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[Photolysis]

Well based on what's been said, I'm going under the assumption this is genuine. If it's fake, then the effort put in is outstanding.

Frankly my mind is boggled by the bizarre amount of terrible decisions, with a relationship dynamic so far outside the norm that it really is unbelievable. To stay in such a toxic 'relationship' for such a huge length of time, despite an insane number of massive red flags, is incomprehensible.

I can't sympathise because I simply cannot understand how anyone remotely rational, reasonable, and intelligent could possibly end up in such a situation. This isn't just a few bad decisions, it reads like the product of sustained stupidity of the highest order. There's a reason why so many suspect this of being fake, because the actions that led to this were flat out nonsensical.

 

[JBourne]

Whether real or fake, we need to get OP some tail now.

Yeah, he really needs to get back on the horse.

be careful who you choose for a girlfriend.

Best advice given so far.

 

[AlphaSnake]

Yeah...uhh, after reading that history log, I do wonder if the OP would like some support and counseling as well. That's not healthy.

 

[davepoobond]

some more info on the girlfriend herself, that i found:

I haven't had sex with my gf in 16 months, and we are supposedly in an open relationship. I once asked her if we were ever gonna have sex again and she didn't give me an answer... I would love to go out and exercise my freedom but never get the chance because she doesn't have any friends, all my friends don't like her, and any time I go out, she doesn't trust me. God, I'm such a tool.

I dont know alot about her personal issues. All I know is during an argument she mentioned that she was molested as a kid. I didnt try to pry more. Is there still love? I dont know if there is love on her part. I think she is oblivious to my feelings. We really arent affectionate to each other. Besides a kiss goodbye or hello, theres nothing really there. Our lease is up at the end of June and I cant think of living with her anymore. Besides our who relationship issues, shes also a slob, bathes an average of once a week, pays virtually no bills, and frankly doesnt give a shit about anyone outside herself. We were looking for a new apartment to move to and she had the audacity to ask me how much more I was more willing to pay. She doesnt believe in saving either, so she never has any money. She quit a great job to take a 2 dollar/hour pay cut because she didnt want to talk to people on the phone.

 

[vikki]

Yeah...uhh, after reading that history log, I do wonder if the OP would like some support and counseling as well. That's not healthy.

GAF meet up at OP's house? OP would get the support we all want to give 'em. Plus the GF knowing a bunch of people that know what's up are coming may put a little hop in her step.

 

[Indrid Cold1]

Poor guy. That post history is depressing. I wish the OP all the best from here on out.

 

[Messypandas]

This post has been edited. Reason: "gf reads my post history"

 

[Hoodbury]

Poor guy. That post history is depressing. I wish the OP all the best from here on out.

Ugh, no kidding. It was the same posts over and over even since 2010. Nothing but complaining about what a drag that girl was. Sheesh, how could you stay in a relationship like that for so long. Nothing but complaining about lack of romance, how broke and how she just mooches off of him, etc.

Dude...

I still never found the post with a pic of her though.

 

[dluu13]

some more info on the girlfriend herself, that i found:

I totally remember reading that first post a while back. The thing is I usually read the forum with just half screen so I never see who posts

 

[SquiddyCracker]

I haven't had sex with my gf in 16 months, and we are supposedly in an open relationship. I once asked her if we were ever gonna have sex again and she didn't give me an answer.

I guess her throat was horse.

 

[Jeff Albertson]

This went for an entertaining troll in my mind to something horrible and sad

If sounds like the girl has pretty much emotionally battered and destroyed the poor lad

 

[davepoobond]

This went for an entertaining troll in my mind to something horrible and sad

If sounds like the girl has pretty much emotionally battered and destroyed the poor lad

My girlfriend woke me up at 1am once yelling at me wondering where a wooden spoon was because she was baking. I had no idea why she was pissed. It wasn't until a few days later that it was because I didn't do the dishes that she made a mess of a few days prior. Of course, in usual girl fashion, never let me know that she thought it was a problem or she wanted me to do the dishes. I made the assumption that if you make a mess, the sensible thing would be to clean it up, since it is YOUR mess.

abuse is more like it.

 

[Dr_Boris_Goltz]

I'm POSITIVE the OP had some kind of drama in his life growing up.

Sexual abuse... Parents fighting all the time... Something...

 

[ishibear]

Damn OP, she's put you through hell. You poor thing. D:

 

[Dre]

Goddamn

From the thread Anyone ever try suicide?

Ive thought about, more and more recently.

Probably from me internalizing anger and blaming myself for anything. I try to rationalize it by the fact that im more valuable more dead than alive. My life insurance money could help my family out a whole lot.

I think most of it recently stems from the fact I have the worst girlfriend ever. She cares about no one but herself. Plus we havent had sex in 9 months, which makes me feel worthless. I asked her about it and shes not interested. We are in an open relationship where I can have sex with other women but I never get the chance since I have to constantly entertain her since she has no other friends. She lives with me, so I depend on what little money she gives me to help pay bills.

Im gonna start seeking counseling next week.

You were on the right track OP, how did it go?
You definitely need some professional help, that girl destroyed your life.

 

[Lionel Mandrake]

You know shit's messed up when a story involving furry-based infidelity starts making GAF genuinely feel bad.

 

[Vincent Alexander]

I guess her throat was horse.

My vote is OP is in middle of intense makeup sex.

 

[Sho_Nuff82]

The girl described in those posts doesn't even sound like a gf, just a really awful roommate. She doesn't want to move out because she can't, she depends on the OP for her basic life functions. And it sounds like the OP just depends on her for bills. The real question is, was it always like this, or did this devolve after the first year?

 

[Meatfist]

OP, give her a link to this thread, then kick her to the curb

She sounds like an awful individual, and I would choose being single over her any day of the week

 

[akira28]

seems like degraded from shaky to completely horrible. She came on to him, told him she was crushing on him pretty hard and wanted to move to WI from CA(unequal rent shares and all. maybe she had found herself a live one and was gaming him from the start?) Seems like OP was at least getting laid by fwb before he met this troublesome lassie. Then she moves in and sounds like she's half psycho. I'm thinking some kind of personality disorder. Borderline or Narcissism or something. Probably guilt trips him for "making" her move cross country to be with him. She sounds seriously depressed at very least, and emotionally abusive to boot.

OP needs to be glad they weren't having sex, because god forbid...god forbid he ever got her pregnant. I would probably cry.

 

[braves01]

This is just genuinely sad, assuming it's not the longest and most elaborate troll in GAF history.

OP, I really hope you move on from this horrible person and find someone better for yourself.

 

[Brazil]

some more info on the girlfriend herself, that i found:

This girl sounds like the worst thing that ever happened to OP.

 

[SneakyStephan]

This stuff hurts to read

Op go find yourself a new girlfriend (not letting baggage from the old shitty one get in the way before you give her a fair chance) and you'll feel like a million bucks once you get treated better by someone

 

[A Human Becoming]

You know shit's messed up when a story involving furry-based infidelity starts making GAF genuinely feel bad.

Abusive relationships can go both ways.

 

[Starphoenix]

My word... This thread is like reading the transcript for the next Lifetime movie, except without a dead body. "A Man's Night Mare."

 

[davepoobond]

i think i've found the answer we've been looking for as to why he's staying with her:

My current girlfriend is a gamer herself. I persuaded her to buy a PS3 and she loves it. She bought God of War 3 and loved it and how bloody it was. We are currently playing through Borderlands together and plan on getting through 50 Cent: Blood on the Sand. I want to marry this girl.

reminds me of that other thread with that girl who was playing Fallout 3 24 hours a day and everyone said they wanted to marry her just cause she played games.


except with 50 cent games. yuck.

 

[Indrid Cold1]

Goddamn

From the thread Anyone ever try suicide?



You were on the right track OP, how did it go?
You definitely need some professional help, that girl destroyed your life.

Holy hell I'm actually concerned that the guy hasn't come back to the thread now!

 

[ampere]

-snip-

Oh man... all this and this thread... man. It seems like too much to be fake.

I feel awful for OP. He really needs to stand up for himself and get some help once he has gotten his ex to move out. Sounds like he is listening to Saya and Dude Abides and making sure he legally gets her to leave, there has been some dangerous advice regarding 'just throw her out'.

some more info on the girlfriend herself, that i found:

Sounds like she has some issues, which is sad, but still totally unhealthy relationship which is bad for both of them.

 

[BlindRage]

i think i've found the answer we've been looking for as to why he's staying with her:





reminds me of that other thread with that girl who was playing Fallout 3 24 hours a day and everyone said they wanted to marry her just cause she played games.


except with 50 cent games. yuck.

She was always smoking pot though right? This bitch is just crazy..

 

[……forgetit]

check his history. it's the kind of non-rewarding reward that really requires a search for full effect.

edit: this was me -

I searched, had the same reaction, also OP can do much better.

 

[GK86]

Damn, I feel sorry for the OP. Has he kicked her out yet?

 

[davepoobond]

I searched, had the same reaction, also OP can do much better.

i didn't find a picture of her, but i can't imagine it doing much for me.

She was always smoking pot though right? This bitch is just crazy..

yeah that other girl was. never knew what came of that.



but this girl has issues that require therapy. she should not be in a relationship with anyone, she probably has intimacy issues and is really into having sex with "strange people" because there is little to no actual attachment to them. committing to an actual relationship is going to be impossible for her without professional help.

not to mention she has terrible hygiene habits which only exacerbate the lack of work ethic and apathy towards everything in her life. they probably all stem from the same place in the end.

 

[.Q.]

Technically, you can have some nutjob squatting in your place for a good month or two before getting rid of them legally.

Laws like these prevent banks from kicking people onto the street if their mortgage payment is a day late. In the eyes of the law, it's worse to make someone homeless without warning than it is to ask their roommate to put up with some personal/financial inconvenience while the person they're kicking out searches for a new place to live. The fact is, young people move in together pretty casually. Most of them don't know tenant/roommate law. It's a LOT easier to move in together than it is to force someone else to move out, if the other person is savvy. I mean, OP could change the locks and put horselady's shit out of the house, but all she has to do is go to the police and tell them what happened. They'll escort her back to the house and make him let her stay.

My mom had to evict her tenant for nonpayment of rent and destroying the 2nd floor of her home, so I've seen this firsthand.

It might be worth it to go to Judge Judy. Just print out this thread.

Hell, just mention the no bathing, no sex, sex with man-horses thing.
And the fact that she only pays a fraction of and hasn't paid the rent in 2 months.

Doesn't matter. Not from a legal standpoint. He needs to give her a month's notice. He's been miserable for years, what's another 30 days?

 

[Darkmakaimura]

Laws like these prevent banks from kicking people onto the street if their mortgage payment is a day late. In the eyes of the law, it's worse to make someone homeless without warning than it is to ask their roommate to put up with some personal/financial inconvenience while the person they're kicking out searches for a new place to live. The fact is, young people move in together pretty casually. Most of them don't know tenant/roommate law. It's a LOT easier to move in together than it is to force someone else to move out, if the other person is savvy. I mean, OP could change the locks and put horselady's shit out of the house, but all she has to do is go to the police and tell them what happened. They'll escort her back to the house and make him let her stay.

My mom had to evict her tenant for nonpayment of rent and destroying the 2nd floor of her home, so I've seen this firsthand.

Yup. I was told if I threw hit stuff out, changed the locks, etc. I could get sued. I couldn't even shut the power off - which was entirely in my name - to drive him away. The guy was a real psycho but very intelligent and devious. I had to move away while he lived in my apartment rent free and eventually I had to break the lease. It was that bad. He trashed my place but didn't really damage anything so as not to be held liable. He also would do things like turn my heat up all the way, etc. which is why I was going to shut power off. The guy was the epitome of sociopathic evil and not a fucking thing I could do. Needless to say, I wouldn't shed a tear if the guy were six feet under right now. I think most other people would have bashed the guy's face in but I think he would know better than to try this with someone else especially since he had been kicked out places a few times prior by other people to moving in with me.

It's grotesque because in the end the victim - the person who allowed said person to live there or I suppose as they call it, sub-leasing - becomes blamed as I did. Fucking ridiculous laws that should only be applied to the banks you mentioned and not some poor sap who's being harassed.

 

[megamerican]

Even after expecting it due to the warnings, reading through OP's post history gets sad real fast.

Given that Fatigues has been talking about dumping his girlfriend for over two years, and that it clouds about 50% of his posts, this is probably a blessing that she forced the breakup. She was an obvious mooch who was conning him under the pretense of a relationship.

I think a little embarrassment might have been worth seeing how fucked up the situation was for him.

 

[fatigues_gasolini]

Hey guyz!

I can't blame anyone but myself for letting the relationship last so long. It was a mental thing which probably requires counseling. I'm starting over and my friends are being really supportive. I just want her out so I can get on with my life.

 

[Saya Brea]

Hey guyz!

How'd it go?

 

[Effnine]

Hey guyz!

Updates please ...

 

[No Love]

Hey guyz!

Hi buddy. Let's talk.

 

[fatigues_gasolini]

Omg checking the last few pages made me laugh. I love GAF for this reason. You guys are really supportive and helpful and even more if you call me a moron, I know it comes from caring. I'm surprised this thread isnt on opa yet.

 

[badb0y]

OP, I'm getting on a plane now. I have to save you.

 

[Kazerei]

The girl I had a crush on loves me and is moving across the country to live with me.

fatigues_gasolini
Member
(03-21-2010, 01:48 AM)

OP I wish I had a time machine so I could go back and save you

 

[Borgnine]

HOLY SHIT IT'S ALL REAL?

 

[fatigues_gasolini]

fatigues_gasolini
Member
(03-21-2010, 01:48 AM)

OP I wish I had a time machine so I could go back and save you

Me too.

 

[Danny 117]

Is she kicked out yet?

 

[……forgetit]

Hey guyz!

I can't blame anyone but myself for letting the relationship last so long. It was a mental thing which probably requires counseling. I'm starting over and my friends are being really supportive. I just want her out so I can get on with my life.

I'm happy for you man, you need to get her out of there dude, take care, I hope for the best.

 

[TacticalFox88]

fatigues_gasolini
Member
(03-21-2010, 01:48 AM)

OP I wish I had a time machine so I could go back and save you

Goddamn.

I genuinely feel so bad for the dude.

 

[Tragicomedy]

OP, we love you.

Now stop being a tool, kick that emotionally abusive idiot out of your house, and start fresh.

 

[GreatestHits]

What a thread. OP I have been dealing with a very similar issue the past 5 years. I had big self esteem issues, but I went after this girl, and she walked all over me, only her cheating was technically always "when we were apart". Turns out she was deeply depressed and Bi-Polar. She also never held a job, is the most selfish being in the universe, doesn't understand the basics of adult life even in her mid twenties, etc. She did however always have a place to go because her one accomplishment in life was becoming some sort of Scene Celebrity in the whole alt/punk/emo craze around our town and may as well had DTF written on her shirt.

You really have to focus on yourself, nurture yourself, see what about you needs to change, and just do it. Work on the things about yourself one step at a time. When you feel like the ones that bother you most are getting alot better, your confidence in yourself will just out of nowhere become existent, and you will know where your place is in this life, at least for today .

I got her pregnant. So go have a beer, OP

 

[Aristion]

Hey guyz!

I can't blame anyone but myself for letting the relationship last so long. It was a mental thing which probably requires counseling. I'm starting over and my friends are being really supportive. I just want her out so I can get on with my life.

You know I love you, right?