader game here. To the people trying to live day by day? Like I mentioned before, empathy is a two way street. The poor white family in Wisconsin who had to listen to Clinton talk mainly about minorities and never visit their state decided to vote for the person who did talk about their economic anxiety and visited their state.
That's not an excuse for them. That's a reality of what happened. Republicans won by the skin of their teeth. Because Clintons messaging was fucked up. Because these moral purity tests, are so damn short sighted. 'If democrats appeal to white people, then they're the enemy!'. I've seen that sentiment come from some people. That is where you lose me in this moral purity because there is a tonedeaf belief that being morally right should stump any other type of sentiment.
And when there are posters who say that the only way to Progress in America is through a clear Moral Imperative, then I see the democrats losing and losing if they keep that train of thought.